Perfectionism,Healthy or Hurtful

Perfectionism is undoubtedly an admirable personality feature but care must be taken in not going overboard with it. Stressing ourselves out to attain perfection is not an answer to the problems.Everything done with balance is what matters most.
Perfectionism is undoubtedly an admirable personality feature but care must be taken in not going overboard with it. Stressing ourselves out to attain perfection is not an answer to the problems.Everything done with balance is what matters most. | Source


The very few questions usually pop up in our minds when we hear the word “perfectionism” are that what exactly it is? How perfectionism is attained and how a perfectionist can always make sure that the work or thing that he has done is up to the required mark or standards. Another foremost thing with regard to being perfect is that whether it is good, healthy for a person, or it can hurt in a bad way to those who are always trying to achieve perfection in every step and in every case.

PERFECTIONISM, A PERSONALITY FACTOR:

Perfectionism is one of the personality factors and the individuals who try to ensure that whatever work they do should be with a flawless output are the perfectionists. People like these, demand the best of the best not from themselves only but from others as well. For them the real sense of pleasure and satisfaction is achieved when their desired objective is acquired in the most outstanding and is exemplary in nature.

PERFECTIONISM,HEALTHY OR NOT?

Whether perfectionism is healthy for an individual or not is a significant query. On observation, if a certain balanced manner is attained in the achievement of any task then it is considered as positive. It also ensures the high personal standards of a person .For good learning experiences and intellectual growth the importance of perfectionism cannot be denied. The exploration of an individual‘s true talents is also possible for a perfectionist. It benefits a person in setting realistic and reachable goals and once attained it develops the greater sense of self-esteem, and brings much confidence, helping in the increase of the productivity levels.


OBSESSION WITH PERFECTIONISM CAN BE BAD:

However, too much obsession with perfectionism can be very damaging for a personality. It leads to constant stress, anxiety, procrastination and may also result in frustration most of the times. Not only this, the perfectionists live under the constant state of fear of rejection or disapproval, hence they tend to become more self critical and put intense pressure on themselves as well the others involved. Sometimes they fail to realize the fact that their demands tend to become unrealistic which ultimately raises up the emotional stress levels.

SEEKING BALANCE IS IMPORTANT:

The bottom line for a healthy perfectionist attitude is to establish proper balance and flexibility between the demands, desires as well their practical implications. Nothing can be attained if a certain attitude becomes too obsessive and becomes a negative feature. A certain degree of distinction must be established between realistic and unrealistic.


Perfectionism is indeed an admirable trait, the pursuit of excellence is always appreciable but the behavioral patterns should be watched and one must not go over board in the realization of dreams and desires.



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billabongbob 5 years ago from South Wales, UK

Great Hub!!

A certain degree of perfectionism is good for one's self esteem. To be 'perfect' in one way or another is uplifting and food for the ego. In other words, it makes you feel good.

Over perfectionism on the other hand is a danger. It can take over the personality and become an obsession, which is never good.

So it's all in the balance, everything in a health portion.


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learner365 5 years ago Author

billabongbob,thank you for the appreciation and yeah we must learn to differentiate between the objective goal and one which is not within our reach,balance is the keyword which is a very essential aspect for our continuous growth towards our targets !!


SanXuary 5 years ago

Perfection is a two way street that should be based on what it is that must be done. When dealing with human nature it can be defeating. I realized at certain times that others hated me for being perfect, not realizing that they had anything to do with it. So I actually made mistakes on purpose to let them know that I am still human. I also discovered that others take no notice until you do mess up. This is called mess up, move up. When you our team building it is good to create a problem and to see how others handle it. This also places them on the spot and allows them to realize how much work must be done to be perfect. In the end none of us are perfect its only a perception or a grade in order to achieve something. The only competition is you and learning from our mistakes is how everyone gets there regardless of what people think. If we are not arrogant or using and judging others it should be all right until you can give yourself a break.


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learner365 5 years ago Author

SanXuary ...thanks for having a look at the Hub.Life is all about learning through your experiences and we cannot claim that no one is flawless.Its all about the individual reactions and how a person deals in various situations.All in all one has to choose the middle ground of maintaining a healthy balance between things!!


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manthy 5 years ago from Alabama,USA

Cool Hub - I agree , I think you can put so much stress on yourself, I think it is best to just simply do the best you can and not worry about it.

ever heard the saying = Nobody's Perfect

Nice writing, voted up and awesome,really make you stop and think


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learner365 5 years ago Author

Manthy...True that anxiety and stress never help and won't make you perfect.The positive attitude is one we should be carrying along in our lives.Thanks a heap for your comment:)


wwolfs 5 years ago

Interesting hub! Everyone does make mistakes and I feel most every one chooses their own degree of excellence and base their standards of others on that too. I also feel most tend to be their own worst critics sometimes causing unnecessary stress and anxiety. I feel balance is the key to perfectionism.

Voted up!


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learner365 5 years ago Author

wwolfs...That is right you have to take care of a certain balance in your response towards things.Perfectionism is a good thing but going over board with something will always not end up in the good sense for you.

Thanks for leaving your feedback on the Hub.Much appreciated:)


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sankari.nayagam 4 years ago

"Perfection is slow death" - love these words of Hugh Prather. When you are perfect always you don't tend to do mistakes and hence you won't learn and go to the next stage. As you have said we should know where and when to be perfect and when to let it loose. Nice thought put in a nice way!

Keep writing!


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learner365 4 years ago Author

sankari.nayagam ....Nice saying by "Hugh Prather" and yeah that is true too much obsession with perfectionism may hinder your progress ahead.

Thank you so much for your encouragement and stopping by.I appreciate much :)


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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

Well done! I totally agree with you!. Vote up.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you very much ishwaryaa22 for your feedback and appreciation :)


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Jlava73 4 years ago from Cyberspace and My Own World

Lately your hubs seem to be speaking to me. Another great write-up! Thanks


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you so much Jlava73 for your very encouraging comment :)

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