Do you love thy neighbor?

The Beavers

When I think of the word 'neighbor', I think June Cleaver for some reason. I picture June and the neighbor lady (forgive me, I don't remember names, it's been awhile) in their pretty, ironed straight, floral dresses, boasting about their husbands as if they had invented food. I picture Ward (June's husband) and his neighbor friend in their suits, hands in their pockets, chatting about the latest baseball game, chuckling now and then.

Today's Neighbor-worth knowing?

I certainly do not condone pre-judging other citizens of society, ever. Let me just ask you, where have all the good neighbors gone?

Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm the only person that's been dumped into a sea of 'aliens', or so it seems.

Do you trust your neighbors?

Remember the days of Leave It To Beaver? Remember when everyone knew the name of each and every person on their entire block, even their entire town? Remember when you moved into a new home and your immediate neighbors, and sometimes even lovely people from further down the road, would bring you a casserol or a fruit basket and offer anything they had, to you, a stranger?

Where have those days gone? I realize that society has gone out the window. I believe that overpopulation has much to do with this sad epidemic. But the more I've spoken with people over the years, the more I've heard the tactics and maneuvers people use to avoid their neighbors. Everyone has an idea of how life should be lived and so many refuse to budge in their acceptance of societal woes, if you will.

Would you rather see THIS when you walk by?
Would you rather see THIS when you walk by?
Or this?
Or this?

Why CAN'T we trust our neighbors? Or can we?

I think we've all seen the natural downfall of society itself, and the way we treat others. I am in constant awe of the way I've witnessed people treating each other on a daily basis. Selfishness and greed are rampant in the world today. Many citizens of America have lost faith in others. We sit and watch our neighbors walk by, instead of offering them coffee. It's not fair to those of us who want a more compassionate, unified country and world. I don't understand. But I don't have to understand, I cannot solely change the way the world evolves, or can I?

Where have our manners and our patience gone? Granted, we're all busy, over-worked human beings, and that alone could put a damper on pleasantries, but let me remind you that we all have to share this world, do we not?

I understand the fear that many of you have because I suffer with it myself. We know that there are so many immoral, sick people out there, we do not want to fall victim to them, so we hide. We overprotect ourselves and our children, and some of us are teaching our children, sometimes unknowingly, to only worry about ourselves, we cannot waste time worrying about others.

This is the wrong strategy in my opinion. Yes, there are rapists, molesters, and murderers all around us. I have been victim myself, to some of these crimes. I advocate for any human being to stay safe and guard themselves from pain. But, I think in the meantime, we're putting out a face that says "Don't touch me or get near me, I already hate you because you're a stranger". I understand that that's the point we want to make when we're walking through the park at 10 p.m. when typically "shady" characters are roaming the world, but put yourself in other peoples shoes for one second if you can. Would you rather see a smile from a stranger, or would you rather watch them walk by as if you don't exist?

Some may think that they'd rather watch the person walk by, they're a stranger. But do you realize how much better life could be if you only smiled at that stranger instead of ignoring them? Can I tell you that when I'm having a bad day, a smile from a complete stranger can totally rearrange my thoughts and make them into happy ones. I promise you, try it. And not everyone will be receptive either, remember, there are billions of people in the world and they've all been evolved in the same society. But please, try it. Smile at your neighbor.

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Anil and Honey 4 years ago from Kerala

Very very good message thank you very much I appreciate you for selecting this subject. Good selection and good ideas


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Madison22 7 years ago from NYC

What a nice hub. I really enjoyed reading it!


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MissJamieD 7 years ago from Minnes-O-ta Author

maggielu--hey mama! It's so nice to see you here again and thank you very much for the nice compliment. Yes, a smile can go a long way:) Hugs

santoion--thanks so much! I hope you try your smile on someone new, it'll make their day:) Hugs


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santoion 7 years ago

Great hub !


maggielu1955 7 years ago

A wonderful hub. So very true in so many ways. I know that whenever I am away from home (either close or far), there is nothing that makes me feel better than a smile from a complete stranger. Not only that, but it feels good to be the first one to smile at someone that doesn't expect it. It makes me feel good to make them smile also.

Great hub.


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MissJamieD 7 years ago from Minnes-O-ta Author

dcollins--thanks so much for reading:) As I've mentioned, I hope everyone can try to spread some love.


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dcollins33 7 years ago from Las Vegas

Nice hub and so very true....i'm a firm believer that you treat others the way you want to be treated...great reading. THANKS


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MissJamieD 7 years ago from Minnes-O-ta Author

Nice to hear from you James! Thanks so much, I hope even one person will follow this advice and smile to their neighbor instead of ignoring them. It can really make a world of difference:) Hugs


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James A Watkins 7 years ago from Chicago

"Love thy neighbor as you love yourself"

Excellent Hub you have written. I enjoyed reading it. Thanks!


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MissJamieD 7 years ago from Minnes-O-ta Author

janni--yes, we should treat each other better, definitely! thanks for reading:) Hugs


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MissJamieD 7 years ago from Minnes-O-ta Author

Rochelle--That's so wonderful to hear. I also have many fantastic people around me, but the rural areas are where they reside. I don't mean to pick on "town" people, but I've seen the difference, maybe I should write a hub about that:) Again, so happy to hear your neighbors are sweet. Good for you and them, amen:) Hugs


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Rochelle Frank 7 years ago from California Gold Country

I must live at the grassroots.

I live in a rural area-- which is "densely populated". Everyone has a minimum of 3-5 acres because we all have wells and septic systems and the land requires a minimum amount of space to allow those systems.

Last weekend our neighbor had a house fire-- other neighbors reported the smoke, came to let dogs out of the yard, stayed around to direct volunteer firefighters, and helped in any way possible.

One brought over a rope that they could use for a leash for their dogs.. and others helped them pack their RV so they could stay on someone else's property.

Later that day I twisted my ankle while walking my dog. A neighbor I had never met came out to ask if I was OK-- three other cars-- including the people who were evacuating their house because of fire, stopped to ask if I needed help.

Another one, that I had only met a week before drove me and my dog home.

I have a fat purple ankle-- and lots of great neighbors.


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MissJamieD 7 years ago from Minnes-O-ta Author

Tom--Thank you. That is the message I'm sending:)

wesley--Thank you sweetie. I hope each person can simply smile at a stranger once in awhile. Hugs

jill--A smile does make a difference. I'm so happy to hear that your neighborhood is practicing just that:) That's awesome!


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jill of alltrades 7 years ago from Philippines

Timely reminder!

A smile really makes a big difference.

I'm glad I live in a neighborhood where we still know each other and treat each other with compassion.


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wesleycox 7 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

This is a wonderful message. We should all be more neighborly towards each other.


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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States

Great article. We can start mending our country at the grassroots level.

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