Look At The Mess We Have Created In Society, We Are All Responsible!

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Introduction

What you are about to read is the hardest hub that I have ever written on hub pages, I am sharing with you parts my life that I am not proud of and parts that have brought me great pain, but I am doing this for one reason - I want people to have a ceasefire on HP and to find solutions to the problems we are faced with now in the world and not argue about useless things, but instead put away the age old prejudice and come together and work together in finding a solution and leading the way as an example to the rest of the world!

With this hub I do not want sympathy as that is not why I wrote it but all I would like is your eyes to read everything. This is hub from my heart that is actually a plea to you all to quit fighting against each other and for once put down the guns and arms and hatred and sit down together as adults and find a solution to the real issues we have in society.

Make of my hub what you will, but I hope that in some way it helps you to see things clearly and the way they really are and why we must work together now.

Enjoy Reading.....


Opening

Look at the mess in society now, we have an ongoing Economic Crisis, Violence, Fear, Corruption, No Jobs And Above All Prejudice And Intolerance, it is spiralling out of control and we are all of us responsible for this, and it is time now not to delve in the negative but to look for a positive solution.

These are just some of the many things that are on going today, now in fact whilst we sit at our screens and write in an attempt to escape from the harshness of reality.

In my hub I am going to show you what has happened who I am and who we all of us are, and why we are all of us to blame for the problems in society we have today.
Many of you will probably skip this hub because it will harsh truth that you do not want to read about, but I urge you to read it because this may just help you to understand where society has gone wrong and why we are in such a dark time now.

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My Scenario From Childhood

On HP I write under the pseudonym of Calpol25, but my real name is Callum Van Der Maahl Stubbs, I was born in Carlisle, Northern England. I was born in the year of 1985 into a happy and loving family, I was raised with manners, understanding, love and care as well as discipline and the knowledge of right and wrong. I was brought up to be an individual, to not fear speaking my mind and to have the power to say Yes and No, without fear of others' reactions, to never judge another and to look for the good in people and never the bad. I was taught to respect my elders and to respect others opinions and to listen to others through empathy and care for my fellow man.When I was only 10 years old my father died of lung cancer after a long battle, I had to watch as my mother nursed him alone with little or no help from anyone. After my dad died there was just my mum, me and my sister at home asmy two older brothers had their own lives and were in relationships living on their own.I am a human being, as we all of us are. I feel as you feel and I love as you love and am responsible for my own actions, being master of my own fate as we all are.It was when I was at school that I learned how society has put barriers and obstacles in the pathway of true equality for all, this was not taught however it was something that I experienced first hand as my sexual orientation became an obstacle used against me. Just as many others have experienced, it is not always sexual orientation but it can be colour, race, creed, gender, marital status, ability, disability and many others.My life changed dramatically. I could not accept that I was gay and that somehow that singled me out as inferior to others, it is only now that as I write this hub I truly understand what has been done in the name of society. I was forced to feel inadequate, brutally beaten, abused and bullied by others who deemed themselves superior to me and the many other gay and lesbian people at school and forced us to live a second class life. Something in me refused to be knocked down like this and refused to be treated like this and I would answer back and fight back because as a young teen I could not see how two human beings could be believed to be inferior and superior, when after all we were all at school to learn.My life was made a lot worse as I went through school, because society had made it so that these barriers must not allow true acceptance or equality between people. I did not look like a fashion model, I did not follow sport and play football, I was not interested in what the other kids were interested in because all though I was considered to be a child, I was a mature adult in a child's body. Thus I spent most of my time alone at school in the beginning as peoplesaw me as some sort of freak and inferior because I was gay. But I never once denied that I was gay, nor did I ever admit to it at school either as that would have made things a lot worse for me in the long run. SORTED!My eldest brother persecuted me also because of my sexuality and would make no effort to hide his strong anti-gay feelings toward me in public and in private, he too caused my life at school to be worse as when he would drive me to school or if we met in public and friends were around my brother never referred to me by my name but that of the worst label any gay person can be called which was this word that hurts me even now writing it 'Faggot'. You see my brother believed himself superior and me inferior. His malice towards me showed that he hated me for something that I had no control over that I did not choose to be. He hated me not because he himself inside hated me but because society and the influence of the media had caused this.Needless to say that my eldest brother and me do not speak or even care about each other, we do not even speak of each other as from when I was 12 my brother persecuted me until I was 22 when it came to head and I exploded because I never answered him back in those 10 years of his persecution. Why? Because it was against what I had been taught that I should respect my elders and until I was an adult such outbursts be them right or wrong would be considered as cheek or rude coming from a child.I do not ask you for sympathy so please do not show me any as this only a small part of my life that I am willing to share as a scenario only and not a sympathy dwelling hub. This scenario is one of millions of other peoples lives, people who have encountered worse persecution than I for their gender, colour, race etc.Society and the media have made it so that the pressures upon the youth and adults to be like other people have erased free thinking, freedom of speech, freedom of oppression and worst of all freedom to be equal.Equality is something that we will never have because there is some one getting rich from the barriers and the obstacles that are in place to prevent such equality in society.For true equality to happen you must educate the youth away from prejudice and intolerance, you must remove all media influence such as the gangster image and celebrity image and putting these forward as desirable. That won't happen because people are making money out of telling you how to live.

