Female Supremacy

Now we all know how modern western culture celebrates women and femininity as superior and more precious than men and masculinity. That is not news to anyone older than four. I’ve written before that I think this is one of the reasons for men becoming more feminine and it's a way of adapting and actually I love them for it.

Female supremacy is the notion that women are superior to men and that they should be the “ruling gender” so to speak and that men should take some kind of second place and answer to them. If a society is built with this as a core value, we might call it a matriarchy. In this article I want to analyze this belief, look into why it is such a common ideology and finish up on why particularly cross dressers tend to follow it. I was inspired to write this article after receiving yet another email form a kind fan with the opinion that women have superiority over men and if they were in charge, everything would be better.

First let me clarify a few things in advance: Being superior or not, doesn’t necessarily say anything about leadership or authority. If you have a leadership position, that doesn’t make you more superior, it makes you more responsible (that’s the buzz word of leadership). I also think that anyone who really is that capable and virtuous should be granted the status they deserve. Call that a meritocracy if you want and it's something that I firmly believe in and it has absolutely nothing to do with gender.

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The Origins of Female Supremacy

Maternity!

Here’s one complex phenomenon that I can give you a straight and simple answer for. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that it all relies on the fact that it is a woman who gives us life in a direct sense. Our mothers also play a much bigger role in shaping our personality than our fathers. Why? Because most of our personality is formed in the first few years of our lives and with whom do we have closest contact in that period? Yep, you guessed it: our mothers. Camille Paglia even thinks that, because of procreation, women are actually destined to rule over men. Whether she’s right about that destiny or not is another question but she certainly is right about why it might happen. But do not mistake authority with superiority. Just because women have that natural power and our society might one day be a matriarchy, that does not make them generally superior. It also doesn't mean that such a matriarchal society is preferable to a democracy.

There is more to it of course. The belief in female superiority has two sides to it: male and female:

  • Women with this belief can be placed firmly in the category of fanatic radical feminists. Usually they not only want women to rule the world but also to reduce the male population to a minimum or even remove it entirely or establish a kind of fanatical matriarchy. We call them the man haters, the misandrists. They'll argue that matriarchies would be more peaceful and fair to all their members. Fortunately they constitute a small minority of women and will never get their way and if somehow they do, then they’ll change their minds very quickly. With some women there might be a belief in female superiority that does not have a negative premise but you won't find many of these either.
  • Men, surprisingly, turn out to be the main supporters of female superiority. That requires a little explanation. You need to understand that men are very much driven by their instinctual attraction to women and, if they’re somehow influenced in their early development, that attraction can manifest itself in very unusual ways. This female supremacy is one of them. We'll go into detail on this further on.

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Why Men want Female Supremacy

Of course not all men want this, not even 10% but it’s still a lot who do. With many of them it's just a fantasy that they get excited by. But even if it's not, there are many who really think a matriarchal world where men are subservient to women is desirable. You need only look at some of the many websites dedicated to the topic. They’ll even justify it with all kinds of pseudo scientific arguments and some will even find religious justifications for it. But nobody can really deny that it’s actually about their own fantasy and the thought that it might become real, makes it that much more exciting to them. Not surprisingly, with some people it's just an opportunity to make a quick buck and capitalize on that male fantasy. We can find plenty of examples of them too.

Female Glorification

In ancient Greece, it was the male body that was glorified as the ideal of aesthetic beauty (I certainly see why^^). Today it is the female body. Men in particular glorify everything feminine and raise it on a pedestal and often worship women from beneath. Many modern men consider women to be something better, purer, more beautiful and good spirited than themselves and other men. This female glorification is surely a driving factor in men’s desire to submit. Boys often get taught about female superiority from an early age and that means that it’ll stick with them subconsciously for the rest of their lives (we'll look into this later). It is like an indoctrination really because it has no basis in reality. I wrote a lot about this in Female Worship.

