The Bully - Prose

Poem - The Bully

I awoke this morning with the memory of a dream and it made me sad...

You are only a child
Yet you have so much power
My son's future is being affected
His esteem shrinks hour by hour
I sit quietly wondering
Why a kind boy must suffer
He endures all your taunts
Along with his helpless father
We wait for a new day
When only his character will be judged
But will his physical stature
Give birth to a life-long grudge?
I pray for relief
In my son's mind
He does not deserve this
Yet life can be so unkind
Why must he avert his eyes
And shrink from view
Because he is not Atlas
And their scorn he cannot subdue
My son I love you so
I know the pain you hide
It is within me too
Together we make the painful ride
One day we will emerge
No longer heeding their taunts
They will vanish into our history
But what will be your response?
Take leave of the need to prove
And the obsession with their words
You will emerge the victor
And your fruit will adorn the orchards
Of a world that is understanding
That knows of your gifts
Take my hand my son
Let us forget these rifts
I will tell you who you are
I will place your worth before all
You will not be defeated
Because one day you will
stand tall

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debbiesdailyviews 6 years ago

Absolutely beautiful.

And very emotional. I enjoy your work very much.

Remember the meek shall inherit the earth...


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

thank you debbie... it tears me up on the inside... he's not being physically bullied but mentally and I just can't believe it... I know he has to adjust somehow but it's sad how the physical dominance of a samll group of boys in the 8th grade rule the world and impact the others for years to come....


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debbiesdailyviews 6 years ago

HI,

Yes you are right, all our hearts go out to you both.

If only you could wiz 5yrs into the future, there would be your Son's life full of security wrapped in the love and respect of his family, this alone will no doubt surge him forward to Excel in his life.

And quite by the very nature of a bully's life, your Son will see where this behaviour got them in their lives.

The silly thing is, the very reason a Bully get's through the day, is rage of jealousy. And the person they attack, is the very person they are jealous of.

The reason they are angry with your Son, is they Envy the love and support he has.

If you knocked on the door's of the family's all involved here, because this is what you're dealing with really. You won't find peace and harmony behind those closed doors.

Please keep us all posted on this awful time in both your son's, and your lives. this issue concerns us all.

It is very upsetting, and unacceptable,

You have the thoughts of us all, of that I'm sure


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you Debbie... you know... just a few more inches and it will be moot unless he continues to see himself in this way. The mind is hard to tame.... I truly appreciate you taking the time to care and to write these things. You may be right about what happens with the bully's family. It seems a parent must stress the importance of not hurting others and stick with the message.

My son enjoys war movies and I have to remind him that in real life the bullets kill. He goes "I know Dad." I'm not someone who is active pacifest but I think he should know that violence on tv can translate to violence in real life if he sees real people the same way that video games portray.


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Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

Hi, that was amazing. It showed everything that was true about being bullied, rated up and everything! cheers nell


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you Nell... writing is all I can do at this time and help keep his chin up.... thank you for commenting.


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debbiesdailyviews 6 years ago

I agree, we are living in the world where young people think life is like a video game.

I't shows in the language they use on each other, the way they drive car's, ( which are also death traps in the wrong hands, such as guns )

And the threats they use on each other.

But the thing they don't seem to get is,, Unlike the games they watch and play, when a person is stabbed, shot, run over, etc.. they don't get up from it like they do on the games. there isnt another level to get to. It's the end.

And I tell you what, they say school days are the times of your life.

I would'nt be a kid today for all the tea in china.

Kids where always cruel, but by comparison, the kids today are sometimes evil.

That even shocks me to say this. And I'm not saying it lightly, as they are equipped, or should I say armed with freedom of speach, and amazing opportunities that we did not have, and look what they are doing with it all...

It's seems to me, in today's world, it's all about the have's, and has not!!

Which brings us smack bang back to this problem your son is troubled with bless him.

They want what he has got, and that maybe is'nt about material things, your son is enverloped in Love, something clearly lacking in his misguided school enemies. sad lives.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

It's a combination of anesthesia of empathy from the video games and the power gained from an impotent school in fear of parental retribution. I believe the parents are so busy seeking personal fulfillment (not that I am not guilty of this) that they would rather deny the problem than solve it.

The message of domination is ubiquitous in the video games and frankly in the war. There have always been bullys and war but in the past the authorities could operate with the power that is needed. The "board of education" was alive and well in my day. And we knew where the line was drawn. Now the line has been swept over...

