What Now? The Aftermath of Same-Sex/Gay Marriage Rights
This is likely the 149th time you've seen, read about, or listened to someone esle's opinion on the topic of Gay rights and same-sex marriage. Let's start by saying I'm no stranger to this topic though. My dad falls into 2 of the LGBT categories. He is a transgender (male to female) who prefers women. It's no secret this is a hot-button topic and I have a lot to say about it from various perspectives:
- Does it have anything to do with pedophilia?
- Should Christians love or hate the sinner?
- Is this reason for celebration?
- What are the effects?
- Is it love?
- What is politically correct?
- What's next on the agenda?
At root, this isn’t just about our laws; this is about who we are as a people. This is about whether we value one another – whether we embrace our differences rather than allowing them to become a source of animus.
~Democrat, Alcee Hastings
The Pedophilia Connection
Does the comparison of pedophilia to homosexuality have a leg to stand on? Or any justification? Really, this is my only concern coming from a mental health background.
Here is how some are making the connection:
- Both are classified as a "sexual orientation" in the medical community.
- There is proof that both are born with these desires.
- Both have been largely known and nothing new for other countries and throughout our history.
- Attempting to control or eliminate the urges are without success.
The only argument that makes people feel better is that pedophilia is against the law. But wait? So was same-sex marriage. At one time (until the 1970's) homosexuality was in the DSM (Diagnostic Book or Mental Illness) and listed as a mental illness. Transgender recently went from Gender Identity Disorder to Gender Dysphoria. Currently Pedophilia is being reconsidered as well.
Ever seen the show "16 and Pregnant"? It is a very good case for pedophiles that kids are having, and consenting to, sex before age 18. Laws change and many times with or without majority approval. We could see a few heartfelt cases in the media and society begins to change it's views.
Another concern: "In 1998 The APA (American Psychological Association - the bigwigs in psychology) issued a report claiming “that the ‘negative potential’ of adult sex with children was ‘overstated’ and that ‘the vast majority of both men and women reported no negative sexual effects from childhood sexual abuse experiences.” This isn't a good finding!
- That was FAST: Yesterday it was gay marriage; Now look who wants "equal rights" -
Using the same tactics used by “gay” rights activists, pedophiles have begun to seek similar status arguing their desire for children is a sexual orientation no different than heterosexual or homosexuals.
Even Christians are torn. Love or hate the sinner?
I haven't seen so much disagreement between one single group ever, because many Christians are talking about it but many accept while others are truly outraged. Christians are torn whether to choose love and love the sinner or stand by their convictions and be called out for their hatred. You could recite passages until you're blue in the face but it boils down to nothing more than opinion anyway.
One of my favorite perspectives out there (and I've been reading, rehashing this amongst my peers, and listening to a lot) is that Christians are partly to blame. They consist of a large and strong group within our country and yet they've been a very silent majority for years. Love doesn't seem to be the answer because neither love nor hate has led to much success. People who speak up are probably in a better position for being a catalyst to change.
There's a big conundrum on whether homosexuality IS IN FACT a real sin. It is mentioned among other sins, but does that truly mean anything at all? Everyone sins how is this any different? One argument is that no groups advocate or celebrate divorce in the way homosexuality is celebrated. Nor is thievery and murder or swindling largely celebrated by a massive body of American citizens. To celebrate sin is where many have arguably gone astray. To love them and still remain quiet does not protect or advocate the word of God in which they are called to do.
Is This Reason For Celebration?
Actually, this is a trick question. Let me give you a personal account. A few days before 4th of July and few days after the same-sex marriage ruling, I took my 7 yr. old daughter to her swim class. Since it was nearly 4th of July I put her in a red, white, and blue swimsuit. When we got there, she was literally swimming in a sea of rainbows. Nearly all of the CHILDREN were wearing rainbow suits of some fashion.
I'm not really sure, but as a parent I do not celebrate sexuality with my 7 yr. old daughter. Did we forget that this is a sexual orientation, not an American celebration? You may strongly agree with the decision, but plastering it on your child is kind of icky. OK maybe that's just me but heck I'm a classy lady so parents out there class it up. Seriously! I've got nothing against kids wearing rainbows but all at once- it's obviously a political statement of sexuality.If you must celebrate, please consider this is sexuality, not a popularity contest.
