6 Ways Feminism Benefits Men

Sexism is hurting both women AND men
Sexism is hurting both women AND men | Source

Feminism Isn't Just for Women?

Most people believe that feminism is only for women, but this couldn't be further from the truth! Feminism is for everyone. While the word "feminism" come from "feminine," it's really so much more than a movement for women. It's a human rights movement -- one that benefits every single person.

There are huge benefits to becoming a feminist, regardless of your gender. Feminism isn't just for angry white women, it's for anyone and everyone no matter what your race, no matter what your background. I cannot stress enough how important it is for everyone to understand what feminism really is.

So why should men be a part of this movement? There are lots of reasons!

It's Not About Controlling Men

One misnomer is that feminists hate men. While there may be a handful of feminists somewhere that dislike men, feminism is not about hating men. It's not about being better than men, either. It's about being equal.

There's no reason for men to be afraid of this movement. The goal isn't to make men more feminine or to make women more manly. It's about everyone reaching their own goals and dreams without gender barriers.

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There are a lot of stereotypes for men who have interests in careers that are traditionally "for women." For example, nursing. Male nurses can catch a lot of flack for being a guy in a "woman's job." According to this same stereotype, men are meant to be doctors, not nurses. Male nurses are somehow failures or somehow 'gay.'

See how these stereotypes can limit what a man can do? Even though many people believe that feminism is irrelevant and that women are "already there," feminism is far from over. There is still work to be done. For example, a man with an interest in making floral arrangements or who wants to be a nurse (or any other "woman's job") may choose a different career path simply to avoid constantly being called gay. This is still happening today.

Feminists Have Better Sex

True story! According to a study by Rutgers University:

  • Women who perceive their male partners as feminists reported greater sexual satisfaction.
  • Men with feminist partners reported they had greater sexual satisfaction.

The study also found that feminist men & women reported higher quality and more stable relationships than their non-feminist counterparts. This study has thus brought on questions as to why feminism is tied with better sex and relationships. One theory is that feminist males are typically more supportive of their female partner's ambitions and goals than more traditional men.

Regardless of the cause, feminists enjoy a better relationship (in and out of the sack!)

Male/female income disparity, US, 2009 (Weekly income)
Male/female income disparity, US, 2009 (Weekly income) | Source

Do What You Want

Have you ever wanted to pursue something that's traditionally done by women? Yup! A male feminist can do what they want! In fact, one male feminist writes in "Click: When We Knew We Were Feminists" that he really enjoyed sewing growing up and doing household duties. (Ya' know, women's work.)

Enjoy doing a craft? Love cooking? Feminism is helping men do these things without being called 'gay' or a pansy. If there is anything you want to pursue that is "for women," go out and do it! If you avoid the things you love because of gender barriers, those barriers only get stronger!

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Make More Money

Who doesn't want more money? You may have heard a rumor that women don't get paid as much as men. Is it true? Oh heck yes! Statistics show that, in 2009, a woman made $76 for every $100 a man made.

It's a fact of life that if you've got a family and you're raising kids that you're going to need to put food on the table. If you're married and the two of you are working, that extra 25% in her wages could make a big difference!

Wouldn't it feel good to be earning more based on merit instead of whether you've got an innie or an outtie? Okay, a little bawdy, but c'mon! Men still make more than women!?

Feminist Men Are HOT

Nothing is hotter than a guy who treats women with respect! A woman isn't a complement to a man, we're not sidekicks. Don't treat me differently based on my gender. Don't pay for my dinner because "that's what men do," pay for my dinner because I make 25% less than you do! (And I'll get the tab next time!)

Hold the door if you get to it first and I'll do the same.

Don't throw your coat in a puddle so I can walk across, because I won't wash it later!

None of the feminist men I've dated tried to woo me with "look how strong and manly I am... See? I'm manly... Right?" I've dated a guy who felt his role was "to protect me." From what? It's not a turn on for me to hear that! I actually found it kind of offensive! I can't protect myself?

In my experience, a lot of the non-feminist men I've met have come across more insecure than the feminist ones. I'd only date a guy who feels comfortable with his sexuality and who doesn't avoid something because it's "gay."

Personally, I only date feminist men (including men who don't even know they're feminist.) Nothing's hotter than a feminist man. I like to be with a guy who is with me because he enjoys my conversation, he enjoys my personality, because I make him laugh, etc... Seriously, it's a huge turn on.

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limpet 12 months ago from London England

From a male perspective : I don't regard myself as a feminist nor as a masculinist. Six benefits to the male is an interesting quandary. Since i left the corporate realm some three years ago, i don't want to go into the 'jungle' of office politics. Suffice to say women like respect and they are fully entitled to be respected. If a woman appreciates good manners she can respond in kind and a good rapport is established. There happens to be a lot of highly skilled women out there who have a lot to offer the world.


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limpet 12 months ago from London England

I read in this morning's tabloid that Saudi Arabian women have voted for the first time in a general election. About a century too late but better late than never!