I'm not trying to turn this into a corporal punishment discussion because I understand there are controversies on both sides; it is merely an example of how lax things have become...


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debbiesdailyviews 6 years ago

See how scared we are today,

I bet you worried about PC comments... and thats another area that has led to the wold gone MAD.

I get what you were saying, and thats whats happened to some extent in schools, the teacher's are afraid of the kids, and sometimes the parents are scared of the kids.

The kids havent got anything to be scared of, except bullys, and they maybe bully to take it out of someone else, because they themselves are being bullied.

Oh my, When we were younger, the saying Sticks and stones, had some clout,

Not now though, the words the kids spurt, are real threat's, and venom.

And those words really do hurt.


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My Esoteric 6 years ago from Keystone Heights, FL

Wonderful words. Brings back the old days. My size, when young, tended to keep it to a minimum but my demeanor tended to encourage bullying. Had to deal with it on my own though. It passed and all is well.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

debbie,

You are perceptive concerning PC comments.... it's tough to say things without opening yourself up to harsh criticism and I'm not here for a fight with anyone. Nothing is perfect. Every idea has it's flaws. Every idea has it's action and reaction. It's tough to know what is the right thing to do.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you for your comments Esoteric... maybe I'm over-reacting but as a parent it hits you in the gut sometimes. He's with me now handing out candy tonight and is in good spirits. Maybe he's more resilient than I am......


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maggs224 6 years ago from Sunny Spain

It's always easier to go through unpleasant things yourself than to watch your child go through them.

I think that most parents would take on the unpleasantness and hurt in their children’s place if it meant that the bullies would then leave their children alone. Of course that is not an option and in practice complaining to the school can often lead to more bullying rather than solve the problem.

Bullying is not a new problem it happened in my schooldays over fifty years ago and the English classic ‘Tom Brown’s School Days’ deals with the subject of bullying very powerfully. This book was set in the 1830’s and it is thought that the principal character in the book Tom Brown is based upon the author’s younger brother George and his experiences in the school at Rugby.

I suspect bullying has gone on for as long as there have been people living together in communities.

Your son is blessed to have parents who love and care about him. The way we treat others says far more about us than it does them. In the case of a bully you wonder what is being modelled for them at home by their parents.

It is plain to see that love, compassion, empathy and kindness will not be featured at the top of the bullies’ list when it comes to their home lives. There is an old English saying 'The apple does not fall far from the tree.'

There is a web-site called Kidpower which show you skills that kids can use right away when dealing with bullies in schools. I think that you and your son might benefit from reading this here is the link http://www.kidpower.org/resources/articles/prevent...


scriber1 6 years ago

As someone who grew up on the wrong side of the tracks, I experienced bullying first hand for many years as a child. What always got me through was -- and instead of wishing I wasn't there -- was learning how to be where I was, when I was........one day at a time. All the best to the both of you.


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debbiesdailyviews 6 years ago

There would not be one single person that would see anything but goodness in your heart Suburban Poet.

And everyone on here knowing your plight will be 100% behind you, We all only wish there was something we could do.

Without a shadow of doubt though, you can be proud of yourself as a loving Father, and be very proud of your Son, for he turns up everyday to School, knowing what may befall him.

And with a heavy Heart that Boy get's through each day.

And he does that knowing at the end of each day, he will be cared for, and loved, and supported.

That Boy will make you so proud. Just you wait and see,


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Maggs, Scribert and Debbie... I am glad I had that dream; if not I wouldn't have written the piece and not received your collective support and wisdom along with Nell and Esoteric. This has been a true blessing in every way and I will revisit this hub in the future for reassurance....

My son was very happy last night giving candy out to the children and there were lot's of hugs. So corny but the feelings were priceless....


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debbiesdailyviews 6 years ago

Not corny at all, to be known as a family man, and a great father, is about the best thing a man can be known for.

You are a lovely person aswell. And now we know, he's his farther's son.

He will beat them mentaly hands down.

Look forward to reading more poems, keep them going you're very gifted.

Kind Regards


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Well I don't know if I'm the classic family man but I do love my children and there is no ambiguity about that. I have much confidence in his future as an honest and caring human being... if we can just get out of the 8th grade!!!!