Please note: As I write this, there's a "Warning" on this article as being deemed for an adult audience through automatic content filters. Umm, yes it's not a topic for kids!
Some are quietly celebrating this and others have taken to the extreme of things and had some pretty crazy festivals.
Facebook data scientists found that users were more likely to adopt the equal-sign icon if they saw multiple friends doing so. The more friends they saw, the more likely they were to change it. Social influence was more a factor than religion, politics, or age.
What are the effects of this decision/ruling?
This is a loaded question. I don't anyone knows the answer quite yet and this is yet another perspective to explore. Whether or not science and psychologists or sociologists decide to further studies or provide validity to already existing studies, we will not know an unbias answer.
Homosexuals lifestyle changes that result from past trauma like molestation or rape need to be addressed. Sadly, they never will receive help because gay rights is largely accepted now regardless how one arrived there (born with it or not). We simply don't question anything anymore because acceptance is deemed morally superior.
Other harm addresses the fact that the consensus is: "The College itself has maintained that a significant body of research has demonstrated that “same-sex marriage deliberately deprives the child of a mother or a father, and is therefore harmful.”
Truth is we don't know the consequences yet from kids growing up with same-sex parents. The data isn't out there and it's a fairly new phenomena. In the field of sociology we typically learn after the fact, some years down the road- about 30 years later- what the effects of social shifts are. If love is indeed love then we should see no effect which would be no rise in the youth population being gay nor other ill effects or a rise in any mental illness. These kids should be well-adjusted individuals.
- Homosexuality and psychology - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
The removal of homosexuality from the Diagnostic Manual of mental disorders.
What is love?
No question about it. Gays deserve love! That is a human right. Whatever your beliefs are- Christians even agree this is a fundamental right and states as much in the Bible that ALL should be loved. I think the issue at hand is the institution of marriage and can people be loved without being "accepted"? Is marriage sacred and exclusive to the Christian definition of one man/ one woman? That's really where the various perspectives do not align.
Gays would like the same rights, which include 1,000+, that heterosexuals enjoy as a married union. I wonder if they were granted those rights in a civil union they would have needed to claim "marriage". That is yet another perspective. Was there an underlying hostility that led some gays to impede on what Christians held sacred? Again, not sure. If the fight for same-sex marriage rights was purely done in love and equal rights, and not other agendas (political or spiteful), then we're on a positive path.
- We will see other groups begin to assert themselves for rights. Some warranted, others not. This comes with the territory for any minority victory.
- We will need additional legislation to protect what used to be protected (such as religious rights).
- Many things that were thought to be exclusive to one group, etc may or may not be. There are a few upheavals to go through before things settle down from this decision/ruling.
- Gays will continue to fight for rights and be able to enjoy the marriage rights they were afforded.
- We may or may not see a larger split in the country with various views.
How to be Politically Correct
Speaking up is important- whether you are for or against this, it is OK to voice an opinion. It is not OK to call names or spread true hatred or threaten violence. It's OK to have questions. Minority groups have spread hate as much as the majority. But it's not OK whether you are the majority or minority.
Good people get trapped by the politically correct beast at times and believe we'll be labeled as "haters" and "monster judgers". I'm a passionate person and as many people who love me there are those who love to hate me. But since I've decided to speak up I've gained more respect than not. There's nothing wrong with being true to yourself and it shows favorably.Being a "black sheep" doesn't make you politically incorrect.
You don't have to engage in any conversation or action whether you are for or against something. However, I'm me so I've got to suggest you speak up. I don't think silence, apathy, or avoidance has ever been the position of our ancestors who made this country great. Politics isn't popular so people tend to keep it to themselves. Minority groups tend to speak up more than the majority as noted in general polls. This is exactly what this country doesn't need.
I've got a personal handle on the topic too. I watched my dad evolve from being my dad to a transgender lesbian. It was harmful to our family leading to divorce. My hope is that since LGBT are free to marry, there will be no false starts in families that would otherwise end due to a LGBT issue of moving onto another life as what happened in my case.
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