Only One Way To Treat Gays and Lesbians: With Respect

The Brochure used by "Save Our Children" in 1977
The Brochure used by "Save Our Children" in 1977 | Source

July 24th, 2011 will go down in history.

On this day, same-sex couples in the great state of New York will be welcomed with the same equality as their heterosexual counterparts.

On this day, same-sex marriages will be allowed.

The response was so tremendous that the city of New York had to introduce a lottery system so that the weddings of 764 gay couples would go as smoothly and quickly as possible. Twenty-four lucky couples will be able to wed in Central Park and Mayor Michael Bloomberg will also be participating in the festivities by presiding over the marriage of is two top staffers.

In addition, September 20th, 2011 will also be a history-making date.On that day, the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" military policy will finally be coming to an end. \

For the first time in its history, gays will be able to openly serve in the US armed forces without consequence. With the passing of proposition 8 in New York and the DADT policy coming to an end, we can finally say that America has come a long way to accepting the LGBT community as productive members of society. To put it another way, America is finally starting to treat LGBT people as people.

How far have we come? Consider that only six years ago, same-sex couples were not allowed to marry in any state. Consider the fact that before "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" became law in 1993, LGBT people were not allowed to serve in the military at all. Consider the fact that California is becoming the first state in the country to teach Gay history in schools. Consider the fact that 33 years after Harvey Bernard Milk became the first openly gay man to be elected to a public office, J. Paul Oetken was the first openly gay man to ever be appointed as a federal judge.

I for one am happy.

For far too long, we have picked on, ridiculed, insulted and treated LGBT people as second-class citizens. In some parts of America, we don't treat them as citizens at all. All they want is to be treated fair and equal, which in my eyes, is every human being's God-given right.

But as we take two steps forward, it seems that we are also taking four steps back.

In a report issued by the National Coalition of Anti-Violence, hate crimes towards the LGBT community has increased last year. There were more than 27 anti-LGBT murders in 2010, second only to 2008 when there were 29 murders. That put 2010 as the second highest rate of anti-LGBT murders this decade. In total, there were 2,500 reported hate crimes against the LGBT community in 2010, an increase of the previous year. Why do you have to pick on, beat up, or even kill another person just because he or she is gay? What is the meaning behind that? I want to know what the hell people get out of doing that.

The bigotry in this country over gay people is stunning. Take Marcus Bachmann for example. You remember him right? The husband of president wannabe Michele Bachmann, Marcus was the one who described gay and lesbians as "barbarians" who needed to be disciplined and educated. Marcus also runs an anti-gay clinic and practice a controversial therapy aimed at turning gays straight.

But Bachmann was nothing in comparison to Anita Bryant.Don't know who she is? Ok, here is a little history lesson. In 1977, Miami-Dade County passed ordinance 77-4, the "Human Rights Ordinance", which outlawed discrimination against gay men and lesbians. Bryant furiously opposed the law, telling the Dade County commissioners on the night it passed: "The ordinance condones immorality and discriminates against my children's rights to grow up in a healthy, decent community". After the vote, Bryant organized the "Save Our Children" campaign, which was aimed at overturning ordinance 77-4.

In 1977, Miami-Dade County passed ordinance 77-4, the "Human Rights Ordinance", which outlawed discrimination against gay men and lesbians. Bryant furiously opposed the law, telling the Dade County commissioners on the night it passed; "The ordinance condones immorality and discriminates against my children's rights to grow up in a healthy, decent community". After the vote, Bryant organized the "Save Our Children" campaign, which was aimed at overturning ordinance 77-4.

She argued that Miami's gay community was trying to turn the city into the "hotbed of homosexuality" that San Francisco had become. She ran full-page ads in the Miami Herald showing collections of headlines about teachers having sex with kids, children in prostitution rings and homosexuals involved in youth organizations, all followed by the question; “Are all homosexuals nice? ... There is no 'human right' to corrupt our children."

The "Save Our Children" campaign became a national political cause, and only months after the passage of Miami-Dade County ordinance 77-4, it was overturned.

We could use "Save Our Children" for a different cause today.

In Minnesota, several current and former students sued the Anoka-Hennepin School District, saying that its policy requiring its staff to remain neutral when sexual orientation is discussed in the classroom prevents teachers from effectively protecting kids perceived as gay or lesbian from bullying and harassment. The policy came under criticism after six students committed suicide in less than two years.

Mary Bauer, the legal director of the Southern Poverty Law Center, one of the two advocacy groups that filed the lawsuit in federal court said: “This policy sends the message to kids that who they are is not OK.” To realize how sad this is, read what 14-year old Kyle Rooker, who is one of the plaintiffs, told reporters outside Jackson Middle School: "For the last three years kids have been calling me names and shoving me into lockers, desks, and walls, just because they say I am different." "It got so bad that every day when the bus would arrive at the school, I would want to hide under the chair so I wouldn't have to go to school, so I wouldn’t be called names or be pushed around and so I wouldn't have to hear the rumors other kids were spreading about me.”

