Can you practice Tolerance in your daily life?

by Pennywise
by Pennywise

Do you practice tolerance in your daily life? Do you find your blood pressure rising as you listen to parts of the A.M./P.M. newscast; driving behind the wheel on the way to work or school; dealing with the elderly in the check out line? Certainly, there are times when we all lose our patience to cope and show intolerance towards the people who get in our way. We are only human , after all. But if you have reached the point of violence on the road, if you feel you want to stuff those words down that announcers throat , perhaps you need to take time for some healthy introspection.

Tolerance - tr.v. - (1) to allow without prohibiting or opposing; permit. (2) To recognize and respect ( the rights, opinions or practices of others) . (3) To put up with; endure.

The American Heritage Dictionary - Second College Edition.

We have reached a period in our evolution as a nation where tolerance appears to be optional. How can that be? We are or were the greatest nation on earth because we are a melting pot of nationalities. In NYC and perhaps even Philadelphia, an example of every race in the world may be found. No other country has shown such diversity. We are a nation that currently has to fight to keep people from entering not leaving our land. We can no longer afford "Your tired, your downtrodden, your poor..."

What has become of our value system when we feel the need to mock or deny the rights of our citizens? When we need to shame our president because of his skin color. Several arcades across America have featured caricatures of Obama as the enemy . Patrons are encouraged to knock the plate out of his hand or even worse to shoot the figure down. One even had a bulls eye painted on the figures head! Is this a wise practice?  Are we having "fun" ?  Or is this blatant intolerance?


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Fresh off the bus, my freshman year of high school, we came in the door with a huge problem. We were the only white kids at the bus stop. "Call the school mom, you can change this , mom, please," we implored. With her usually serious demeanor and no nonsense style, she asked, "Define your problem." We hemmed and hauled coming up with only we were in the minority and how far we lived from the stop.

To get to the bus stop was a ten to fifteen minute walk around the neighboring high school athletic field. We could shorten the walk by cutting through the yards of a few houses next to the field in bad weather. We told mom we shouldn't have to walk that far, it was unsafe and too long. My dad was the neighborhood tinkerer. A body man by trade he could fix anything. He repaired lawn mowers or reconditioned them; charging only what his customer could afford. This adjoining neighborhood just happened to have many of dad's customers , who knew him by name. ( My mother knew this. )

"No, I will not call the school for such a lame reason. Remember all the times those kids were the only black children at your bus stop ; well it's your turn, now. Don't ask me again. That is my final decision," she affirmed. The mother of six meant what she said.

We had a rainy, chilly November that year. During the first really cold and miserable morning at the bus stop we heard a female's voice from inside the house with the pretty white front porch. "Tyrone, Tyrone, those kids have weak constitution, Tyrone. Get them on the front porch now!"  Our school's two hundred pound fullback meekly lumbered over with his head bowed down. He said, "Please wait up on the front porch, would ya. Momma won't take no for an answer, believe me". So we did. Tyrone and I had the same mother!

We never had an incident at that bus stop during the two or three years we all stood there. We formed new friendships that might not have bloomed at school. In good weather we loved the long walk home. We got to watch the daily comings and goings of these neighbors , only to learn they lived a lot like we did. We enjoyed our time at the bus stop, never feeling in harms way.

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Written to fellow hubbers only.

As we use the forums on hubpages, are we being tolerant of others opinions? Do we respect our colleagues right to their opinion? Or do we feel the need to yell, name call or show how much smarter we are by hitting that culprit over the head with all of our facts .

If we are better educated, better read than the average citizen and cannot show tolerance to our fellow hubbers ; who should listen to our opinions? An open mind is essential to be able to grow each day. If as budding writers , we are not able to tolerate opinions, races, beliefs then we are destined to fail as a society.

"The finest gift a man can give to his age and time is the gift of a constructive and creative life." The Art of Living by Wilfred A. Peterson.

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Comments 33 comments

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fetty 5 years ago from South Jersey Author

celeBritys4aftricA - Thank you for stopping by. I am sure you practice tolerance and probably many times during each day; especially if you have little children!


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celeBritys4africA 5 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

I believe I practice tolerance, I don't know if daily, but very often.


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fetty 5 years ago from South Jersey Author

Jackie_fish - Thank you for taking the time to read this hub. Glad it was useful.


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jackie_fish 5 years ago

really good hub was a pleaser to read :)


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fetty 5 years ago from South Jersey Author

GPage - thanks for reading my hub. I agree that as women we often tolerate too much in personal relationships esp. within our families. So glad you took a moment to reaccess your situation. Hope all works out for the best.


