Nice Person, Mean World

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As many know my day in my day job I am on the phone a lot. I have conversed with many from different corners of the globe but primarily in North america. I have spoken with people I could understand and I have spoken with those I could barely tell were speaking english. I have spoken with rich people I have spoken with poor people. I have spoken with nice people and those that are so incredibly horrible they seem like the spawn of satan himself.

One thing I have seen and experienced on the phone at world, in the news and throughout every day life is that that nice people do not gain from being nice. In the case of customer service it is the complainers who gain, those that dispute everything that are always looking for something to be free. They seem to live their lives with the idea that the angrier and meaner they are the more they will get and disturbingly enough they are right. I have seen it more often than not.

As a society one has to ask themselves what happened? Once upon a time neighbors trusted one another so much that they would give them a key to their front door. Now someone driving down the road wouldn't stop to help a stranded old lady change a tire if her life depended on it. We've become a completely self serving, greedy, rude terrible society with so few decent people left that those who would normally trust simply can't. From what I see of it I just can't imagine it getting better.

The way I see society one angry person at a time reminds me of nothing more that a bunch of spoiled brats. Like misbehaving children that should have gotten many good spankings but simply didn't so they grew into adults with the same misbehavior they had as children. So I guess it is a bit late to administer those spankings now.

Part of the problem is that society bends to these people. When the world is given equal rations these are the people who lie and squabble to get double what they should. Society should say no. Businesses should show them to the nearest exit. But no, they quietly give them what they want hoping to shut them up. Until they want more of course. This sort of thinking doesn't deter them. When you were a child and the bully came after your lunch money do you think if you keep giving it to him he'll decide to stop bothering you? No, you have to stand up. Maybe give him a good punch in the nose.

Either way all I can say it Kudos to the nice person. The person that helps little ladies across the road. Stops to help those in need.

But shame to you that are mean and nasty. All I hope for you is that you get what's coming to you eventually.

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rambansal profile image

rambansal 4 years ago from India

nice topic, but no solution to the problem you highlighted.


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picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

nice hub! I want to be around the nice people too. Bullies and jerks do get what they want from nice people or those who just want them to go away, but think of what it must be like to be them. They are never respected or valued for anything and they know it deep down. So they keep barking to feed their insatiable egos, for they have been eaten alive.


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

rambansal - true was more of a rant I suppose. I am but one voice in a sea of seven billion but if I speak maybe so will others.


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

picklesandrufus - I suppose you are right. Maybe some of them will wise up one day.


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m0rd0r 4 years ago from Sofia, Bulgaria

It is normal Terrek :)

People that feel insecure are mean and prefer to b!tch and attack the others, so they are not harmed.

It is all about timing.

If they receive a verbal attack in response, they are prepared and defend.

If they are not prepared, they suffer.

I have half dozen colleagues with very sharp biting tongue. I am so used to their b!tchin, that I provoke them, so we can do normal conversation later, when they are happy :P


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hoteltravel 4 years ago from Thailand

I beg to disagree. Nice people do get preferential treatment if the service provider has nice disposition. Again, complaining doesn't equate to cribbing. If you have a valid complaint, you can put it forth in a nice way to get it resolved. At times, when we see mean people gain unfair advantage because of their meanness,it is natural for us to feel aggrieved. I would like to think that this advantage is temporary. I agree with you that life is becoming difficult for a nice person.


Shuting 4 years ago

I used to be one of the angry youth too since I saw there were similar, or even worse, problems around me. Later I found out maybe evil part of human nature and inhumanities are probably everywhere in every country for different reasons. But I just got too angry to be angry any longer. I ask myself to stay calm and optimistic instead of letting anger and cynicism taking the upper hand. We will get powerful to help and change! We can help in our own way,little by little, step by step.


mcals71 4 years ago

Sometimes the customer has to put their foot down to keep from being given the runaround. That's especially true when dealing with insurance, medical billing, and your cell phone and cable service providers. Most people start out by being nice and patiently waiting for the discrepancy to be resolved. However there comes a time when enough is enough and even the nicest, long-suffering customer will rise in protest and finally demand that something be done to his satisfaction. People are quick to take your money and to demand timely payment, but when it comes to giving it back, or to render a service for which you have been paying, it's a completely different story. You may have to wait weeks, even months to get some work done, something replaced or your money back. True, some people have a bad attitude and get away with it, but most people are nice, cooperative, fair and honest, and expect the same treatment in return.


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

m0rd0r - With friends I suppose it can be what we do sometimes I guess I sometimes do that with work colleagues as we but I think it is kind of banter between us. Were not truly trying to be evil to one another it is just a back and forth thing, sometimes pranks and such. But when it really comes down to it, such as when someone dies in their family then I am there for them. But your words make a lot of sense to me about mean peoples insecurity. I suppose I didn't realize fully that it is fear that can drive anger but I will reflect :) Thanks for commenting.