"For the last three years, kids have been calling me names and shoving me into lockers, desks, and walls, just because they say I am different." "It got so bad that every day when the bus would arrive at the school, I would want to hide under the chair so I wouldn't have to go to school, so I wouldn’t be called names or be pushed around and so I wouldn't have to hear the rumors other kids were spreading about me.”

That's sad.

For too long, we have treated the LGBT community as people unworthy of decency and respect. We have to stop that. What’s happening in New York, California, and in the military are positive signs that we are moving in the right direction. As I mentioned earlier, all the LGBT community wants is to be treated fair, equal and respected. It is high time that we start doing that.

It has to get better.

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TravelinAsia 5 years ago from Thailand/Southeast Asia

The constitution calls for separation of church and state, yet Christian views dominate politics in America. Gays and lesbians should be treated just like anyone else. I am all for inter racial .. and gay and lesbian marriage.


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American Romance 5 years ago from America

Aren't you guys sweet! They don't want equal treatment, they want to shove their perverse views and ideology down the throats of those who disagree with them! CA voted gay marriage down! The law doesn't work for perverse liberals! They now as a minority in CA got a gay judge to overturn the democracy!

I guess in a few years you will be saying we should treat pedophiles equaly..........I mean hey that's all they want!


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TravelinAsia 5 years ago from Thailand/Southeast Asia

American Romance, you probably have fond memories of the days when blacks sat at the back of the bus, and weren't allowed to vote. Comparing homosexuals to pedophiles is ignorant! The world has changed, it is no longer acceptable to treat people with prejudice based on their race, their sex or their sexual preference.


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American Romance 5 years ago from America

Travelin, The world has changed? No it hasn't! People have lost their morals! yes gays have been around for hundreds of years, but in secret and not near the numbers of today! MORALITY! is the word! The more we allow morality to slip then the more depraved we become! Always remember this conversation, because 30 years from now men will be in court fighting for the right to have sex with young children, and animals! .......and in closing if ANYONE doesn't think for a minute, that a man who can only be sexualy satisfied by placing his penis into another mans sphincter muscle where he defacates is not wrong, sick and unnatural has a problem themselves!


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TravelinAsia 5 years ago from Thailand/Southeast Asia

American Romance .. "gays have been around for hundreds of years"? I suppose you don't read much history, because throughout history, dating back thousands of years, some of the world's most influential people have been homosexual. Your repeated comparison between homosexuality and pedophilia show how ignorant you are!


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calpol25 5 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland, UK (At Home With My Wonderful Partner)

I love your hub, I have always been proud to be gay and always gave respect to heterosexuals just I hope that they would show the same to me. I write a lot of hubs for LGBT in the hope that I can help both LGBT and Heterosexuals away from bigotry and towards understanding and acceptance of each other.

Great Hub and thanks for sharing. :)


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ripplemaker 5 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Respect is much needed for us as a society to evolve as a community of people all over the world. This goes for anything that may seem different, strange because it is not the usual.

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William 5 years ago

We are repeatedly told that homosexuals want to be treated fairly. I don't have an argument with that.

Presumably those in a traditional marriage can expect to be treated fairly too?

The main religions consider marriage to be a sacred institution between man and women. This contract or union between men and women is just that - between men and women.

Surely those who want to change this definition are being unfair to those who hold to this belief?

What the Gay community needs to do is find a word that signifies the union of same-sex partnerships. There would then be less difficulty in winning over the legislators who legislate on the benefits of marriage.

Any suggestions?


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JY3502 5 years ago from Florence, South Carolina

I have no problem with respect to any individual. But I do have a problem with the gay lifestyle. So far, no one here has even commented on the AIDS or other STDs. And those of us who have religious and moral objections to the gay lifestyle are called hate mongers. They have a right to do whatever they want in privacy, but please, there are still some of us who don't even want to hear about it. It is wrong to hurt anybody and I disagree with any violence upon the gay community. I think William is on the right track.


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writerjay 5 years ago from Bellingham, WA

Freedom of religion, separation of church and state = so there will not be ONE religion that dominates nor dictates one religious way of thinking for the whole country.

I believe that all people should be treated with respect. I do not believe in the gay, lesbian lifestyle. But, NO ONE should be denied respect as a human being. The majority of pediphiles are not gay, THEY ARE SICK, dangerous people, who hurt children whethere they are boys or girls.

I am glad they have eliminated "Don't ask, Don't tell." All people have a right to work without that pressure. If I am sick or need a doctor, I am not going to ask about their sexual preferances - If you're qualified - Help me! There are people who will never socialize with me because of my Blackness - that's okay, but don't deny me the right to work, or a place to live because of my skin color that I cannot change.

