Desperate What Should I Do



If I tell you how many children we have you will judge me. "Don't they know where babies come from"? Many of the kids have been adopted. Nobody harasses us about those kids. Its our biological kids that we are harassed about. Nobody expects the adopted kids to behave well. They say,"Those poor dears, they have such nasty backgrounds they can't help themselves". The natural born children are expected to be well behaved and good at school. They are held to a higher standard than other kids because they look like us. It isn't fair for them.

We Make A Good Income

We make lots of money, but my partner and I just can't stop adopting children. It doesn't matter what they look like or where they come from. If we hear about a child in need we adopt him or her. We are pretty fertile as well. We have been doing this for a long time and it has become a habit. Now there are so many who depend on us we just don't know what to do.

We have fights constantly about the budget. I look at the budget like it's telling my money where to go. My partner looks at budgets as a straight jacket that keeps him from having fun. There seems to be well defined ways of budgeting. I read this book called the Complete Cheapskate by Mary Hunt. This book outlined how to get out of debt. It isn't easy, it started with cutting up all credit cards. Well that wasn't too hard. All but one was maxed out and we couldn't use them anyway. My partner instead of looking into this system and changing her mind applied for another credit account.

Did I say we make a good income? More than 7 figures is the income we make, but we have so much debt you wouldn't believe it.

She got the new credit card she applied for.

Our FICO score is over 700, but we spent at least 10,000 a month more than we earned, until we cut up the credit cards.

I just found out the FICO score predicts how likely you are to pay a debt. It has nothing to do with how much you can afford something. At least that explains why my sister's FICO score is higher than mine and she doesn't have much income.

The Fireworks

The fireworks really hit when the kids started bringing home their friends. The friends stayed and stayed. Some of them have even gotten regular jobs. They don't seem to have any difficulty getting jobs. Don't tell anyone, but I think some of them are not here on the up and up.

I have a very big house and it is a shambles. The kids play games, talk and eat. There are piles of garbage around the kids. They are too lazy to pick up anything. They just throw their dishes on the ground. It's really hard to get help. It is so expensive. Having to pay so much for health insurance is about to bankrupt us.

Last week my partner yelled and screamed at how unfair I was to ask her to contribute some more of her income to the household expenditures. She went ballistic. She said" If I do that I won't be able to get my nails done every week, or my hair tipped every six weeks. You are just asking too much". Then the mother-in-law came in. She was upset that her daughter was upset. She screamed at me and said,"You are heartless, don't you care how my daughter looks". Then she asked me for more money in her allowance. I am ready to give up, but what can I do? All these people are depending on me. If I tell them I am not paying or cutting their allowances they tell me I am on a power trip and mean. What am I supposed to do. This household is out of control.

Should children be required to help around the house?

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We have some of our own kids. We love them dearly, but we have to keep making money, so we haven't always been good parents. We haven't set up boundaries, so the kids don't know how to behave very well. I read a book about boundaries. It said to feel safe and secure children need limits. But my partner keeps buying every kind of thing you can imagine to make the kids happy. Well the grown up children, who have all gone to Ivy League schools can't get jobs.

I told them that ancient art history didn't lead to a well paying job, but that's what they wanted to study so my partner said,"You just go ahead, honey, do what your heart leads you to do", There is another who became a lawyer and now works for a none profit organization that doesn't pay her enough to live on. The story goes on and on. So much of our debt comes from school loans. We have kids who have graduated, but can't get jobs. Some of them work in restaurants. but their loans are coming due and they can't pay the interest. Those are the motivated children. We have several children who are high school. They stay up late at night then complain that they can't get up in time for school. They are about to fail and drop out of high school. They see their older siblings failing and think education is pointless. I am about to agree with them.

I love my children, but all most of them do all day is eat, play video games, listen to music and talk on their cell phones. I pay hundreds of dollars for cell phones. Did you know the cheapest data charge for a cell is $29,99 per cell phone. I did just hear about a family plan, but when they hear how many phones we have they smile and say "I don't think we can help you".

Those are our birth children. The ones we adopted have fetal alcohol syndrome, or are crack babies and they probably won't ever amount to anything so we have them on medicaid. We are showing them how to work the system so they are provided for down the road.

Our hearts are so soft that whenever we hear about a child in need we rush in and rescue them. We hire the best nannies. But the nannies don't stay very long. They tell us the children are unruly. Just because one of the crack babies(14) beat up the nanny she was mad.

