Cheers to those who try!

Often enough we hear of those of us who “made it” and are “successful”. We praise people like Angela Merkel, or Bill Gates but what about all those who did not make it? Are their trials not worth mentioning?

I think of all those people in India who were displaced by floods and are now seeing food prices quadruple. I think of all those people who lost half of their value of their homes (or more) in Florida and have now given-up on any idea about retirement. And what about all those incarcerated? Or those homeless people sleeping endless nights on the street ... are their stories not worth the talk?

I clearly remember watching a news bulletin a few years ago, about a mass exodus out of Somalia due to famine. The reporter was interviewing a lady who had one child in her arms and two more standing beside her. She mentioned how she had to leave her village because there was no food and people were starving. She also told the reporter that on her way to the United Nations camp (where the interview was filmed) two of her children had died. She started her walk with five children and ended-up with three ... and the hair is rising on my arms, as I do my best to hold-up tears. Why are those kids not worth the talk?

We give so much importance on fame, glory and money that we forget about the heavy trials which many go through in their lives. And even more so, we often turn a blind eye to catastrophes. Who cares about the innocent people killed by United States drones – they are simply “collateral damage” ... They go on with their lives (or death) and we go on with ours. What’s Miley Cyrus up to anyway?

Not many people know for example that First Nation children were used here in Canada as test subjects (http://westcoastnativenews.com/hungry-first-nations-children-used-in-experiments/). We do not talk much about such things because we dedicate a lot of our time to success stories; to that one percent who made it! And we encourage others to be just like those successful people, not realizing that everyone’s circumstances are different. It is also good to note here that if we are to ask any successful people about their road to success, many will admit that at one point or another they got lucky. A break here or there, can make a world of a difference in someone’s life. Many do not get a break.

So, to those who have not gotten a break yet, I wish good luck! I would argue that their lives and stories are just as worthy as anyone else’s stories. That is why I often sit and talk to homeless people. They are invisible to the general public. I praise their resilience because I know some homeless people who have been on the street for over a decade. The reasons are many; I can go on for a long time talking about those - as Oscar Wilde once said: “The truth is rarely pure and never simple.”

I agree that the world is a tough place but that is just because we made it so. We spend more time on arming ourselves than healing ourselves. We dedicate more energy and time to watching and listening to success stories than we do to helping one another. With that in mind, we trot along. The majority of us do not have many tremendously successful stories but what we do have is a journey of continuous trials and survival. No medals for that but I for one, honour all those who try and keep going despite all hardships. Good luck and cheers to all!


(Note: My photographs, November, 2012, Downtown Toronto - roughly three am)

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Ericdierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

Hi Happy!! I cannot stand polite social gatherings. Do not get me wrong I don't like my brother's impolite gatherings either. I like my people on the street. They are real. Actually a lot more like writers than are business men or preachers. I think I would rather put up with some stinky than with some pretenses.

People with out a story are boring.

Thanks, it just rained here. I guess my boy and I have some blanket chores for this pm.


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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

"to those who have not gotten a break yet...." Great line and oh so accurate. Fame and fortune....what the hell does it mean? why do so many consider it important. In the end I'll be buried the same way Steve Jobs was and have every bit as much importance as he does now.

How do we live our lives? What is the true meat of our existence? Those are questions worth asking and answering, and not the size of our bank accounts.

Well stated my friend.


saisarannaga 2 years ago from Chennai in Tamilnadu, India.

Well Mr.Happy. This article touched the heart. You have clearly narrated the woes of common man affected by many reasons like poverty, politics, civil war and many other reasons. While the mother started with her five kids, only three remained. It is really a very sad narration. Yes, we are mostly concerned with the success stories and failed to notice the grief of common man. It is really heart rending. Thank you for highlighting the plight of ordinary people.


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Cheers to those who try, such a heartfelt hub and so much to think about


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

"I like my people on the street. They are real." - And your comment feels very real Mr. Dierker! I am happy You are close to your neighbors. We are All One after all ...

Cheers!


