The World's Oldest Profession, Today - Interview Part 1
You Cannot Tell By Looking
Everyone Needs to Pay Their Bills
When you think of a prostitute, the image that comes to mind is one of a woman dressed in a too short skirt, perhaps with boots or heels, and a low cut blouse, with a lot of bling. Bling is what they call the glitter and rhinestones and fake jewelry that they wear to make them stand out. This is exactly why they dress like that, to stand out. This is the picture that is painted for us in the media, on television, and anywhere you look.
I have a friend who is almost 60 years old, who came from a $850,000 home. She and her brother were adopted, and everything about the family smelled or looked like money. If she wanted a pony, she got a pony, and if she wanted a surfboard, she got one. For the sake of this story, and so that she will not be identified, we shall call her PJ. PJ had good grades when she went to school, but attendance was a problem. She finally did graduate, She had three kids, and they were all bi-racial. PJ was white, but all her kids dads were black, not that this has anything to do with this story, because I do not believe it does. Their grandma, PJ's mom pretty much raised the kids.
So there is the background of our guest I will be interviewing today, and she has been a dear friend of mine for about 8 or 9 years now. She is currently 58 yrs old, and still practices her trade for money, and lives from pillar to post, meaning she has no place she calls home, but lives from friend to friend and they seem to not have any problems with it, for she pays her own way, and is very generous with cash if she sees a need, she fills it.
So if you are wondering if becoming a prostitute has something to do with one's background or upbringing, this can be ruled out in this case. We will be presenting this question to her and see what she says so lets begin....
My Talk with PJ
I am going to begin by asking you, why did you choose this line of work for yourself, you obviously had the money behind you to do anything you wanted, why this?
Right from the start I liked the lifestyle. My parent were affluent, and I was a rebel. I liked the people I encountered, and I was my own boss, if I did not want to work I didn't, and on the other hand, if I needed money it was always there to make.
What about what you had to do to earn that money, were you ever afraid of the people you had to deal with?
No, I have always been a scrapper, what I mean is that I have a mouth and I am not afraid to use my fists if need be. The thing is that I picked my clients carefully, and I never just walked the street, looking for strangers. The men I had as clients, I continued to have as clients, and I knew what to expect from them and they in turn knew me.
So are you telling me that in all the years that you have been doing this, you never had any problems with one of your clients?
Actually, I think I had more problems with the competition that I had around me. There were other girls out there that knew my clients by seeing us together coming and going, and if they saw one of my clients alone they would approach them and proposition them. Then they would think that they were going to be treated the same as when they came to see me, but would usually end up getting ripped off. This is when the fights and the danger entered into it, for I couldn't let that happen.
When you say they thought they were going to be treated the same as when they came to see you, what exactly do you mean?
Every girl treats their clients differently, just as any business. Like a store for example, some give samples, some don't. Some choose to have dressing rooms, and with this business, I for example don't mind talking with my clients, finding out what their life is like, sometimes spending time going with them to eat, and it really depends on the guy, some like to do drugs, and I know where to get them and they feel safer with me doing that for them. The other girls won't go this far and it is simply a sex job, and when it is done, it is done. I take more time, treat these guys like people, and they come back and look for me, or call me. This is a way for me to not only stay safer, but to know who I am dealing with and in a way it is good for my business, because when a client finds someone they like, they not only are willing to pay more, but we almost become friends, not quite, but similiar.
How long have you been doing this type of work?
Well, I started in my mid twenties, and I still have clients that I have had for years. I don't work much anymore, but I am 58 years old, and I have kept my good clients still, for now very little of it has to do with sex, and I would say that 80% or more has to do with good company, that gets paid to be just company for them. Loneliness is a driving force with quite a few of them. I have to say, now that I have narrowed my dates to just a few of my favorites, it is not a bad way to make money, for sometimes a couple of hours of my time, can amount to as much as $400-$500 dollars and that's not bad.
Well PJ, this has been very insightful, and I was wondering if maybe later this week we could get together again, for I have more questions, but I would like to seperate them into another interview from this one, for the subjects are quite different. I would like to end this here, with my thanks for being candid with me, and would you meet with me again?
- Sure I would, I think that a lot of people are very misled and don't understand what a hooker really is about. I would like to come back again. It was a pleasant experience.
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