Dealing With Your First Gray Hair

Some people hide their fear of gray hair behind a smile
Some people hide their fear of gray hair behind a smile
Constantly checking the mirror is one sign of fear for a gray hair
Constantly checking the mirror is one sign of fear for a gray hair

DO YOU REMEMBER WHEN?

This is how it starts

A couple are going out to dinner and the husband, “Thad,” is almost-ready. The only thing he lacks is combing his hair.

His wife, “Lula,” who is very hungry, says, “You gonna be in there all evening?”

“Thad” laughs. “I’m ready . . .just lack comb . . .WAIT A MINUTE! WHAT’S THIS?” he yells.

“What is it, “Thad,” a snake?” “Lula” says with fearful-response.

“Thad,” realizes that if he tells her the “real” discovery he has made, she might view him differently along with their friends and coworkers.

“Uhhh, nothing dear. It was just a spider and I took care of him,” “Thad” says smoothing-over the controversy.

ENTER THE DEMON GRAY HAIR

What “Thad” has discovered is one of the most-powerful adversities that a man or woman will ever face. It is more terrible and terrifying than any devil from Hades. It can turn an athletically-built, husky he-man into a sniveling mass of quivering fear. It is the Achilles heel, the humbler of all mankind:

A GRAY hair. Yes, one gray hair. It’s been lurking in “Thad’s” head of beautiful, full black hair all these years and now it’s time to turn “Thad” into a eating, walking, talking, breathing being of little or no self-esteem, no confidence, and afraid to get out of bed.

Remember, gray is beautiful
Remember, gray is beautiful

Gray and white hair . . .

  • Gray or white hair—sometimes colloquially called "salt and pepper" when it is 'peppered' throughout dark hair—is not caused by a true gray or white pigment, but is due to a lack of pigmentation and melanin. The clear hairs appear as gray or white because of the way light is reflected from the hairs. Gray hair color typically occurs naturally as people age (see "Aging or achromotrichia", below). For some people this can happen at a very young age (for example, at the age of. The same is true for children with white hair, caused by Albinism. In some cases, gray hair may be caused by thyroid deficiencies, Waardenburg syndrome or a vitamin B12 deficiency. At some point in the human life cycle, cells that are located in the base of the hair's follicles slow, and eventually stop producing pigment.
  • The Journal of Investigative Dermatology published a study in 2005 which found that white people will begin to gray in their twenties and early thirties while Asian people begin graying in their late thirties, but most African people can retain their original hair color until their mid-forties. People with albinism may have white hair due to low amounts of melanin.

Source: Wikipedia

George Clooney
George Clooney
Sometimes, gray hair forces a man to start exercising and getting into shape
Sometimes, gray hair forces a man to start exercising and getting into shape
Bozo, the Clown
Bozo, the Clown

Fighting gray hair and winning

So with time being short, “Thad” combs some black hair over “the” one gray hair and puts on a fake smile to keep “Lula,” his life-long sweetheart from noticing how he is falling apart.

But “Thad” shouldn’t fear. He should be the man he’s always been—strong, self-reliant, confident and sure of himself, because he needs to master the challenge of . . .

Dealing With Your First Gray Hair

"Thad," my friend, remember to study . . .

THE AGING PROCESS -- everything ages, "Thad." Everything living ages. Everything dead ages--trees, carcasses, so get it in your head that you, no matter how great you look, you are slowly aging everyday, every moment that passes.

GRAY HAIR -- if it is one or five, is NOT new. So face it. Getting a gray hair will NOT stop the world from turning. Be a man and if no one sees your gray hair, do not volunteer the information. Be cool.

THERE ARE MANY -- ways to deal with gray hair. You must find the one that suits you. First, discipline yourself that you will not fall apart and let the thought of gray hair keep haunting you, for like a ghost, it will.

CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE -- on this gray hair. After all, it is only a hair, not a fatal disease. And some women and men "love" having gray hair because it gives them a new look. A look of maturity, more-stately, and charming. So do not "throw the baby out with the bathwater." Relax. And get the good out of this new pathway in your life.

