The High Self-Esteem Disaster
The History of Self-Esteem
In the renaissance period, the dark ages, and the start of the United States children were treated as if they were miniature adults. They ate after their parents, they worked with their family for hours every day, Females married young, in their teens so someone almost twice their age. Males entered into a trade around the age of fourteen. Because the average life span was so short, children entered adulthood at an early age.
In the past 50 years parents and schools search to give children a higher self-esteem, changing how young ones have been raised for hundreds of years. Why did they start this process? Because they pittied children and decided to help them in this mannor. However, is this method helping our children or hurting them?
The End Result
What comes from giving someone high self-esteem? How could giving someone a positive feeling about themself be bad for them? Let us think on one point. Who has the highest self-esteem in society of today? Are they are leaders? Presidents, lawyers, governers, soldiers, teachers, etc. Are they the people we look up to? Not always. Most people with high self-esteem are pig headed. They rarely hear the word "no" or "I can't". There are very few people with high self-esteem that are not trouble makers.
How do I know this? Think about it. A person being told that they can do anything will do anything they believe is possible. Telling a child, "you can do anything that you want" can turn into so much more in their young minds. Children tell themselves in difficult situations that they will make it through the mess. While this is true, they gain a false view that they can withstand almost anything. This hits hard in the teenage years. With the combination of high self-esteem and the idea of imortality, teenagers become dangerous. Driving while drunk, unprotected sex, the saying "it won't happen to me". All of these occur and they do nothing to stop it. Why? They believe they will make it out of the situation alive and well.
The Average American
The self-esteem wavers here and there. When a mistake is made by them, they feel guilty, upset, sorry, remorse, etc. They know they have done something wrong and do not feel sure of themselves. Their self-esteem dims slightly, causing them to work harder or to dissipate in the project.
High self-esteem is not necessary for success, just moderate. Yes, you will make mistakes and feel horrible for doing so. But attempt to do better next time and learn from the mistake. Do all you can to make sure the issue does not arrise again. You are not in this alone. Others are there around you, your friends and family. Chances are they do not have high self-esteem and you lean on each other for aid in situations.
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