Carmina Salcido: A Victim Survivor Exploiting a Horror?

Carmina Salcido, daughter of Ramon Salcido (now on death row), was born in 1986 and at the time of the gruesome murders Ramon committed out of a drug induced jealousy frenzy, she was barely three years old. Once the murders hit the news, it was all over national coverage via CNN, CBS etc. Not only had the horrendous acts been committed to innocent people and little girls (Carmina's older siblings), but somehow, in 1989, he got in his car and drove to the Mexican border, ditched the car, then walked across the border with gun in his pocket, got on a local bus and traveled unmolested by authorities until reaching his hometown!

This is not about Ramon.

Once it was all over, Carmina, the sole survivor of a throat slashing by a Dad-gone-bad, the Court sent Carmina to a foster home in the Midwest with a new identity. She lived there normally until she told and became an adult. She remains a definite victim with the scintilla of memory about her dad driving the three girls around Sonoma County after the killing of their mom and family members, asking basic questions to her dad, and then events leading up to the throat slash that missed a main artery by millimeters. She recalls laying in the ditch with her dead sisters.

From this event, she has written a book with another writer. At age 3 yrs., how much does she, or anyone, really remember? I think some can recall some events at that early age, bits and pieces, I know I can, but surely not enough to fill more than few pages at best. Yet, we have a whole book. How much of those early times is really true and not mixed with fiction or misplaced items? Hard to tell. How much of it is based upon what she had read or heard when she was much older?

Sure, she has everyone's sympathy, but is her book really a cleansing thing for her or is it really to cash in? Maybe prep us for the American Idol? Even partially? It won't be the first time this sort of thing was done.

As to American Idol, Carmina can sing. She is focused on opera in style. No doubt, she will be the hidden star for the show when it begins again and when Carmina is introduced, you can be sure the lead headline will be the mass murder event she survived. Will the judges be really impartial, knowing the history of this contestant? Will they feel such empathy to cloud their artistic judgement? Think about it. What if Carmina wins!? Talk about a PR boom for the network, the show and Carmina. 

One cannot blame Carmina for trying.

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Barbara Willis 5 years ago

I find it ridiculous for whoever wrote this article to be passing judgement on a person who has survived such horrors. It's even more ridiculous for the writer to claim to know anything about memory and what someone else can remember and what they cannot!! As a victim of a tragic event myself, I understand EXACTLY how clear and lasting the memory of a child as young as 3 can be. Much is still unknown about memory, but it is an established fact that MANY persons who go through trauma at a young age have VIVID memories of the events and even memories surrounding. Regardless of weather Carmina really remembers what she says she does or not, it is cruel and unnecessary for the writer of this article to assert any doubt as to what she remembers and what she doesn't. I would certainly NOT doubt her, especially considering how clear and lasting the memories of my very young childhood are (even to the age of two and younger).

Basically, it's not your place to cast judgement or any doubt, Perrya.


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perrya 5 years ago Author

I disagree. I am sure the book was therapy for her but since a "ghost writer" was involved, financial gain was also in the sights, which is fine. Who knows what she really recalls and what has been inferred to her by old news reports, other books etc. I am sure she does recall things, the question is, how much?


Sandra 5 years ago

and who really cares why she is doing what she is doing..she has no one and is trying to take care of herself. better than other people that choose to sit on their butts and collect food stamps..this child endured much and deserves much and she doing it HERSELF.


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perrya 5 years ago Author

I agree.


angry mother 5 years ago

that right she is doing it herself. so what...i hope she make money. her trust was spent by those ppl in mo. all she went thru in her life she dam well deserve what she can get. look at the welfare ppl amen to that. r tax money still supports ramon..why is that.???let that girl be...all i can say is DACH IN CARMINA U GO GIRL GET IT...


Chris Carroll 5 years ago

You are a callous,pompous ass. You shouldn't be allowed to post this trash on the internet.Did you survive a murder attemt? I think not. So SHUT UP!


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perrya 5 years ago Author

If it is true, it is hard to believe


unrelentingamee 5 years ago

I only signed up for this so I could comment. I found your article because I met Carmina Salcido tonight, when she spoke at a Take Back the Night rally in Will County, IL.

She spoke about forgiving her father, and she spoke well. She looked like a woman who's been through a lot-- and is tired. Like someone trying to make sense of the pain of knowing that when she was 3, her father murdered her entire family.

