LIFE'S LESSONS: Touch the Life of One Other Person Today

Hug 'em and squeeze 'em...those you love family and friends....in the photo below the young man on the west side of the photo left the planet too soon. He was adored and treasured and thankfully we told him so often and hugged his neck any time we could.

It begins with each of us...sprinkle caring around liberally

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There is much to be said for reaching out to others. Thinking of a time when a stranger has greeted you sincerely, how did you feel?

When we connect with others in some small way it lets them know they are valued, at least for that moment. If you treat people as if they are invisible they may feel that they have no worth. Not your problem how someone else is feeling or thinking. But we know that is .

We are on the planet in part to help make the walk easier for each other. One way we can do that is to let others know they are important, valued, even if for a brief moment.

You can't stay in your corner of the forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.

— A.A. Milne

Heston Wayne is Santa's helper this year...collecting presents who are in the hospital at Christmas time this year.

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In a grocery or department store

When you are shopping, no matter what kind of shopping it is, do you notice the workers? The ones who stock the shelves, who clean up the messes, who wait on us, who take our money at the register? Do you acknowledge them? Even the ones who are grumpy and appear to hate their jobs?

Or, do you whiz by them on your way to wherever you are going? Are you too busy to greet them? Are you too busy to smile? Even if your greeting or your smile is not reciprocated, you have connected with another human for an instant. And, while you may not know what it impact it has on them, it does in some small way affect them. For that moment, they feel that someone noticed them and cared enough to speak or to smile.

Simple, direct, with clarity...touch a life every day

How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in your life you will have been all of these.

— George Washington Carver

....Mr. Carver nailed it....didn't he?

We will all experience what some may scorn us for at some point, at least to some degree.....the young part and the aged part...we all will definitely know (hopefully).


What is out there waiting for him in this world? We must equip him and all like him with the tools to navigate up stream. .

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Just a few words can make so much difference

Not too long ago, I began to say something to every cashier that rings up my order as I am checking out at one of my favorite stores. When they are all finished ringing up my order, I simply say,

"I hope everyone is good to you today."

That's all. And the reaction is phenomenal.

A huge smile comes over the person's face and they usually reply. Something like, "I hope so too." And, as I begin to walk away, many add, "What a nice thing to say, or, Thank you so much." For that brief moment we have conncected become of a part of each other's daily existence.

Now, I do not say the words hoping that someone will think I am Ms. Wonderful. I say them because I mean it. I hope that everyone is good and kind to them because it has a ripple effect. If we are a kinder and gentler toward one another, it is passed along to others.

I would much rather be in a car next to someone who has received a hello or a kind word from someone than someone who is angry or upset.

We try each day to lead them to give of themselves to help make the world a better place. Never too young.

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Does that sound so corny? Happy people are a good thing??!!!

At first glance it does....but consider for a moment if everyone you encounter along the way just for today is HAPPY about something.

It changes things....

That does not mean put on blinders to what may not be wonderful but it does mean to not miss the wonderful in each day.

Happy People are a Good Thing...

There is a lady who is about my age who works as a manager of a small discount store in the town where I live. When I first moved to the town, whenever I went to the store, she reminded me of Eeyore of Winnie the Pooh fame. She would grumble and complain about everything, every time I went.

But, I decided that I would shop there when I needed to and that she would not steal my day. So every time I went to the store, I was my little bubbly self. Greeting her with a smile and a happy little chirp of a 'how are you today?' And she usually would tell me and it wasn't pretty.

Undaunted, I continued to be Pollyanna as I went about my shopping, and when I would check out I would say the words, "I hope everyone is good to you today." She never responded.

In the last few weeks, some of her rough edges have softened a bit She still tries to be the blustery day but today she actually said to me, "Have a good day" as I was leaving. And I had heard her say to others who checked out before me.

Now I may or may not have had anything to do with this change in her. It makes no difference who caused the change but it happened. She is still over worked and under paid but she seems a bit happier. Happy people are a good thing!!

I am not naive enough to think that we can cure all of what is wrong in the world with a few words. I do think if we connect with others on a personal level it makes us have a connection, a bond, a knowledge of each other to an extent. We begin to see that we are more alike than we are different. That is significant.

If we come to realize that we have more in common than we have differences, we can come to a better understanding of one another. That leads to open and honest dialog which does lead to change.

Helping baby reach the animals.

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Our job as adults

As adults we are role models for our young. Whether they are our young, or, whether they are young people who see our actions. What we do, how we behave, speaks volumes to young people. Actions and behavior speak far louder than any words we say.

Kids see through any facade we may be showing the world. If we say, smoking is bad, for example, and we smoke, what a confusing message that sends to our children. If we say it is wrong to lie, and our children hear us lie, how can they learn to believe that we really mean it?