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Conclusion Of Me Then

I am no saint please understand that now as I am going to show you something about me now which will make you see that I am not superior or inferior that I am just a human being also.I have suffered persecution most of my life because of many things not only because I am gay but because I became intolerant towards those who had become intolerant towards me.In my teenage years I felt human emotion and experienced first hand racism, intolerance, hatred, bigotry from my peers and also from a couple of teachers who did not understand me, this was not their fault and we can not blame them as this is society's fault for not educating cultural diversity for forcing people to hide their true selves and whenthe people refuse to be controlled and/or hide their true selves towards others who do not understand, this happens ,,,, they attack!I felt hatred, I felt intolerance, I felt bigoted and society almost made me drop to the same level as those who had persecuted me, because hate breeds hate. Some of those who were bigoted toward used religious teachings as a weapon, others used myths and old wives tales as weapons in the hope that I would melt before them and die or turn straight or disappear from society altogether because they did not understand me. The worst part was that I was made to feel exactly the same way towards them and I even turned against my own friends and family for being heterosexual and for having acceptance in society.How naive and stupid I was, because no matter what gender you are, no matter what colour, race, creed or anything else you are, it all comes with its own set of problems. I know that now but then I did not.That was my ignorance and the negatives taking over me which I managed to overcome in the end, but you see we are not that different really.

2 Years Ago & Hub Pages

2 years ago I joined Hub Pages, I found it by accident just as many of you have and in those two years I have met some wonderful people, and some not so wonderful people.
(I know this may sound like an all about me hub but trust me you will understand what I am getting at soon.
)But of everyone I have met, I want you to know that I have observed you and your style of writing both negative and positive styles, I have observed people and attitudes and I have put these together to show you what has happened to our society. (Don't worry I wont name and shame, I just want to show you something thats all.)There are a vast number of writers on Hub Pages (HP) all with their own agendas and all seeking and searching for something or someone or even trying to understand themselves and also trying to make a better future.What I am going to do is show you below what I have noticed about myself and about other writers in both a negative and a positive way that will hopefully show you in some sorts what has happened to society as a whole and just how much influence we have that could be used for good and bad.

My Findings

Category Of Writer
Negatives
Positives
Religious Writer
Promotion Of Extremism
Promotion Of Faith
 
Dictatorship Of Ideals
Promotion Of Love, Care, Compassion & Understanding
LGBT Writer
Promotion Of Extremism
Promotion Of Awareness
 
Dictatorship Of Ideals
Promotion Of Education & Tolerance
Health Writer
Promotion Of Personal Ideology
Promotion Of Well-Being
 
Promotion Of Extremism
Promotion Of Awareness
 
 
Promotion Of Education
Negatives & Positives

These are just a few of my findings here on Hub pages with the many types of writers, I could go on but I am sure you can see the pattern emerging before you with these three.

It is the Negatives that you will notice repeat themselves because it is the negatives nine times out of ten influences our lives a lot more than the Positives.

It is very easy just to use one example of writers but then there is also this example that I shall show below..

Comments

Positive - Positive comments really help us, they make us smile and feel a sense of self worth, they encourage us and support us and they give us a boost when a negative may have just dealt a big blow.

Negative - The negative comments make a huge impact on us because they hurt us, although we may try to dismiss this, deep down inside it hurts because it makes us doubt ourselves, our knowledge and feel exposed and inferior to the negative person who has just dealt us a huge blow.

Yet that negative, destructive feeling will remain with us for ages almost impossible to shake off, it can even lead to drastic measures, it destroys our self confidence, self esteem and over time it destroys everything.