Doesn't she have any sympathy for the poor kid. She said."You need to discipline those kids". I agree. I don't have time and my partner won't do anything. Well. she is busy.

Everything is so out of control. I can run a billion dollar company, but I can't run a household of 12. I am desperate, "What should I do?"


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The Real Story

What you have just read is an allegory of our United States government.

The government doesn't say," No", to anyone or thing if it sounds good. The government makes really good money on taxes. What do they do with the taxes? They don't know where the money they spend goes. They don't set boundaries or expect anyone to behave in a fashion that encourages good citizenship or good work ethics.

The children are discouraged and depressed, which sometimes appears to be laziness. Many of this generation have been babysat by television and video games. The government has made laws where children have to learn about sex before they can read. Then the powers that be are upset that the children can't read, but are doing sexual things with teachers and each other. They don't have any job skill or people skills.

I can go on and on about government and what is wrong with it, but unless "We the People" stop electing people who care more about telling people what to do while enjoying the nicety's of life, we are on an airplane on a downward spiral. It's never the fall that kills you its the stop at the bottom.

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

You had me going with that story. I was about to start screaming at the computer over how stupid you were acting. LOL Change is a coming in this country and it will not be pretty when it happens. Nice job with this one.

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Ericdierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

It is a very fine thing indeed that your telephone number is not listed here. I was also noticing you are somewhere in my state and I was packing some bags. Thank goodness my good child threw a lego and hit me in the head, so I had time to think.

Excellent gotcha with an even better moral to the story.

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Mrs Jil Manning 4 years ago from Sussex, England

What a great story, great wind up with a strong message! Well done!

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diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico

I was about to tell you I didn't believe a word of your article! Clever, and a finish worthy of Willstar.

It's the same or worse here.


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Pamela99 4 years ago from United States

Very clever and so true!

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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

I couldn't agree more. I kept thinking what kind of people would let the children do this. I am glad to know it was a sham. Good for you..Clever...

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Vickiw 4 years ago

This was such a clever way to get your point across, tireless. Like everyone else, I just wanted to clobber you for your stupidity and lack of elementary understanding about the way family rents should treat children! Great Hub, and only wish governments would take the time to read things like this. But then, they behave just like these idiotic parents . . .

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catgypsy 4 years ago from the South

Wow, I was reading this and thinking...I don't want to tell you what I was thinking! :D I'm actually so relieved to know this was not true! As Vickiw said...very clever! Great hub!

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phoenix2327 4 years ago from United Kingdom

I never thought about the government like this before, but it really does apply. Well done.

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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California Author

Ericdierker- Whew, surely glad you got to the end.

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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California Author

Mrs. Jill-thank you for your kind words.

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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California Author

phoenix2327- Thanks for dropping by.

catypsy- You don't have to tell me what you were thinking. I kept thinking as I wrote. "Come on people hang in there until the end before you hang me".

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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California Author

Bob that is mighty high praise . Thank you very much.

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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

wow what a story and so true every word.. Our government is out of control.. you said it all.. i kept reading and reading thinking you need to kick some and then I realized what you were writing about.. awesome writing



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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California Author

Deborah, lol I would like to put on my pointy cowboy boots and kick some butt. I just heard about another child who needs just a little bit of occupational therapy, but can't get it because he's not in deep enough trouble. I could just kick those educators in Washington and Sacramento who leach the money out of our schools to come up with hair brained ideas that drain teachers of the ability to teach. Thanks for reading.

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torrilynn 4 years ago

i love the message behind your story. voted up.

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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz...

I was getting so angry at this hub! But you turned it into a great lesson! You sure did my attention - which is what it was all about, right? Great hub!

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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California Author

torrilynn- Thank you for your kind words.

justateacher- Thank you as well. I have never had such fun reading comments as I have on this hub. The hub was a rant that took a life of it's own.

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Vista15 4 years ago from Columbus, OH

...and then I woke up.

It's like one of those 'dream' stories.

I am running for Prez in 2016... you might like to see my Hub page on that.

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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California Author

Great of you to visit Vista15.

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Vista15 4 years ago from Columbus, OH

I have a Facebook page, '2106 Prez Campaign', and I posted this hub on it.

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tirelesstraveler 4 years ago from California Author

Vista15- I am honored, thank you very much.

