Why Has the Elderly Lost Society's Respect?

"Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be."-- Robert Browning
"Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be."-- Robert Browning

I remember when the elderly in our society were well respected. When people held doors open for older people and when senior citizens were thought of as wise and insightful.

People looked up to them as someone who have been around the block a couple more times and therefore they held a certain level of knowledge in their life banks that society thought of as useful. I remember holding all my teachers in high regard and having great respect for most of them. Sure there was some that I couldn’t stand but for the most part I respected them, sometimes respect born of fear but nonetheless respect. Especially the older teachers who were so intuitive and wise. Now my question is when did this stop? It seems every generation that comes up in the world has less and less respect for our elderly. I am not trying to make a generalization here, I am well aware that there are many people who respect their elderly, but I am speaking of the ones that don’t. Why don’t they? And what happened in their life that they don’t see why this is wrong?

I experienced something the other night that set this hub in motion. That I would like to share here on hub pages and maybe others can give me some insight as to why situations like this happen. Here’s what happened:

I was at the grocery store the other night getting some things. I was ready to check out at the register and this young man around 24-25 years old came up behind me and didn’t get in line all the way, he kind of just left his basket close to the register and then went to look at something. In the meantime, an elderly lady, around 75 years old got in line in front of him. I guess she didn’t realize that he was in line. This guy came back to his basket and preceded to ask the women why she got in front of him. He said, “hey lady why did you get in front of me, my basket was here and you took my place”? I looked up and saw his face was red with rage and the women was kind of shaking and looked up at him like she couldn’t really understand, perhaps she couldn’t hear him very well being that she was older, so she just kept putting her things up by the register and didn’t reply. Then I heard the young man again, “Hey lady, I am talking to you, why don’t you understand that you got in front of me, I cannot believe this shit, this old lady got in front of me”. Finally, the next lady at the register next to ours turned to him and said, “sir, I can help you at this register”. He just rolled his eyes and said, I cannot believe this shit”. The woman looked at me and said in a very weak voice, “ I don’t know what he was saying, I didn’t mean to get in front of him”. I told her not to worry about it because he was a jerk.

I wondered why she was even out at this late hour by herself. I wondered if she even had anyone like a family member to take care of her or help her as she didn’t look like she was in very good health; she looked kind of frail. I felt empathy for her and felt bad that I didn’t lay into this guy. But being that it was a late hour and this guy was so mean, I didn’t really want to start anything with him myself. But I did make it a point to watch the lady as she got to her car so that nothing happened to her.

So this is the basis for my question. When did respect for the elderly stop? What has happened in this young man’s life that he wouldn’t allow an elderly, frail, woman to get in front of him in line. Why did it anger him so much? I realize that some people’s core values are not as apparent as others. Maybe he never had anyone to show him respect and how to give it. I realize also that certain cultures, holds ethics and values in a whole different level. That what is important to one person isn’t as important to another but what kind of value system does a young man have that he had so little respect for an elderly lady at a grocery store at a late hour? Something so small as a courtesy of letting someone cut in front of him was something that irritated him to the point that he could’ve resorted to violence? The young man walked away as though he was wronged, and I guess this is what bothers me most of all.

I felt sad for humanity that day and maybe I am making too much into this but am I? I mean lately in the news we hear about the elderly getting beat up by gangs of teenagers that don’t have anything else to do. Eighty year old woman are getting mugged and beat down in subway and bus stations. Homeless people are getting set on fire just for fun. So you tell me am I making too much into this situation? I think not.

I do know that karma is a bitch and this guy will get his somewhere, sometime; I just wish I could be there to see it.

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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

There are four things that I really can't stand, and these are violence on children, women, older ones and animals. That's why I wrote two hubs on self defence.

The problem is that that guy, and many others at least in the West, do not respect anything. I think it has a lot to do to the fact that first they don't see themselves getting old, and second that they are not any more used to live with grandparents. This doesn't happens in the East where old people are seen as wise and helpful for families. It's a matter of respect. In Italy it's the same. And it's a shame.