I do not agree with the gay community when they use race as it equates with gay rights. But that is my right also. I am not a hate monger, and I will not tolerate or encourage conversations or actions that promote violence. One of the things I hang on too, is what my mama taught me; Treat and respect each person you meet for who they are.

As for AIDS and STD's, whether you are homosexual or hetrosexual these diseases are being passed because of loose sex and not being clean on both sides. As a minister I believe if you are not married (gay or straight), you need to be celebate.


DoItForHer 5 years ago

Several years ago when George W. Bush was president, he was apposed to gay marriage. I couldn't believe the racist comments he was making with no one standing up to him, at least not publicly on TV. Eventually, we will look back on him and realize his bigotry for what it was.

We have had many racist presidents in the past. Some owned slaves while others condoned the genocide of Native Americans; we now look back and see the bigotry for what is was.

When former presidents would degrade or limit a particular group of people, I imagine many of the people of that day offered many of the same type of ignorant and hateful comments seen on this hub.

Times are changing. Sexual preference will become as normal as black people having the same rights as white people. Yes, discrimination will always be there, but the law won't support it as much. Society will also accept it more.

I wonder if Hubpages allows racist comments against African-Americans? If not, then why allow racist comments against LGBT like the ones above?


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aguasilver 5 years ago from Malaga, Spain

All humanity wants to be treated fairly, however there are no 'human rights' only privileges extended from one human being to another, of agreed upon by a tribal group or socio order.

If someone acts outside of the agreed order (breaks a law) then society has the ability to penalise them.

But neither holding disagreeable views or opinions, or conducting behaviours that may be repugnant, but is within the law, is within societies remit on what we can or cannot do.

So neither the homosexual nor the homophobic radical have any right to expect that they will accept each other, nor force each other to agree.

No rights, just privileges and if you believe otherwise, you have believed the lie that causes these problems.


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Kareem Gantt 5 years ago from Florida Author

@DoItforHer....

It was tough for me to decide weather or not to allow those comments on the hub, but I believe it is important to get both sides of the argument. That is the reason I allowed the comments above. Do I agree with them? No I do not. My take on the matter is in the hub above. But it is important to have both voices heard. It would not be fair to allow only one side to be heard. Like I wrote in my bio, this and my other columns are meant to create conversation, weather readers agree with what I wrote or not. But thank you for your comment. I agree with you 100 percent. Sexual preferance is becoming the new norm and we as a society is gonna have to accept the changes.


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aguasilver 5 years ago from Malaga, Spain

"Sexual preferance is becoming the new norm and we as a society is gonna have to accept the changes."

It is statements like that which provoke a reaction in folk.

That statement is called propaganda, because it is NOT true as we stand, and unless people get politicised into accepting statements such as you made, or the thought Gestapo win the day, will probably never be true.

Sexual deviance has always been with us, and anal sex was long practised amongst heterosexual couples in marriage to avoid conception, yes we all know that from the history books and listening to our grand parents, but it has been considered deviant for much longer than it has been promoted as normal, and the (Catholic) doctrines that forced women to be buggered was just as wrong as the quasi religious zeal that exists today to make sodomy normal.

The anal passage was designed as a one way street, designed specifically to remove toxic waste from our bodies, and it generally can do a very efficient job at that task.

It was NOT designed to be penetrated by penis or fist or other objects, excepting maybe a Doctors probe to see your prostrate or bowel is in order.

Therefore NOTHING will ever make sodomy a NORMAL life choice for the vast majority of humanity, should we ever manage to convert the majority of humanity to homosexuality, then of course humanity will die in one or two generations.

So, whilst I accept that people should be allowed to practise whatever sexual deviancy they wish in the privacy of their own homes, except bestiality, which is still (currently) illegal, I also expect that such deviants will cease and desist from trying to force their behaviour on humanity and demanding we 'normal' folk MUST accept their deviant behaviours as normal.

I imagine that for as long as people attempt to promote that agenda, other people will point out the reasons for opposition with whatever vehemence they feel for the issue.

But hey, comments boxes like this are great for your hubs and get them read more, so every cloud has a silver lining.

John


DoItForHer 5 years ago

I'm glad you allowed those comments. For many of us, if we don't see the ignorance and hatred, it isn't as real. Especially for those of us who have not experienced first hand how degrading and harmful bigotry really is. Well, I suppose we all experience the negative end of other people's biases, but true bigotry and racism is horrible.


Barbie 4 years ago

Whether you like it or not, human rights have to be respected. If you don't agree, just close your eyes and keep on walking if you do agree, it is a freedom of speech or choice. Discrimination stll exists and it is a shame. Pervertion exists in so many ways it's incredible. Don't need to list it. Gays and Lesbians have the right to live as any other person. In every family there is a LGBT.


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aguasilver 4 years ago from Malaga, Spain

"In every family there is a LGBT."

Proof please....

Propaganda is a wonderful thing, say something often enough and folk will believe it!

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