Also, she did not "live normally" in foster care. They changed her name, and were part of a radical separatist Catholic movement which required her to wear antiquated clothes and isolated her from any contact with non TPF families. She joined a Catholic convent to escape them at 17, and then went on to a boot camp for troubled girls that was also traumatic.

You call THAT "normal?" After surviving all of that, it's amazing that she's functioning at all, let alone that she has the self-esteem to write a book.


Unrelentingamee 5 years ago

Also, it was not mentioned at all that she had been a contestant on American Idol, which is obviously over. I didn't know until someone told me, because I don't follow the show. She spoke at an area high school before this event today. Now that the show is over, why is she still advocating for domestic abuse and telling her story-- without mentioning her being on the show?

Because even though American Idol is over, the reality of how this childhood tragedy shaped her adult life is a continuum. I lost my mother when I was 5, and that continues to shape who I am 25 years later. The loss is real, whether or not you choose to speak publicly about it. I can validate that.


dv survivor 5 years ago

why would she talk about american idol? she was speaking on DV. she touches on the fact in her book of the abuse after her father, mental and sexuall. it did not stop with ramon in prison. thos missouri ppl need to be jail for the abuse to her at their hands. we ther local community gave that money and those ppl spent it....they should be made to pay every penny back. it would help carmina and her bueatiful baby. them ppl are no better than any other abuser. i hope carmina makes a good amount of money off her book. and life can be happy for her finally.


Carmina Salcido 5 years ago

May I just add there's been no huge finacial gain! Im now a struggling single mom. This book did nothing to make big bucks if that what you want to think I work full time as a pet groomer! carmina.salcido@gmail.com


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perrya 5 years ago Author

Thanks Carmina, being an author seldom brings in riches unless you get lucky. I thought you were a great signer for what you chose to sing. I am sure your back story helped the ratings for American idol. Having met Ramon in jail when he came to the law library,his guilt was not in question, only his remorse.


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perrya 5 years ago Author

Good question, why is Ramon and so many others on death row still alive? such a waste of our taxes.


angry mother 5 years ago

perrya..... this such a tradgic ordeal. i cant imagine what carmina feels only what she says, which i believe her and all of what she has said. as far as the animal ramon.......he is not really worthy to speak of other than the state of california is waisting r money...get it done. he said in his story when he got the to santa rosa jail ppl were saying KILL him my kids and i were one of those that had a huge sign all for death. im so very glad he remembers that he should as they put him down and the ppl of calif. finally see justice. there is no justice till he dies for those he killed. he is a waste and brethe air he should not be allowed. ..... so much for him. as for carmina i notice u side stepped the questions...WHY DO U HAVE SO MUCH INTREST IN CARMINA?? she is a grown woman and mother now so why is there such a intrest for u to put this web cite up about her??? ppl need to let her be and live life happy as shes been thru enough. HOW MUCH DO U MAKE OFF THIS WEB CITE U HAVE??? ppl want to know every detail of carmina but we that lived thru this many yrs ago want to know why the intrest and money of those that feel the need to talk about her and her life. why?? how much?? don't side step the questions................ as far as the rest on death row they r not in question in this story ramon and carmina are. but my answer is .... the system don't work as it should its screwed up and they waste our money. so i wait to see ur reply again, thx for taking the time to answer!


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perrya 5 years ago Author

Carmina seems to have put the ordeal behind her and that is great.


Carmina Salcido 5 years ago

So I have to say.... Do you think this was easy for me writing my story? No! Absolutely not. It gets harder every time I have to do another interveiw with ABC, E TV, and Cover Magazine in the UK. Do I do it to "cash in?" or "Exploit Horror?" No! But let's not forget that the first step to solving a problem... and parents killing their kids IS a PROBLEM in our times today, and if someone doesn't stand up and start speaking, how are we going to talk about these horrible murders and put a STOP to them?! I get it, its a horrific story, there is no candy coating it, no making it kid friendly...

If you wanna complain about something,Complain about why Ramon is a "Special" treated person on Death Row, how he has 300 some followers, how he makes and distributes drugs in prison, how he bribes the gaurds with money because since becoming a "Minister" He can have a trust fund account that stupid people contibute to!!! Hello there's something to get all worked up about!!


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perrya 5 years ago Author

@ Carmina, I agree 100%, I just do not know the inside story about Ramon in prison. I guess you must wonder what he really thinks of you. Angels were with you on that fateful day.


maria 4 years ago

I am reading the book now and it brings tears to my eyes from your article it doesn't even appear like u opened the book so you don't even know what u are talking about. You should have read it first before making stupid assumptions. I wish she had made money.


