Lose The Victim Mentality
Are You A Professional Victim?
Professional victims can be found far and wide now, especially with the emergence of painful political correctness. There is always some person or entity to blame for your shortcomings, whether it is obesity, money, education, relationships, jobs, or any other failure.
It sounds pathetic.
Sometimes, blame can be placed onto other people or entities. Usually, it cannot. And since it cannot be blamed on things other than yourself, you shouldn't do this. You're only hindering your own growth as a person and annoying or insulting people along the way.
Whining All The Time Isn't Productive
What do you expect to accomplish from whining all the time? When you whine to your friends or family, does anything get done? Do they fix the injustices you perceive and make them all better?
When you take to Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr or any other social networking site and whine day in and day out about these mundane trivialities, does that improve anything? No, of course not. All you do is find like-minded people who do the same things you do, or people who can't stand you.
Bottom line, it isn't productive. Action is.
Other People Won't Take You Seriously
When I see someone who does nothing but bitch and moan all the time, I cannot take them seriously. Most people can't take them seriously. Only like-minded whiners can. It's as if they aren't even a person anymore, but some walking billboard for made-up problems that either don't exist or aren't as big of a problem as the person is making them out to be.
Also, if you do complain all the time about all the things around you, people are going to assume you're the problem. They'd be correct in doing so.
Whining Is Pointless
Whining Doesn't Promote Any Good Cause
When you hop on the Internet and write whiny blogs all day, all you're doing is promoting a victim mentality. This isn't promoting a good cause and it isn't empowering anyone to change for the better.
People who promote good causes put facts forward, present a reason why there should be help within this area, and keep their emotions and biases in check.They level with people, connect with people, and try to promote their cause in an enlightened way.
Whiners toss blame around, generalize people, and show pseudo-outrage. Sometimes, they sound like bigots in doing so.
Whiners Troll Larger Problems
Professional Victims Trivialize Larger Problems
Ever hear the term "making a mountain out of a molehill"? Well, that's what you professional victims do on a daily basis. And it's a shame, too, because you're attracting large audiences of people who relate to you or hate you. In fact, many of you people are even making a living doing so. And in doing so, you're distracting from the larger issues around the world.
For example, there are over a billion people in this world--many of them children--without access to clean drinking water. If anyone has the right to be a whiner, it's these people. But there's hardly any attention there.
More attention gets paid to insensitive comedians like Daniel Tosh who make an asinine joke here and there. It's sad and backward, and you professional victims are the ones to blame for it.
At times, it starts to seem like you whine-about-nothing folks are nothing but unintentional trolls.
The Boy Who Cried Wolf
Even If You Are Truthful, No One Believes You
Whine all the time about everything and everyone? Well, guess what--after a while, people stop believing anything you say and figure you're just a drama queen looking for attention.
- You gained weight, and it's the fault of government subsidies of corn for cheap junk food.
- Lost your job, and it's the fault of your boss or your fellow employees.
- Your spouse leaves you, and of course you are the victim and they are the one who did all the harm.
- You have family problems, and it's all everyone else's fault all of the time.
- You can't hold a steady job and have no education, and tuition prices or the economy is at fault--not you, never you.
- You get a speeding ticket, it's because the cop was an ass.
No matter what happens, it's never your fault. No one believes a word you say.
What happens is that people start to look at you as an embodiment of the old story, "The Boy Who Cried Wolf." Knock it off while you're still ahead.
Stop being such a professional victim all the time and take a look inward. I understand that this is probably a defense mechanism, or you feel the need to fight for something. Well, try fighting for yourself and for those who have it worse than you, instead of acting like a child all the time and whining about any hardship you come across.
Sometimes, others are to blame. Of course. But usually the onus is on you. As a matter of fact, the onus is almost always on you.