Reasons why I refer to myself as a man

The truth is, a lot of girls annoy me. There is something beautifully magnificent about the female form, but alas the personalities of most I have across result in me banging my head against a wall. Oh the shame of being a woman in a world of pettiness! I both praise and despise them as a gender, and I find myself more and more often referring to myself as a man, or "one of the lads". And it's not just because I'm an engineer that I do!

Before I explain, please understand that this doesn't concern all women. Some women are awesome, and actually do us justice, giving the younger generations someone to aspire to be like. Unfortunately there are others who let the side down, and they are the ones who I am addressing here.


My first point is perhaps my biggest. Women have gone on and on about sexism and how we should be able to vote like men and be paid the same amount as men. And don't get me wrong, I completely agree with that. I can't express how thrilled I am that we have come this far to be considered equals with men. But some seem to take it too far and only want equality when it suits them. How many girls still expect the guy to make the first move? How many girls expect a man to buy them gifts, take them out to fancy restaurants, "look after" them? Call me an utter buffoon, but I thought if it should work one way, it should work the other as well. Not every man is a multi-billionaire that can spoil you with the latest pair of shoes. Sorry. It doesn't mean that "chivalry is dead" or anything like that. So next time you're waiting for a guy to ask you out, try doing it yourself! The worst he can say is "no". Or, if you're one of these girls in a relationship that I've just described, try spending some of your hard earned cash on treating your man for a change - he deserves it just as much as you do. Remember, a relationship is all about giving as well as taking.

"Where are all the nice guys?" They are with all the nice girls who get it!

Stop with the gender roles! Stop it! Stop! You are no longer a four-year-old girl who is dreaming of finding her Prince Charming, you are a teenage girl/woman who needs to stop complaining about double standards, because if anyone is enforcing double standards it is those of you who want to have the same rights as a man only when it suits you. Stop it! Please! Don't get me wrong, I am extremely grateful to those women who fought for years and years to get us those rights. But some girls - and I must stress again that it is that small minority - want it both ways, and they shouldn't. Stop it.

Is this really a good look?
Is this really a good look?

Appearance and Behaviour

My second point is to do with the terrible moment when I see a girl - more often than not a white girl - who has it all hanging out. I don't care how fat or skinny or tanned you are, please stop flashing so much flesh. It's awful. And what's even worse is sometimes these girls then expect guys to take them seriously! All the guys are seeing - all I'm seeing - are a pair of boobs and a butt. Sorry. It's the truth. If you're not gonna leave anything to the imagination, what else do you expect people to think of you? Have some self respect! Then you have some who have so much make up and fake tan on that they look radioactive because they glow bright florescent orange. I agree, not everyone wants to be as pale as me, and fake tan is a safer option to the sunbed. But some girls look like they been applying it with a trowel. And then in class you can see them at the back, applying MORE make up! I just don't get it.

And while we're on the topic of white girls, I would like to address what has become the stereotypical white girl in a club: STOP MAKING US LOOK LIKE IDIOTS! Squealing and tripping all over the place, spilling their drinks as they wave their arms to "their song", until they get so wasted that they're peeing and vomiting everywhere and pass out on some poor sod who was trying to find his friends so that he can have a good night. During Freshers week at uni I lost my housemates in a club and ended up hanging out with some black girls and guys, and we had so much fun just busting some awesome moves and generally having a good time. I didn't have to help a single one of them into a taxi, whereas one of my housemates the next morning had lost her drivers license and couldn't remember most of that night, apart from the fact that she had a strike on the Chunder Chart. Hmm...I wonder if I would've had more fun with them... Absolutely not!

It's true, there really are some Mean Girls out there.
It's true, there really are some Mean Girls out there.

Attitude to others

Girls seem to both love and hate one another, and maybe this isn't exactly our fault. Ever since we first started nursery/school our parents and teachers have introduced us to the wonderful brutality of competition. We learned that the desired outcome is to be the best: the best at tests, the best at sports, the best looking, whatever. And we still do it several years on, even after we've left school, because after school it's all about having 'the best' job, 'the best' house, and all that jazz. Competition is healthy, but it also causes us to judge people before we get to know them. Even I do it, as much I hate it.

But what I really really REALLY hate is when a person is two-faced, and nine times out of ten it's a two-faced chick. She can be sweet as pie to you, but as soon as your back is turned:

"Oh my God, I heard that..."

Stop it. Why are some girls so manipulative and eager to hurt or put down somebody else? It's cruel, unnecessary, and just plain wrong. You wouldn't like it if someone did it to you, so why do it? Stop.

I could really just keep going on and on with the risk of sounding like a grumpy old man. Again, I just want to say that this is the minority of girls, but that minority make the rest of us look like ticking time bombs ready to blow up in someone's face. And don't get me wrong, I'm not perfect (my worst trait is perhaps the fact that I'm so freaking loud; I'm working on that), but I am perhaps closer to being a guy that being one of those girls.

If you guys can think of any other annoying things girls do, let me know in the comments section and I will be sure to check them out.

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monyakitti 3 years ago

I am both pleased and disturbed by this Hub for the same reason. Kudos to you for being a young girl who understands already what a wretched gender we women can be but I am sorry that you have had to realize this already. The saddest thing is you will learn that these women are not as much of a minority as you think and it continues well on into adulthood. I also have always thought of myself as "one of the guys" for all the same reasons you give so I completely understand your frustration. My only advice is just keep doing what you are doing. Be an intelligent, independent girl that knows how to treat a man. Be equal always and in every way possible but never be cocky about it. Oh and my biggest pet peeve, just to add to your list, is helpless girls like the ones who would simply die if they could not call AAA to fix their flat tire when all the equipment and instructions are included with the car!

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Becky Katz 3 years ago from Hereford, AZ

I was chosen back in the 70's to show the class how to change a tire. Not because none of the guys had never done it, but because I was the only girl that had. My daughter is a libber and disgusted with most teenagers. She thinks they don't have or don't use their brains for anything but stupidity. Neither of us are really happy with our next generation, in this area, at least.

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cmiller0161 3 years ago Author

Thank you both! I was quite hesitant about posting this Hub in case it caused some conflict, so it's nice to know there are other women who relate to this...if not rather depressing to know that the minority is larger than I thought. It's so frustrating!

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Mark Johann 3 years ago from Italy

A woman should be respected. The bearer of humanity. God made us. We should be happy for that.

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cmiller0161 3 years ago Author

I totally agree with you. However some girls make it very difficult for the rest of to gain that respect.

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Mark Johann 3 years ago from Italy

I understand. So, do you have any idea on how to uplift their spirit not to think those bad ways?

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Jodah 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

Hi cmillero161,

Interesting and well written hub. I agree with most of what you say, but being male I don't think it's really my place to comment further. That is best left to you and other young women who feel the same way.

Anyway, I enjoy your writing and voted up.

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