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Mr. Billybuc,

Thank You for the visit and comment. I did have You in mind as well when I wrote this article. I appreciate your work and the energy You put in it. All we can do is to try our best to persevere, in my opinion.

All the best!


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Mr. Saisarannaga,

Thank You for stopping-by. I am far from India physically but my thoughts are often there. I wish things will start taking a smoother turn for the common people there.

Cheers!


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You as well Mrs. DDE for the visit and for taking the time to leave a comment. I appreciate it.

All the best!


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kallini2010 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Hi, Mr. Happy:

1. Define Success.

2. Define Happiness.

3. Define Vision.

That is the first trouble with success. The second and very interesting fact that we are not monsters (none of us starts as such), but we are capable of comprehending the pain of the one close to us and not many.

Especially, if there is one crying for help and there are a few people around - the more people are around the lower the chances of that one crying out for help. We are best one-on-one.

I've been reading a lot lately... I actually rented your favourite book "Happiness is overrated". I can't say that I read it all, but I got the main points and finally figured out why people assume why I (may be) an existentialist.

I do agree, HAPPINESS IS OVERRATED.

It is almost like happiness is bliss, happiness is blindness, ...

The other departure (departure? with the "One Way Ticket") for me was "The Spiritual Brain: Religion from the Scientific Perspective" - I find it very interesting (boring because the lectures were repetitive, but the subject is quite fascinating).

I want to believe that we won't be blind forever, we have only one home - the Earth and we can run (but not too far), the reality will catch up with us sooner or later.

And honestly, I think we are running in circles, just blindfolded for the sheer amusement of the Universe.

I, for once, very happy that I was forced to see the other side of "normality" and deal with it.

Now you look down on a homeless person, tomorrow you are the one.

But writing is always important. I think.

Cheers,


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Greetings Kallini,

what a nice surprise to have You stop by. Thank You.

As the above song mentions at one point: "So listen hey-hey, there ain't no maybe - lived most of my life just south of crazy ...".

I just tell stories and maybe at one point, we can decide to stop as You said "running in circles" (not that I mind circles - I am actually quite fond of them, just not for running around). Until then, I'll keep the stories coming. : )

Happiness is overrated indeed.

Cheers and all the best!


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thought I would mention as well that we are running around for the amusement (I would use the word awareness) of the Eagle (another word for what You called Universe), Kallini. Very interesting that You mentioned that ...


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kallini2010 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Hi, Mr. Happy:

I think it is very important "to try" even if it is only writing or as in my case making comments.

You know, the Universe and me are very old friends, but I agree, the Universe has a lot of different names (just like someone I know). In fact so many, that you can say it has no name or just Oneness (Supreme Being?)

I don't think that people don't care, I think that people learn the wrong (?) values.

We take things for granted because we have them. To learn the true worth of "things" we must lose them. But our society is based on consumption which makes it a very shaky foundation - the fear of losing "the goods". What can you build on fear?

You and I both know it and I admire the firmness of your position. I am "trying" on a very small scale, but I am trying, too.

And, I am sorry, I was out of touch, it is just I am out of touch with many many things, but it does not mean that I forget.

We are all connected and that is one other way to say that there is nowhere to run, but stay and discover the true meaning of life. The interconnectedness, the Oneness, the belonging to something that is greater than us...

Cheers,


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kallini2010 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada

And you know, I am trying to "not forget things", but I do. I actually wanted to share this quote with you

“Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.”

― Benjamin Franklin

The biggest problem in the world is NOT understanding due to NON-involvement.

We don't identify with other people.

I hope you agree.


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

I could not agree more Kallini. Involving ourselves with each other a little more, would definitely help in understanding and identifying with others/otherness.

Very nice quote too!

In a bit of a rush now, as I am on my way downtown to pick-up some tea (I have a special place I go to buy tea, I should show it to You one day, it's worth it for anyone who likes natural herbal teas).

Keep in touch.

All the very best! : )


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Shyron E Shenko 2 years ago

Mr. Happy, I read this and think how fortunate I am. I have all kinds of emotions right now. I heard many times that God will not give you more than you can bear. And then I read and hear about all the things you have mentioned here, the homeless, sick and lonely and I wonder, how much can the bear.