It is an awesome task being a role model. Teaching children how to cope with all that they face: anger, embarrassment, fear of failure, fear of not being liked, accepting who they are, and the myriad of other life experiences is almost too much to ask of us. But it is on us.

No one among us is perfect. Nor should we be. And when you make a mistake or you do something that may be wrong for your child to witness, do not be afraid to acknowledge it and explain that you are human and you make mistakes but this is a lesson that you want them to learn. Whatever it is, they need to know how to learn to form their own judgments in given situations when you are not present. They need to be equipped to tell you when someone is unhinged and they sense it. They need to know that no matter what, YOU have their backs.

Some ways to make a difference in your child's life

How to
Suggested efforts
Ask yourself...
Fill them with self love
Encourage and praise (sincerely when it is justified)
Do I do this?
Set boundares
Have clear, consistent rules that exist all of the time.
Have I dropped the ball ont his one?
Establish expectations
Be certain everyone knows what is expected of each member of the family.
Is there anyone who does not understand?
Follow through
If you promise a reward, be certain it is given. If you promise a punishment, be srue you follow through every time.
Are there times when iet this slide because I am too tired or too busy?
Teach them to value and respect themselves and others
Repect for self and others can be taught loudly by your own behaviors. Demonstrate behaviors you want them to emulate.
Am I setting a good example?
Lead them to believe in a power greater than themselveves
In your own way, lead them to know that there is something outside of themselves that they can grasp onto and put their faith in.
Do my kids know what my Higher Power is?
Lead them to believe that each one of us on the planet has a mssion.
Lead them to know that their lives mean soemething, that they are here for a purpose.
Do my kids see that I know my mission?

You make a huge difference

.Our young people will grow then to adults that will help to FIX our nation and our world. I have to believe that. It begins with us....we pass the torch to them. Our lives, the way we live our lives, directly influences what will come next. H.O. W. we live now is impacting the tomorrows that are to come.

Those of you who read many of my articles know that when I comment I very often say,

Sending Angels your way. I do not do that lightly. Angels have followed my family and me for years and years. And our lives are so blessed because of it Some of these Angels have been
earthly Angels but many more are spiritual Angels. And I send them out to you as I close a comment because I know those Angels will watch over and protect you.

So as I close this hub, I am sending Angels to each of you.

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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, rajan jolly, for stopping by. I agree--if everyone would just do a little something for someone else even the grumpy ones, it could make a huge difference.

Sending Angels your way ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, rajan jolly, for stopping by. I agree--if everyone would just do a little something for someone else even the grumpy ones, it could make a huge difference.

Sending Angels your way ps


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rajan jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

A very inspiring hub Patricia. I've seen a smile, a kind word or two make a lot of difference in the attitudes of people, even the grumpy ones at times. Thanks for sharing this wonderful information and I'm glad to have read it.

Voting this up and beautiful. The world would indeed be far happier to live in if we all did this on a regular basis.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good morning to you Glimmer Twin Fan

Just a little kindness is all it takes from each of us to maybe brighten an otherwise dreary corner of someone's day.

It is nice to see you this morning and I hope you had a lovely Christmas. Sending Angels to you :) ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good morning to you Glimmer Twin Fan

Just a little kindness is all it takes from each of us to maybe brighten an otherwise dreary corner of someone's day.

It is nice to see you this morning and I hope you had a lovely Christmas. Sending Angels to you :) ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good morning Sheila

It really is amazing how much just a few words can mean to someone. Such a little thing can make so much difference in someone's day. Thank you for sharing your experience.

Sending Angels your way :) ps


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sgbrown 3 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

I will never forget a young lady named Lindsey. She was a waitress in a restaurant/sports bar that hubby and I used to go to quite often. She would always come dashing over to us to "snatch" us as her customers when we would come in. One day her mom came in and she brought her over to us and introduced us to her. She told her mom that we were her favorite customers. She later asked me if I knew why. She explained to me that when she would say "How are you?" to someone, she usually just recieved a grumble as a reply. But when I would respond, I would always have a positive answer and that I would ask, "How are you?", back like I really cared. Such a small thing, yet it made a big difference to her. As well, her telling me this, made a big impact on me. It's amazing how such a little thing can make such a difference.

This is a strong and wonderful hub. You last paragraph and your closing statement gave me chills, as I know that you sincerely mean what you say and that an Angel has visited me this morning!


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Glimmer Twin Fan 3 years ago

Just a few words can make a difference. You are so right there. What a great hub and message for the new year pstraubie. Shared so others can get the message too!


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

You are always in my thoghts and prayers and so of course will she be. I am glad the birthday celebration went so well. So glad your Mother is on the mend. Love and hugs your sister in Christ..sending Angels back to you again and again.


