Gratitude - Where Does It Lie in the Spectrum of 'Tudes'? - a Perspective

Introduction

The 'Perspectives' series is the brainchild of our beloved MickeySr. When not writing about music, he directs his thoughts to spirituality, which led him to delving into the different perspectives we humans have regarding heartfelt topics. In his infinite wisdom and wanting to bring forth a menagerie of perspectives, he recruited myself, marcoujor (Maria), docmo (Mohan), and martiecoetser (Martie). Together, the five of us are the Perspectives Team.

Each month, we invite a guest writer to join us in offering their perspective. This month, we are honored to have ImKarn23 (Leslie) join us. I'm excited to see what the very colorful heart and soul of Leslie has to offer. She will be an asset, no doubt! If you don't already know Leslie, you will fall in love for sure. She's a trip and one worth following. She makes you smile no matter what you might be feeling on any given day.

Welcome, Leslie!

My love of books led to my love of writing.  For this I feel gratitude.  Is it returned by SEO clients?
My love of books led to my love of writing. For this I feel gratitude. Is it returned by SEO clients? | Source
There's never a good book far from reach.  To those who inspired me, I am forever grateful.
There's never a good book far from reach. To those who inspired me, I am forever grateful. | Source

'tudes'


In determining my voice on this topic, I did a search for words ending in ‘tude’. This is when the internet is a wonderful tool. How in the world would you consult a dictionary for this information? This is what came up: vicissitude, amplitude, ingratitude, desuetude, fortitude, similitude, turpitude, habitude, lassitude, magnitude, solicitude, rectitude, aptitude, beatitude, servitude, attitude, gratitude, multitude, latitude, altitude and longitude.

Wow! My search obviously didn’t list the ‘tudes’ alphabetically. Notice how low on the list gratitude appears? Not to mention the fact that ingratitude appeared third in the list??? Has gratitude fallen that far down on the totem pole? Has it taken a back seat in this world of SEO writing which, I found out the hard way, doesn’t require quality or factuality? With the goal of leading people to websites and no viable information once they land, no wonder gratitude is low on the totem pole!

In my new-found embarkation upon internet writing, I was recently asked by a client why it takes me two days to submit ten five hundred word SEO articles. My response was that I have to research that with which I am not familiar, proof, edit and then proof again. (Not to mention that I feed humans, felines, do laundry, pay bills and run errands all in a day's work!) Oh, the perils (and conveniences) of working from home! Anyway, I was told by this particular client that SEO writing does not require research or quality; it is merely a tool meant to result in an internet searcher landing on a website via the words they place in the search engine - kind of like a spider web. I call this ineptitude (and deceit!), which by the way, failed to appear in my search for ‘tude’ words! Can I add deceititude to the dictionary?

We writers know these ‘lures’ as keywords. But let me tell you something, friends, when I land on a site based on my query, it had damn well better offer me the information I seek! I have seen too many poorly written articles and have learned the hard way, not to believe everything you read! That is a very distressing discovery for this writer who takes pride in her work. Now I know why SEO articles pay $2 per 500 words (if you’re lucky, especially when the client knows you're a newbie !) That is the epitome of ingratitude, not to mention disrespect!

I research, even if given a re-write because I need to ensure accurate information offered through my written word. It must also be grammatically correct, although I’ll throw in a few ‘Shauna’ words to make my articles personal and interesting. Never bore the reader and don’t misinform.


Blithering My Way To the Point


Those of you who don’t know me are wondering what on earth any of this has to do with gratitude. On the other hand, those who know me well know I’m blithering my way to the point. My point is, graciousness can come to you under the guise of selfishness and ego. Be wary, learn, recognize and move forward until you achieve real gratitude.

Unfortunately, those for whom we work, those who reap the profits of our abilities, rarely show gratitude to we who make their ‘high on the hog’ life possible.

Hear me when I say, that is no reason to stop offering what you have to offer! Rather, redirect and be the reaper and bearer of gratitude. Take life into your own hands; grab the bull by the horns and find the door that leads the way to comfort, recognition, and gratification: gratitude.

Gratitude is a noun transforming its adverb forms, gracious and thankful. Precede those words by ‘being or am’ and the sentiment becomes an action (intransitive verb for those who are not familiar with diagramming sentences! Catholic school does have its benefits...).

