Communicate: Listen to the Children

If we are to teach real peace in this world, and if we are to carry on a real war against war, we shall have to begin with the children.

— Gandhi

Do you know that I am lonely?

In the midst of all of THIS, do you recognize my pain? My fear? My sorrow?

As I walk into the room it seems I am invisible.

You barely glance up to acknowledge me and go quickly back to whatever was holding your attention.

As I wait here for someone to care, I am starving for love, for food, for shelter.

I am the child of the world that is ravaged by war. And I am forgotten.


The World is Filled of Children Who are Asking Us to Hear Them.

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Do We Take Time to Listen Well?

Think about your family.

Do you sit down and talk with one another?

Do you sit and listen to each other?

Do you take some part of every day to really hear what your loved one is thinking?

The electronic devices we have are marvelous.

I have become as spoiled as anyone by the convenience of them and sometimes am impatient when they do not work as quickly as I may wish

My laptop and droid are important parts of my life.

I use them for communication …to receive it and to share it.

But there are times when they are off.

When my grandsons are here, I turn off my laptop unless I want to Skype one of my sisters so they can say hi.

When my family is here, it is off.


Our Children Look to Us for Answers

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Listening Between the Lines


There is nothing more important than the moments spent with my loved ones and friends.

The very least I can do while they are with me is to listen to what they are saying even if it is day to day chat.

It is how we stay in tune with each other.


Often I can hear between the lines. I may pick up on a nuance that someone is troubled or angry or excited and may want to discuss whatever it is with me privately later.

Without intrusions.

With nothing interfering in our time spent together, I can hear them.

And I pay close attention, I can hear what is left unsaid.

This song pretty much says it all..

It is Not About Me...


The same is true to of those who have no home.

The ones I see under the bridges, huddled in the forest, as the rain pours down.

What is it they are saying that I cannot hear?

Am I too wrapped up in the CD or radio station as I travel along to even care?

I try not to be.

I try not to talk about what I do for them; somehow to me that should be private, just between that person and me.

I have been told ‘no thank you’. And that is perfectly fine. Each person must be guided by their own wishes.

My new way of reaching out to those who may need something is to leave whatever I have for them if possible so they can see it was given without them knowing it was from me.

It is not about me; it is about them.


No Matter Where We are on This Planet...We are all a Part of the Whole...

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No Matter Where They are... The Children Want Me to Hear...


And around the world from me, can I not hear them?

Do they want me to know of their pain and angst and horror?

The headlines scream to me of some new atrocity in the world.

I read this morning of beheading of children in the Central African Republic. And as I read even further, it was reported that the number of child soldiers has doubled to 6,000!! Six thousand children acting as soldiers!!

Throughout the world are many who face separation from their families. Persecution. The threat of death. And, too often death comes. From war or starvation.

Right in Our Own Towns Children Want Us to Listen

We do not need to leave our own towns to find the lonely and the starving.

We may not be able to do much for those who are in far distant corners of the world except to make our voices loud and powerful that those in power may know that we care.

But we can do something in our own little corners of the world.

We can work together to find ways to help especially children and the aged who are alone who need food and clothing.

John Donne has said:

“No man is an island entire of himself.” I have written about that very quote sometime ago.

He went onto to say that we should “never send to know for whom the bell tolls, because it tolls for thee…”

We are all of this planet. We are of ONE family.

And we do not all have the same views which is as it should be.

But how people are treated should be a universal

belief. We should have a single-mindedness on the sanctity of human life.

We should hold our children in highest esteem and grant them every protection and opportunity that we can.



How Can It Be?

My mind is boggled when I read headlines such as the ones I read this morning. How can it be?

How can those living in a location be displaced and sent hither thither and yon often separated from their families ? And the children are too often the collateral damage in these situations.

Some time ago I wrote about East Timor, a place I had never heard of until I came across a video about it. In East Timor devastating slaughter occurred and families were torn apart and left to figure out what to do next, where to go next, if any of them were left.


It is still happening around the world.

How can that be??

I know how it can be.

But my mind still does not want to wrap itself around it.

For the Children


"Safety and security don't just happen, they are the result of collective consensus and public investment. We owe our children, the most vulnerable citizens in our society, a life free of violence and fear."

Nelson Mandela



Charity Does Begin at Home

Children come into the world with no expectations. They do not get a vote as to whether they arrive here or not

But once they are here…we have a duty, a responsibility to see to it that their lives are protected and that they have the opportunity to live their lives without fear.


Our challenge is to be aware.

Know what is happening in our own communities.

It is so easy to send money to some far off land which may desperately need it. And I am not saying that money sent to far off places is not a good thing.

What I am saying is that we need to take care of our own too.

In our own town, our own county, our own country there are those who go to bed hungry every night.

Maybe we should help them first.



Not My Responsibility!!


This of course gets into a whole new issue.

Why are the parents not taking care of their own children?

