Don't Deny My Rights and I Won't Deny Yours

As a society of unique individualities we aren't always going to agree on every social issue. We all have our own opinions and they should all be respected.

We shouldn't judge one another based on each others lifestyle or mannerisms. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could all accept each other for the way we are?

If we can truly feel compassion for one another without attempting to strip each other of our rights life would be grand.

Random challenge. If you should choose to accept this challenge that's outstanding! If you choose not to, well that's okay too.

For twenty-four hours let's all try to accept and understand one another.

Let's try not to change someone's opinion or condemn someone's beliefs.

Who knows maybe this new way of thinking might carry over to weeks, months and years.

Go ahead and try it. It's not going to hurt anyone.

Think before you speak...

If you don't like gay marriages? Don't have one...but don't frown upon a same sex couple who are happy. I consider them unique. Contrary to what some people think you can't "pray away gay."

If you don't like cigarettes? Don't smoke them....smokers aren't the scum of the earth that society has perceived them to be. They aren't stupid. They are fully aware that smoking is a health risk. The decision to smoke is theirs. It's their body to do whatever they decide. Most smokers I've encountered are courteous smokers who simply move away from others while enjoying their habit.

If you don't like abortions? Don't get one...abortions shouldn't be a form of birth control as some might presume. For the women who have had this procedure I'm sure it wasn't an easy choice to make. They have to live with their decision for the rest of their lives. It's still their choice. They should not be made to feel guilty.

In addition if you don't like sex? Don't have it...but don't complain when you hear moans and groans coming from your neighbors house. Just saying.

If you don't like drugs? Don't do them...drugs are an addiction. Addicts aren't born addicts. There is a reason users use drugs. Reach out to them. A few kind words of appreciation and a meaningful gesture can go a long way. We live and learn from each of our mistakes.

If you don't like porn? Don't watch it...and trust me I won't. Freedom of the press! I would like to give a shout-out to Larry Flynt. He was born into poverty and created a multi-million dollar business (Hustler magazine). That's impressive.

Don't like alcohol? Don't drink it...to each his own. It's not your liver that's being tampered with. Alcoholic consumption can be used to celebrate or sedate. As long as the consumer isn't drinking and driving or harming another person the choice to drink is theirs to make.

Don't like guns? Don't buy one... Guns don't kill people. People kill people. It's never the guns fault. I hold no animosity towards guns when they are used for the correct purpose and in the proper situations. God bless the USA!

It's simple.....If you don't like your rights taken away then don't try to take away someone else's.

Disclaimer: This article is not intended to offend anyone. This is my perspective point of view. We are who we are. We are all unusual yet unique human beings.

We are stuck on this planet together through thick and thin. Personally I just think it would be nice if for just one day we could all see eye to eye and support one another. Peace out.

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Comments-Opinions-Lynch Mob...All are welcome. 41 comments

marellen 5 years ago

Sunshine....I agree we should all get along. I don't have a problem with too many people as long as they aren't hurting anyone, abusing anyone, doing anything against the law and I don't have to live with a druggie, a smoker or someone who likes porn. So, that does leave some folks.....right????

BTW..I liked your hub.


Mich Stoker 5 years ago

Great job. :) Lets all just enjoy each other and embrace our unique qualities!

(except the smoking part.... Smoking is bad.) ;-)


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

marellen you have tons of people left :-)) Thank you!

Mich....we get the point. Embrace the smokers! lol


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Cogerson 5 years ago from Virginia

Very good point...I agree with 100% on this hub....I never understood why people who are against something...for example smoking....feel they can tell somebody else they can't smoke....obviously there are more rules now about where you can smoke....but a smoker understands the rules...and most follow the rules....and chooses to smoke....the power of choice...is a powerful thing....great hub...great music and I liked the cartoon.....voted up and useful.


ligler88@bellsouth.net 5 years ago

This is about how we should live our lives ! Respect everyone and deny others nothing. This is their life not yours ! Great hub, voted up and useful


Rainy1005 5 years ago

Sunshine -

You are a thinking person and I like that. Letting people have their rights is what has made this country a wonderful place to live.