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limpet 2 years ago from London England

The Women's advocate and Feminist icon Doctor Germaine Greer has laid claim to Feminism as a staunch Feminist Herself although She states that there can be no such thing as a masculist.


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limpet 2 years ago from London England

Well! We have come a long way since the emancipation of Women. Now, in my daily contact with Women i have learnt that each is different or should i say unique in their personna. When a Lady gives me the time of Her day to rapport with me then i really appreciate the experience.


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Isaibella Gaston 2 years ago

I really like your hub. It was very engaging and I was delighted to see how you grasp the full understanding of Feminism. It is important for everyone to know that Feminism is not just for women. There are men supporting the feminist effort.


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belleart 3 years ago from Ireland

love this hub, I too have been trying to help people understand why feminism is still needed. And your information about the wage differences in 2009 just proves it further..

please have a look at my hub entitled: public displays of misogyny, where I look at very open, sexist behaviour in the media. You may find it interesting.

Voted up!!


Sanxuary 3 years ago

Why would equality equal feminism shouldn’t it just be equality? This would all be great but I see mass confusion where we demand to be both equals and still demand to be treated by our sex. This fails badly in the work place not to mention at home. Being free to do whatever you want equates to selfishness. How about equality as a loving couple or as parents? I see marriage as a female entitlement program in the so called World of Feminism. If anything it has destroyed any concept of two people sharing their lives together. I never knew the so called World of women in the 1950s. I think equality was always the way it was meant to be. Somehow we turned this into hating men and a life of materialisation and kids are now the new inconvenience. Then again anything is an inconvenience and can be thrown away at the first sign of trouble. This is the new relationship between men and women.


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Karen Banes 4 years ago from Canada

I think men (& women) not wanting to admit to being feminist is due to a misunderstanding of the word. Saying "I'm not a feminist or anything, but..." is saying "I'm not in favor of equal rights for men and women or anything, but..."


Paul 4 years ago

Women and men are different. This is the truth. There will be things that men can do better than women and vice versa.

Cooks, MALE COOKS, have existed for ages and men have been doing housework well before feminism existed.


HeatherDRoberts 4 years ago

I love this, thanks! Feminist men are hot!


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andersonliz 4 years ago from Iowa

Love this! I'm thinking of writing a hub on this topic myself based on a conversation I had with a boyfriend late last year. Essentially we were discussing our roles as PC volunteers in women's' rights and education and how these issues seemed to really strike a chord with the female volunteers, but getting the male volunteers involved was very difficult. My boyfriend said that he saw it as an issue that didn't really affect him. I immediately replied, "But we're your partners in this world," to which I could see the realization dawning on him. Thanks so much for this hub!


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Darkproxy 4 years ago from Ohio

Yeah I beleive in gender equality but feminism really is more about sameness. I also think its rude to mock women who want of their own free will to be SAHM, its their choice, after all freedom to do what you want with your life is the best equality.


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Marcy Goodfleisch 4 years ago from Planet Earth

Very good piece - and the data is so interesting. I agree - men do benefit from getting in touch with their 'inner woman.' (Hope that idea doesn't freak them out!). Voted up and interesting.


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RealHousewife 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Loved it Melbel! So funny and true! I don't think my husband would consider himself a feminist but I do:). He's tolerant of everyone and everything - very open - very thoughtful. On January 31 it will be the 19th anniversary of our first date!!

He doesn't buy me flowers - if I want them I buy my own with his credit card:) he does buy me music! And last week surprised me with a brand new decked out computer AND desk! I didn't even ask :-). These kind of guys do exist - and they are keepers - for life:)

Up and outta sight:)


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tammyswallow 4 years ago from North Carolina

Great thought provoking hub Melbel. Men do benefit from feminism in many ways. I am surprised at the male response to feminism in the last 50 years. Not only are males supportive, they really don't try to suppress it or abolish it. This would not have happened in man's early history. Well done, interesting, and well researched!


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ThoughtSandwiches 4 years ago from Reno, Nevada

Melbel...

You actually had me at "Feminist have better sex." In fact...that could have been the title.

I am proud to say that as a man...I have been on the feminist bandwagon for years...because it is what is right!

Great article!

Thomas

Voting UP and Sharing!


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alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

I've always thought that feminism was beneficial to both genders, and you've laid out why here. Voting this Up and Interesting.


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Bard of Ely 5 years ago from Lisbon, Portugal

Just voted up for this! I not only support feminism but take it further and would welcome a matriarchal system for the future. I am delighted to see Roseanne Barr, Russell Means and Guru Rasa von Werder all campaigning for matriarchy.


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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

I like your outlook, especially the combination of facts and research. I agree so many people are confined by gender roles that they have a very hard time expressing themselves. Feminism is something that should be seen as a way for everyone to get what they want out of life.


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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

I like your outlook, especially the combination of facts and research. I agree so many people are confined by gender roles that they have a very hard time expressing themselves. Feminism is something that should be seen as a way for everyone to get what they want out of life.