I’m still not getting to the point, am I? Probably because I’m desperately trying to get there as I go, so bear with me. If I lose you, that’s OK; you wouldn’t understand anyway. Ok, I’ll try to reel my ever wandering mind back to the matter of gratitude. Please forgive the fact that this month’s theme has sent my mind in many directions. Gratitude is not confined; it is a wealth that should be shared when it is recognized. Today’s society does not lend itself to gratitude, whether felt or given; which is another reason I refuse to take off my rose-colored glasses. In my eyes, the world is beautiful and abundant with cause for gratitude.



My parents, to whom I have an overwhelming sense of gratitude.  They've given me undying love, strength, laughter and a solid foundation on which to build myself.
My parents, to whom I have an overwhelming sense of gratitude. They've given me undying love, strength, laughter and a solid foundation on which to build myself. | Source
To God I show gratitude for giving me the best gift of life - my son.
To God I show gratitude for giving me the best gift of life - my son. | Source

What Gratitude Means To Me


True gratitude is effortless. It comes forth through your personality and the way you conduct yourself if you’ve been taught to dream, strive and respect all life on earth. Gratitude is the fortitude that carries you forward with pride and direction. It is your determination towards positive living; towards a positive attitude. Gratitude, the act of being thankful, bears the gift of opportunity to give more and do better. It inspires you to strive forth. Gratification is a two way street. Appreciate what is shown, what others offer and let them know they are appreciated. Show your gratitude towards your fellow man.

There’s a more gratifying side to gratitude (see the correlation?). That is gratitude you feel in your soul; directly opposite of gratitude that is extended. I’m talking about gratitude that comes from deep within your soul and comes forth in warmth and colors. Yes, colors. Have you ever seen someone’s aura? We all have one. Get over yourself and look at your fellow man. You will see colors that propel you to see life in a different light – literally!

How often do you show gratitude? How old are you and how did you get here? Have you thanked your parents for giving you the foundation from which you have built your life? Have you thanked friends for being there when you fall? Have you thanked God for giving you all these phenomenal people in your life? Have you thanked Him for Life? Have you thanked Him for being there no matter what?

Gratitude doesn’t display itself in the form of gifts that erode and fade. It displays itself in actions, appreciation, recognition and love. Gratitude is felt, not held. It is intangible but has such great power to motivate, create a smile and warm a heart!

At first, I didn’t know what my take on gratitude would be, but the more I wrote, the more I discovered what gratitude means and what it means to me. I will now leave you with this (poet that I am!):


Gifted souls

Reel

About the earth

Touching hearts

Incandescently.

Truth they bring

Until we see that

Doing unto others is

Everything.


Peace,

Bravewarrior


Shauna L Bowling

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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Leslie speaks and I listen. Sha speaks and I listen. Why? Because you are both quality human beings who walk the walk and accept no bullshit. Yes, I can respect that, and I will always respect you two.


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MartieCoetser 4 years ago from South Africa

bravewarrior, I have learned the hard way to accept the fact that the majority of people tend to take me (and all others they know) for granted. Gratitude for them had kicked in - or will kick in - after they've lost me. I think most people subconsciously believe that being grateful for what another one means/does for them, is acknowledging the fact that they are less wonderful/perfect/competent/etc. So wrong! Because each and everyone of us has a specific purpose and meaning for another, and we should recognize and acknowledge this.

Thought-provoking hub, voted up!


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marcoujor 4 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

Sha na na na na na... you got me singing Sly on a day that I am ever so grateful to be a member of this community.

For the record, I followed you from start to finish...love your soul train of thought and love you even more.

Voted UP and UABI...excellent work! Love, Maria


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shiningirisheyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

I had the pleasure of reading one of Leslie's hubs and fell in love with her immediately. Like my dear friend Shauna, she pulls no punches and provides honesty and sincerity. You, my wonderful friend are always providing me a fabulous example of gratitude. Your perspective on so many issues including this wonderful hub are a shining example.

What a beautiful family you also have.

Love you and send blessings, prayers and fireflies your way.

Voting up and sharing.

Love,

Beckie XO


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lrc7815 4 years ago from Central Virginia

Train of thought? Did Maria say train of thought? I thought this was a typical trainwreck of my sister's brain on the steroids of life and I loved every single sentence. What I like best about you Shauna is that you...are you and I am so glad someone lit the dynomite to get you writing again. Yeah! You are outspoken, rebellious, tough, and a big old mush-ball when it comes to matters of the heart. I saw all those things in this hub which I think is awesome, beautiful, interesting, useful, funny, and worthy of a vote up! So glad to have you spewing again.


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ImKarn23 4 years ago

Whaaaa??? You " feed humans, felines, do laundry, pay bills and run errands" too???

Lol..how dare you!!

