What To Do If You Become Homeless With Children? Advice For Homeless Families

Families - The New Face of Homelessness

With the economy falling apart, prices of everything sky rocketing, and a society that fails to fully take care of it's citizens, it's no wonder why families are quickly becoming the majority in homelessness. Minimum wage is often close to the starting pay even at skilled positions. Many companies pay manufacturing associates less than $9 per hour even with years of experience. So when life goes the wrong way, it is easy to very rapidly lose everything. We faced that not too long ago, and now we have managed to pull through. I never thought I would be the one to find my not so long ago, middle class family, on the street wondering where we could go. So here are my tips to surviving homelessness with a family.

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Where to Sleep When Homeless With Children?

Remember, no housing is like our own. There will be negatives to all aspects of living options as long as we are not in a comfortable place to call our own. The key is finding the option that is the easiest to handle for both yourself and your child or children.

  1. Family - The obvious best option is to check with family. See if there is any way that you could live there in exchange for cleaning, doing the yard work, or cooking. This would give your child a place to be somewhere hopefully familiar during the process. Not everyone has the family option. Some just don't want their family to know the extent to their problems. If that is the case you will need to look at other options.
  2. Friends - Sometimes this can be the best option, and as I learned sometimes it can be a total nightmare. It can be really bad if the other person parents their children differently than you do or if the friend has no children. It can lead to all sorts of issues from not being able to put your kids to sleep at a reasonable time to trying to explain to a child why it's freezing in a house and they have to wear a jacket when it's warm outside. That being said, it is a roof. Right now that is the priority.
  3. Hotel - Many (slightly lower quality) hotels offer a weekly rate. There are even some hotels that offer complete kitchens. Value Place hotels is a good option over in my location as long as you don't have a pet. These hotels run anywhere from $175 to $350 a week. This option could easily take up most of your check, but it provides a decent roof, water, electricity, and no living with other people. Some of these even feed you a good breakfast. (Don't forget to grab an extra bagel or yogurt to cut costs for lunch) Also if there is a rest stop near you be sure to stop at it to look at the hotel coupons that I find are still better than any hotel reservation price on on-line sites.
  4. Shelters - I'm listing this last because in my opinion it is the WORST possible option when you are a homeless family. We tried it and all of the ones in my area split the family up. Boys over 10 had to be split from their mother at night to go to the "mens" section. Husband and wife had to sleep in different buildings. Showers were five minutes. Have any of these people ever tried explaining to a 3 year old why they can't be in the bath a couple extra minutes? Also the one we went to openly told us that we may be housed with sex offenders and violent criminals. There were NO family shelters in a 100 mile radius of our fairly large city. It was truly sad and made us feel worse than we already did. Grateful they have a system in place but it should definitely be a last resort.

If you were homeless where would you stay?

  • Shelter
  • Family
  • Friends
  • Hotel
  • In my car
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How to Get Food When Homeless

  • EBT/Food Stamps - I want to make sure this is very clear because there is a lot of misinformation about this out there. HOMELESS PEOPLE EVEN WITH NO PERMANENT ADDRESS CAN GET FOOD STAMPS IF YOU MEET INCOME REQUIREMENTS IN ALL STATES IN THE USA!!! So apply!!! Everything helps and this is what the system is for.
  • Food Banks - This is a great option but often conflicts with a work schedule if you are a working family. Some have weekend giveaway times. Make sure you tell them if you have no access to a can opener, stove, or refrigerator. Most can pack a bag made just for homeless.
  • Dumpster Diving - Do you have any idea how much food that is still good and very edible goes into dumpsters every year. I'm talking about still sealed in packaging non perishable foods! Tons of it. Let go of your ego and you can often fill a car with food in a couple hours of dumpster diving.
  • Couponing- Check sites live moneysavingmom.com for coupon deals at most major grocery outlets. Often you can get free food from couponing, or at least save a good bit of money on the bill.

Basic Tips For Homeless Parents

If you choose to stay in a hotel consider a few options.

  • Is this a place that is safe for your children. My husband and I checked into one where we BOTH got hit on by prostitutes at. So consider the crime at the hotel before staying.
  • Check for bed bugs. We heard horror stories about some of the lower class hotels having bed bugs.
  • Consider the breakfast. For us 3 children needed breakfast plus us. So the average cost of breakfast being a minimum of $5 for all of us on a dollar menu. Add that up over the week and that's $25 extra per week (and not even really full belly's) It's better to just pay the extra $25-$30 a week to stay at a place that offers full breakfast. You sometimes can take enough back to your room to be able to eat later. We didn't buy milk at all when we were staying in the hotel and lunch was usually breakfast we had brought back.

Always remember safety first and don't forget to do fun things with the kids during these stressful times. Take them to the park in down time. If you still have their bike let them ride it in the hotel parking lot. Remember being homeless may not change your child as long as you remember to not let the stress take away from your relationship.

211

If you have assess to a phone call 211. Yes just those 3 numbers. This will connect you to your local United Way number. You can speak with someone to find out where the nearest assistance places are.

They can direct you to food banks, shelters, your local SNAP (food stamps) office, WIC, and many other programs. Don't be afraid or nervous to call. The whole point of this number is to connect people with a true need to the correct place.