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GPAGE 5 years ago from California

fetty. this is a very good hub. I often wonder what is the right amount? How much can I take? I recently had to think about this a lot when it comes to a very close personal relation of mine. I came to the conclusion that my levels of tolerance were way too high. Meaning I put up with way too much. To a point where it was hurting my health. We all need to know when "enough is enough." All the best, G


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

sueroy333 thank you for stopping by. I believe we all practice tolerance each day but we all can improve in this area. I know I can. Thank you and welcome to hub pages.


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sueroy333 6 years ago from Indiana

I really enjoyed and appreciated this article. Being tolerant is easier said than done.

I like to hope I am, but I know I have a long way to go. I've started by being more tolerant of mistakes and rudeness of people when I drive. I figure if I can get that down, I'm doin' pretty good. :)

Excellent, well-written hub. Thank you!


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Esori thank you for your kind comments. We are living in an age where our culture seems to think its OK to laugh openly at someone elses weaknesses, differences or limitations. I believe we all need to practice more tolerance of each other and of others points of view or we will perish.

onegoodwoman - Couldn't agree with you more about cursing and/or name calling; but look at the behavior in our political forums. Sadly, nothing gets solved and feelings are hurt. No growth occurs when the blame game is being played. Thank you for your kind comments. I am amazed at your prolific writing and I enjoy your frankness and style of writing. Keep on hubbing!


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onegoodwoman 6 years ago from A small southern town

Most things are tolerable, somethings simply are not. It is my duty as a responsible citizen to speak against them. I can live by most things, many things , I refuse to live with.

These things are actions, not people.

Even at my worst, I don't curse folks, or name call. I know more words than that! Should I run out of words, I shall simply declare myself "through" and walk away.


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Esori 6 years ago

I couldn't agree with you more. I've been trying to live this lesson since I've identified it as the major source of societies problems. We must be tolerant with each other, because we are all different. I only have to disagree with you on one point, we have never been as tolerant as you suggested. We, as well as the world I think, has always had a problem with people who are different than themselves. And I'm not even referring to race necessarily. People divide and separate themselves by religion, income, where they live, politics, and yes race too. This continues all around the country everyday. It's also something we've gotten better at, but we definitely need to improve more.

This was a very good hub, a hub after my own heart. I've been meaning to post my own on the subject. I enjoy reading your hubs and I look forward to more!


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

technorican - Thank you for your comment. Thanks for taking the time to read my hub.

Seakay - I couldn't agree with you more. But you know how it goes. The right people probably think they are practicing tolerance or don't even bother to think twice about the concept. Thanks for stopping by.


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Seakay 6 years ago from Florida

Hey, fetty!

Great hub! Hope the right people read it and follow the example. There are so many really big issues in the world today that there is no place for intolerance. Especially as the population is increasing as we speak!


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technorican 6 years ago from Houston

I'm going to yell -- EXCELLENT!!! Thank you. Nuff said by me.


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Winsome, could not agree with your opinion more. Thank you for stopping by.


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Winsome 6 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

Fetty nice thought provoking issues. I am beginning to see that the problem is not intolerance per se but the inability to stick to the issue when you disagree. When it gets personal on the forums or in regular life, that's when tempers flare and the most damage is done. Diversity of opinion is what makes a society interesting and strong--attacking a person instead of the issue raised is the tragedy. Thank you for the article. =:)


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Congratulations for building such a diverse family through adoption. From personal experience I know how demanding a job this can be. Your attitude is beautiful but I believe others owe you and your family respect it is not a favor. Yet, your live and let live attitude will serve all of you well in the years to come. God Bless you and your family. Thank you for stopping by.


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DizNee Luver 6 years ago from Oregon

Thank you for such a well written & thought out hub!! It's true, we're all guilty of intolerance at some point, some more than others. I try to lead by example for my children. Four of them are adopted with 3 of them bi-racial. I've tried to teach my kids not to see color, but to see the person. I've tried to teach manners & patience but we're all human. We can't expect the children to behave differently than the parents that raise them....with some of these people.....the intolerance or hatred or lack of compassion runs deep. All we can do is try to live & treat others with respect & hope they will return this favor.

Thanx again for sharing this!!


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

James, I would not tolerate blatant disrespect toward my family, myself or others. I have been in situations where a crowd was harassing a single person. Yes, I'm that person who sticks her nose into trouble. My guardian angels work overtime. I don't suffer fools especially well and I despise a liar, but I have put up with several of them in my immediate family. I do not know how to love my enemies either. I may never be able to practice that tenet of my faith. Ignorance, unhealthy , living conditions, unclean food and water and a dictatorship in our government are a few more things that are intolerable to me. That's all I can think of for now, though I am sure there are more things.


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

Is there anything you would not tolerate?