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

Thanks for checking in on me, especially concerning my mother. She is doing great and for the past six days has been smiling, happy, with no oxygen needed, no feeding tube down her nose, and eating very well on her own. We celebrated her 84th Birthday this past Sunday, where she ate her favorite vanilla ice cream and my niece made her a lovely Birthday cake. She is getting stronger and stronger each day. Just yesterday they said she no longer needed Hospice care, as she has improved so much. Praise Him! I have just recently written about that very miracle. God bless you and the angels all around you and your love for others.

In His Love, Faith Reaper


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

good morning, midget...

First of all, I hope everyone is good to you today, too. Each time we reach out to another and make them feel that someone cares about them in some small way it is a way to connect.

God has blessed my life in so many ways that giving back by loving His children is such a small thing.

It is amazing how those that here the few words uttered will react.

And, now, wishing you a Merry Christmas...sending Angels to you :) ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

You are a peach, Mhatter. You spread joy around each day with your writings...that is a way to reach out, you know. How can we not be happy when we have so much to be thankful for, each one of us. Sending Angels to you, my Friend. :) ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good morning Faith

I have missed you so. I have checked in at your pages oftent os ee if you have said any more about your Mother. I know, sweet you, how hard it is when our Momma'a and our Daddy's are ill. Those same Angels I send you and others have been sent to her. I pray that your Christmas is blessed and that she continues to recover.

We need more Pollyanna's like us, Faith. Realistic but still wanting to find and uncover the best in all. Giving of ourselves is a way to help bridge the divide. I know that you know about this and that you do it as I have read of it in your writings.

Each one of us makes another a life a little better with almost no effort.

Sending Angels to you, Faith, my sister in Christ and wishing for each member of your family and YOU a very Merry Christmas.


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Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

I, too, am a Pollyanna. I knew you were all along!

My precious friend who sends angels my way all the time, and I have no doubt whatsoever they are all around me, thank you for your wise words here.

God bless you for writing this wonderful hub and just doing that little act of kindness or saying something nice to something and making another one's day so much brighter. I know each of us can do this and there is no reason we cannot take the time to touch another life, as we go through our daily lives as usual.

Beautiful and voted up +++ and sharing

God bless you my dear friend. Merry Christmas.

In His Love, Faith Reaper


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Mhatter99 3 years ago from San Francisco

Thank you for everything. It made me feel good reading your section "Happy People are a Good Thing".


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midget38 3 years ago from Singapore

I like your idea of simply making the people we come across everyday feel a bit better. Even a simple hello to the cashier on the way out makes them happy. A good reminder, especially this season, and I'm sharing it.


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thanks, drbj...I do not think we can say it too often...each of us doing our little part can cause changes. It may seem a little awkward at first to say words to a stranger like I do but it becomes easier after the first time and it is powerful.

I hope everyone is good to you too every day...Sending Angels to you :) ps


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drbj 3 years ago from south Florida

You have made a wonderful case for the advantages of being positive, ps, and I thank you. I do like your closing line to those who serve you and will adopt it for my own. It is perfect. I hope everyone is good to you, too, today ... and tomorrow ... and tomorrow ...


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, Sarah....we are in this together...:) ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you, Sarah....we are in this together...:) ps


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Sarah Kulpa 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon

Shared your article on my facebook, hopefully other people will feel the urge to spread some good around!


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you Sarah...you are so right...each of us reaching out to another can make our world a little better. And imagine if we all do it....changes would come for sure. I appreciate you stopping by ....best wishes to you and I am sending you some Angels and I hope all is good in your little corner of the world. :) ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you Sarah...you are so right...each of us reaching out to another can make our world a little better. And imagine if we all do it....changes would come for sure. I appreciate you stopping by ....best wishes to you and I am sending you some Angels and I hope all is good in your little corner of the world. :) ps


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Sarah Kulpa 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon

I am not particularly religious and I love how this touches on something that everyone can do, of any faith or creed. I work in a customer service related environment and when someone says even the smallest nice thing and acknowledges I exist it makes me feel so much better.

I believe that in a world where so many have bad things to say, it can only make things better with a kind word here or there.

I hope that your article becomes popular and everyone reads it, I feel it would make the world a better place, one person at a time. Thank you for being a kind soul and spreading it around!


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good morning Louisa

Thank you for stopping by. One day at a time, one of us at a time, we can make change. Sending Angels to you..and wishing you a very Merry Christmas :) ps


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Good morning Louisa

Thank you for stopping by. One day at a time, one of us at a time, we can make change. Sending Angels to you..and wishing you a very Merry Christmas :) ps


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Louisa Rogers 3 years ago from Eureka, California and Guanajuato, Mexico

Thank you for reminding me about being friendly to people in retail. I used to be quite abrupt, but have become more courteous. I like, "I hope everyone is good to you today." Thanks!

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