Respecting Our Elders

These lessons start at home. Life is busy and no one seems to have time to spend with anyone, especially our grandparents. When we neglect them our children see this and learn from it. Attitudes, behavior and non-spoken words speak louder than anything we say. They learn best by our example.

Kids need to understand that aging is a part of life. If we are lucky we will all be there someday. Hopefully someone will show us kindness when we are slow, cranky and can’t remember so good.

The people that live the longest, healthiest and most fruitful lives are the ones that still have a purpose in life. Having a vocation and feeling like a worthy part of society is important to us all. Sitting in a home with nothing to do but watch the hours tick by is depressing.

Some cultures look up to their aging family members and hold them in high regard. It is due to our elders that we are here; they gave birth to us, fed and clothed us and made sure we were taken care of, now it is our responsibility to return the favor.

Our elders have lived through a lifetime of experiences and can give good advice if we just take the time to listen.

My mother's parents are gone and I think of them often. My Papa had a quirky sense of humor and my Grandma was a happy round woman that loved to cook and laughed a lot.

My father's parents are still living and doing well.

Knowing our grandparents helps us understand why we are the way we are. Sometimes we're more like them than we are our mom and dad.

Modern life has brought us many good things but we have forgotten a lot of important ones. Not taking care of our elders is costing our country a lot of money. When seniors are put in a home and forgotten their health suffers and in turn medical cost goes up. Nurses and underpaid workers will never care about our family as much as we do.

In my family, we visit elderly family members and even their friends. My kids accompany us on these trips and they always learn something.

There is a young man on Youtube that has made his grandmother a celebrity. He interviewed and taped her talking about the great depression and cooking food from that era. They even put out a cookbook. In the early videos she is 91, the later ones she is 94. I think it is really sweet that he had so much love for his granny he made these films and highlighted her wisdom. After she’s gone these videos will be a family treasure.

I love Clara’s videos and I think you will too.

I read a great article by Lady Jane about how young people today don’t have respect for senior citizens like we did in the past. Her story made me think about why this happens.

Here's her article if you have a chance you should read it.


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lmmartin 5 years ago from Alberta and Florida

It's true, we do not give our elders the respect and position they deserve. But then, as I am rapidly approaching that time of life myself, I have a vested interest perhaps. Lynda


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Mentalist acer 5 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

There was nothing I loved more than being doted on by my loving grandparents,spending many stayovers with them,letting me sneak off down the block to buy fireworks and delightfully listening to stories of,to a child,distant times.;)


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma Author

Lynda, we are going to have to make some changes in our country or we are in for trouble as baby boomers reach senior years.


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma Author

Mentalist Acer, grandparents are always more fun than our parents.


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sdy53 5 years ago

Pamela,

What an emotionally stirring picture to serve as a stimulating intro to your article!

I wish our culture had more veneration for the elderly. Do not know how to begin fixing the problem.

I just read an article from one of the "top writers" at Triond where she was lamenting having to wait for elderly people who were serving her at fast food places I believe. I wrote a very direct comment(No "Nice Share") criticizing her insolence.

I also wrote a piece that mildly criticized Triond for promoting impetuous, poorly researched writing.


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma Author

sdy53, we will all be old and slow one day so we need to remember that. Everyone is too much of a hurry these days.


djwit 5 years ago

Great article!


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mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

There is a conflict between the young and the restless, and the old and the resting. Good Hub.


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drdspervez 5 years ago from Pakistan

Pamela N RED,It's a good article on respect of elders, In Asian countries we still respect our elders and give them time and teach our children to share their time with Mama, Papa and Grand parent if they are alive.I vote you up.

DR.DURRESHAHWAR PERVEZ


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma Author

Thanks for reading, djwit.

mckbirdbks, somewhere along the way we have forgotten our elderly citizens.

Dr. Pervez, we could learn a lot from our Asian neighbors.


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anglnwu 5 years ago

I remember watching that video some time back and saying to myself,"Atta-boy!" What a sweet guy to make his grandma feel so important and needed. In my culture, there is a great respect for the elderly--may not be as evident these days but we were taught to respect them. Thanks for sharing--this hub definitely raised an important issue. Rated up.


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma Author

Angin, Asian and Native American people have that in common. We are taught to respect and take care of our ancestors.


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ImChemist 5 years ago

Great hub because you great writer, thanks pamela for your information.


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RTalloni 5 years ago from the short journey

So many good points! Just this one statement, "Not taking care of our elders is costing our country a lot of money" is a worthy beginning for a hub all its own. And the concept of "feeling like a worthy part of society is important" could be part of an instruction manual for adult children who take care of agin parents. Very good stuff you have here.

I am looking forward to seeing Clara's videos. Thank you!


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma Author

IMChemist, Thanks for reading.

Thanks for the input, RTalloni. I fear if our country doesn't make some changes we are in for harder times.

I love Clara's videos.


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Daniel Fonda 5 years ago from Slovenia

Great article. Makes you think about how we treat our elderly. Sure - most of us try to do our best and provide them with company any other things they may need and deserve. None the less I think there is much more work to be done with for elderly community. After all, as you said - the got us where we are today and we can still learn a whole lot from them. Maybe they aren't as wise when it comes to business, internet marketing, etc. but they can still provide us with some simple yet wise tips and decisions.

Once again - great work.


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma Author

Daniel they are smarter than we give them credit for. I have a reader in another blog who is 80 years old. He knows more about computers than I do.

Keeping our minds active and learning new things keeps us young.


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hot dorkage 5 years ago from Oregon, USA

I think it is because we are a throw away society. We even start to think this way about our own bodies when stuff starts to go wrong with them. And God forbid anyone should see us hanging out with those fossils who are 10 years older than us -- people might think we are of that vintage. Pity is all they get, and pity is a useless emotion.

When something is a little weathered, just get a new one. Don't like your face any more? Surgeons will build you a new one. You can silicone your breasts and lipo your legs and maybe fool a few people for another few years. It's more important to look young than actually have anything of value to offer.

P.S. Because you can't see my body language I have to make it explicit that I am being tongue-in-cheek here.


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma Author

Hot Dorkage, you are so right. We do live in a throw away world and it is coming back to haunt us. We need to change the way we think.

Thanks for reading.

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