Why do some families have a belief that someone will come along and help them out?

Those questions are not for me to answer.

Those questions really are not what this is about anyway.


What this is about is doing the right thing.

If you know someone needs help, especially children, can you, will you, reach out to them?

Your decision is after all your decision.

Find a way in your town to set up programs that can help those in need. Find out what these members of your community would like to do to give back to the community.


You may be surprised at the responses.

Those who are not willing to give back will be far fewer than you might expect.

It is my responsibility to help those --especially the children-- who need help.


And helping can mean helping families find resources to train them for jobs, offer parenting classes, find daycare, and the multitude of other needs that families have.



Look around.

Waiting for another government program is not the answer. We all know that.

We must work together in our communities to make things better.

We need to care enough to be outraged that little children are being slaughtered around the world.

Children right here in our country are being killed in drive bys, from neglect, from abuse,

Listen ...


Listen to the voices of the little children from your town, throughout the nation, and around the world who are asking for us to be a louder voice than theirs is right now.

Hear and know that they need us to care and to help turn things around for them …even if it is one child at a time.

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cnn.com

© 2014 Patricia Scott

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pstraubie48 9 months ago from sunny Florida Author

Your points are interesting however I do not agree in all cases. Some children have a tenuous relationship with their families, others do not. Children want boundaries ...they will test those boundaries and see how far they can get but that is not new.

Angels are on the way to you this afternoon ps


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breathing 9 months ago from Bangladesh

Children are the future of the society in any culture and society. In the past, there was a very good and healthy relationship between the children and the parents. But things have changed now. Today the relationship between the children and parents is very much fragile. As a result the children fail to exercise social values in family and eventually they fail to become good citizens. As a result the societies are going through series of debacles. If we want to build up a good and healthy society, we have to listen to our children. When you listen to your child, he/she will feel that he/she have an importance in parent’s life and thus the good relationship will build up.


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pstraubie48 12 months ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Rachel I was just over visiting at your place...have been gone most of the day so am on for a few and then off again as I have a guest coming for dinner.

I do so believe that the voices of our children need to be heard, for sure.

thank you so much for stopping to read and comment.

Wishing you and yours a lovely Thanksgiving once again and know that many Angels bringing blessings are on the way ps


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Rachel L Alba 12 months ago from Every Day Cooking and Baking

Hi Pat, I can't believe I missed this very important hub about children. I totally believe in what you said about this electronic world. Yes, they are good but there is a time and place for everything. When I have to take care of my little granddaughter, I try to make it our own time together.

Christ loves everyone but He loved the children. When His disciples tried to chase the mothers and children away, He stopped them and said, "let the little children come unto Me." As usual, I really enjoyed this hub.

Have a Blessed Thanksgiving, my friend.


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pstraubie48 22 months ago from sunny Florida Author

For sure. We need to know that every child is OUR child too and try to do what we can to make a difference for them

Angels are on the way ps


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pstraubie48 22 months ago from sunny Florida Author

It is so sad...and it is not just in far distant lands as you know. Over the years when I was a teacher in the classroom so many children came with so many issues...it was heart wrenching

Thank you for the blessings, Peggy.

Angels and many blessings are returning to you ps


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lisavanvorst 22 months ago from New Jersey

Very inspirational. I agree we as society are too wrapped up in technology and less attentive to what those around us are saying. Life is too precious to not open our hearts and minds to our loved ones.


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Peggy W 22 months ago from Houston, Texas

I agree with you Patricia that we all need to care for the children in this world. After all...they are our future! Sad to say but children are going to bed hungry in our own country as well as being abused. Compounding that with what is happening around the world, it is really a sad situation. We all need to do our part to effect change as best we can. Sending hugs and angels your way tonight. Sharing this!


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pstraubie48 2 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you for stopping by Velzipmur.... I keep working on honing my listening skills...I have been gifted with learning to hear more than others might but still keep on working on it.

Angels are on the way to you today ps


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velzipmur 2 years ago from Maryland

This was well written and a beautiful message.


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pstraubie48 2 years ago from sunny Florida Author

&Shyron What a lovely comment you have shared. We are so blessed to have our famlies, aren't we? And the little ones seem to know how to make our hearts sing. Learning to listen well is truly a gift.

Thank you so much for stopping to read.

and yes, Angels are here. And more are on the way to you and yours.


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Shyron E Shenko 2 years ago

Patricia, wow, I know I learn from my grandchildren everyday, and other children also. Not yesterday, but the Sunday before I sat next to a little boy, I would guess he was maybe three and a half and he reached up and took my hand as we said the Lord's Prayer, and my heart melted and then as we shook hands, my husband did not notice until the precious little one tugged at his pant leg and my husband's heart melted for that little guy.

This is the image that came to mind when I read your article, and little Lilly who lives next door, she runs to hug me.