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amillar 6 years ago from Scotland, UK

I think it was Mahatma Gandhi who said, "You can judge a society by how they treat their weakest members." However, if ignorance is a weakness, one wonders who to pity most, in your story.


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Ann Nonymous 6 years ago from Virginia

Excellent, excellent hub!!!!!! I saw in the forum was a subject titled, "What's wrong with America" or something like that. This, this is what's wrong with America. And this starts many problems, conflicts. Great job, ladyjane, you've got my support and my respect!!!!


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hello hypnodude how are you. I agree with you there are some people who have respect for nothing. They beat their children and kick their dogs and beat up old people in the subway. Its a shame. This is why my mother does not go out anymore by herself we take care of her. I appreciate your comments, its always nice to see you.

@hello amillar it is a mystery why people act like this, are they ignorant, lack of education or just plain mean. In this society though there is so much insensitivity to so many things that I don't think it is so much as ignorance as just hositlity stemmed from spoiled brats who have no respect for anyone. I am so glad that my children would never act like this.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hello Ann thanks for your support. I agree this is one of the worst problems in America. We see everyday that people just seem to be getting meaner and less sensitive to the elderly. I appreciate you reading my hub. Thanks.


Duchess OBlunt 6 years ago

I read this shaking my head the whole way through it. It's says a lot about our society when this happens, and none of it good. An excellent article that shows we have a lot of work to do. The best way that I can see us making a change is to show them how it should be done. One person at a time. Your hub is a good reminder for all of us to make that effort


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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

I worked in S. Korea over a 4 year period where this would never ever ever happen. I was in my 50's then and treated like royalty as was every elder in that country. It was culture shock to come back here and hear constantly how our elders are robbed, beaten, murdered, raped and totally abused.

My thoughts - first America embraces youth because they can take advantage of the weakest which in this case is the young because they have no idea what is going on - you can sell them anything as we are are a consumer culture. They are preyed on regularly.

There are too many cowards in this country. That man never, ever would have spoken to another man his age like that. In fact one time a young man said something inappropriate to me and asked me what I was going to do about it - and I told him I would kill him with my bare hands. Listen, I'm a NYer and always had to fight back. No way I am going to let some young punk even think about intimidating me - because if you let them - they will not stop.

Then we are guilty of accepting aging as weakness and deterioration - old people must take tons of medication because aging equals sickness - this is a blatant lie and used to fill us with drugs - which in fact weakens us. In Korea as I made my way up the mountain men and women in their 70's and 80's would sprint by me.

And sorry this is long but one more thing so many of us are guilty of and it is those stupid idiotic jokes about growing old that make their rounds on the internet. I get these from friends and I ask them why do they accept these jokes about elderly people - jokes about forgetting, and false teeth, generally being doddering old fools and worse. What other country makes fun of its elders like this?

We have to effect change. I demand respect - and will not allow some idiot young punk to decide whether or not I am worthy. And I will not accept toxic drugs nor jokes about elders as if aging is a chronic disease.

By the way - in NYC - crimes against the elderly are so bad so widespread so epidemic - that they have been made felonies.

Good grief! Thanks for letting me vent.


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50 Caliber 6 years ago from Arizona

Being a person who is headed toward "elderly" pretty quickly, I see this as a possible future problem, for a guy like that. It for me is simple I carry a gun 'cuz a cops to heavy. I'm licensed and legal and that guy can thank his lucky stars I was not present, I am trained in hand to hand but I'm getting old and can't stay too long so as stated above, I'd just kill him. He's one that's cruising for an education in mistaking kindness for weakness and sooner or later he'll run aground of a grumpy old man like me that has no time for the like of him and that has nothing to do with just me, I will go to bat for any person being mistreated, but especially the elderly, children, women, animals. Karma