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perrya 4 years ago Author

Just playing devil's advocate......


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perrya 4 years ago Author

She probably has...


natalie love 4 years ago

@perrya why would you want to "play devils advocate" when you so clearly havnt read the book?? you should read the book and realise what trash you've been talking and delete this whole page! you clearly havnt got any compassion for anyone and not a care in the world.....seems like you need to get a life and stop worrying yourself about thinga that you know nothing about! hope your attitude changes you poor man! i feel sorry for you!


natalie love 4 years ago

"@perrya..."Thanks Carmina, being an author seldom brings in riches unless you get lucky. I thought you were a great signer for what you chose to sing. I am sure your backstory helped the ratings for American idol. Having met Ramon in jail when he came to the law library,his guilt was not in question, only his remorse""

i cannot begin to think of why you would write such a comment....for one she is already the luckiest girl in the world with how she survived (read the book on the damage that was cause by ramon!) and also who cares wither she had a story for Ai everyone has a background story its tv who cares...more people should know about the terror that happnd on the day that ramon salcido went out of his way and calmly thought thu all he done as he drove from one place to the next to commit the crimes! and for you to play the "friend" here and say you met ramon in the prison library is crazy! if he was remorseful he wouldn't have acted the way he did when carmina visited him in prison....he has no remorse and hes said so himself!! you ought to keep the old hands tied down and not write utter lies.... she works full time and shes not living in a mansion living off so much money she got by "exploiting" she works hard for her money and if she choses to sing too then good on her allot of people want to hear her... and i found the book amazing and i advise you to give it a read...she doesn't pretend to write a whole book on her first 3years of life its about the crime and her whole ordeal! just read it!!


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perrya 4 years ago Author

Okay, many thanks for that insight


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perrya 4 years ago Author

Well, maybe, just maybe, Carmina did not intend to write a book and at the behest of its publisher she thought some earnings might come from it, which is fine. There is no question American Idol used her to increase their ratings because of the back story, and maybe Carmina thought she might get discovered. I actually was surprised to see her not go further into the competition, she sings well. Ramon did not plan this horrific event, as in pre-meditation, it was the events prior to it all that turned him into what he has become.


Twocents 4 years ago

I am not sold on whether AI will keep not so great singers just for their story. They let Jim Carey's daughter go this year and she had an amazing voice. Jim Carey is an A-list celebrity. That could've brought ratings in.

As for Carmina remembering details when she was three. I think the nature of what has stuck in her mind (the crime scene) would be enough to stay permanently with you. I come from a home of domestic abuse. My dad used to beat my mom, often times in front of the children. There were 6 of us and my brother was only 4 when my mom finally left my dad. We were having a talk a while ago and somehow started talking about the violence and I was very surprised to find out how much he remembered. He was just 4! He remembered details like a time my dad dragged my mom by her hair across the living room floor and then smashes a standing fan on her face while it was on, cutting her face. He remembers all of that. It's incredible what you can remember at a young age.

As for Carmina cashing in...if she is..then you go girl. With the events of her life, she has little chance of living a normal life. I hope she invests in good therapy with the earnings if she's not already in therapy.


margarita 4 years ago

porque no se dejan de juzgar a esta verdadera sobreviviente!Sin duda ese dia Dios estuvo a su lado y su angel de la guarda!Tiene derecho a contar su historia como sea y por el motivo que tenga.Si ella no lucha por ella misma ¿quien lo hara?Alguno de los que comentan aqui con tanta liviandad y falta de piedad?que Dios siempre la acompañe como lo hizo ese dia.


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perrya 4 years ago Author

I don't think so.


jennifer ani 2 years ago

The money was for experts. No court fees, no attorney fees. Gosh, you people are so, mean. Or, vapid. You pick. To be honest, these comments make me really sad as a taxpayer.


KG 2 months ago

Hard to stomach your callous attitude, Perriya. You mention that she grew up "normally" with her adoptive parents after the tragedy. If pushing soap and tobasco sauce in your mouth is normal...if being told you are the seed of s demon is normal...if being sequestered into a life where you were kept at home and every behavior controlled is normal...then I pity you for the upbringing you must have had.


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perrya 2 months ago Author

Callous? Just raising a possibility that many victims pursue. I hope her success, she's a survivor...

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