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livelonger 5 years ago from San Francisco

Great Hub, and all things that needed to be said. Just watch one episode of "Mad Men" and you'll be reminded of an era that feminism pushed us beyond (thankfully). And thank you for dispelling the prevalent myth that feminism is about emasculating men.


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Simone Smith 5 years ago from San Francisco

Such good points- and only some of many. Men have all to gain and nothing to lose from supporting the feminist cause, as far as I'm concerned.

And yeah, feminist men are TOTALLY hot!


Scoot108 5 years ago

I think this article is great. It's true that feminism isn't just a women's movement, but is a human movement. As a gay man, I love seeing a straight man who isn't afraid of being a feminist and doesn't worry about looking "macho".


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whoisbid 5 years ago

It is good to respect all people. Some people even respect animals.


Binaya.Ghimire 5 years ago

I think being a feminist is another way to become a humanist. And I see myself as a feminist.


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melbel 5 years ago from New Buffalo, Michigan Author

Brandon, your brother's wife reminds me of a point I want to make:

There are women who claim that they should receive completely equal rights, but then when it comes to some things, women are making it worse.

You can't have it both ways, you can't claim equal rights and then "use" feminism to get away with not doing things. A woman can't say, "I shouldn't have to do laundry... equal rights..." or "I can't do that, that's the guy's job." You can't have it both ways and there are some people who live by that sort of double standard and it makes me sick! If the husband/boyfriend/partner enjoys doing the laundry, then that's fine, let him do your laundry -- but don't use feminism as a way to manipulate your partner into doing the laundry. Do your own damn laundry and let him do his.

Either stay in the dark ages and be a submissive wife who needs a husband to do things for you OR get with the times and be a modern woman who takes responsibility for her own life. You don't need a man to do things for you and you should use feminism as a way to avoid responsibility.


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brandonhart100 5 years ago from Inside Your Computer

Yeah although I need to point out that it's her idea... whatever makes them happy I suppose...


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theseattlegirl 5 years ago from Seattle, WA

@ brandonhart100

That's terrible, lol! You should remind your brother that he doesn't *have* to do anything.

Personal preference is everything, but I would go mad having my husband buckle me into my seat like a child. :)


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brandonhart100 5 years ago from Inside Your Computer

Times sure have changed; although I thought what you said about the door was kind of funny. I have a brother who has to open the car door for his wife and buckle her seat belt :).


HSchneider 5 years ago from Parsippany, New Jersey

Great Hub Melbel. I am a supporter of feminism because it is the right thing. I wish to promote freedom and equality for all people including over 50% of our population. Everyone should be treated with respect at all times and I always conduct my life this way. That may or may not make me hotter to women but that is immaterial to me. I try to conduct my life the proper way and giving women respect and full rights and equal pay is totally in line with that. We probably would have less wars also.


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theseattlegirl 5 years ago from Seattle, WA

Love this. It says it all. I'm constantly explaining to men that feminism frees them, too! They don't HAVE to be the breadwinner. They can stay home with the kids and let the wife bring home the bacon. They don't HAVE to pretend to like sports if they really like knitting; make me a scarf, for heaven sakes!

We have a myth of masculinity in our culture that is as pervasive as the myth of femininity. And a myth that binds a person to greater power is still a myth that BINDS.

Let's share the burden and do whatever the hell we want, regardless of whether we're "an innie or an outtie."

Too cute, by the way. :D


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QudsiaP1 5 years ago

I'll agree with you here:

"Nothing is hotter than a guy who treats women with respect!"


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Danette Watt 5 years ago from Illinois

Don't throw your coat in a puddle so I can walk across, because I won't wash it later! -- Cute!

Seriously, I'm with you all the way. I still can't understand the reluctance by men AND women to say they are feminists. They say, "I'm not a feminist, but...." Well, those people who came before us and who fought for our equality (such as it is at this point) weren't afraid to call themselves feminists.

I could go on but I'll get off my soapbox now! Thanks for writing this. Voted up


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WhatBigJohnThinks 5 years ago

I think our conundrum is how to we as men treat a woman as a lady and an equal at the same time. Men are advantageously taught by rules and when it comes to this dilemma there isn't a rules book. We have to learn on the job. The same goes for women. Some adhere to a conformist reality and others pick and choose which rules they will embrace. Feminism is a very undefined stance to say the very least. I can hold a door for a woman and be seen as mannersful by one and be condemned by the next. Men have the hard time of disparaging between what to do. Another needs to be said as well, some of of the mindset that men have had the hard test of life and achieved what they have without having doors held, being sat first at the table, or of the courtesies that manners dictate a man should hold for a woman. Ergo, if you want equal treatment and salaries, then get them the way I did. I was raised in the South by a Southern Lady and I can tell you I will always hold the door and sit after ladies have sat first. Its who I am and it has nothing to do with the ideology that I possess that ALL human beings should be treated equally.


will345davis 5 years ago

This was an extremely interesting article. I'm with you all the way. I see no reason why a woman can't do anything a man can do, and vice versa. Gender placement in the workplace is a horrible things for both sexes. Voted up!

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