Is Homosexuality a Curse or Simply a part of Humanity?

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Is Homosexuality a Curse or simply a part of Humanity?

By Tony DeLorger © 2011

Homosexuality has existed from the beginning of time and is represented in just about every species on earth. Most judgements about this sexual orientation have been based on religious dogma, the roles of humans in society attributed to this concept of family: father, mother and children. Heterosexuality is therefore the norm in a societal sense and thus anything else regarded as abnormal.

Homosexuality has always been normal for homosexuals, the fact that they are in the minority, should have no bearing on how we perceive them. If you are attracted to the opposite sex, imagine someone telling you it was wrong and you had to fall in love and marry a same sex partner. That’s what society is saying to people born of this persuasion.

People judge what they don’t understand and even worse what a religion tells them to. I am heterosexual, but believe that human beings, regardless of sexual orientation, should have the same rights and opportunities to live a loving and productive life, just like the rest of us.

For people who believe for whatever reason that homosexuality is sordid and disgusting: liaisons in toilet blocks, prostitution and the like, you haven’t considered that straight people indulge in the same way? You are misguided if you don't realise that. There are far more sexual crimes and sordid behaviour from the straight community than the gay community.

I have met many gay people who want just what we want: to be loved, to find a life partner and to live a peaceful and productive life within the laws and parameters of our society. The reason why there are sordid liaisons in any number in the gay community is that society has pushed them underground, unable to live a normal life and be honest about their orientation.

What’s worse is the psychological trauma that society has bestowed on homosexuals. Imagine being told you were an abomination, a Godless freak that deserved not to live. It’s hard to understand but many people believe this hateful view. And many gays, particularly young ones, can carry this burden, and lose all hope of self-worth. In the end it is we, the straight members of our community that have created this cavernous gap between the groups. Gays get angry, and so they should, for our cruel and judgemental treatment.

In the end, peace must prevail. Surely love is more important than who is being loved. Sex is only a small part of our lives; companionship, friendship and love are lasting ideals that transcend any belief about sexual orientation.

I say let homosexuality free, to be a part of our society as heterosexuals enjoy. Religion should be about love and can’t remain set in concrete after thousands of years. Love is love and should be celebrated. Those who want to practise illicit sexual acts in toilet blocks should be prosecuted; their sexual orientation has nothing to do with it.

For adolescents who will soon realise they are gay, I hope the world treats you kinder than your predecessors. In these tender and vulnerable years, the judgements of piers and society in general can have a decisive affect on emotional development. We have no say in the circumstances and the genetic makeup of our birth. Who and what we are can only be dealt with as we live. Homosexuals are people first, human beings that have the same human aspirations as we do. Do not take this away because of fear or judgement. We should all be free.

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Tony DeLorger 4 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

Agreed Jonny, all that can be hoped for is a level playing field. Unfortunately human beings in general are discriminatory, fear anything different than themselves and too quickly gain a mob mentality in response. Why can't we all just learn to love ourselves and others for who we are. I appreciate your comments. Thanks for dropping by.

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jonnycomelately 4 years ago from Tasmania

Yes, I would like to say the same, Tony. Very important points you have made. One word I would like to mention: "Curse." Many people will use this word against us, I feel. Yet the very word speaks of witchcraft and superstition. How much of the religious anti is driven by these attitudes?

Some time ago in our local newspaper, a question was put for the public to respond: "Are you superstitious?" One person wrote in: "Oh no, I'm not superstitious. I'm Catholic!"

Let's look at all the fashions which the heterosexual male has taken up because of the gay instigation: wearing earrings; neck-chain; sneakers; bolts and other body piercings; and a brief look at heterosexual porn (which I find both boring and much of it totally degrading to women) show us that straight guys and women have taken a lot of ideas from the gay scene.

Fashions which straight guys initially see as outrageous quite quickly become the norm.

I am not very socially adventurous, to be quite honest. Yet I see others who are and admire them for their courage to be "me."

Gay guys, deeply in love and very supportive of their partners, have to be very careful in open society in how they demonstrate that love. In most places, still, they cannot freely walk down a street holding hands, or kissing, or showing overt affection. Yet the heterosexual couple can openly engage in sexual embrace, (etc!) lying on the grass of a public park, in front of children playing.

By the way, I totally agree about the illicit stuff that goes on in public toilets. A father should be able to take his little son into any convenience, without having to dodge around guys and explain to his son why those men are "lurking." Consideration for the feelings of others works both ways. Also, we gays don't really have the right to flaunt our sexuality in the face of others. Let's have a level playing field.

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Tony DeLorger 4 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

Thanks Ian, I very much appreciate you response. Thanks for dropping by.

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alian346 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland

Thank you, Tony, for such a COMMON SENSE and true article written from the heart. You have written with such clarity!


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Tony DeLorger 4 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

Much appreciated sligobay. The world is too filled with hate and intolerance.

