When WE Become a Bitch


Weeks ago, I was browsing through a social networking site as I always do, when I came across this conversation between two good friends of mine:

*B- ann:“I am nice to nice people, and bitchy to bitchy people - that is fair, isn't it?...”

*Dadz: “Sounds fair...as long as your bitchiness won’t make you ugly ;)…”

This conversation made me laugh. I wish I had the time to post a comment too, but I was really busy with other things. And up to this moment, I smile every time I remember. It makes me wonder if being a bitch is really bad or is it just fine… and I laugh even more. I admit I may have been a bitch every day for others… but hey, I unconsciously do it. I am washing my hands… lol!

Almost every day of our life, we meet and even do handshakes with bitches, and we must admit the fact that we even see a bitch from time to time every time we look at the mirror… errrrrr, I am laughing because I just took a glance at a bitch on my own mirror today. Ouch!

What is a “Bitch”....

According to the Encarta Dictionary, a bitch is a taboo term for a woman who deliberately insults her temperament. Being a bitch may also mean being nasty about somebody, or talking about somebody who is not present in an unpleasant or malicious way. It may also mean complaining or grumbling about something continually.

Our own bitchiness can therefore alter our own personality and manipulate our character if we happen to be a dumb bitch and let our minute brain stay at our toes. It could make our life far worse than what we imagined. Take a good note that “bitch” is a “taboo” term, it is unhealthy and unacceptable term that could be added to elongate your name, whether at the beginning or at the end. And realize too, that a “bitch” is not only a word, it could change how you look at life and your day to day happiness and satisfaction may be altered.

Most every day bitches (if not all..) are unhappy people who take delight in putting other people down, never realizing the fact that whenever they give out unpleasant stories about other people who are not around, it’s their very self that they put to shame. And every time they lose their temper, it is not their victim that they insult but their own pride and prestige. Bitches, act and talk faster than they think, witty people think more. Therefore, every day bitches are people who do not have enough intelligence to think before doing and saying things.

"The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice, And because we fail to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change, until we notice how failing to notice, shapes our thoughts and deeds." (R.D. Laing, in Vital Lies, Simple Truths)

However, we can justify bitchiness in some instances especially that we are just imperfect humans who could lose our temper at some point in our life. We could be a bitch when some people are bitching us every day, which could reach a point when we lose our patience and start to be a bitch to an every day bitch. Oh! That rhymes… lol! And there are times when we turn to bitches without even knowing.

We have all the right to be a bitch when some people are trampling our rights. But, keep in mind to do bitchiness at appropriate time and situation… use it with your brain all put up in your head. Do not justify everyday bitchiness with human nature. Keep in mind that every day bitchiness is an unconscious manifestation of self dissatisfaction, unhappiness and insecurities.

Don’t even brag about your own bitchiness, because some demon might just be lurking around to insult you even more so that you would shed so much tears all your life. There is not a thing to be proud of when one becomes a bitch, it only shows how one easily loses his own temper and how easily he gets dissuaded to respect himself by the environment. So, the next time you are tempted to be a bitch, think twice, IS THE OBJECT OF YOUR BITCHINESS WORTH FOR YOU TO LOSE YOUR SELF? If the answer is a big “NO” then, smile back, walk away, and think of HOW LUCKY YOU ARE BECAUSE YOU HAVE GAINED CONTROL OF MAKING YOUR DAY BRIGHT instead of spending time bitching someone who is bitching you. Never reciprocating with other people's bitchiness does not mean that you are a lesser person than they are, it means that you are thoughtful enough to know when to fight back or to just let go of non sense arguments that will just lead to nothing. If you find being a bitch delightful, try the other way, think twice before bitching and realize that TRUE HAPPINESS AND A REAL INDICATION OF SELF SATISFACTION AND HEALTHY SELF ESTEEM DOES NOT LIE ON PUTTING OTHER PEOPLE DOWN OR LOSING YOUR TEMPER FOR SOME BITCH. Keep in mind that bitches bitch others so that others will bitch back and become a bitch like they are, and in doing so, they pull others to live in misery like they do. You have the right to be a bitch from time to time, but keep in mind that you also have the right to think twice if your bitchiness will just make you “ugly", and YOU WOULD JUST BECOME UNFAIR to no one else but YOUR SELF.


(*Special thanks to B-ann and Dadz.)

Image courtesy of Boaz Yiftach at Freedigitalphotos.net

NOTE: My ads were disabled because of the term "bitch", however, I still would like to share my views on bitchiness. Thanks for spending time with this hub! =)

Copyright of DjBryle, 2011

Bitches try their best to make you really feel and look bad, but before falling in their trap, think well and keep in mind that EVERYONE HAS THE RIGHT TO HAVE A BEAUTIFUL AND HAPPY LIFE... and that "EVERYONE" means INCLUDING YOU.

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precious_jewelgem 5 years ago


once again you came out with a brilliant hub.

at first it draws my attention on the heading and

i was gobsmacked i was part of it!!!

i was amazed, a simple day to day conversation with a friend had prompted you to make another entry on your hub, which i know will creates a buzz in the hub world pretty soon...:DDDD.

this hub is filled with great insights.the tips you have provided are excellent strategies.

i really love this article..

thanks for sharing!

blessings to you!

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always exploring 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

May i say that i enjoyed this hub very much. I agree that bitching all the time leads to unhappiness. Thank you.


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DjBryle 5 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Precious- Thanks so much for those heart warming words coming from you. Thanks for dropping by and leaving me with uplifting comment and most of all, for the friendship we share. I wish you all the best!

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DjBryle 5 years ago from Somewhere in the LINES of your MIND, and HOPEFULLY at the RIPPLES of your HEART. =) Author

Always Exploring- I am so happy to hear that you enjoyed this hub. I agree with you too, being rude to others does not only lead to unhappiness but it is also an indication of low self esteem and the inability to of a person to appreciate his own life.

Thank you more for dropping by and for leaving your kind words. Happy hubbing!

FROM YESTERDAY 5 years ago

Anak, I am giving you the permission to be rude and fight back if need be. hahaha! I trust that you know when and not to fight back. Please write more.

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Micky Dee 5 years ago

I'm a man and can't use that "B" word. God bless DjBryle!

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