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b. Malin 6 years ago

I think to be mentally bullied is the worst....Look at our world today...We have many grownup bullies...Your son will make it because you and your husband are good parents and your son knows you are there for him. Your son is a bright sensitive boy with brains. Some of the best and brightest were bullied as children. Treasure the good times and know that your strength will be his as well.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

You are right b. Malin... I think my pride in him is very important and I take every opportunity to let him know that I am proud to be with him at all times....


Quietest Moments 6 years ago

We fear the unknown, may I make a suggestion?.. get the names of the bullies from your son, informing your son that the bullies will be invited over for a pizza night, so they may interact with that which they fear and will see they have nothing to fear.. as a matter of fact, may end up with a great friend.. Just a suggestion.. Best to you and your son..


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you QM... that's an excellent idea though I did take one of the boys with us on my son's birthday party to a paintball range... it seems when I'm around the boy softens his tone.... how about that...


Quietest Moments 6 years ago

:) exactly. ..there are as many followers as leaders when it comes to children.. eventually the leader will be alone as the followers become friends of your son, your family.. Good Luck!


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

My son told me his friends think I'm cool so I kind of believe that if the bully thinks that then he will lighten up.... thanks again.


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

I have a lot (too many anyway) stories of bullies. They usually wear pink frilly underwear. They really have low esteem. Their actions will return to them. There's always a bigger bully. Sometimes little "David" takes Goliath out.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thanks Micky... yeah time catches up... that's what I tell my son... he didn't seem impressed with the old "the bigger they are the harder they fall."


Doug Turner Jr. 6 years ago

Nice job getting to the heart of what makes being bullied so painful and belittling.


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Nellieanna 6 years ago from TEXAS

Dear heart, I'm overwhelmed with the intensity of this and it is quite personal to me in several respects.

Having said that, now I guess I"m going to have to apply "tough love", with your indulgence. It is what I would advise my own granddaughter who is the mother of 15 year old boy and a 13 year old girl. These beloved great-grandkids of mine happen to be biracial kids, which can’t be easy for them. Fortunately, I guess, they’re large and well-built for their ages, probably helping them be a little more bully-proof. But for the girl, perhaps not.

Here's my take on dealing with bullies:

Having first married a bully to end all bullies and enduring it for 18 years, I can say that the single most important thing is to not assume the "victim" role and mentality. Along with that, equally important, is to not assume any characteristic of the same mindset as the bully.

The bully wins if he can convert the target to take up any of his own evil tactics. That says in many ways that the bully wins, both about one's own standards being wrong and about his being right.

And as much as one wants to sympathetize and empathetize with your son, in a strange sort of way, doing so reassures him that he IS, indeed, weak - as he most fears. Any focus and emphasis on the bullies and bullying seems to be giving them & their ways your recognition and ATTENTION (and kids crave attention above all else - and measure their worth on how much of it they feel they merit!).

Of course his good qualities need abundant encouragement AND FOCUS, and one of the important ways is by non-verbally denying his “enemies” your attention and by reassuing him that his qualities ARE the strong, worthy and WINNING qualities by letting him FEEL they are and that he is strong enough to protect himself with them as they ARE, rather than NEEDING a lot of other assistance and backup. That says volumes. How he feels about himself is the issue here, not how the bullies act, think, speak or try to get the upper hand. It's a mental domination struggle and bullies tend to move on from someone who is not being impressed with their bravado.

In a way - and I’m proof of it - growing up does not insulate one against bullies. Merely feeling the need to avoid them does not work. They are always out there and if one wants to survive among them without becoming one, then one must refine the non-bully strengths one has. Being overly protected actually projects the sense of weakness and/or inadequacy and denies him the chance to test his own mettle, as it were. He must find out that he doesn't have to become a bully to beat a bully and that the strongest resistance he has is not letting it change him from his own strength in being himself. In a subtle way, your concern is scaring him.

Of course - you can say - and be right - that I can say it because I’m not presently living it or involved in it. But one reason for that is that I learned what I had to when I did live it. And I do say it with a strong feeling of love for you and your son and a great deal of empathy!


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Doug - this one came from my heart because a parent's love for their child is overwhelming at times. You feel sad for them and it's hard not to obsess... but he played football last night and was happy... so maybe I'm just over-reacting...