Awesome fun hub Shauna! Thanks so much for mentioning me and for giving me this opportunity to be part of your group!


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fpherj48 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Bravewarrior (Sha)....You "blithered" your way through, superbly. Your creativity shines, your heart loves and your words inspire!

What a lovely family.......and what a talent you are! Just so you know, we can all be grateful for writer-friends like you. Warm wishes for a blessed Thanksgiving. Awesome hub, Sha!....UP+++ and shared.


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KrisL 4 years ago from S. Florida

All right!

Gratitude is so key . . . sometimes I have to squeegie my mood off the floor before I can feel it, but once I do, I can soar, even in dark days.

Voted "beautiful" and shared.

(By the way, most of the links to the other gratitude hubs are not clickable: you probably will want to fix that)


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Docmo 4 years ago from UK

Ah Sha, you are an elegant etymologist, fun loving philanthropist and a peerless poet. You have enough 'tude' to fuel a herd of wild bison. Love your hub and its 'stream of consciousness' narrative style. ACE.


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bravewarrior 4 years ago from Central Florida Author

Holy Mackeral, guys! You floor me!

Bill: I love you so. You're always the first to comment when I post. I need to learn how to juggle time - I just haven't gotten it down yet. Thanx for your comment; it means the world to me and that's not BS!

Martie: I'm glad you were able to stick with my blithering! Yes, we get taken for granted, but that doesn't knock me down!

Maria: I hope Sly picked up your mood. Great song, isn't it?

Beckie: What can I say? You are very dear to me and melt my heart with every word you breathe. Thank you for your friendship and my beloved lightning bugs!

Linda: You're a trip. I have been writing, just not for HP, although I want to. By the time I finish working for peanuts each day, I'm too burned out to do any more. I was thinking the other day, I sure wish I could write what I want, as on HP, and earn a living. Creativity is so much more me than writing for topics assigned to me. Ugh!

Leslie: will they never understand the world of the single working mom? It all falls in our lap, but they wonder why we don't devote all our time to their needs (employers, clients, etc.) I say 'hrrrumph' to that! Glad you joined us, I'm going to your perspective shortly.

Paula: If anyone can follow my 'blithering' it's you! Your words are too kind. (what no jokes? Hello, Paula, is that really you????) :-)

Kris: thanx for stopping by. I noticed the link issue. I think I've fixed it, but need to test them. Thanx for the heads up. And keep soaring!

Doc: you crazy man. I had to look up 'etymologist' to make sure you weren't calling me a nasty name! Ha ha. Ummm.... what does ACE mean?


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

Gratitude, What does it mean? It means saying, " Thank you " to those in the past who helped guide your way. At the time it didn't seem significant, but as you matured you looked back and saw they were the solid ground that guided you into the being you are today, Now, I must admit there were snares every step of the way and sometimes you went ahead and was trapped in the snares, but the lessons taught, never left you. Sometimes they grew dim as you said, " I can do this, it is my life, go away." I love this Martie. Made me dig deep once again..Thank you my friend..


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always exploring 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

I am sorry Sha. I have read so many hubs about gratuide. I meant to say, " I love this Sha" Thank you..Cheers


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bravewarrior 4 years ago from Central Florida Author

No problem, always! I can relate to the jumble! Yes, you are so right. Through much of our lives, we rebel against what we are taught only to grow up and be thankful for the never-ending lessons. They make us who we are. Thank God we have people in our lives who never give up on us!

Enjoy your day!


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rcrumple 4 years ago from Kentucky

I'm just sitting back awaiting your next tremendous offering. You get better and better with everything you present to us. I'd discuss the hub, but we all know it was a great one. I just want to tell you how good you really are and how far you've continued to grow. Shauna, truly a great job!


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LaThing 4 years ago from From a World Within, USA

Great article, Sha! Wonderfully written, and lovely read! There are so many things to show gratitude for, from our life, health, to people around us, and the whole universe! Wonderful topic and enjoyed it a lot :)

Hugs......


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bravewarrior 4 years ago from Central Florida Author

Rich, what an awesome comment! You're beginning to rival Bill for the first spot in my unofficial fan club! ha ha. Seriously, your comment has made my day, Rich. Thank you so much!

Lizzie, your praise has gone straight to my heart. Enjoy your Sunday and have a great Thanksgiving!


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Sunshine625 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

I am thankful for your 'tude. A 'tude says a lot about a person. A 'tude could make or break you. You rock your 'tude!


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bravewarrior 4 years ago from Central Florida Author

Linda, you rock that you think I rock that we all rock! Ha ha!! Love your 'tude' too!!

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