The question is how much are we willing to spend to allow people to have their choices and when people's choices interfere with other people rights how is that resolved.

For example, smokers - let them smoke, they are aware of the consequences and they are adults. But when my health insurance premiums are rising 20% a year, in part because people are smoking and developing cancer is that fair?

For example, drinking alcohol, they are aware of the consequences and they are adults but what about the children or spouse who have to live with the adult who is falling down, mean drunk. Where are their rights?

Porn, of course, watch all you want. It is your right, but what about the child porners - do they have a right?

Abortions - well, you know where I am going with that...right?

Drugs...is it the right of the dealers to sell stuff that causes neurological problems, is it the right of the dealers to hang around at schools looking for more customers or employees?

You get my drift. For every right, we have we also have a challenge to prevent your rights from eclipsing my rights.

I appreciate your comments. And in deed I often think the solution to drugs and prostitution is legalize it, let the government regulate it, and tax it. Isn't that the death of anything?


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Rainy1005...Thank you for an outstanding comment to compliment my hub. I appreciate your point of view. Well said. You are welcome to visit my hubs anytime and have your voice heard :)


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fpherj48 5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Sunshine...another interesting Hub, as always. I accept your challenge.....mainly because the older I get, the more mellow I become in terms of patience and tolerance. Well, at least I THINK that's it...but hmmmm....maybe we finally reach the point where we realize there are only a few of us PERFECT individuals left..lol....kidding...I'm kidding folks...don't beat me! Rainyday...I get your drift and I LOVE your last paragraph. So TRUE!!


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prasetio30 5 years ago from malang-indonesia

Very inspiring hub and I agree with you about all of them. Better stay away if we don't like it. Great tips from you. Thanks for writing and share with us. Vote it up. Have a nice weekend!

Prasetio

NB: I just add you on facebook, if you don't mind please confirm my friend request. Thanks..


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manthy 5 years ago from Alabama,USA

Great hub - I gave you a link on my last hub.

you are such a good writer, do you have a website of your own?

I voted this up and awesome


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you for the votes and the link manthy! At the time this is my website. I'll let you know if/when that changes.


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Wesman Todd Shaw 5 years ago from Kaufman, Texas

~THUNDEROUS APPLAUSE~


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pedrn44 5 years ago from New Berlin Wisconsin

What a great hub, sunshine. I totally agree we should not interfere with one another's opinions, thoughts or lifestyles just because they do not agree with our own.I believe it is a waste of time and hurtful when people condemn same sex marriage. Everyone has a right to love, happiness and a nuclear family. I heard today that Chaz Bono is being chastized for being on DWTS because he is transgender. A Mother's group said it sends the wrong message to our children. What?! Acceptance is the key, especially when there is such real turmoil and strife in our world. Voted up and awesome.


Arlene V. Poma 5 years ago

Sunshine, I don't get my panties in a knot all the time when it comes to opinions. Everyone is entitled to their opinions. It is more important to realize that instead of having to being right. Having the need to be right all of the time is a waste of time. People who have this need can stay in their little boxes.


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you for the applause Wesman :))

Pedrn ... Chaz is who he is. People just need to stop looking for things to complain about. Most likely DWTS asked Chaz to participate just so they can get the controversy brewing, just like why they asked Nancy Grace. It's all part of the game. I hope Chaz wins! :))


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Sunshine625 5 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

@Arlene ... Stay in their little boxes on their little planets within their little perfect worlds :)


Arlene V. Poma 5 years ago

Always looking forward to your Hubs. Now excuse while I go and unknot my panties for the holiday weekend.


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Nellieanna 5 years ago from TEXAS

Someone said it rather well a while ago: "Judge not that you be not judged."

I agree with your views here. Each of us has choices and if we like having ours, we need to respect those of others. If someone is hurting and harming others with theirs, of course they can't be allowed the freedom to do that; but if they're simply choosing for themselves, affecting themselves, - that's their right, whether or not we agree it's a good choice or one we'd make. As you say - let the better choices as we perceive them be our own, but let others decide theirs for themselves.