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hello Duchess nice to see you again and thanks for stopping by, I appreciate your nice comments, and I agree with you it is a crying shame that we see this in our society today and I am trying to be optimistic but I really don't see it getting any better.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

BkCreative, hello and thank you for reading my hub sounds like it really got you fired up and I am glad because I think more and more people should get fired up about this topic. I loved your comments and you sound like one tough cookie who would not get pushed around, I respect that. Thank you for putting a smile on my face today and you can vent on my hub anytime.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

50 Caliber hello it is always nice to see your face on my hubs, I see that this is a topic that means a lot to you as well and I respect your comments. I totally agree with you about carrying a gun because nowadays things are pretty bad out there and its probably a good thing that you can protect yourself. Thank you for reading my hub. Means alot.


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MFB III 6 years ago from United States

9:00 a.m. Nursing home Journies.

Pale blue eyes watery with sentiment

parchment skin layered by times creases

old veins like blue ink tell a tale

up the arms and the legs of the frail

no longer circulating outside this place

they are clots that society slowly

is dissolving out of sight and mind

the sour stench of old urine and baby powder

mingles with the crooked smiles as you pass

row after row of chairs wheeled

but going nowhere strapped to a rail

but trained to remain with other straps

around the waist...the waste of years.

some carry bruises blamed on their clumsiness,

others are just left to moulder in their beds,

lying in bodily wastes and voracious bed sores

that feed on the flesh till it reaches the bone.

there is a glimmer of hope for them though,

those that escape the abuse have a refuge of sorts...

I am sure that these ancient souls

locked in wheelchairs all day

in nursing homes and rest homes

are never really truly there,

they are out running through

the memories of childhood again,

that surround them clear as spring water,

laughing and giggling in a bubble

of time that holds them in a rainbow

of fragile but endearing moments

playing hide and seek with reality

till death releases them from

the sweetness of yesteryear's anesthesia.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~MFB III


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks for visiting MFBIII I guess you said in your poem exactly how I feel about the elderly and their plight. Beautiful poem.


sophs 6 years ago

Great hub, it's so sad that people can act like that, it just seems to be happening all the time these days :(


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you sophs I appreciate the comments and I definitely agree with you. Thanks again.


TattoGuy 6 years ago

LJ as far back as I can remember there have always been assholes in life, they are nicely named as one day they will be shit on from a great height !!!


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

I agree tattoguy, I agree. Thanks for reading.


Joe Roubicek 6 years ago

Excellent blog and commentary on American society's loss of respect for our seniors!


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

thank you joe I appreciate your nice comments and taking the time to read my hub.


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Sa Toya 6 years ago from England

People can turn into such jerk...I love the elderly and most just want some love too....they should get more and deserve more.


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alexandriaruthk 6 years ago from US

sad but true, They dont deserve it


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Sa Toya and Alexandria I agree with you people can be such jerks sometimes and it seems like this problem is getting worse.


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SimeyC 6 years ago from NJ, USA

Great Hub - I don't condone the attitude of the young man - I was brought up to respect people no matter how old - in fact he was in the wrong for leaving the line and expecting his position to be kept.

Part of the problem these days is that some ( a few) expect repsect but do not give it back...that also is wrong...

Having said that...it does not change my attitude..I will continue to respect!

great hub!


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you Simeyc I agree with you completely. I appreciate you taking the time to read my hub and for your nice comments blessings to ya.


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Herald Daily 6 years ago from A Beach Online

So sad. I couldn't watch the video all the way through, it's too disturbing but I'm glad that you brought this out into the open, LadyJane.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks for taking the time to read my hub Herald and you are right it is very sad. Thanks for reading.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California

ladyjane1, this is a very sad, but necessary hub. I know the experience of the young creep, sorry, I mean man, is not the only reason for writing this hub, and I don't want to belabor the issue. However, the law of reciprocity, is at work here. What you give out is what you will get back, and most times worst than what you gave out. So sooner or later this person will get back what he gave out.