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Nellieanna -

Thank you for taking the time to care and to give your advice. Of course you are correct but in my own defense I believe I am instintively following your advice as I do not discuss it with him directly. My poem reveals my inner frustrations but I do not project this "woes is me" attitude onto him. At least I hope I do not. I will continue to revisit this hub as your advice along with the others is very wise and comforting.

You seem to have endured more than your share of problems in life and it is wonderful to see you being reflective and introspective versus projecting a bitter attitude about life. I admire you for that.


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Nellieanna 6 years ago from TEXAS

Thank you. There is no room for bitterness if one wants to be fully alive. And as years go by, that becomes the more desirable. It's all choices, but many times we make them unaware we are - though they accumulate just the same. The only way to avoid having a majority of the wrong ones is to INTERNALIZE what it best for oneself so it need not always be consciously considered.

I am not surprised that you knew not to show your son your concern directly. You are a sensitive person, and of course - these tribulations he's enduring hurt you inwardly.

It seems to be so much worse these days, this bullying, lack of courtesy and decency - the civiility which at one time we could somewhat expect and take for granted. Children have always had some "mean" streaks if they could get away with it - but time was, they couldn't, at least not in the general scenarios they all had to share. If a kid ventured into the back alleys, I'm sure it was rampant. But at school, there were overseers to keep things acceptable - and they had enough authority to do so.

I remember walking home from school at no more than 7 or 8, - with a schoolmate carrying my books (he later became the district judge!) - and some "nasty" boys from another area rode by on bicycles trying to taunt us and made ugly remarks and gestures to me. My friend wore thick glasses and wasn't their size or age, but he showed enough spunk & chivalry (and I was nearly home, too!) and so that was all of it, thankfully. But it is still indelible on my mind. I don't know how it might have played out if I'd been walking alone & was further from my house. And I always walked to & from everywhere.


Amie Warren 6 years ago

Having your child being hurt is such a helpless feeling. It makes you feel bereaved.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Thank you for commenting Amie... yes it hurts deeply to see your child suffer... I have to tell myself to let him deal with it when I think a coach is being unfair or a teacher is wrong in her assessment. I've talked to him about tough situations other than bullying and he told me that he'd rather I not intervene so I just watch silently and let it roll... luckily nothing really serious has happened.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Nellianna... chivalry was alive and well! I'm not sure if this has filtered down to middle schoolers but in my view the internet has destroyed civility. The anonymity of the posters enables emotionally disturbed people to take their rage out on each other. I experienced this first hand. Also our country has become so politicized that people have taken public sides and are bashing one another over their political beliefs. Maybe the parents are passing these things onto their kids. It's hard to say but it's out there.

Thank you again for posting such informed comments on my hubs.


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JayDeck 6 years ago from New Jersey

I was bullied when I was young. At first it was mental, name calling, verbal abuse, etc. Then I realized my size, which they made fun of, could be an asset when dealing with the bully. Though I didn't become a bully, per se; I did respond to the constant verbal and occasional physical bullying with a quick tempered physical response. Due to my size, I was successful insofar as the bullying stopped. However, it took several years and a military tour to realize that there are very few reasons to resort to violence, and bullying isn't one of them. I learned that responding physically limits you to just that, responding physically, and removes your power to choose any other course. I also learned that it takes an emotional toll on you similar to the bullying itself.

Unfortunately, as others have mentioned, it doesn't stop. Though there are few who would dare physically bully me (I'm a big guy), there are all kinds of bullies. I try, now, to follow the philosophy of forgiving people their limitations. I just forgive them and move on, if I can. Then there are those I must see regularly. After many subtle attempts to curb her behavior, I once took a woman aside after a meeting, she was an 'intellectual' bully, and said, "I am a happy, respected, and loved person. I have forgiven your behavior, many times, because I recognize the same is not true for you, but if you insist on demeaning me during meetings, I will be forced to respond in front of our colleagues and, quite frankly, I am smarter than you are." I walked away as she said, "Excuse me?" She talked plenty behind my back, I am sure, but she never again tried to 'dress me down' at a meeting.

My points, as long winded and lost in my monologue as they are, are two. First, you are right not to counsel the physical response so many fathers train their sons for. It just leads to a different type of stress and more problems. Second, a close friend of mine is just a tad over 5'4". I emailed him on this and asked if there were things he said, in response to verbal abuse, that worked better than others in stopping it. His exact words were, "You just have to own it."