This is a very emotional hub for me.

Voted-up, UABI, shared and pinned to Amazing HubPage board.

I love the quote by Oscar Wilde: “The truth is rarely pure and never simple.”


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Spirit Whisperer 2 years ago from Isle of Man

I watched a documentary recently and in it Russel Brand was looking at a video clip of himself as a drug addict injecting himself with heroine. http://youtu.be/kKCwcP7A-RE (from 7mins 30secs) His reaction is probably not what most people would expect and shows how perception depends on the observer. I personally do not see how pitying or feeling sorry for someone has ever helped them in anyway. Our pity is the ego's way of finding someone we can judge as worse off than we are and then use it them make ourselves look noble. To pity someone is to rob them of their dignity. Projection used in this way is a camouflaged attack on what we abhor in ourselves. Each of our lives has a purpose and not one of us can criticise or feel sorry for the subconscious choices we each make just because it does not fit what we believe a person's life should be. Most of what we say and do is subconsciously motivated and though conscious intent may be pure, when it is in conflict with the subconscious the subconscious always wins. I wonder how you would feel if someone used a photo of you lying in the street like this? These people have a right to their dignity and I am afraid I cannot condone what you have done here. Thank you.


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You for stopping-by and leaving a comment, Mrs. Shenko. You are so very right, in saying that some people are indeed given more than they can bear. Many commit suicide, or simply die of grief.

Either way, I honor their resilience and when asked for help, I do what I can.

All the best!


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Greetings Mr. Spirit Whisperer,

I never said a word about pity. I studied much of Nietzsche's work years ago and I learned from him the many negative effects pity has for those who pity and for those who are pitied. There may have been a misunderstanding of my intent here.

How would I feel if someone had a photo of me lying on the street like that? I simply would not care (or perhaps I would be thankful for raising awareness on the lack of affordable housing) - I am not ashamed of myself. If You indulge in dignity then, You should also indulge in human beings having shelter. These homeless people, they do want shelter - I have talked to enough of them. Also, if I did not take those photos, Mr. Willstar will/might come by and say homeless people are rip-offs who pretend to have no homes.

All the best!


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Spirit Whisperer 2 years ago from Isle of Man

You do not have to mention the word to evoke the emotion. You can easily verify this by asking your readers how they feel by adding a poll to the end of the hub. This is why I explained about the conscious and subconscious intent. Also asking a homeless man if he would like shelter sheds no light on his subconscious purpose in being homeless because he is consciously unaware of why. If his conscious and subconscious purpose/intent are the same then he would have what he says he wants. It is our subconscious purpose that manifests in our lives and until we acknowledge this we keep giving what we see the meaning we make up in our own heads making up. Also with regard to the photos I do not see any photos of you anywhere online!! :D


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Greetings again Mr. Spirit Whisperer,

"Each person reading this article will interpret my words in their own unique way reading into it things I do not mean, skipping over sentences that do not fit their belief system and even seeing words I have not written." - XN

I am not responsible for other people's emotions. And regarding the lack of photos of myself, it has to do with my attitude that a photo will create judgements in people's mind about the writer and thus, the topic at hand.

"When a communicator has high credibility, the greater the discrepancy between the view he or she advocates and the view of the audience, the more the audience will be persuaded; on the other hand, when a communicator's credibility is doubtful or slim, he will produce maximum opinion change at moderate discrepancies." - Elliot Aronson, "The Social Animal".

You saw a photo of me here, with the article about the Athabasca Glacier and your comment at the bottom of that article sort of proves that ...

Thank You for stopping-by again.

Cheers! : )


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manatita44 2 years ago from london

a man with a good conscience. Much peace.


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You very much for taking the time to read this article and leave a message, Mr. Manatita44.

All the very best! : )


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manatita44 2 years ago from london

Cheers.

Your pics are invocative, funny, yet quite real. Masterfully done.


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Mr. Happy 2 years ago from Toronto, Canada Author

Thank You very much.

I carry the camera with me most of the time. Timing is always crucial.

Cheers! : )

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