Domestic Violence Against Men; Hidden In The Shadows:

Domestic Violence Against Men

Domestic Violence Against Men; Hidden In The Shadows:


There is a false sense of tradition and false perceptions, which dismisses that men can be victims of domesticated abuse. It also that false perception which has formed both past and current policy, which breeds the view-point, that domestic violence is only against women and children. It is because of these Public Policy views, Society has not reserved or built resources for men whom are legitimately being victimized. Shelters and Publicly funded sources of assistance and counseling, for men, are almost non-existent. In contrast, the abundance of both social support and advocacy groups for women are continually being started and funded by public dollars.

In a survey of 92 Hospitals, scattered all over the United States, Called “The Hospital Ambulatory Medical Care Survey”, where nursing staff members were asked to participate by entering information regarding injuries sustained in “interpersonal relationships." This survey in caption found that women reported domestic violence injuries more often then male counterparts. However, most injuries sustained by males were not only reported as “Sports” injuries, but also as injuries sustained by unknown strangers. Yet, most of the injury reports were questionable due to the injuries presentation being close to those injuries suffered by females admitted for domestic violence.

This trend of males not reporting domestic violence injury or reporting domestic abuses, to authorities is due to pressures put upon them by society, which suggests that men can not be victimized, physically by women. These social pressures also puts psychological stigma of being beaten by a women, whom is supposed to be the “weaker partner” in a domestic situation. This lack of reporting, and covering up of domestic abuse, has left that statistical data about male victimization far in the “fog” of reporting.



Citing Murray Straus, founder and Co director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire. In domestic violence on family members, where violence was introduced, he stated that one of the largest category was couples where the female partner was the only one to carry about physical attacks, not the male partner. Straus’ new research also found that dominance by the female partner is even more closely related to violence by women than is male dominance. These results call into question the widely held belief that partner violence is primarily a male crime, and that when women are violent it is self defense.

In related articles, Females were more apt to perpetrate assaults against men, while they are dating. In most cases, where assaults or violence were noted, the females were found to be guilty of assault, but the initial reports of the issues, occurred where the female filed reports against the male, allegedly to keep the male away from them or to establish a basis of control over the male. Controls are put into place, later on and after the official policing reports whereby the female will coerce the male to conform to her desires or she would pursue the matter. 

Although media outlets will normally refrain from reporting of female acts, unless there is a death or severe injury to a child, females were far more apt to stalk men more than men stalk women. Straus’ reporting materials show that violence perpetrated by females, will normally occur within the family or close friends, more than outwardly. 

A Few More Incidents With Women Becoming Violent In The Home: (article found on the site:”Life for Fathers at: ) 

A New Jersey woman who tortured and abused her 11-year-old son, and was caught on tape bragging about it, was sentenced to 10 years in prison December 17. Tonja Chamberlain, 32, of New Egypt, forced her son, Rob, to sleep in a locked, alarmed room along with a parakeet and a potbellied pig. She beat him brutally and would not allow him to go to the bathroom. He went to school smelling of urine. A neighbor who had previously tried unsuccessfully to alert authorities finally captured the mother on tape boasting, "I lifted his feet right up off the floor," referring to the impact of her blows. At another point, she talked about the colors of the bruises she was leaving on the boy. "I was hoping for purple, but all I got was red," she said. Ocean County Assistant Prosecutor William Cunningham stated that Chamberlain dotes on her two daughters and loves animals but terrorized her only son.

Although the story was reported by the Associated Press (AP) wire service, it was disseminated only on its "state" wire service to New Jersey rather than on its national wire, hereby virtually ensuring it would not be picked up by the national

Domestic Murder and Violence By Women:


Lt. Cynthia T. Ferguson, CNM, MSN in an article on Domestic Violence where Murder of a Household member occurred stated the following

“Women in intimate relationships are frequently portrayed by modern society as “the victim” when violence or a homicide occurs in intimate partnerships. These women continue to be seen by American culture as weak individuals who suffer at the hands of domineering, powerful, over-controlling men.

The myth that spousal murder is committed almost entirely by husbands who kill their wives must be dispelled. In addition, there are discrepancies within the legal system, where a female is treated more leniently for murdering her husband, than when a man murders his wife. The criminal-justice system has failed to see equality in the crimes in the sexes, allowing for biased views that women are less malevolent than men and more prone to victimization. The stigma is intractable that women are more likely than men to feel remorse for what they’ve done. While this may be true for some women; for others, the truth is much further away than many suspect.

Women who commit homicide have been documented as killing family members more often than any other type of murder. Usually there is a historical pattern of some type of abuse within the current household; however, past childhood abuse has been linked to a woman’s predisposition to kill. Killings between married couples occur at all states of relations despite social and economic boundaries. In those relationships ending in homicide, one or both of the partners often have been unemployed, therefore struggling financially and frequently under large amounts of stress. Alcohol can be a pre-disposing factor contributing to these homicides, as well as any history of jealously, marital violence, or past separations.

Murders against men, in Intimate Relationships, reportedly occur more frequently due to

Battering/self defense, Money/financial gain, Jealousy/rage, An undetermined motive or mental illness/personality disorders which were not addressed or are currently being addressed. To further the point that women have the propensity of violence in the home, one must take note of the following statistical information, obtained through the Crime Reporting Database Statistical Information. Information reporting deaths by family members in 1996 shows:

Of 1,262 American children murdered, in families, in 1996, women murdered 984 and men murdered 278; biological mothers murdered 768, natural fathers murdered 30. By far the greatest perpetrators are mothers who are living with a man who is not the

father of her child, recently estranged from the biological father and living alone.




Domestic Violence Against Men, Much Like Claims Made By Women:


Domestic Violence, regardless of who is guilty for the abuse, is a tragedy and is a vicious cycle. Unbroken, can lead to significant damages to children, whom are subjected to witnessing the act. It all too often, even when the children may not be physically harmed, they often grow to perpetuate the same types of abuses against their spouses, partners and/or children. For this reason alone, Domestic Violence intervention is an imperative, and equal weight and resources to violence against men and women, should be addressed in social service programs and crime reporting.

If you view the aspects of domestic violence, and homicides in domestic relationships, both causes and the injuries run parallel. Injuries sustained are common, as is the reasons for staying in such relationships. Men and women, whom find themselves being victimized, normally stay due to fear of reprisals, threats, intimidation, and the feeling that the person they love is broken and can be “Fixed.”. Most are subjected to having resources, to exit the relationship, being stripped away, as time in the relationship continues. Such resources are financial resources being taken away, Support networks such as family and friends are alienated and pushed away, by the abuser..

Regardless of whom is being victimized, they need assistance to remove themselves and children from the environment. Trying to fix the problem, begins in intervention and not in “self Help”. The Dynamics of the family environment, where abuses are occurring can not be understood by those whom have never been in such an environment previously. True help can not be found in someone whom is still in an abusive relationship; trying to extend a hand. But most importantly, efforts need to be made to bring Domestic violence against men, into the “lime light” and build the resources to help victims.

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