NUMEROUS PEOPLE -- successful, powerful and ultra-intelligent people have gray hair. Albert Einstein, Admiral Nimitz, Harry Truman, Bishop Fulton Sheen and Mister Rogers. Can you just accept the fact that you are in the company of the elite by having gray hair?

DEAL WITH YOUR -- fear and pride before using any method to deal with your gray hair. It is really not about the color gray, but your fear that you will look old and not as youthful as you once were and that destructive-pride is holding you back from doing something mature about the gray hair.

VISIT A PROFESSIONAL -- hairdresser and get him or her to keep your confidence and ask him or her to color "just" the gray hair for you and just like a patient and doctor, you can visit their salon when you see more gray hair trying to take advantage of you.

BUY A HAIRPIECE -- that a professional hairpiece designer can design for your head. There is no shame in this method at all. And it could be more-economical in the long run. NOTE: just buy one that will not blow off your head in a windstorm.


GET YOUR BARBER -- to design a hairstyle for you that takes out the part of your scalp with the gray hair. When your family and friends ask, "Why the new hairstyle, 'Thad?"" You smile and reply, "Oh, just wanted something new and this will be the truth."

And lastly . . .

JOIN A SUPPORT GROUP -- for people who have gotten their first gray hair. And this is really important since you are a man of pride. This is an area of fright that needs tending-to and talking about it with others like you, will allow you to grow past getting gray hair.

NOTE: be thankful just for me. I am bald on top of my head. So I just trim and keep my head shaved as to not look like "Bozo," The Clown.

Be HONEST. How did YOU cope with YOUR first gray hair?

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The0NatureBoy 2 years ago from Washington DC

Because I had read that what we call "gray hair" -- actually is white hair looking gray because of the colored hair mingled with it -- is a sign of wisdom and I have always wanted the wisdom of Solomon [although now it has changed to the man called Jesus the christ], so when I saw my first gray hair I rejoiced. The first one I saw was in my beard at age 19 and the first I saw in my head was at age 21, so I felt I was on my way to becoming wise. I later discovered that my daddy and his daddy both had almost a full heads of white hair at age 50 and had began graying early, so I don't know if my hair is because of wisdom or hereditary. However, I do know it increased its speed of changing once I became the nomad in 1976 at age 31.


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Lastheart 2 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

My white hair started when I was 23. I love it! I feel free! I feel natural. I love ignoring those that can't understand my decision of being me because I accept who I am.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Lastheart,

I respect you for your views of white hair. And I do respect you for accepting who you are.

And even Peyton Manning is getting white hair as shown on his annoying Nationwide TV ad with him humming that lame and irriating theme song.

I stray sometimes.

Merry Christmas.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

TheONatureBoy,

Wow! I loved your comment. It was filled with wisdom and I mean it. I never looked at white hair like you do.

Thanks for your comment.

And you are a vagabond? Wow! You should hub that.

Merry CHRISTmas.


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The0NatureBoy 2 years ago from Washington DC

Kenneth,

I was a nomad/vagabond follower the teachings and life example of Yoshua called Jesus the christ until late 2012, when I took the retirement from the 15 years I worked prior to becoming one.

That is what my hubs are about but when I write about it as a man who have experienced it, they don't appreciate them. I find it difficult to write about it unless I include the purple and learning that life taught me.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

TheoNatureBoy,

Okay. Now I understand. Thank you so much for the information and comment.

Have yourself a Merry CHRISTmas.

Peace.


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The0NatureBoy 2 years ago from Washington DC

Thank you, Kenneth,

Merry has the same meaning as happy, an elation produced because of something external, I produces joy because of my understanding or the knowledge that I will come to understand, so, I will enjoy the Christmas season although there is nothing to suggest that is the birth time of Yoshua. I do realize, however, most people only follow tradition and not their understanding of why the tradition is in place which is one of the reasons this nation has fallen into such a state of corruption, therefore, that is my underhanded thanks for your Christmas wish. lol

A Joyous Christmas to you and all who read this.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

TheoNatureBoy,

You are most-welcome.

