6 "Right To Express"

You know what? I think this guy has a point.
You know what? I think this guy has a point.

If you really want to show how strong you feel about something, go out and vote at the next elections. Then too, you have more of a right to complain. Just remember that you always have the right to vote and express yourseld, but you also have the obligation to research and learn the facts before you do so. Greg

The Right To Express


Some people have a problem dealing with the fact that everyone has the right to believe things their way. People just don’t think alike. And, in actuality, that’s what makes the world work. I am writing this because I have had to deal with friends, co-workers and relatives in the past that just couldn’t deal with the fact that they couldn’t force me to agree with them. I am strong headed and sometimes stubborn. I do have my own way of thinking and if someone can convince me, I will look at their point of view, but don’t tell me I’m wrong and have to see it your way. It really hurts when someone you love tries to force their opinion on you.

The big problem and what this article is about is that some people just happen to think that their way of thinking is the only way and that everyone should be thinking that way. If the world ran like that, there would be no need for voting. Just let one person take control of the country or the world and let he/she run it their way. Kind of like what Hitler was trying to do with the whole world. Like Saddam Hussein was doing. Ruling people and even killing people, without having to worry about consequences because he was always right, in his mind. Like so many tyrant leaders have done in the past, do in the present and will continue to do in the future. The one thing we do have to do is disagree with mistreating and killing of innocent people. Nobody has the right to do that.

You can have your feelings about the way things are going or how you think they should be run, but that doesn’t mean its right, nor does it give you the right to force or require others to think or feel that way. Whether you are happy or unhappy with them, it doesn’t matter. Just don’t get upset because someone else doesn’t agree with you.

A person can and has the right to be as strongly opinionated as he/she wants. But at the same time, you have to be strong enough to allow the others to have their opinions too. And that does take a real strength. Usually, when you try to force your opinions or beliefs on someone else, it’s because you have little or no confidence in the way you believe and you want others to think like you.

Greg

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Jaggedfrost 6 years ago

Forcing someone's agency, even in the best of circumstances or most willing of people isn't hard. I have found that the trick in dealing with the need for freedom in that sense is to not hunker down but to become well versed in any topic that someone tries to impose upon me their opinion and then I figure out where their point of view fits in. At this point I either tell them that I can see their point of view and respect it or shrug and smile sweetly, "That is nice to know." And then frankly drop the subject and pretend that the conversation never happened. One doesn't have to hunker down to be free.


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gregas 6 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Jaggedfrost, No one has to "hunker" down, but people need to stay flexible. And the point I am trying to get to is, don't push your point onto someone to the extent that it causes arguments and bad feelings between family and friends. Greg


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Jaggedfrost 6 years ago

Then I agree with you, as I wrote previously. I think that becoming stubborn doesn't get us anywhere .


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Nellieanna 6 years ago from TEXAS

I suspect there is no such tthing as successful forcing of ideas, short of chemical brainwashing. Even if someone can be cowed into "agreeing", in their innards, they won't agree if if they don't agree. And if they do, they need not be forced. It's surely the silliest and even most self-defeating practice of all to try to force others to agree and even more so, to believe one can or did succeed in it.

Yes it is sad that it causes arguments, but it "takes two to tango" as they say. Why argue about it? Surely not in hopes of getting the other person to agree with one's own opinion or even one's own right to have it! Just have it and let them stew in their own juices. A good reply is "If that's what you wish to believe" and give no further satisfaction by defending what you believe!! It would be like standing up for the color of your eyes. If anyone is so foolish as to question your right to them, wouldn't you just smile and let'm think it made any difference to you whether or not they approve of the color? It's just as ridiculous for them to attempt to dissuade you from your opinion or deny your right to it. But if they have a good case and present it respectfully, - sure, you can listen and even agree if it makes sense. Just being hard-headed for hard-headed's sake is silly too. And listening is not the same as agreeing. LOL. Even admitting there may be more than one "right" opinion is not agreeing with the others or condoning it.

I like your idea of staying flexible. And I, too, detest being pushed - or attempted forced - to agree as though someone else thinks the only right view is his or her own. Unfortunately there are some 7 jillion people on earth, and the majority of them do thinnk theirs the only right view! But - so what? That's only one view out of - all the others.

Thanks for a good hub, gregas! Good food for thought!


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quester.ltd 5 years ago

Well written and point well taken.

