Gratitude - Where Does It Lie in the Spectrum of 'Tudes'? - a Perspective
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In determining my voice on this topic, I did a search for words ending in ‘tude’. This is when the internet is a wonderful tool. How in the world would you consult a dictionary for this information? This is what came up: vicissitude, amplitude, ingratitude, desuetude, fortitude, similitude, turpitude, habitude, lassitude, magnitude, solicitude, rectitude, aptitude, beatitude, servitude, attitude, gratitude, multitude, latitude, altitude and longitude.
Wow! My search obviously didn’t list the ‘tudes’ alphabetically. Notice how low on the list gratitude appears? Not to mention the fact that ingratitude appeared third in the list??? Has gratitude fallen that far down on the totem pole? Has it taken a back seat in this world of SEO writing which, I found out the hard way, doesn’t require quality or factuality? With the goal of leading people to websites and no viable information once they land, no wonder gratitude is low on the totem pole!
In my new-found embarkation upon internet writing, I was recently asked by a client why it takes me two days to submit ten five hundred word SEO articles. My response was that I have to research that with which I am not familiar, proof, edit and then proof again. (Not to mention that I feed humans, felines, do laundry, pay bills and run errands all in a day's work!) Oh, the perils (and conveniences) of working from home! Anyway, I was told by this particular client that SEO writing does not require research or quality; it is merely a tool meant to result in an internet searcher landing on a website via the words they place in the search engine - kind of like a spider web. I call this ineptitude (and deceit!), which by the way, failed to appear in my search for ‘tude’ words! Can I add deceititude to the dictionary?
We writers know these ‘lures’ as keywords. But let me tell you something, friends, when I land on a site based on my query, it had damn well better offer me the information I seek! I have seen too many poorly written articles and have learned the hard way, not to believe everything you read! That is a very distressing discovery for this writer who takes pride in her work. Now I know why SEO articles pay $2 per 500 words (if you’re lucky, especially when the client knows you're a newbie !) That is the epitome of ingratitude, not to mention disrespect!
I research, even if given a re-write because I need to ensure accurate information offered through my written word. It must also be grammatically correct, although I’ll throw in a few ‘Shauna’ words to make my articles personal and interesting. Never bore the reader and don’t misinform.
Blithering My Way To the Point
Those of you who don’t know me are wondering what on earth any of this has to do with gratitude. On the other hand, those who know me well know I’m blithering my way to the point. My point is, graciousness can come to you under the guise of selfishness and ego. Be wary, learn, recognize and move forward until you achieve real gratitude.
Unfortunately, those for whom we work, those who reap the profits of our abilities, rarely show gratitude to we who make their ‘high on the hog’ life possible.
Hear me when I say, that is no reason to stop offering what you have to offer! Rather, redirect and be the reaper and bearer of gratitude. Take life into your own hands; grab the bull by the horns and find the door that leads the way to comfort, recognition, and gratification: gratitude.
Gratitude is a noun transforming its adverb forms, gracious and thankful. Precede those words by ‘being or am’ and the sentiment becomes an action (intransitive verb for those who are not familiar with diagramming sentences! Catholic school does have its benefits...).
I’m still not getting to the point, am I? Probably because I’m desperately trying to get there as I go, so bear with me. If I lose you, that’s OK; you wouldn’t understand anyway. Ok, I’ll try to reel my ever wandering mind back to the matter of gratitude. Please forgive the fact that this month’s theme has sent my mind in many directions. Gratitude is not confined; it is a wealth that should be shared when it is recognized. Today’s society does not lend itself to gratitude, whether felt or given; which is another reason I refuse to take off my rose-colored glasses. In my eyes, the world is beautiful and abundant with cause for gratitude.
What Gratitude Means To Me
True gratitude is effortless. It comes forth through your personality and the way you conduct yourself if you’ve been taught to dream, strive and respect all life on earth. Gratitude is the fortitude that carries you forward with pride and direction. It is your determination towards positive living; towards a positive attitude. Gratitude, the act of being thankful, bears the gift of opportunity to give more and do better. It inspires you to strive forth. Gratification is a two way street. Appreciate what is shown, what others offer and let them know they are appreciated. Show your gratitude towards your fellow man.
There’s a more gratifying side to gratitude (see the correlation?). That is gratitude you feel in your soul; directly opposite of gratitude that is extended. I’m talking about gratitude that comes from deep within your soul and comes forth in warmth and colors. Yes, colors. Have you ever seen someone’s aura? We all have one. Get over yourself and look at your fellow man. You will see colors that propel you to see life in a different light – literally!
How often do you show gratitude? How old are you and how did you get here? Have you thanked your parents for giving you the foundation from which you have built your life? Have you thanked friends for being there when you fall? Have you thanked God for giving you all these phenomenal people in your life? Have you thanked Him for Life? Have you thanked Him for being there no matter what?
Gratitude doesn’t display itself in the form of gifts that erode and fade. It displays itself in actions, appreciation, recognition and love. Gratitude is felt, not held. It is intangible but has such great power to motivate, create a smile and warm a heart!
At first, I didn’t know what my take on gratitude would be, but the more I wrote, the more I discovered what gratitude means and what it means to me. I will now leave you with this (poet that I am!):
About the earth
Truth they bring
Until we see that
Doing unto others is
Shauna L Bowling
Refining, Defining, or Rhyming
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Sly and the Family Stone Knows How to Boogie Gratitude!
Please take a moment to see what the rest of the team have to say about gratitude. If you would like to be next month's guest writer, contact MickeySr. December's theme is ' The Charitable Spirit'.
© 2012 Shauna L Bowling
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