I agree with your thinking about Yoshua's birth which was NOT Dec. 25. This date was "Christianized" by Judeau Christianity, and also of course accepted by the materialistic-gainers of the free world, both Christian and non-Christian, as confirmed by the Hebrew Manusripts, but as you say, traditions of men were what Jesus taught against as much as not trying to live in the will of Yahway (?) I am rusty on my Hebrew spelling, but (some) Christianity does not teach against man's traditions as it pertains to the engineering of the "Church." But only that which feels, looks, and tastes good.

Sorry to be carried away.

And yes, you do have a Merry CHRISTmas. Keep in touch.


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The0NatureBoy 2 years ago from Washington DC

Kenneth,

Every time we began to discuss we go off subject, we are doing it again here.

After finding out my name in Hebrew is Eliyehu and the Yehu is short for YHWH, I've found the Hebrew pronunciation of it is Yehuwey (Yah Hoo Vey) which means I AM THAT I AM. The Early Hebrews stopped pronouncing it because they thought it would be taken in vain but how does one use I AM THAT I AM in vain?

I think we should wait for the next discussion. lol


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

TheoNatureBoy,

LOL. You prove several legitimate points. We will wait until after the holidays. Deal?

In the meantime, have days of peace and tranquility.

Your friend, Kenneth


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The0NatureBoy 2 years ago from Washington DC

Deal, Kenneth, and you the same. lol


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kenneth avery 23 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, TheoNatureBoy,

I will do my best. I wonder, from a philosophical point, if your first gray hair is the same as your first pimple?

Please take some time to look this up for me.

Kenneth


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The0NatureBoy 23 months ago from Washington DC

Kenneth,

I grew up eating Greens and Cornbread, Beans and Cornbread and Beans and rice, that kind of diet doesn't cause many pimples. I don't remember having any.

I will see if I can find something out about "pimples" in relation to white hairs.

Elijah "NatureBoy"


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kenneth avery 23 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hey, TheoNatureBoy,

Now I have learned something. I ate basically the same thing as you, but when teenagedom hit, I did have my share of pimples.

I used Clearasil, what a name, and kept my face (and nose) clean as best I could and eventually, no more pimples.

Pimples did not scar me psychogically, I am proud to share.

Uh, oh! There is a new hub idea. And I have you to thank.

Peace and quiet for you tonight.

Kenneth


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The0NatureBoy 23 months ago from Washington DC

Kenneth,

Some people do get a few pimples, my oldest sister is the only one of us 5 I recall having them after she entered puberty, I don't remember none of the other 4 having them.

I'm always at peace and live alone so, except for some in other apartments arguing or something, I generally have quiet but I thank you for the wish and hope the same for you every night.

By the way that is a zero in my name because it is the only complete number, all other numbers are either positive or negative while zero neutralizes or eliminates them both.

Elijah "The0NatureBoy


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kenneth avery 23 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Jan. 16

The0NatureBoy;

Pimples, gray hair, triggers of vanity. What a smooth beast she is. I do not think what few pimples I had changed my life that much and now, my lack of hair which I like for the ease and time savings in getting ready to go out for an evening.

Thanks for the nfo on the zero in your name. I like that reason you said that a zero is the only complete number. Gotcha.

I wish you a safe weeekend, my friend.

Kenneth


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The0NatureBoy 23 months ago from Washington DC

I stop grooming my hair December 31, 1977 after a dream which revealed I would comb all my hair out, still I've lost a lots because I got it from my uncles on my mother's side. However, the not grooming my hair except washing it has made my 30+ years the nomad an easy life. My hair would break due to wearing a bedroll or backpack most of the time eliminating the barber need.

Being spiritually born, I'm safe until/unless spirit has another plan for me.

Safe weekend to you, as well my friend,

Elijah


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kenneth avery 22 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Jan. 21,

The0NatureBoy,

Wow, what a confession and carefree way of life. Hey, you should praise God for your hair. I shave my head due to when I let it grow, I only have hair on the sides and back and look like a clown. No way.

So shaving eliminates taking time for wash, dry, comb, which used to take me around 20 minutes, but not now. Whip on the AXE, clothes, brush teeth and off I go.

I am apologetic to you for not writing so soon. Life popped-up and I had to do some TCB.

God be with you in all of your paths, my good friend.

Kenneth

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