It is this destruction through the negative that I have noticed more and more on HP and in society because and I shall explain,

The media controls the world, it is always the negatives that make the news and headlines and it is the negatives that have over the years influenced society and changed things for the good and also for the bad.

We do not realise as people just how much power we do have when we write a hub, a sentence or a status on Facebook, or when we achieve something, or when we allow society to influence how we should feel and what we say, because we do not think for ourselves we allow something else to think for us.

Many of you may disagree with me here but if you look at the bigger picture you can see what I am getting at and I hope that you see that this is what we must address first.


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The Next Stage

After reading through my scenario, and reading the negatives and positives about writers and writing and just how much influence we do have. It may have outraged you and you may not agree with me, or you may have even moved and motivated by what you have read and you may agree with me, but as you can see from the above by observing I have shown you what I have seen that is all.

Now this is where it going to get interesting - from what you have read you will notice that the influence of media, celebrity image, ideology and the promotion of violence and the gangster image in society is evident all around us. People feel that they are inferior to others and that they have to look a certain way, act a certain way and even live a certain way to appease other people, I am not discussing laws here about right and wrong but what I am discussing is how stupid society has became.

We are living in dark times, we have an economic crisis that has affected the entire world, we are misinformed daily by the media who wont tell us the whole truth. We are facing civil war between the rich and the poor as the gap gets wider. We are living in a society that permits violence and extremism to rule our streets and thus making it unsafe for any one who falls foul of this.

But you can not pin the blame on to one person, its to easy to do that and that is why we are in such a mess in the first place because it never is just one person! It is us all who are to blame for permitting this to happen and for not standing up and taking responsibility for this as a united people accepting what is happening and working together without fear, prejudice or oppression to restore order and community in our broken and intolerant society.

The way out of economic crisis is not to throw blame at each other because that will solve nothing, it will infact just make matters worse and drag on for years. We need to accept that we are all in some way to blame for it, even just by permitting the bankers to steal the money from the people and saying nothing, then we are all to blame.

Then once we accept that we can move on and find a way out of it, but we need everyone to come together and not fight against each other that is currently ongoing now as we speak, even here in the forums where people are discussing the old 'who is right and who is wrong issue' we see constantly repeating itself on the forums.. JUST GET A GRIP AND LET IT GO, MOVE ON AND FOCUS ON FINDING A SOLUTION OUT OF THIS ECONOMIC CRISIS! NOT ARGUING LIKE CHILDREN OVER TOYS!


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The Moment Of Truth

At this time we should have no differences between us, we should be joined in searching for a future together out of this current economic crisis, lack of jobs and growth.

Our genders, sexual orientation, religious beliefs, colour, race, creed and everything else should not be used against us, because we need to come together and focus on finding a solution and making a future, that means black and white, gay and straight, christian and muslim as the crisis and jobless out there is not just one but us all!

Stop these meaningless discussions where you can not agree, put away your prejudice and for once can we have an agreement and a ceasefire between everyone! That we are going to work together to find a solution, to rebuild our countries side by side and begin again.

The way out of recession, economic crisis is a hard road but we can walk along it together and not apart because with out each others help we will fail.


Listen To This Song And Imagine

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Working Together
Working Together | Source
Collaborating and finding solutions
Collaborating and finding solutions | Source

