Love: Running With The Baton
Our comprehension of the word ‘love’ is only relevant to our experience of emotions and feelings we have assigned to the category LOVE in our pattern of thoughts. Therefore we are not always able to understand why others are able to love a specific person or animal, and therefore we are always amazed when we come to the realization that the feelings of love we are experiencing in a new relationship are different from the feelings we already know.
I remember when I met my first granddaughter minutes after she was born I stood enthralled, astonished by the vastness and majesty of the feelings in me. I had no idea that I had the ability to fall head over heels in love with a new baby just because she happens to carry some of my genes. Today, 4 grandchildren later, I am still amazed, for all four of them arouse and sustain feelings in me that cannot be aroused and sustained by any other creature on earth. I know that only grandmothers will understand what I am trying to explain.
This phenomenon called love is unique in all relationships, whether between human and human or human and animal.
Love is a NOUN – a name we have for an emotion, a person, an animal, a place (called home), or a course of events, such as a happy marriage.
Love is also a VERB – we can give it, receive it, make it, ignore or reject it.
Are people born with an instinctive tendency to love?
When we analyse a baby’s love for their bottle, dummy, favourite blanket, toy, and for their momma, daddy and siblings, we have no choice but to believe that humans – and some animals as well – are born with the instinctive tendency to love. The ability to hate develops later, triggered by unpleasant feelings and emotions caused by external factors.
Why do we use a heart to symbolize love?
The biological basis of love is the brain, the only organ that instigates the release of chemicals that have the ability to rouse emotions and feelings. (If you are puzzled because I distinguish emotions from feelings, watch the attached video by Dr. Alan Watkins - Being Brilliant Every Single Day (Part 1)
Chemicals such us dopamine, testosterone, estrogen, norepinephrine, serotonin, vasopressin and oxytocin, are being released by the brain when our senses – sight, hearing, taste, smell, touch – are being delighted by an external object. We FEEL the effect of these released chemicals in/with our heart. The warm feeling in our heart forces us to THINK. What is this? What am I feeling?
Besides physical differences, the fact that humans are able to think distinguish them from animals. So, we can honestly not know how intense are the feelings of love animals are experiencing in their life.
Love is still a magical phenomenon to be explored in full by neuroscience.
Before I run with the LOVE baton, I need to confess my utmost admiration for the Greeks and their many words for love -
Passion. Romance. Sexual desire. Irrational. Obsessive. Hard to control.
Deep friendship. Comradely. Loyal. Unselfish. Sharing. Sacrificing.
Playful. Flirting. Teasing. Socializing. Superficial.
ἀγάπη, ης, ἡ
Selfless love. Love for everyone. Holding everyone in high regard. Charity. Kindness. Compassion. Empathy.
πρᾶγμα, ατος, τό
Longstanding love. Understanding. Compromising. Patience. Tolerance. The love between a happily married couple.
Healthy self-love – (not narcissism).
Affection. Familial love. Love for babies, children and pets.
Combination of eros and ludus. Troubled. Jealous. Dependent. Intense. Madness. Obsessive.
The Project "Good Words"
Jo_Goldsmith11 launched the Project Good Words a couple of months ago after and unethical attack by the media against former Presidential Candidate Mitt Romney and his family. For the year 2014 Jo has taken a pledge to use good words and publish articles that will empower, encourage, support and defend those who need to be shown love. Her first "Good Word" in this series was Love. Ref: Light2Love
Always ready for a challenge, my SFAM (sista from another mother), Maria Jordan aka marcoujor, decided to make a musical contribution.
The Good Word LOVE inspired her to draw our attention to the love in music and the lyrics of songs. In her hub, Good-Words-Musical-Challenge, she has passed the Baton of Love on to me.
My love for Maria
is a mixture of Philia and Philautia with sufficient pinches of Agápe, Ludus, and Pragma.
- Although I cannot touch or smell her physically, I can see her via pictures, hear her via written and audio messages and touch her with my mind and heart. I perceive her in a spiritual manner. Our spirits are roaming the Internet and we have more fun than Time and Circumstances will allow us in real life. According to my comprehension of love, our friendship is perfectly Philia.
- Sometimes I believe Maria is a part of me – the ‘myself’ I used to talk to when I had a need to express my thoughts, the imaginary friend I have sensed in my presence before I met Maria, the journal I used to keep since the age of 12, but no longer need since I've met Maria. So, my love for her is indeed very much Philautia.
And, of course, with the right amount of Agápe, Ludus, and Pragma the Bond of Love between us is an indisputable reality. If this invisible bond between us dissolve, and we lose contact, I will most certainly be devastated and lost for a very long time.
Thank you, my Maria, for being there for me 24/7 :)
A list of popular LOVE songs (1960-2014)
NB: Read this list carefully. It is actually a letter -
Eddie My Love
I Just Called To Say I Love You
Gotta Tell You
You Make Me Feel
I Got Nothin'
I Got You
Got 2 Luv U
I Gotta Feeling
You Can't Stop The Beat
Still Into You
Ii won’t give up
You Belong With Me
I Need You
Just The Way You Are
Bounce With Me
All Night Long
Body 2 Body
We Owned The Night
Drunk In Love
You And I
We Got The Beat
Dance With Me
Shake, Rattle & Roll
Great Balls of Fire
Someone Like You
Rock Around the Clock
Love Don't Run
Reach out, I'll Be There
It's Not Unusual
When a Man Loves a Woman
Just A Kiss
Under the Boardwalk
All The Right Moves
Blah Blah Blah
I Don't Wanna
Take It Off
If I Die Young
The Masquerade Is Over
This Magic Moment
We Found Love
Groovy Kind of Love
Stay With Me Tonight
I Wanna Go
According To You
For Your Precious Love
The Way You Love Me
Bring It All To Me
Tonight I Celebrate My Love
I Think of You
If You Were Here Tonight
Love Is All Around
Heaven Must Be Missing an Angel
Keep Your Head Up
Stand by Me
Promise Me You'll Try
Hundreds of Ways
All Your Life
Give Me Everything
Step by Step
Just A Dream
In My Head
I Wanna Know
Today Was A Fairytale
Bye Bye Bye
The Love Test
What kind of love is demonstrated in above letter?See results without voting
Running with the Baton of Love -
- Ode to love- Running with the baton (always exploring)
I was given the honor of receiving the running with the baton from Martie Coetser. This is my ode to love.
- Ode To Love...Running with the Baton (Genna East)
Universal love. When it is true, it is the shape-shifting force that is the miracle of humanity.
- Other Words for Love: How They Add Meaning
The objective of this article is to steer lovers--young and old—away from decisions which can sabotage their life’s purpose in the name of love. The practice of using other words for love is helpful.
© 2014 Martie Coetser
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