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gregas 2 years ago from Corona, California.

Great hub, good advice and great plans. But I have one question. If a family is homeless, what are the chances that they have a computer or access to Internet to be able to get this information? Just asking, Greg.


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peeples 2 years ago from South Carolina Author

Actually you would be surprised. We just did a 8 month long journey of being homeless. Most homeless families have to have a phone for contact with the world. Almost all phones have internet access. When at my lowest I often googled what to do. Also the homeless shelters had one or two computer (while very old and cluncky) that still had internet access. They let the people there take turns using them. Another cool (or warm in the winter) place for them is to go to the library where there are plenty of computers. Hotels usually have a computer in the lobby to. This day and age it is rare for someone to have no access to any internet. Really I don't know what I would have done without it. Thanks for stopping by!


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gregas 2 years ago from Corona, California.

Good to know. I know I have had times when I thought I would be on the streets for one reason or another. I know there are a lot of reasons for being homeless. It is good thet they have the access too, even to look gfor jobs because I know that even though some people seem to think homeless are lazy and just don't want to work, they are wrong about a lot of them. I can see where jut having that accress could actually help some get back on their feet. I hope you are back on yours and doing better. Greg.


Vickiw 2 years ago

This is a heartbreaking Hub. I think it is phenomenal advice for those who may be suffering through this type of situation, and perhaps the most significant thing is that you have come through it so well, giving encouragement to others. You should feel so much pride in your abilities, and your learning as you worked through all the difficulties. I'm sure it is a case of "you had to be there" to fully understand how scary this would be, and so many are just a tiny way from having it happen to them. Great Hub.


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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

I voted for staying in my car because, well, I've been homeless and that's where I lived.

Valuable information my friend, and it will be more valuable with each passing year as this economy continues to go tits up.


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LongTimeMother 2 years ago from Australia

Hey, peeples. Great hub. I'm sharing it. Will also link to it from my hub about homelessness. So pleased you're getting back on your feet. :)


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peeples 2 years ago from South Carolina Author

@ Vicki Thanks for reading. It really is a scary situation I wouldn't wish on anyone!

@gregas So many places provide free internet now, it is a wonderful thing. The job my husband got was thanks to a place who let him use the computer to send in a resume.

@billybuc Thank you for stopping by. If it wasn't for my children the car would have made the best option. Hotels sure aren't fun to pay for!

LTM Thank you! I greatly appreciate the thoughtfulness you have shown in the past months!!


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ReneeDC1979 2 years ago from Gaithersburg, Maryland

Wow peeples - i know this situation first hand - thank you for sharing your story- living without knowing where you will be "living" is tough -and now that I know what it means to have to rely on friends or others just to have a place to shower and lay your head at night -has opened my eyes to a lot of things in this world. Great hub- keep writing!!!!


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bravewarrior 2 years ago from Central Florida

This is heartbreaking. I so happy you and your family are no longer homeless. I admire your strength and courage to make the best of your situation and overcome in the end.


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B. Leekley 2 years ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

Good, practical advice, well expressed. Up, Useful, and Interesting.

I read recently about another problem faced by some homeless families -- having "latchkey children" when there is no home, no door, no latch. Imagine siblings 6, 8, and 11 years old getting out of school at 3 pm and having to go to a public library or a mall or somewhere and pass the time without calling attention to themselves till a parent can get off work at a low-wage part-time job at 4:30 and drive across town with "home" (perhaps, say, a 25 years old GMC Suburban or an old cargo van) to join the children.

Outfits and programs that help the homeless vary a lot in quality. I've talked with homeless persons about horrors of a shelter at which the ulterior motive is to proselytize -- study the Bible their way and get a dorm room bunk; respectfully decline and get a very thin mattress on the floor in the hallway. There are other shelters where homeless persons are treated with respectful loving kindness. Food banks, hot meal programs, daytime shelters, and so on also differ in their approaches. Ask at a public library reference desk about local organizations that help, or advocate on behalf of, the homeless and the hungry, or use a library computer to search the Internet on: Countyname County homeless.


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Larry Rankin 2 years ago from Oklahoma

Good job. I found this to be a wonderful, no-nense approach on how to survive.

The quality of your homeless shelter experience saddens me. I don't understand the necessity for unnecessary rules in these places that are supposed to be there to help you. Of course you don't want your children to have to go off somewhere else and sleep! It's commonsense.

Your article also gave great insight into the disparity of wealth in this country. At one time a person could live on minimum wage and there was not nearly so broad a gap between the extreme wealthy and the poor.

Sorry. I'm going on and on. A wonderful article.


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favored 2 years ago from USA

I am so sad to hear of what your family has experienced, but grateful you are willing to share what you have learned. I didn't know that food stamps were available to the homeless, and I can venture to say most of them don't either. I pray God blesses you with new wonderful adventures to heal you heart.


darkwindhorse 19 months ago

I have three flip phone cell phones that are able to be activated on the StraightTalk network, as well as two smartphones that can be activated on it as well. If anyone knows of someone in the Southern Utah, Las Vegas or Salt Lake City regions who needs a phone to use for job hunting, safety, and to stay in touch with loved ones, please reply to this post with an email address and I will see what I can do to get these phones to people who really need them. Thanks.

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