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Prasetio, thank you for stopping by. Yes, probably the speed of living today contributes to some of the intolerance but now more than ever before we all need to keep minds and hearts open to new ideas, cultures, beliefs, etc.


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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

I'll try to respect others in daily life. If we want to help other people, I believe they will help us too. It proven by many people. But I found lack of tolerance nowadays, I don't know why this happen. It might because of the modern era, they have own business. Sometimes they didn't know each other, right! very inspiring hub. Thanks for share with us. Vote up.

Prasetio


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Thank you for stopping by. Especially today , in our society I wonder what some people are thinking. Glad to see you are one not to be influenced by these hurtful ways.


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GPAGE 6 years ago from California

Great hub fetty. enjoyed this. great hub! i have found that people do crazy things. i have looked on in shock at some of these things. i always try to stay calm. it is the only way to be.

Best, G


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

We need to practice tolerance everyday and Most of us do. For most of us this comes naturally, but for some ... Thanks so much for your wonderful accolades. I am humbled by them.


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epigramman 6 years ago

..what a life affirming hub you have written ... this should be in cement on the side of the highest mountain.

.....another great quote I once heard - never underestimate anyone!!!!!

..yes - tolerance should just be common sense but it can be taught - and nurtured.

I am all for love and respect - love and mercy - veritable qualities I receive from your writing and this landmark hub!


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Words by Mike , thank you for YOUR kind words and for stopping by to read my hub. I have strong feelings about this topic and it shows. I also must temper my responses sometimes, too. Currently, our country is lost and the media and new technology aren't helping as well as they could. Thanks again for your thoughtful response.


Words by Mike 6 years ago

Fetty~ Just awesome! I love it, very well written too. This is a lesson our Country needs desperately. I also loved how you spoke to the Hubbers as I agree 110% with you on that issue. Voted up! Cheers


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bayoulady 6 years ago from Northern Louisiana,USA

Thank you fetty. You're a great writer, and I appreciate your response. You are right....you did get me thinking. I happen to hate political cartoons, because of impressionable people that can't think for themselves and believe everything on the editorial page. I agree with you about Carter.God bless you!


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Dear bayoulady, I also am not impressed with Obama's performance but when we openly mock the man and compare him to terrorists and dictators at a carnival; this hurts our country and the value of the presidency. I believe that Carter is one of the most underrated presidents of our time. He is also a great writer. I have read three of his books on his family life after his presidency. Political cartoons will always have a place in our society. The theme of this hub is NOT about race or the current presidency. It is about how each of us does practice tolerance each day whether we realize it or not. It is about how in America we are Americans first. There is no one superior race in America, that I know of. Thank God. Thank you for your kind comments and your thoughtful response. Gotcha thinking that was my goal.


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bayoulady 6 years ago from Northern Louisiana,USA

hi fetty, glad to see another good hub. Thank you for approaching this subject so excellently!You made so many good points.Amen!

Please delete this comment if anything here offends you, as it is not my intention. Your hub is very well written.

However.....some people ,like me, are disappointed by our president's performance as of late. Fetty, with the majority of Americans, I really do not see this a race issue.It is a performance issue. I am proud that we elected a black man. I just wish it was someone different. He is my president, and I respect HIM, but I am not happy with what he is doing. Please hear me out:

In regards to a portion of this hub where you said,

"What has become of our value system when we feel the need to mock or deny the rights of our citizens? When we need to shame our president because of his skin color. Several arcades across America have featured caricatures of Obama as the enemy "........

I understand that the hurts endured by intolerence are enourmous.But raking a president over the coals is nothing new, and it has been the norm for many years before President Obama.

In every presidency cartoonist do this to a president ( and it is NOT funny to me) and it was not about race.For most Americans it is not about his skin color. Gerald Ford was not a black man, but he was often put down in the press , as was Jimmy Carter..This has been the case even in the 19th century.I don't like it, but it's been around all along.

I feel so disheartened to think that we now after all these years can't criticize a president without it being labeled as an issue with race.It feels like I am being judged as intolerant, when it is that I just don't agree with his policies.

So if you see my comments anywhere about this president or any president in the past, for me it is about performance NEVER skin color. I have very close black friends that are very outspoken about disapproving of his performance.

With love.God bless.


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fetty 6 years ago from South Jersey Author

Mr.Green, the anonymity of the internet does create this illusion, I agree. Through the pictures, I was hoping for the reader to see the need for all the different types of tolerance we face in our daily lives. ( eg. religious, physical, pain, cultures, each other, etc.) Thank you for reading my hub.


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Mr Green 6 years ago from Everywhere (nomad)

People think that at Internet they can be what they want. That is the reason why they are much more disrespectful when online.

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