Now's the time to get out of our "buts"
Do you often think you can do something.....but.....
Doubt is always a part of the process of decision making for most of us. Undeniably, this approach to decision making exists to help us know whether or not the decision we have made is proper or not, it helps us understand the value of the matter we have decided upon. Hence, doubt is not at all that bad; at some point, it could be even considered necessary.
However, there is a point of doubting to question one's decision to make sure it is the right thing to do.... and there is excessive doubting.
What is excessive doubting?
Being not-to-sure about everything is indeed frustrating and at some point causes many to not be able to do anything at all. Doubting in this level sometimes could get out of hand that even small decisions are not completed simply because of the fact that one does not know what to do or how to do it. Forming doubts about a lot of things often impose the signs of insecurities and personal issues that leads one to believe that he or she cannot do it. However, there are some others that simply doubt because "its their nature".
For example, do you often say,
" I know I can do that.... but..."
"I have an idea...but"
" I want to complete this now... but"
...Whatever that "but" may be continued to, there are instances when we need to ask, do I really need to ask myself this time just to be sure? Doubt basically develops from the element of fear that specifically originates from the avoidance of risk. People who want to be safe often want to remain within their comfort zones. Who does not want to be safe anyway?
Our comfort zones provide us the sense of protection. Often, we like to stay connected to the best things we do so that we do not get criticized by people; we often like to stay within our limitations [that we believe we have] and not get out of that boundary so as to remain in the care of our comfort. Question is, how do we create our limitation lines? Do we put to many posts of "do not enter" that already keeps us away from experiencing our full potential?
Take note, there would be no telephones, no televisions, no internet even.... if those who have created these matters did not get out of their comfort zones and got ready to enter the risky situations of exploring and developing the unexplored during their times. Should we be any different than they are?
We just have to know when to limit ourselves and when not to. We have to know who we are and what we can do, however, let us not let the door of exploration be closed especially if that exploration would do something good for us and for the others we might care for.
do you think you can do something to ease the pain of a suffering friend?
do you think you can offer something to help the needed?
do you think you have a nick for teaching children who are illiterate and can't go to school?
do you think you can spend more time with your family than you already do?
do you think you can be someone you always wanted to be?
Hope ceases the fear and believing ceases the doubts. Never pull yourself away from doing what is good, even if at some point, there are some risks that needs to be managed and consequences that needs to be faced. Take note, that if you never try, you'll never know.
Do not hold back good from those to whom it is owing, when it happens to be in the power of your hands to do it. Proverbs 3: 27
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The path from which your life takes turn depends on your own willingness to make it happen. Keeping yourself away from what you know would do you good could only frustrate you for the rest of your life. So, give yourself a rest and let yourself free. Sometimes you just have to let go of your doubts to actually open the doors to the opportunities that are waiting for you.
Exploring what more can be done specifically gives people the power to say that they indeed have conquered themselves. True, there are times when the worst critic we have is ourselves. NO, we can never be perfect, and in the process of getting out of our comfort zone, we expect to make mistakes and learn from them, and from that point realize the ways by which we can attain our goals. AS they say "great things start from small beginnings"... do you think you can start your "small beginning" today? Let's get off our "buts"!
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