Solutions

This is what we should be focussed on as people and writers, we have the power of influence and change. That is something far greater than any other thing in this world!Solutions are what we should be trying to find in our hubs, not negatives, not constantly writing about what others have already written, not arguing with people who are narrow minded on all sides, not being destructive in what we write either but being constructive and working together.We should be respecting each other and showing that we can put away our petty squabbling and rivalry and for once, instead of holding on to ideals that only want to separate and segregate us and turn us against each other when we should be working with each other.The solutions are not that difficult if you can join forces with everyone as we all have our own unique area and skill mine is observation and history, many of you have skills in engineering, manufacturing, IT, spiritual guidance, health, mediation, law and countless other skills that could be put to good use if we all stop fighting and sit down like the adults that we are and work out how we can move on.What we need to do, and the solutions we need to find -As we already know there is a lack of jobs and a current economic crisis our countries are in so much debt that this has catastrophically hit every where and every one.We have followed old principles, old methods and this has not worked, and we are now in a dark hole, so its time we start to think of new methods and principles and generate new ideas, even invent new things that we can all use and manufacture, produce and sell to other countries that are financially stable who may want what we invent.We need to address the problem with the media and the influence of celebrity ideology and phase it out before our youth become obsessed and image crises are the next thing to hit the economy along with mass suicides - because our youth does not look a certain way etc. We need to find proper role models that are stable enough to lead our youth and not the rich and shameless ideology or gangster image that is currently there as this only leading kids in to corruption, violence, drugs, under age sex and even depression.We need to address the vast crime rates we have in our countries and the laws that are not working because of a lack of deterrent against criminal behaviour.We need to bring the broken "Them & Us Society" together and make "An All Of Us Society" that will stand together and shall not be broken again.We need to do so much and that is why as people I am begging you to stop arguing and fighting amongst ourselves, and channel that fight and anger you have in to constructive positivity and address the real issues that I have put before you and find SOLUTIONS!Come on surely now you must see how tiresome it is becoming with us all at each others throats on the forums and in society we need to sit down and agree to on a ceasefire, that means every body on HP we can not carry on like we have done for the past few years.Its time to stop arguing and to put down the prejudice and to work out solutions, we are meant to be adults. So its time we acted like adults and agree on a truce and work together on a solution.

Listen To The Words Of This Song!

Closing

After reading this hub I want you all to think this; some how it is time the voice of reason reached people to stop all this nonsensical stupidity of discussing stupid things that have neither helped or hindered any sort of agreement and that has just influenced further animosity between the groups... And instead to focus on a truce between us all and working together in finding a solution to the current problems that must take priority over our petty squabbling on the forums.

Its time it all stopped and that we think about rebuilding our future, and showing people the way forwards out of this dark hole and in to the light.

Thank you for reading my hub.

Calpol25


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Comments 20 comments

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Adamowen 4 years ago from England

Excellent Hub sir!


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calpol25 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland, UK (At Home With My Wonderful Partner) Author

Hi Adamowen thank you for your comment am glad you enjoyed it, was really hard to write.

I hope that in some way this helps people to call a truce and work together, instead of against each other.

Callum :)


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Bob Zermop 4 years ago from California, USA

I am impressed you managed to get this down in a hub. Voted up.


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calpol25 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland, UK (At Home With My Wonderful Partner) Author

Hi Bob Zermop thank you I am so glad that you enjoyed reading and hope that it helped in some way, I have to admit this hub was in my head for a while but the hardest part was writing it down as I see it, but I am glad to say I did it. Was the hardest hub I have ever wrote but worth it. :)


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Reynold Jay 4 years ago from Saginaw, Michigan

I loved this and laughed out load at parts of it! I know it was NOT meant to be funny, however your writing is on point to the heavy thinkers among us. It is nice to see that you have figured out what is going on and then are able to see right though people and their agendas so easily. We are almost twins in our thinking and I decided to write novels that make similar points with the use of pathos and humor. I figured writing novels was the way to reach people. A larger audience is there and a series, "Seeds from Heaven" and a political thriller cuts to the heart of our modern day dilema. "Forty Days to Armageddon." OK--there is no agenda here--really. You goota think about takin'n it to a new level--Keep in touch and I'm here for you if you take a writing leap. Your writing and clear thinking tells me you have outgrown HUBS.


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calpol25 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland, UK (At Home With My Wonderful Partner) Author

Hi Reynold thank you so much, we do see things on the same level. Its taken me sometime we are very alike and that is a good thing.

I am thinking about taking a leap you must have read my mind that is a good thing, thank you so much for your offer and I will keep in touch and please you too as I have been thinking about this leap for some time.

It would be great to discuss with you further the direction I should go in as I do believe I may have outgrown it.

Keep in touch

Callum

Calpol25


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Reynold Jay 4 years ago from Saginaw, Michigan

I took a look at your profile and you are very busy guy! Wring with others has big rewards. That's great and I imagine it is only a matter of time until you hit the best seller lists! Hi Callum,

Who knows? We could end being writing buddies. I wrote a gal at HUBS last week who had a troubled childhood and decided to take the leap. Yep—she wrote one HUB and an hour later we made a connection. Like me, she has a message and a story that needs telling and her story is a way to reach around the globe. We are partners now and have begun her story of her troubled childhood. Powerful stuff.


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alian346 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland

Well, Callum, the distillation is complete and has manifested in a blast of clarity.

That's all I'm going to say (you know the rest and my sentiments).

Voted every way and up!

Ian.