I believe this is probably the single most important factor that enabled the feminist movement to gain so much influence. That of course contradicts their ramblings about a patriarchy, because if there really was a patriarchy, then it wouldn’t have been overthrown so easily. In reality, women have a lot of power over men and their decision making and they’ve had it long before the 70’s. In a sense, one could make the case that female supremacy is already on top of us and we just don’t know it yet.

We should be concerned

Let me get this straight. If a man wants to submit to a superior woman, worship her and take on the submissive role, I would never deny anyone that. As long as nobody suffers, this is ok. In fact it’s more than ok. It’s beautiful – especially if a couple love and respect one another, then this power play is a great way to get emotionally closer and grow together on a deeper level. I can so testify for that! But I really think it needs to stay within reason. The thought of living such an alternative lifestyle 24/7 is just out of question for me and probably for most people – male and female.

What worries me though is when people project their private lifestyle choices onto public life and even politics. They demand that a matriarchal supremacist lifestyle for everyone and justify why it's the “only true way to live” and that it's “what mother nature intended”. Incidentally, you'll also find people that advocate the exact opposite (i.e. that men should take the lead) and make the same errors in trying to impose it on everyone and they also say that "mother nature intended it". I think they all paint a much prettier picture of it than it really is. If female supremacy actually did replace democracy, then it would be anything but desirable. None of those benefits that I mentioned above that a couple can get from it would translate to the large scale in society. It just wouldn’t work that way. On the other hand, with that concept you'd have all the ingredients for a regime that suppresses one part of its population. Not good!

So please, dear followers of any kind of gender based hierarchy, by all means live that way in your own private life with your spouses and friends but do not try to make it a political movement.

Female Superiority as a Popular Belief

The idea that women are better than men is so common now days that we hardly even notice it when we hear it expressed. A little while ago US President Obama said publicly that “women can do anything that the boys can do, and do it better…”. That is just one example. The media, politics, and education all have this semi-conscious premise that women are superior to men. They love it. The men seem to love it as much as the women and it’s not healthy at all. And it’s been going on for at least 30 years now.

Firstly, it usually isn’t true. If women were averagely more capable than men, then that difference would be so small that the difference between various women among each other or men among each other is far greater. So it says nothing about our personal capabilities. It’s like saying people with freckles have a higher IQ on average. Well they might but it’s probably just a coincidence.

However, there are areas were women seem to outperform men and other areas where men often do better such that it can’t be just a coincidence. Physical performance aside, I think that this is entirely or mostly due to their different upbringing and not some natural superiority. But even if it was, there are so many exceptions that you can’t make a political case for it without resorting to unfair generalizations.

There's a far more worrying side to this though and it is the main motivation behind this article:

Boys

An adult man might get irritated or bored or just dismiss the public assault on his gender. If he’s confident and established, then it shouldn’t bother him much. But this is entirely different for boys who grow up in all this bombardment with female superiority. Since the 80’s or even before that, boys have been born right into the battlefield of a gender assault and they’re the real victims. In this decade, for the first time, we’re seeing a generation of young adult men who grew up in this and the consequences of this mass hatred are only slowly beginning to emerge.

Is it any wonder why so many men have become more feminine? This is the reaction of a boy who grows up and has internalized the notion that femininity is desirable and masculinity is detestable. Don’t blame men for becoming feminine. They’re just trying to survive in a society that has been very hostile towards them from a young age. It’s a logical response to the ideology of female supremacy. Now, as I mentioned often before, I love feminine men and I love the fact that they exist but I do sympathize with their status in society. Not only have they been pressured into this role, but now also many will ridicule them for being “wimps” and tell them to “man up”. How sinister is that? Just imagine how betrayed these boys must feel by society. Well I can’t really, I just voice this from what I learned from talking to one of them.

This whole process self-perpetuates and makes things worse at an even faster rate every year. Boys are now under performing compared with girls at almost every level. The gap is increasing at an astounding rate. And the female supremacists use this as “evidence” to make their case. At the same time, it makes the boys even more insecure and makes them drop at a faster rate. I am certain that the under performance of boys is entirely due to the fact that they’re under a lot more emotional stress than girls but society refuses to change that and we’re given the old “boys will be boys” argument.