When I was a little kid, my parents called me Jay B (jaybee) to distinguish me from my Father, also a Jay. Kids called me jaybee baby. My Mother told me to respond with "Excellent rhyming, _______. What other rhymes do you know?" That worked until they figured out other words that rhymed with my first and last name.

My friend's and my Mother's point is that you have to take away the power the words have over you, or at least make the bully believe it. If they think it means nothing to you,they'll move on eventually.

I hope this helps, though I know it's not likely. I remember how bad it can be and the damage it causes and wish I could give you the magical solution that works, but I suspect that the only long term solution is surviving it. Having loving and supportive parents will be a good resource for that.Of course you can always take the bully aside and say, "I am a happy, respected, and loved person..."

Thanks for making us think.

-Jay B


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Jay,

First thank you for taking the time to comment. I'm amazed at the response to this write-up. I knew bullying is all around us and at all ages but until you say something you think you are the only one suffering. I was lucky in that I was never bullied. I think my sense of humor saved me in middle school and high school which goes to your point of maybe owning something; in my case it would be the tone of the conversation.

I will remember everything you said and if my son happens to bring something up about this I'll talk to him about a response that is filled with casual immunity. As you said you have to show them that it's not getting to you somehow. Then maybe just maybe they'll slowly begin building respect.

As mentioned before I have made it a point to get to know some of the bigger boys (I have begun volunteering for school activities) and they now say hello to me openly and linger. I think my eye contact with them has helped in some way. They know I'm out there. I'm very freindly and talk football easily with them plus I am in pretty good physical condition (if you read my bio you will see that they call me Chuck Norris) so I think they think I'm cool and all that. But I don't sit and hold a pity party with my son. I agree that would be a big mistake.

I had a work bully as you experienced. He was a smallish fellow who actually was the most brilliant numbers guy I've encountered, before or since. He used to dress people down openly in meetings and it wore me out. I had an exchange with him and it was tense because he was my boss. Did it work? Well, I was laid off about four months later but then that company was sold so I never knew if my comments resulted in my demise. He never berated me openly again after that. But I wouldn't necessarily recommend what I did to anyone; however, it's tough when you are at the end of the rope and the tension of going to work is at the breaking point. Luckily today I am in a very healthy work environment.

We all have our fears and this one lurks inside my heart and mind and it's been a tremendous experience to see the comments here from such thoughtful people.

Thank you again.


rx4u 6 years ago

OK SP- enough of the Fluff-Stuff! If you know who the bully is, approach him smiling (so as not to alert him) then slowly lean over and whisper- "If you don't leave my kid alone, I am going to pin you down and pluck out your eyelashes one at a time!" You are after all "Chuck Norris" right? :)


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acaetnna 6 years ago from Guildford

My oh my you truly wrote this from your heart and look at the totally awesome comments you have received! Gosh there is nothing worse than a bully and when it happens to your own child I simply can't imagine how this must feel.This is a great hub and you have very clearly touched a nerve here.


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Hey RX... maybe we need to shove some Ritalin or whatever down his throat! I like the eyebrow approach... you're scary!


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

acaetnna,

It's been awesome to see the responses with the very real feelings and great advice. Bullying comes in all forms and all times of our life. I'm glad this came out for everyone to add their 2 cents. It's been a blessing....


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maven101 6 years ago from Northern Arizona

TSP...Thank you for this heart-rending and thoughtful expression of every bullied child's parents dilemma when confronted with bullying...

My own experience with handling bullying because of a severe stuttering problem as a teen, has given me an inner strength and self-confidence that has carried me successfully through life's many challenges...A little Russian Nun named Sister Kazamara took me under her angelic wings and taught me about assertiveness...a lesson I have never forgot.

Bullying is not about what the perpetrator meant; it is about what the recipient felt...power is in the perception of the receiver or perceiver, not the wielder... Responding to the bully can take three forms: Giving In ( Submissive ), Hurting Back ( Aggressive ), or Standing Up ( Assertive )...Assertive responses neither provoke the bully nor reward him or her with submission... An assertive manner also provides a child with an air of self-confidence and a sense of control that can deter a bully’s approach from the start...

