How To Help Save Abused Children From Dangerous Family Laws

Australia, is there really a choice?

A Quick Run Down On What This Hub Is About

If you look online, you will find overwhelming amounts of documented evidence and a great many blogs discussing the unforeseen effects that Shared Parenting Laws have had on abused children in Australia and in numerous other countries around the world, including the UK, Canada and the US, and you will get an idea of just how many parents are facing similar dilemmas.

I feel we all have a duty of care to these children, and I plead with you all to make their cases heard. Our children cannot speak for themselves!

Below, I have include links to many resources where you can find more information and/or become active in the fight to get current laws amended.


But I'm Only One Person - What Can I do about it?

One drop raises the ocean!

  • Find out more about it
  • Tell your friends and family about it
  • Write about it on your blogs
  • Sign petitions
  • Attend protest rallies
  • Write to your politicians
  • Join groups supporting the cause on FaceBook



"Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek"

- Barack Obama

(Please Note: Every point in the lists below is a click-able link that will take you to a related site featuring more information/ articles/ petitions/ groups/ etc...)


Find Out More About It - Links to Information, News Articles, etc...

Some statistics on Abuse

A survey of 130 abused parents found that 76% of the 148 children
ordered by the courts to have contact with their estranged parent were
said to have been abused during visits: 10% were sexually abused; 15%
were physically assaulted; 26% were abducted or involved in an abduction
attempt: 36% were neglected during contact, ...and 62% suffered emotional
harm. Most of these children were under the age of 5 (Radford, Sayer &
AMICA, 1999.)

Further more: 70% of children living in UK refuges have been abused by their father.
(Bowker et al., 1998)

79% of women leave their violent partner because the abuse is affecting their children or they fear for their children's lives. - Humphreys and Thiara (2002)

‎"Relationship to perpetrator: Around two-thirds (66%) of men physically assaulted during the last 12 months said that the perpetrator was a stranger. In contrast, women were less likely to be physically assaulted by a stranger (22%) than by
someone they knew (82%). Almost a third (31%) of women physically
assaulted said that the perpetrator was a current or previous partner,
and 37% reported their attacker as being a family member or friend (see Australian Social Trends 2007, Women's experience of partner violence).
Women were also most likely to be sexually assaulted by someone known
to them (89%), with 29% of those sexually assaulted reporting that the
perpetrator was a current or previous partner, and 39% a family member
or friend."

A study of 200 women’s experiences of domestic violence commissioned
by Women’s Aid, found that 60% of the women had left because they
feared that they or their children would be killed by the perpetrator.
(Humphreys & Thiara, 2002).

In the same study, 76% of separated women suffered post-separation
violence. Of these women:
- 76% were subjected to continued verbal and emotional abuse;
- 41% were subjected to serious threats towards themselves or their
children;
- 23% were subjected to physical violence;
- 6% were subjected to sexual violence;
- 36% stated that this violence was ongoing.
In addition to this, more than half of those with post-separation child
contact arrangements with an abusive ex-partner continued to have
serious, ongoing problems with this contact (Humphreys and Thiara,
2002)

MYTH: Children are not being placed at risk by court ordered contact
FACT: A recent report stated that there are 'serious concerns that contact is
being inappropriately ordered in cases where there are established
risks' (Hunt and Roberts Child contact with non-resident parents 2004 )

42% of all female homicide victims, compared with 4% of male homicide
victims, were killed by current or former partners in England and Wales in the year 2000/01. This equates to 102 women, an average of 2 women each week (Home Office, 2001...).

Between 50% and 60% of women mental health service users have experienced domestic violence, and up to 20% will be experiencing current abuse. (Department of Health, 2003; Bowstead, Janet, 2000; ReSisters, 2002).

From April 2000 to June 2001 there were 30,314 offences under the
Protection from Harassment Act 1997 in London alone (Metropolitan
Police Service). A study carried out by the Home Office found that more
than a third (41%) of cases brought to ...the courts under the Protection from Harassment Act 1997, the suspect had previously had an intimate
relationship with the complainant. 33% of the suspects were ex-partners, 4% were relatives, 1% a current partner and 4% were friends. In situations where the suspect previously or currently had an intimate relationship with the victim, 94% of the suspects were men (Home Office Research Study 203, 2000).

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CuAllaidh 23 months ago from Alberta Canada

Of course it is not just the male parents who are given access despite violence. I have taken my exwife to court because of direct threats to my life and the live of my child, and due to her assaulting her boyfriend and three police officers in front of my child, in both cases my access deminished and hers increased to the point I started out with primary custody and my ex with mid week visits occasionally, and every other weekend (which she frequently didn't take) to basically I get visitation when it suits my exwife. There has never been so much as an implication of violence against me, but my ex has had to be removed from my property twice by police, and she broke into my home once while I was not there. So ya.... not a fan of family law.


work accident attorney 5 years ago

It is sad that so many children in this country and others are being abused. I think safety has to come first and all necessary steps taken to protect our children.


Indianapolis SEO 5 years ago

I can't believe that a government would be in favor of this. How could you allow your children, the future of your country, to suffer at the hands of abusers and not actively try to solve the issue??


Indianapolis Auto Dealers 5 years ago

This is such a great list of resources! The shared parenting laws in other countries are outrageous and something has to be done to stop them! Thanks for standing up for the children!


Surety Bail Bond 5 years ago

child abuse is a horrible thing that is apart of our society, I think everything that can be done to protect our children should be. Even if it protecting them from an abusive parent, and emotional abuse is just as damaging. Thanks for posting all the different ways people can help out or be helped.


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WannaB Writer 6 years ago from Templeton, CA

I was personally involved in going to court with a friend whose children were forced to spend time with their father after an ugly divorce, and the children would be dreading having to go. He kept fighting for custody, requiring many court visits, and the judge seemed to have the deck stacked against women. You have provided a lot of helpful resources for women in similar situations and worse.


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Artisina 6 years ago from Sacramento

The more people that become aware of the damage that child abuse and sexual abuse can do, the less of it we will see. We need to be hero's for those that have no voice or are too afraid to speak out. I took on a child molester of one of my daughters friend. Her mother did divorce him but the damage was done. The girl has made a good life for herself but the damage remains and colors her life in a number of ways. Thank you for being proactive and putting in all these links. You are truly a guardian angel.


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safe-at-last 6 years ago from Western Australia Author

Thank you for your feedback, and I hope it helps some people who have been wanting to do their bit, but haven't been sure how to go about it.

"One drop raises the ocean"


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bonnebartron 6 years ago from never one place for too long

Very nice, I like how you listed ways PEOPLE CAN ACTUALLY HELP! FABU!


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Mentalist acer 6 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

Child abuse seems to be an epideic and worse yet it has most probably always been...

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