There is loads more to say about this but I’ll have to keep the article at a readable length.

Crossdressers and Female Supremacy

I know from experience and a number of emails that cross dressers have a very strong tendency to worship the feminine. This is one of the motivations behind cross dressing. There’s nothing wrong with that of course and I think it can be a healthy way of expressing your desires or getting in touch with your feminine side not to mention a source of fun for any couple.

Many cross dressers take this further and reject everything masculine – in themselves as well as in others. This, of course, is not so good and I hope that people will try to work against it. My boyfriend has some of these tendencies and we’ve come to the conclusion that it is a result of indoctrination by the female supremacy movement. He told me he even went through a stage where he thought he was a woman trapped in a man’s body. But it was a delusion because he is as much a man as anyone. He was just taught by society to reject masculinity and simply responded by growing up with this little hang up.

I hope that you dear cross dressers out there can learn to accept your masculinity as something equally valuable, beautiful and precious as femininity. You should appreciate that the male body has an aesthetic beauty that is in no way less than the female beauty (more in my humble opinion…). Also, a toned male body can look absolutely stunning in feminine garments if you do it right. It’s like a gorgeous contrast between the two sides of humanity – the best of both worlds. It isn’t a coincidence that many fashion designers toy with the androgynous. Besides, if you were female, then cross dressing wouldn’t have its appeal because women already wear men’s clothes in every day life. It wouldn’t have the impact it has and consequently you’d have never discovered it as a way to have fun.

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Lisa HW 6 years ago from Massachusetts

I'm not sure the overall picture-change, with regard to men, has anything to do with femininity. I have two grown sons - both handsome, well dressed, very masculine, and yet not at all "clods" or "violent boors". They're gentlemen, that's all.

I absolutely, absolutely, treasured my two little boys; and when they were little it always bugged me that people would say, "I hope you have a girl, because you can 'dress' girls." I wanted my little boys to know that being well dressed, well behaved, and non-violent weren't things only girls could be. I wanted to "raise human beings first, and let gender take care of itself when the time came", and I wanted my little sons to know how valued boys are (by aiming to help them like who they were and know how to be "the best them" they could be, as people). I wanted them to grow up as strong people (as I'm a strong person, myself); but I wanted them to know that who they were was about the person they were on the inside.

When I later did have my little girl, I raised that "person first" (only with aims to help her know how to make the most of who she was, as I had with her brothers).

So, for me, having raised two sons who were strong but kind boys, and who dress nicely, wasn't about not valuing masculinity but, in fact, valuing it more than "the world" had seemed to until my own sons came along.

I'm not necessarily saying your premise is incorrect - only pointing out another aspect to the feminine/masculine thing.


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Lucy83 6 years ago Author

Yes thanks for your comment Lisa, It's great to hear about someone who knows what she's doing with her children. I wish there were more parents like you.

I'm curious, when you say you raised your sons to be "well dressed", how do you define that in terms of style and fashion? I mean, would you or did you make them cut their hair short for example or was it totally gender neutral?


MereMan 6 years ago

"we all know how modern western culture celebrates women and femininity as superior and more precious than men and masculinity. "

This is fact, biologicaly speaking Women ARE more important than us and regarding brain connection they are natural born leader and men executers of such leadership. Female are obviously the Superior gender and must rule.


Niqqi 6 years ago

Lucy, it reminds me of beer. I like to drink beer, but drinking it 24/7 wouldn't be so fun. Waiting for the right day and time, having a beer to look forward to, thinking about how tasty it will be all help to make it more enjoyable when the time comes. In short, the times when there's no beer makes beer better.

The same goes for when the right time comes to step back from being the leader and decision maker and to put on the lingerie and dresses and spend time being submissive to my wife.

Beer and lingerie are both good ways to take a break.


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Lucy83 6 years ago Author

Lol Niqqi. If I didn't now better I'd say something like: "typical guy response".

And that is an interesting point. Probably many of the men who dream about a female supremacist society wouldn't like it so much when it's really in place.


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