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Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

I knew there had to be a hook, so glad there was. Great write.

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tirelesstraveler 3 years ago from California Author

Jackie, Thanks for visiting. I almost felt guilty going on so long before the twist.

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Peggy W 3 years ago from Houston, Texas

As I kept reading this I began to realize that this could not possibly be your true household because if it truly would not be telling us it was that much out of control. Good twist at the end! Sadly, our government doesn't seem to care one bit about financial responsibility. At some point in time we are all going to be hurt because of it as will future generations. The word "insanity" comes to mind! Up, useful and interesting votes.

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tirelesstraveler 3 years ago from California Author

PeggyW- I was hoping this would sound like someone who had an, "Ah ha moment", realizing how out of control their family was.

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Emanate Presence 3 years ago from the Head to the Heart

Up, Useful and Interesting - and if there were a vote for Smart, that too. For my own taste, I would add a smattering of other flavors, but in general it is a satisfying banquet.

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KoffeeKlatch Gals 3 years ago from Sunny Florida

You got me. I was sitting here thinking, as I read your story, what the heck is wrong with them? Loved it and loved the moral. You've got it right. Financial responsibility doesn't seem to matter to the government. Too bad.

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tirelesstraveler 3 years ago from California Author

KoffeeKlatch Gals, I am most honored that you visited. Thanks.

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tirelesstraveler 3 years ago from California Author

Emanate Presence, your kind words are gratefully accepted.

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stars439 3 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

Enjoyed you're hub. It is down to earth, and realistically cutting edge honest. I voted . Thought kids should not be required to help around the house. Seems the majority thinks otherwise, and their probably right. It is probably very wise to assign a duty, or two to children for all kinds of important reasons. Our daughter can not walk so we never expected her to help around our house. However she helps her mother by throwing things away by sitting in her wheelchair. You are truly a motivated person. God Bless You Dear Heart.

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tobusiness 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

An interesting perspective to view our current problems. As I read this I'm wondering if you guys are for real; I love your little microcosm of dysfunctional family, it is much too close to the truth for comfort. Cleverly done, you get the point across.

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tirelesstraveler 3 years ago from California Author

stars439 -The big strong men that my sons have become dispatch the heavy lifting around here in no time. Harnessing that power is an entirely different story. My best to Becky and Joann.

tobusiness-Thank you for stopping for a visit. The reality of this whole business set me on the adventure of budgeting. It has been indeed an adventure.

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shofarcall 3 years ago

Very clever hub.

What I want to know is: are there really families out there like your fictitious family written about here??? Fabulous way of making a strong point! God Bless.

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Twilight Lawns 3 years ago from Norbury-sur-Mer, Surrey, England. U.K.

Whine, whine, whine. It's everybody else's fault, isn't it?

We have a lot of people like this in the UK also.

Try going to a third world country and living there for a while,and then rewrite your hub.

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tirelesstraveler 3 years ago from California Author

I was confused by your comment until I went back and realized the moral of the story is tucked in after the quiz. This is an allegory.

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Twilight Lawns 3 years ago from Norbury-sur-Mer, Surrey, England. U.K.

I read the hub in its entirety and understood the message, I think, as well as most of its readers, however, I despair when I read political and reactionary hubs that tear at the fabric and mores of government that is elected. We have a democratic system in the UK as well as you do in the USA.

Those in government do what they do, whether Right or Left wing, according to the best intentions.

Try living in a country in which the freedom of speech and congregation are not basic human rights.

I'll get off my soap box now.



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tirelesstraveler 3 years ago from California Author

Ian, Am in complete agreement about counties where the government does as it pleases. The ones I have spent time in I don't write about for that very reason.

You can get on your soap box anytime you want. Your comments made me think seriously about this hub.

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Twilight Lawns 3 years ago from Norbury-sur-Mer, Surrey, England. U.K.

Please don't think I am being patronising, because I'm not, but your reply was so refreshingly intelligent and reasoned that I think I am dealing with a person I am going to be glad to follow.

With respect and admiration,


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tirelesstraveler 3 years ago from California Author


You have made my day!


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VVanNess 3 years ago from Prescott Valley

How funny! I love it! You really made each of us feel like we were in the middle of a personal argument between you and your partner, not wanting to get in the middle of it. Truth is, we ARE in the middle of it, and most of us still aren't doing anything. Kudos on writing truthfully about the government!

Great article!!

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