Sometimes folks try to twist what folks do in their own domains into somehow affecting others adversely, but the fact is, whatever we do may somehow affect others. and nothing more fully than when we try to dictate what they can do with their lives and/or uf we trt ti prevent them from making those personal choices!

Voting your hub up & useful!


Charles Hilton 5 years ago

Excellent hub and salient points all around. Your perspective mirrors my view exactly. I've used the same rationale in my own debates and discussions with the many bigots I've encountered---who mistakenly think they can take away everyone else's rights while preserving their own.


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Victoria Lynn 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

I thought I had read this before but I don't see a comment. Glad I came across it. You make excellent points. I love your statement that you can't "pray away gay." And yeah, smokers aren't stupid; they know the risk. It's not like anybody can enlighten them. Just accept them. Accept everybody. I love this hub. Sharing!


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TToombs08 4 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

I live by the motto "we can agree to disagree." There is nothing wrong with intelligent debate to exchange ideas. It's when things go off the deep end that disturb me and make me walk away (ie; someone trying to shove their ideologies down my throat). Very intelligent hub, nicely written. Voting up. :)


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Cassandra Goduti 4 years ago from Guilford, Connecticut

You are right, excellent article! It is very hard for many to accept what they don't understand. I think they forget that everyone has the right to be happy. This is all about respecting others - it is unfortunate that politics and religion sometimes interfere.


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Angelo52 4 years ago from Central Florida

It's all about tolerance. As long as people are not in your face, trying to force you to live their lifestyle or causing harm to others then they should be able to live their life free of prosecution. Unfortunately, as can be seen across the world and the USA, tolerance is mostly not practiced.

Great article.


KDuBarry03 4 years ago

I am happy to have read this! YOu are correct, Sunshine, it is better to take an outside look of different perspective than an inside look. By that, I mean we must look at both sides rather than pick them. I absolutely agree with all you have said here. We all have the choice of this: To do or not to do (I know, Shakespeare spinoff; however, it's true). We all have choices of what we do with our lives and we, as humans and as a culture, should not coerce others into what we think are the right courses of action. Thank you for sharing this!


kelleyward 4 years ago

Great hub Sunshine! I believe many people have a hard time accepting others because they haven't accepted themselves. I had to learn to accept all the broken parts of me before I could accept the broken parts of others. I can tell you from experience it was one of the most freeing things I've ever done! Sharing this! Take care, Kelley


Poetic Fool 4 years ago

Another great hub, Linda! I've always said that your rights end when they start to infringe upon mine. If that doesn't happen, then we will get along just fine! If you try to force your views on me or you living them out keep me from living mine out, then we might have a problem.

Sure, there are some practicalities that might need to be addressed as Rainy1005 pointed out but as a whole live and let live is a good philosophy. Thanks for the thought-provoking hub. Let's hope lots of people take up your challenge!


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rahul0324 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

Well I connect to the smoker part! Although I have controlled my habit, there was a time a smoked profusely! I was not a public smoker and moved away from a crowd to do the thing. Some people respected my perspective then but most of the times I was met with smirks and jeers from unknowns...

We should indeed respect each others' perspectives... nice write!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Thank you all for your comments and for sharing your thoughts. Aren't you thrilled you have the right to do so!? :)

Nellieanna

Charles Hilton

Victoria Lynn

TToombs08

Cassandra Goduti

Angelo52

Kelley Ward

KDuBarry03

Poetic Fool

Rahul0324


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz...

I try to live every day without judging - it doesn't always work, but I try. I think working with children with special needs helps me with this. When you see these little ones playing with one another without regard to color, race, religion or disability it gives you hope for the world...I don't agree with smoking, but I don't have a problem with you smoking. I don't agree with abortions, but if that is the decision you feel you must make, then I will pray for you and hope your life gets better. I don't want a gun in my house, but understand your need for a gun. To me, I guess, it's live and let live...


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shea duane 4 years ago from new jersey

Great hub... but I have one problem. My next-door neighbor is now in an abusive relationship with a man who moved in with her last year. He has been arrested twice, but he gets out and she takes him back. Then she refuses to cooperate with prosecutors. I look at him and want to beat him with a bat. She is pretty, smart, talented and sweet... and she is putting up with this bum. But for your challenge, I'll avoid looking in the direction of their house. I don't like to judge, but I want to kick his lazy, abusive @$$.