If all the little ones are treated with respect and kindness, and taken care of they would all be like the little boy in church and Lilly. That is an investment in our future.

I think the Angels are there already with you.

Love Shyron


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pstraubie48 2 years ago from sunny Florida Author

I so agree, Suzanne. Every child deserves a parent who loves and listens.

I was so blessed to have such parents...

During the many years that I taught, there were countless children who had no support...a lot of times their parent or parents were just trying to find a way to survive financially and the little ones got lost along the way.

It was so sad.

Thank you for visiting...Angels are on the way to you today ps


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Suzanne Day 2 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

I think most parents agree that children come first and it is astounding in this day and age that there are children still being abused around the world. I read an article yesterday about a mother who left her 3 yo at home alone while she went off to a boyfriend's house and he died. Very sad. Children look to us (the adults and parents) to provide for their needs as they are helpless without us and it is our duty to be there and be with it. I feel for children who do not have parents to help them and who experience homelessness and war. Voted awesome for the awesome topic.


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pstraubie48 2 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi DDE Thank you for stopping by...it just seems like our little ones need us to speak for them whenever we have a chance. Too many are abused and forgotten, neglected and killed, and only a tiny headline is ever seen.


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Lessons in Living: Listen to the Children is a well informed hub and with a powerful message. Children are precious and deserve better.


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pstraubie48 2 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thanks Ann

I am sorry to take so long to respond.

Our children are so precious and each of us should have a part in securing their today and their future.

Angels are on the way ps


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annart 2 years ago from SW England

Amen to all that! Our children deserve the best, wherever they are. Their innocence goes quickly enough without having extra horrors and burdens put upon them. You've hit the nail on the head here, powerfully.

I do believe that 'charity begins at home' (meaning in our own country) and the more we can do the better. We can also learn so much from our children. Up +++ Ann


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pstraubie48 2 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Connie

It is always nice to see you. I hope you had a lovely Christmas and that 2014 is full of lovely things for you and your family.

When I read of the new atrocities on children I had to give a voice to it. Maybe it will make no difference if just one screams but if we all scream it can hopefully make some inroads.

Angels are on the way to you ps


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pstraubie48 2 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you as always Eddy for stopping by.

So much happens on a daily basis to our children..it is sometimes too much to take in.

Angels are on the way to you, dear friend. ps


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pstraubie48 2 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Thank you as always Eddy for stopping by.

So much happens on a daily basis to our children..it is sometimes too much to take in.

Angels are on the way to you, dear friend. ps


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grandmapearl 2 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

This is an awesome piece filled with your passion and soul. Y0ur words touched me deeply because I feel we are on the same wavelength here. I cannot fathom how this world, this so-called 'modern' society can be so brutal and so uncaring. As you say, 'how can it be?' Have we learned nothing from history; will we never get past greed and intolerance? You have written this so eloquently, my friend. Awesome message ;) Pearl

Voted Up++++


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pstraubie48 2 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Greg

I will look for that song...Thank you for visiting.

Angels are on the way to you ps


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pstraubie48 2 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Faith

It is always good to see you , my friend....I hope all is well with you and that 2014 brings blessings all around....

Angels are on the way ps


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pstraubie48 2 years ago from sunny Florida Author

Hi Faith

It is always good to see you , my friend....I hope all is well with you and that 2014 brings blessings all around....

Angels are on the way ps


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pstraubie48 2 years ago from sunny Florida Author

hi bill

After I read that headline I was once again wondering what we can do. It really brings me to my knees every time I see our babies slaughtered. Is there no end to it?

thank you for visiting bill

have a lovely day today

Know that Angels and hugs and blessings are on the way ps


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Ericdierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

The worst travesty I see of all is what is seemingly and institutional group that wants to control all aid to children. Charity is big business and sometimes I think they worst. Do they really want to stop.


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Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

Dear PS,

Wow, I am the first to comment? My goodness, you have written a powerful hub here and much food for thought. Yes, our children are our future and we do need to listen to them and let them know they are loved!

Thank you for keeping us mindful of all the children suffering in this world and for us to wake up and do our part to help a child or many!

Up and more and sharing

Hugs and much love and many Angels going out to you this day,

Faith Reaper


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gregas 2 years ago from Corona, California.

There is an old song by Ensin Cargyle, (not sure about the spelling) that actually says it all about learning from the children. The song is "Skip A Rope". I mention it in one of my hubs. All well said. Greg


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Eiddwen 2 years ago from Wales

Wonderful a salwasy PS Hear and know that they need us to care and to help turn things around for them …even if it is one child at a time.

Beautiful words and oh so true. Voting up, across and sharing. Also wishing you a great day.

Eddy.


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billybuc 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

Wonderful introduction! Did you think I would not notice? LOL Really a great hook and then followed by a powerful message. Excellent job my friend....just beautifully written.

Angels and hugs and love and blessings, the whole shooting match, heading your way.

bill

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