Stick to your 'guns'. If you disagree with what someone is saying, you need to speak up, in my opinion. Not saying anything is an acknowledgement of passive agreement. You don't need to be aggressive about disagreeing, just make sure that the point is made that there is an point of view.

Thanks for this Hub!


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gregas 5 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Quester, Thank you for the comment. I had a point in my life when I would let people walk all over me and then I realized, if I just speak up I can be ME. That's who I have been ever since. Again, thank you for the comment and support. Greg


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roxanne459 4 years ago from Washington

I can relate completely! There are many times when I feel very alone with my convictions. I have decided that it's ok to stand on your own with a certain opinion or position as long as it was a well researched, thoughtful one. If you can't be proud of yourself for standing up for something, no one else will be either. :)


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LauraD093 4 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

I like that you used the term flexible gregas- a non-political term but one that really needs to make its way back into our main-stream of talk-feast(s) with each another. People will use flexible when speaking about our economy or yoga but not ideals or ideas or rights to free speech? Didn't folk (s) dump tea and die for us on battle fields 2 be able to have them and say them? Didn't two military officers just recently die with more down the line possibly still trying for peace or some type of less bloody solution? In a sandy world engaged for years in civil unrest we as Americans remain what we have always been trying to be "Peace-Keepers unwilling 2 take 2 much BS we offer support and help if you reach for it and agree to be a "team" player but in the end grab your black hat***sigh*** Actions taken were wrong/sickening even by isolated military parties but our current leader apologized, it meant nothing ...no surprise...I'm not going to support American flag burning or burning of the Bible either (I did burn my training-bra though and lick N.O.W. envelops w/ Mom back in the 70's I am a flexible type at times. Good Hub Voted up and interesting. ty


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Roxanne, Thank you. Always stand up for what you believe, just always be flexible and willing to hear the other side, but without arguing. That's the time to walk away. Greg

Hi Laura, Thank you. If our politicians would be flexible, like they are supposed to be, instead of being so pigheaded, this country would a lot better off.

Greg


lovedoctor926 4 years ago

You're right. This is so true. I can relate to this as well. I come across a lot of people who also tell me that I'm wrong. Why am I wrong? For voicing my own opinions? People can be pushy at times including family. They just need to respect our opinions. Great hub.


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi LD, Thank you. I love the fact that I can still state my opinions and if someone doesn't like it, to bad, it is MY opinion. What's bad is when you can;t state your opinion amongst family without starting an argument. Greg


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LauraD093 4 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

gregas I revisited this hub thinking it was a newer one but am still glad that I did. I enjoyed it the first time through and it hit another nerve with me today. After living most if not all of my adult-life as a dye-job red-head just filled to the brim with opinions I learned early on to respect the opinions and views of others. All I ever wanted was my voice and my right to do so as well. It may be the fundamental reason I starting writing because 8 out of 10 times since I was a small girl I was told to shut-up or to keep my opinions to myself. I've never regretted not taking that advice instead I would concentrate on the 2 folk that did listen (even if they didn't agree with my opinion/rant advocacy at the time.) You have the right to ignore me or differ in opinion from me but I too have the right to voice what I stand for and believe as well. Again a short but really sweet hub ty. I had voted up on it previously ...today I added interesting to the hat as well. Keep them coming I really enjoy your hub-articles.


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California. Author

Hi Laura, Thank you for the re-visit. I think that is one of the things I really like about writing on the hubs, not the money, but the fact that I can express my opinion, and like you say, whether anyone agrees or disagrees, it is my opinion. I even like when someone disagrees with me once in a while and shows me another side. At least on here there can be no physical confrontation. Again, thank you. Greg


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torrilynn 3 years ago

i really liked reading your hub. very insightful on what is going on in our lives and how this is true that we are slowly losing our ability to express ourselves the way that we want to without being judged or feeling intimidated.


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RBJ33 3 years ago

Some of the "debates" by hubbers can get pretty volatile. Lots of bitching and moaning and complaining - some trying awfully hard to convert you to their point of view, and insulting if you don't. Based on your talent for expressing yourself I in=vite you to read mu hub "Apathy - is that any way to run a country." You just may be interested in joining us - hope to hear from you.


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Markie W 3 years ago

Very good points gregas, I agree. Also, I just wanted to tell you that I love the picture and caption of the puppy.

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