How To Deal With Someone Who Hates You
How To Deal With Someone Who Hates You
Being accepted by others is very important to most people. We all want to be accepted by society, a family or a loving relationship. However, all of us will experience some kind of rejection at some point in our lives if we haven't already. Not everyone was meant to love us, so we have to deal with those who might despise us because of an idea, feeling or belief that has conformed their minds and hearts into this despiteful attitude towards us.
Hatred, whether it spawns from rivalry, bigotry or jealousy it is a negative emotion that can destroy a person to their very core if they allow it to, just like the stresses of life and holding on to anger and not forgiving someone.
Now It is very possible that someone hates you because you have provoked them to, perhaps you've wrong them in some way and vengeance along with hatred is in their hearts. You might have asked for forgiveness and it has fallen on deaf ears. Some people takes a long time to get over someone hurting them. They may come around in time and forgive you or they might choose to hold this grudge forever. If they choose not to forgive; the only thing you can do in this situation is learn from your mistakes not to hurt someone like that again in the future and to accept the fact that what you caused is irreversible and move on with your life.
There are those who judge someone and choose to hate them without even getting a chance to know who they are on a personal level, this kind of hatred is quite evident when it is racially motivated. If you are not taught that there is good in everyone, and that all people deserves a chance to be judged by the content of their character and not by their physical appearance, anything less than that is cheating yourself out of becoming acquainted with someone who could be a potentially good friend.
People who hate someone because of what they've accomplished, what they possess or who they are in a relationship with are jealous, and jealousy and hatred goes hand in hand. But there are different kinds of jealousy, just like there is different kinds of hatred. Nevertheless, If people would put aside petty feelings of hatred and learn how to accept others and not be so quick to judge or not forgive, life would be much better for many people.
If for any reason someone flat out hates you for no apparent reason at all and you haven't done anything to them, it is their problem not yours. They have to learn how to come to terms with their problems of hatred, and if not, then so be it, let them suffer.
You just have to remember not to blame yourself or punish yourself because you think it is something you've done to cause them to hate you. And whatever you do don't sit up all day and night long trying to figure out what you've done to them.
Everyone is aware of their actions and if you are conscientiously aware that you ran over your neighbors dog the other night when you returned home from work and you didn't apologize to him or offer to pay for vet bills, perhaps you might want to come to the realization that you've done your neighbor wrong and ask for forgiveness.
Dealing with people who hate you isn't easy, therefore just understand that it is a negative part of life and it will make us appreciate the positive part of life; when you acknowledge the people in your life who does respect and love you, you won't have time to worry about those that reject you because it would be a waste of time.
When one person does something spiteful or says something mean to you, don't become a slave to their venom; go and watch a sunset on the beach, look up at the clouds and see the beauty in it, smell a rose or take a stroll under an umbrella on a rainy day with the love of your life, yourself.
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