Being a father was the happiest and most rewarding times of my life...I envy the challenges awaiting you, which I know you will meet with intelligence and patience, lots of patience...Take care, my friend, Larry


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The Suburban Poet 6 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Maven,

Thank you for the heartfelt and insightful response. This poem has clearly opened up deep feelings in many people and I'm grateful that I was able to articulate what I was feeling because these responses will remain with me forever. I thought life was hard until I experienced the helplessness of watching my children suffer. It takes much strength not to be aggressive as my initial inclination is always to fly in and save the day. But I know my son has to work through these things on his own or it will create problems later in his life.

I've received some private emails about this poem and it's sad to see so many people who had to endure abuse at the hands of a bully. I wrote another piece called "It's Not Your Fault" which was inspired by a woman's story of being abused by her Father. It just makes me sick when the helpless are taken advantage of by the strong.

Thanks again.


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Joshua Kell 5 years ago from Arizona

Great words. Thank you, I know exactly where you are coming from.


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The Suburban Poet 5 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@Joshua - thank you. Interestingly I attended a boy scout merit badge work shop ealrier today and the boys were giving a five minute speech for a communications merit badge. One of the boys gave his speech about bullying and then I get online and here you are commenting on this dormant hub... wierd!


xcvbnn 4 years ago

i hate this


kitty 4 years ago

i love this poem very much.It is very intersted.


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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@xcvbnn - I'm sorry this poem makes you hate anything. Is it the poem itself or the subject?

@kitty - Thank you. It is something that I worried about for my son's sake but he is older and it seems these worries are no longer valid.


Vincent Moore 4 years ago

My friend disregard the negatives in a reply/comment. This work is meaningful and to the point. Bullying is a rampant disease in schools. I never experienced it as a boy as I was one of the toughest kids in my school, however me and a friend protected others from the Bullies as they didn't belong in our school and many parents were to afraid to speak out, so we did it for them and put the bully in his place. Back then it was only boys bullying now it's both boys and girls doing the damage.

I experienced this with my youngest son who was 15 at the time, let me tell you, Dad put a stop to it. How? by exerting pressure on the principle and teachers to take a stand and they did, the bully stopped, it ended quickly. My son grew to 6 ft by the time he reached grade 12 and believe me, know one tried bullying him again.

Sadly there are many children who hide it from their parents and suffer in their world of being bullying. I encourage every parent to watch out for the signs and nip it in the bud quickly. Speak out LOUD AND CLEAR to the school authorities before it becomes to late and you lose a child to suicide. It's happening, very sad indeed. It can be stopped but we as responsible parents have to STAMP it out with non-violence technique.

Great poem my friend, thank you for speaking out and sharing. Voted Up awesome, interesting and USEFUL. I'm sharing this on my FB page.


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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

Wow! Thank you my friend. I don't know why someone would be moved to "hate" what I wrote. It's very odd. It's not like it's an inflammatory religious or political hit piece. I'm willing to be criticized for form or amatuerism but the message was one of support for those who are meek and unable to defend themselves. That is all I was trying to say.

I think it's great that you were able to get the administrators to respond. I've heard that is not always the case. I admit to harboring fears that my son was hiding things from me out of shame but I keep telling him to let me know so I can help him. I have to be careful how I say it because I think sometimes a child worries that the parent will go overboard somehow and make his life even worse. I would be a total and out of control wreck if my son killed himself over something that I could have helped with but at this point I believe everything is ok. He is in a private school and they are pretty strict. They kicked out a 9th grader that my son knew because he was harrassing one of the girls so they don't take any BS.

Anyway the subject is very emotional and very real to both students and parents alike. And bullying as you know goes on into adulthood but in different ways. You have to be able to cope and diffuse the situation. Life ain't easy. THANK YOU AGAIN FOR ALL YOUR SUPPORT. I'm just a normal guy out here trying to express myself and my feelings. I don't have any illusions about the art in terms of it's worth or value but I do hope that I can create a feeling amongst those who read my work that I am human and I have feelings.


uio 4 years ago

lovely


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PDXKaraokeGuy 4 years ago from Portland, Oregon

very nice message. I hope children and adults currently bullied will read this and be encouraged.


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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

@uio - Thank you!

@PDX - THank you. I hope it helps someone. This is a personal subject for me because my son is not the biggest kid around and I didn't like the way some of his friends took advantage of him. But it seems like things are better now...


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PDXKaraokeGuy 4 years ago from Portland, Oregon

glad to hear that things are better, Mark


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The Suburban Poet 4 years ago from Austin, Texas Author

They are PDX... thanks again..

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