Do I give more?

Blessings come to empty hands.
Blessings come to empty hands.

What is asked of you is no longer yours.

You've given more than what was expected. Then you receive a call from the same person asking for more. You feel abused and obligated. A sense of self-righteous indignation slowly climbs up your spine and perches on your head. You say no. You don't care anymore.

Is there such a thing as giving too much? When do you know when its time to stop giving? I usually say stop when you're angry. But there is something going on that might be an assault to logic. If you carefully become mindful, you will notice the phenomenon in your life as I have on countless times.

My husband is a lover of technology. When we had a fight, I threatened to leave him. His deadpan face just showed me how much emotion that evoked. But when I casually put the iPad in the microwave oven, he started walking towards me to say sorry. That is just to illustrate how for him, his technological toys are the "currency".

One day, we found out a friend of his was suffering from cancer. Many people from his social network pitched in. While he loved his friend, he was slow in joining in. He then told me that he thought that the right amount to give was around the cost his new iPod. But then, he hesitated. "That's a new iPod" he told me. "And look at how many people have already helped." As that thought lingered in his head and he went about his day, something absurd happened. For some reason, his new iPod disappeared. We couldn't find it anywhere. We searched for days, it was not in our very small apartment.

Then, an old Kabbalah teaching entered my mind. When an opportunity to give presents itself, you must accept it, for it you don't, something of equal value will be forcibly taken from you by circumstances. These opportunities empty you, in order to make way for a blessing to come down from the supernal world. I told him this.

I said to him, "Honey, I think you should give your friend a visit and give the amount you wanted to." He looked at me, and nodded in agreement as he sat down our couch. As he sat down, he heard a sound of paper crunch under him. It was an envelope. Inside the envelop was his new iPod.


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Twenty One Days 6 years ago

There is no limit to giving, Ceclia. giving is the honor, I mention often. No honor, no harvest. Giving without question, continuously, is challenging for humans sometimes. Throwing their proverbial hands up and the enough is enough, never realizing that continuous giving is a continuous blessing.

PS, glad he found his iPod. :)


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ceciliabeltran 6 years ago from New York Author

Hi James! Where have you been? But anyway, you are totally right. Isn't it funny?


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LillyGrillzit 6 years ago from The River Valley, Arkansas

Just out HubHopping. I love what you have to say. Giving, and not giving when asked/nudged make big ripples in the world. Excellent! Write On...


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ceciliabeltran 6 years ago from New York Author

Thanks LillyGrillzit! I find the phenomenon so strange. I refused to give someone 40 dollars and lo and behold, I get stuck on a cab headed straight to the part of New York where Obama decided to have a casual dinner...and the cabfare...you would not believe it. It was 40 dollars (plus tip)


soumyasrajan 6 years ago from Mumbai India and often in USA

Nice one ceciliabeltran. Who will not get inspired after reading this one to try to do a little more.


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hawkdad73 6 years ago from Riverside, Iowa

This is usually how it goes. Just when I feel like I have had enough with money and all, something makes me realize that it is not myself I need to worry about; it is usually something happens to make me realize how beautiful and caring others can be.

Wonderful insight.


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ceciliabeltran 6 years ago from New York Author

soumyasrajan,

Thanks, I needed reminding myself. It is not easy to believe it until it happens to you over and over.

Hi Hawkdad73,

It happens to me too. I'm glad you realize it without losing anything. That says something about how responsive you are.


Dorin Goodfellow 6 years ago

So the value of the 'oppurtunity that presented itself', was equal to a new Ipod?


Tinster 6 years ago

This is good.


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ceciliabeltran 6 years ago from New York Author

Hi dori, it is a longer story. After the visit to his friend, his company assigned him an Audi q7... Which by the way I ended up driving. The universe knows... He he. Seriously, the point is, whatever you value, that would be the currency.


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brianzen 6 years ago

(awesome hub)


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ceciliabeltran 6 years ago from New York Author

(thanks)


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Lita C. Malicdem 6 years ago from Philippines

I used to raise my pure indignation sometimes orally sometimes grudgingly when someone abused my streak of charity and hospitality. People can be opportunist, too, and bank on your weakness. But with your Kabbalah wisdom(although strange to me), I guess I have to weigh things carefully before I sulk. I'm a believer of karma, bad karma. Thanks for reminding me through this hub.


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ceciliabeltran 6 years ago from New York Author

Kabbalah Wisdom has the same lineage as Karmic Wisdom. They all fall under the Aryan-Vedic-Judaic tree which is why the 7 chakras and the Kabbalistic tree talk about essentially the same things.

The idea behind this giving is not to be a fool, but to give mindfully. I once had a friend who was constantly borrowing money from everyone. I sat down with her and asked her what her situation is, when I found out. I spent time to help her get to the root of the problem and actually just gave not even a fraction of what was needed. But it helped her. I did not throw money into the problem. I helped her repair the hole that was causing her financial bleeding. So if you don't want to give money, give time. The credit will be more. The root of your problems will be fixed as well. Thanks for reading!


amorea13 6 years ago

Ceciliabeltran this is 'class' - I loved it and I love the resonance your thinking and your 'philosophy' send out to me - and many others too no doubt. I believe your DNA/spiritual 'signature' is positively 'zinging' and it will 'connect' with everyone else who picks up the 'tunes' you're playing.

Actually I got to your writing through a comment I placed just before yours in a forum on 'unanswered prayers' - your comment about the WASPS in Disney just made me crack-up - loved it and I love your writing - think I'm a fan! Thank you.

Thank you


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ceciliabeltran 6 years ago from New York Author

Hi amorea13,

I visited your hub and something zinging in yours too. Thank you for seeing it this way. I must say it was nice to have someone get it in the way that I hoped it would be received. It is not often.


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lightning john 5 years ago from Florida

When an opportunity to give presents itself, you must accept it, for it you don't, something of equal value will be forcibly taken from you by circumstances. These opportunities empty you, in order to make way for a blessing to come down from the supernal world. I told him this.

I like this! To me I understand that if you know you may be able to help a person (worthy) of assistance, and truly are able, well then you should.

In the same time, I have donated my time and money to try and help certain people and it resulted in very complicated problems for me, because this person has issues that can only be remedied from deep within their faulty beliefs about themselves.

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ceciliabeltran 5 years ago from New York Author

Oh yes I know what you mean. But then that only means, the help that was asked of you, was not the help that was needed. Sometimes, these people come into our lives, to help us realize that.


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lightning john 5 years ago from Florida

Just curious, Do you give to certain panhanlers on the street?


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ceciliabeltran 5 years ago from New York Author

Na, I live in a nice neighborhood near a playground.


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dejahoo 5 years ago from Georgetown, TX

Very good. I was not very generous at giving when I had a decent income and so now I have very little at all and not much income. But, I am finally learning to give.


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ceciliabeltran 5 years ago from New York Author

Your treasures are in heaven. Meaning, what you had when you had so much is still in you.


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pinto2011 4 years ago from New Delhi, India

Very moving article. You are right, there is no amount to help a needy, save an ailing friend, to feed an empty stomach kid, to purchase a quilt for a homeless in the cold weather. God has at lest given us the upper hand to give, otherwise, he could have placed our hand in the lower side to receive.

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