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tobusiness 4 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

I think the tide may be turning in the direction of the nice people, people are generally tolerant, but to a point, the nice people are saying enough is enough. interesting hub. voted up


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

hoteltravel I suppose one on one nice people can be treated well. If I was on the phone helping someone I personally would go above and beyond for some one nice, but would just do only what was needed for a mean person. But in terms of business I'd say companies do what is necessary for the complainers, they don't worry about those not complaining. This usually means they get more out of things because they complained. I also hope this is temporary. I'm sure there has to be a point where the nastiness doesn't pay off. Thanks for reading :)


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Amy Becherer 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

I've always given everyone the benefit of a doubt. Before my layoff, I was the first contact visitors, including vendors, made with the company I worked for. Customer service was king and I was the queen of nice. If someone was in a foul mood, I figured they had a reason and I tried to be even nicer to them. Sometimes, the person would apologize and explain what hardship they faced that affected their mood. But, other times, it seemed I was viewed as a "Pollyanna", or someone living a completely charmed life who was oblivious to the trials and tribulations everyone else experienced. Or, they figured I was just too dumb to be real. More often than not, my feelings were trampled on in the process. I could handle it. The straw that broke the camel's back was how easily I was one of those chosen to be laid off. All the verbiage from management regarding the value they placed on the ambiance I gave this family-owned business amounted to a load of garbage and that was a bitter pill to swallow. It was a hard way to grow up. Great piece, terrektwo. Unfortunately, I think you hit the nail on the head. Niceness won't buy me a cup of coffee.


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

I'm a nice person and I get results! I kill 'em with kindness. Good Hub for thought.


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

mcals71 - well I wouldn't necessarily say most are nice, having experienced many mean people is what prompted the hub. If most were nice I doubt I would have written it. I do agree that in terms of customer service that the customer does sometimes have to say enough is enough. Provided that their idea of what needs to be done is realistic I am all for that. But that's only really one aspect of my experience. It's even day to day life in the neighborhood, on the news, even extended family, it seems I am consistently seeing many mean people. Some of which used to be what I thought of as nice but now seeing the truth I just can't stand. But this article is a vent like some of my others. Possibly I'm just seeing the bad and not seeing the nice people that are out there, I can only hope that is the case. thanks for commenting :)


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

tobusiness - I hope things do get better, thanks for voting up :)


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

Amy Becherer - I know how you feel at least about the being nice til it hurts on the phone or in person. That's the way I handle them too. I'm very sorry to hear about the layoff that is pretty harsh. It is pretty bad when people who aren't nice can get ahead and nice people like yourself are getting the short end of the stick. I really hope you find another job. Thank you for commenting.


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

mary615 - Well I am glad to see niceness is paying off for someone :)


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Deborah Brooks 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

well awesome and I agree.. so many people that are not nice.. but I have found a lot that are.

Great reading

Voted up

debbie


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catgypsy 4 years ago from the South

Wow, you sound just like me! I have been complaining for a very long time about people and their behavior these days. And they are not only given into, but rewarded...look at all the reality shows! It truly disgusts and frightens me how selfish and uncaring people are these days. So glad to hear someone else feels the same way! Great Hub!


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cherylone 4 years ago from Connecticut

Excellent call, I find the same thing myself. I have shared you on my facebook page with pleasure. :)


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

Deborah Brooks - Well I hope there are many more nice people rising up :)


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

catgypsy - no doubt, I feel like things are really going down hill, I have hope at times but overall I know things aren't changing for the better.


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

cherylone - it is hard to think of what has become of the word but no real denying it. Maybe there will be change in the future I am hopeful. thanks for the share I appreciate it.


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d.william 4 years ago from Somewhere in the south

Interesting hub. I actively try to never let any one who is mean get under my skin, or at least don't let them know they did. I try not to allow anyone to exercise any power or control over me or my emotions. I have discarded many "friends" who gave me nothing but negativism. Unfortunately, after all those discards, i have no 'friends' left. L.O.L.


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

d.william - I suppose there are some that may still cause us pain but I wouldn't say discarding everyone is the way. But if they were all mean, I'm sorry to hear that. I also do my best not to let mean people bother me. When they do it may come out in my hubs like this. It can be a good outlet.


Sulabha Dhavalikar 4 years ago

Interesting hub. I think, I have got a topic for my next hub. I will speak there. May be in a couple of days.


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terrektwo 4 years ago from North America Author

Sulabha Dhavalikar - sounds good, I look forward to reading :)

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