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calpol25 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland, UK (At Home With My Wonderful Partner) Author

Thanks Ian :)


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Dexter Yarbrough 4 years ago from United States

Hi Cal! You certainly exhibited quite a bit of emotion in this hub and it is certainly understandable. I believe that there are a number of us that are really tired of the divisiveness, media lies and negativity in this world.

It takes a lot to share your personal story with others, Cal. I admire you for doing so. Perhaps this is the start of a world-wide effort to rid this earth of the negativity and establish some real peace and tranquility? I am with you, dear friend. Yes, indeed.


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calpol25 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland, UK (At Home With My Wonderful Partner) Author

Hi Dexter thank you so much x

It took a lot to share but it needed to come out and let people see that what they allow in society can manifest into negativity quite easily and it is up to us to take the blame for allowing it and then by accepting that we can work together.

It is a world wide effort you can read me like a book, its great that we agree and you are a dear friend too. Am with you also :)

Calpol25


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tillsontitan 4 years ago from New York

Your sharing and empathy go a long way. The only way to change the world is to do it one person at a time...it surely looks like you have started. To borrow from an old song, "let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me." You are living that! This was a wonderful hub with a lot of feeling and hope. Voted up, useful and interesting.


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calpol25 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland, UK (At Home With My Wonderful Partner) Author

Thank you so much tillsontitan, your quite right though and I love that song too x

Glad you have enjoyed this and thank you again for voting up x

Calpol25


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annart 4 years ago from SW England

It took much courage from you to write this; we can hear it through your words. I like the way you're encouraging writers to use their skill in order to promote working together and finding good solutions. If only it were that simple; however it takes one step at a time and each person to do his/her bit. I'd be overjoyed if my writing made a difference to just a few people. It's up to all of us to try very hard to do so. It's unnecessary for anyone to be negative on hubpages ; constructive criticism is fine but unkindness is not. Well done for speaking up. Voted up, interesting and useful. Ann


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calpol25 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland, UK (At Home With My Wonderful Partner) Author

Hi annart

Thank you so much for commenting - you're so very right.

I especially love this part 'constructive criticism is fine but unkindness is not' . Well said!

Thank you again for your beautiful and supportive comment; and also for voting the hub up and for being such a wonderful person. :)

Callum x


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annart 4 years ago from SW England

You're welcome. It's good to know someone who is honest and not afraid to speak their mind. All the best. Ann


Afolabi Seleso 4 years ago

I loved most what you had to say about perceiving the negative and adopting a choice to pose and reflecting the positive, I love that and I think that my friend is indeed the spirit of moving, it's the whole idea, do challenge me though my goodman.

I agree with the most part of what you had to say and you are spot on about the verdict from diagnosing the problem, and that being the solution. Now, we both know that the world is going in the wrong direction, 'dark times' you said. We find fluoride in our water, education is being dumbed down, unhealthy substances in our daily food, there's war, famine, poverty, economic crisis all causing the negativity you rightfully talk and the media is just waiting to tell your neighbour about it just in case they didn't know what's happening around them and all of this affecting nothing short of public confidence and this becomes our reality, we like it or not. And the people that do this to us and lets call them 'unpeople' have already done this, they are not planning to do this, it is already in the world, and they are 'unaccountable' because who do you go to? And besides everything has been belied by law eitherway to protect their decision, i'm not being negative my learned friend, i'm just stating facts. Occupy wall street for an example, protestors know the truth but what can they realistically do about it? The solution for me seems a bit of a hard question, except maybe as to how we might bring about real change. My name on Facebook is Afolabi Seleso and i'd really like to exchange ideas with you so do please invite me.

Thanks.


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calpol25 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland, UK (At Home With My Wonderful Partner) Author

Thank you so much for your comment - Afolabi Seleso.

I will pop over to Facebook and add you.

It will be nice to talk to some one, who sees reality for what it is, yet is not afraid to say so.

I agree wholeheartedly with your comment and would like to say thank you again for getting in touch.

All the best Afolabi Seleso

Calpol25


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

I just saw this hub on Google.. what a wonderful hub . You have poured your heart out and I respect that.. Bless you and I pray everyone will love each other no matter what and just try get along.. and help each other.thank you for sharing your heart and for sharing this hub..

Debbie


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calpol25 4 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland, UK (At Home With My Wonderful Partner) Author

Thank you so much Debbie x I'm so glad you liked this x I felt so strongly about it that it just had to be said x xxx

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