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noenhulk 4 years ago

Opps! wrong click on comment box. You can delete it. I am oblige to check this hub too and find it interesting. Our world, wherever we is a nice place to live without prejudice and discrimination... thanks for the share.


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

Justateacher, Shea (good luck to your friend) and noenhulk, thank you for sharing your thoughts! I appreciate it!


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old albion 4 years ago from Lancashire. England.

Hi sunshine625. What a lovely well thought out hub. We find that patience and acceptance does come with age. What we are all seeking in life is Peace of Mind. We don't realise so much as we fight our way through life, but if one can relax a little more, things really are much better.

Voted up and more. Following.

Graham.


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SotD and Zera 4 years ago

I'll admit that I've got mixed feelings and reservations about guns in the USA; while it's people that kill people, guns can help them do it more efficiently and with greater numbers of victims.

Other than that, I am definitely behind the spirit of your post. Unless someone's behavior is harmful to others, everyone should be allowed to live their own way.

-Zera


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Sunshine625 3 years ago from Orlando, FL Author

old albion and SotD ... Thank you for voicing your opinions!


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midget38 3 years ago from Singapore

Hi Linda, wow, a great one. I love your balanced perspective here. It's not right to judge people for the choices they make if we don't want ourselves to be judged. But, when people who perpetrate something unhealthy (such as child porners) are allowed to view porn, then children are affected...so if the demand is cut off, then will be the supply. So I guess it's a matter of knowing when and where to draw certain lines...a tricky business! Thanks for sharing, and I pass this on


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mary615 3 years ago from Florida

I totally agree with you here, Linda. We should all tolerate each other and understand each other: not judge.

I think we have reached maturity when we learn not to judge others. When I was younger I was guilty of being judgmental but not any more.

I voted this UP, etc. and will share.


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PurvisBobbi44 3 years ago from Florida

Hi Sunshine,

Love your hub. One can always find something good in everyone to like. I am a very lovable person so I could never hurt anyone by being nasty or mean---I am 90% positive and 10% keep my big Southern mouth shut.

I am on my way out the door---but when I logged on I saw your picture and I want to say---Merry Christmas to you Sunshine and all your love ones. You are still one of my great Hub friends. Thanks for a great year of your support.

Happy Holidays,

Bobbi Purvis


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tillsontitan 3 years ago from New York

How did I miss this one? This one is sooo me...kind of like "mind your own business"....if you don't like it don't do it....if someone else is doing what you don't like, walk away!

Great hub SS.

Voted up, useful, funny, and awesome.


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

Society is very judgmental. People are too quick to judge others without realizing that they themselves are not perfect. I agree with some of the comments here. We need to be more tolerant of other people's differences. If you have nothing good to say about someone, then don't say anything at all. A very good hub!


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Levertis Steele 3 years ago from Southern Clime

We all have rights, but those rights stop where others' rights begin. A person has a right to smoke, but not to invade my clean air space. All smokers are not considerate of others. Another has a right to sell drugs but not to employ my child or sell to him. That man has a right to have sex with his choice, but not with my six-year old granddaughter. The other person has a right to drink but he had no right to lose control of his car and kill my dad and brother as he did. My neighbors husband had a right to cheat but not hurt his children and devoted wife with a divorce and later kill his second wife, his co-cheater, after catching her cheating with another man. Rights are good and fine as long as they do not invade others' rights. Unfortunately, they sometimes do. Some "rights' some people exercise are against the law, violate the best interests of those close to us, and many other ills. While exercising our rights, we must not forget that others have rights, too. Along with those rights we all enjoy should come responsibility.

An aquaintance's son had a right to be a homosexual, but his mom who protested had to pay the big hospital bill after he became injured in a personal way. This hurt her financially. Where do her rights begin when her son could not handle the bed he made for himself?

I do understand your point. People even have a right to do wrong as long as they do not violate the law or the rights of others.

Another interesting hub! thanks for sharing.

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