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sligobay 4 years ago from east of the equator

Tolerance of the needs and lifestyles of others is the essence of Christian love which was first perverted during the earliest days of organized religion. My Hub on this subject of sexuality tracks the history of intolerance from ancient Rome and can be found by searching tri-sexual. Yours is another excellent article founded in reason.

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Tony DeLorger 5 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

Thanks Josak, much appreciated.

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Josak 5 years ago from variable

Great article, good to see educated and tolerant writing, please ignore American Romance he has a reputation as an idiot around hub pages and he simply says the things he does to get a reaction.

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Tony DeLorger 5 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

Thanks SanXuary. I respect everyone's opinion as we all have one and are free to express it. I believe we are all responsible for our decisions and that love in any form is far greater that any negative emotion. I accept all people for who they are regardless of their ethnicity, religion or sexual preference; to me they are all personal choices. Thanks for your comment.

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SanXuary 5 years ago

Live and let live but I think life is a journey in human and spiritual growth. I do not go as far as to judge anyone but then I am not the judge. I just believe that people have free will and that is our determination to overcome and grow to serve are true purpose. A few truths to ponder: You can not make a heterosexual person understand homosexuality, it simply does not work in their minds at all. If Darwin claims we evolve their would be no homosexuals. Lucky I do not believe in Darwin but the guy is still right. This is free will unless perhaps we have a social or environmental problem. Still it has always existed and we must allow free will to include those who have no desire to embrace this sexuality. I hope you respect my opinion as I respect yours, I was born this way and their is nothing you can do about it.

jonnycomelately 5 years ago

On going more deeply into American Romance's posting, maybe I have been too adversely judgemental. I am wondering why he is looking through your Hub in the first place, Tony. What's his interest here?

American Romance, I suspect that all around you, in your church, amongst your friends, there is a strong anti-gay atmosphere. If you wish to remain part of that social grouping, you have to go along with them and to appear "straight," one-of-the-guys. You dare not adopt any other point of view, and you need to bolster your position with outward appearances of being anti-gay yourself.

BUT what is happening inside of you? Those secret desires, feelings, questions unanswered?

If you are experiencing that painful place I know how it feels. For me, the only way out was to walk through the Door of Fear, confront it and deal with it.

Wishing you a successful Journey.

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Tony DeLorger 5 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

Thanks jonnycomelately. Yes, the world is filled with ignorant and judgemental people who are more often hypocrits themselves. Love, kindness and compassion need no religion to be realised, and sexual orientation has no bearing on whether we are positive and caring human beings. Thanks for you comment. Take care.

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jonnycomelately 5 years ago from Tasmania

Tony, thank you so much for your Hub and bringing good sense to light. "American Romance" must be dancing with himself in a stupor of ignorance. I wonder if he calls himself Christian. If he does, then he is the modern version of the Pharisee.... don't you think?

I am not a christian. Gave up that 50 years ago, when I came to the conclusion the so-called "good" christians I mixed with said you could not be christian and gay at the same time.

I cannot, and do not wish to, change my basic nature. I am not immoral. All the treasured, normal, socially sensible courtesies and acts of kindness I try to live by. My experiences in bed with another guy have been very few and far between in my life. I am not promiscuous, far less than many hetersexual people I know.

So NO christian has a right to judge me.

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Tony DeLorger 6 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

You're welcome.

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cathstuff79 6 years ago from QLD, Australia

Bravo. Thank you for these words.

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C.Redler 6 years ago

No are not normal by any stretch of your sphincter or your just hate because maybe yeah your probably a latent homosexual who likes to get his rocks off hating other about a pervert and you have no ethical or moral boundaries

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Tony DeLorger 6 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

By the way American Romance, many people practice anal sex that aren't homosexuals, and not all homosexuals practice anal sex. And the article has nothing to do with paedophilia or beastiality and certainly doesn't promote it.

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Tony DeLorger 6 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

You are entitled to you view, but this article is not about sex, or homosexual sex as you believe it to be. It's about equality for human beings. Thanks for your comment.

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American Romance 6 years ago from America

Tony, so your saying a man who can only get his jollies by placing his penis into anothers mans sphincter muscle is as normal as I??? what are you going to write next? that its ok for adults to have sex with children? ...maybe animals?? life has boundaries! moral ethical and common sense boundaries! Man on man cannot reproduce, this in itself says its not natural.

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Tony DeLorger 6 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

Of course not Tony. Link away. I'll read it shortly. Thanks mate!

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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa

Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful! I'm appalled by the discrimination, suspicion and violence directed at homosexuals. Homosexuality is not a sin, but the way they are treated most definitely is.

And to add a spurious religious dimension to the discrimination against gays is a perversion.

Thanks for writing this. I wrote a Hub about this and its relation to other obscurantist worldviews a few days ago. Would you mind if I linked this Hub to mine?

Thanks again for a brilliant Hub.

Love and peace


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