After watching the video, it makes me more aware of what we all must do. Don't stand by and let elders be abused. It's the same as with child abuse. There is a saying, "once a man, twice a child." So if we look at the elderly as being in their second childhood, not mentally of course, but physically in a lot of cases, then we'd be more apt to do all that we can to protect them. I applaud you for taking care of he senior the way that you did. Very good and useful hub, makes us think, as it should.


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Coolmon2009 6 years ago from Texas, USA

I feel It goes back to what you are taught when you are young; Years ago(when TV was a Kinder Gentle Place) Viewers were taught just by watching a movie elderly are to be respected; Now elderly are in the way..When I go into a nursing home it breaks my heart; to see all this wisdom and life experience going to waste because most young people don't want to be bothered. In many neighborhoods, the elderly are afraid to walk the streets because, some thug will knock then in the head and take their social security check that has to last them the whole month. Yes it really bothers me; Thank you for this article.


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ripplemaker 6 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Hello ladyjane. I am sad reading this as I get sad whenever I hear people mistreat each other. It makes my heart ache inside. Thank you for writing this hub. When people start being concern then maybe we can start "healing" the world by healing within. The wounds we have within can make us retaliate and act in ways that are hurtful and painful. Anger is an indication that something is not quite right. Anyhow, your hub made me reflect how important it is to start young and I see how much responsibility we have as preschool teachers.

On a joyful note, I come to you today with a hopeful smile that things can get better if we all help make the world a better place! And it starts with love and giving boosts of energy. CONGRATULATIONS!!! Your hub is a HUBNUGGET WANNABE!!! Yeeehhaaaa! To see with your own eyes, click this link please: http://hubpages.com/hubnuggets10/hub/Hubnuggets-hu...

Do vote and promote and share to your family and friends. Even non members can vote. :)


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bonny2010 6 years ago from outback queensland

People ask, in situations like that one, what happened to this guy to make him this way, well that is a question I never bother to answer because there is no excuse for such behaviour.If that old lady had been my mother- his mother would have been doctoring his broken nose and busted ear drums - and she is a 'gentle' little old lady of 80 . Thanks ladyjane I like the way you express your beliefs and thoughts.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you fastfretta I appreciate you kind words and appreciation. Thanks for always being a breath of fresh air on my hubs. Blessings


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Coolmon hello and thanks for reading. This topic is very troubling as was the situation because my mother is 75 and I would hate her experiencing anything like this and that goes for anybodys mother for that matter. Thanks so much for your kind words.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Ripplemaker this is so sweet of you to bring me this news. I am totally floored that I was nominated and would have never expected it. Its nice. And thank you for your kind words about my hub, like you said there is always something underneath beneath the surface that would make someone act like this and we can only hope things get better and not worse. Blessings to you.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you bonny for stopping by and reading my hub and I like your spunk. Appreciate your nice comments.


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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

Congratulations for being an Hubnugget Wannabe Hubber. Well deserved though. Keep writing ladyjane. :)


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you hypnodude I appreciate your nice comments. Its always nice to hear from you.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

You wrote a very good hub. It is a problem as I seem to see people getting angry at various places over just the littlest things. I was in a parking lot (speed limit 15 MPH) waiting to turn. The light changed in my favor and this young blond came wheeling through the red light going at least 35 or 40, gave me the one finger greeting and said, "What the F***. I don't know what is wrong with people that act like that but it certainly isn't how I was raised. Thanks goodness most of the people are thoughtful and they smile at you. It restores your faith in humanity.


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Missi Darnell 6 years ago from Southern California

Wonderful and disturbing at the same time. I believe as with many other social issues it is what you teach at home. I was ALWAYS taught to have great respect for my elders, I teach my children the same, hopefully they will pass it on to their children as well. Great Hub.


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

society is going backwards, isn't it? The love for the elders is based on respecting them, Thank you, Maita


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hello Pamela thank you for you comments and I agree with you there is more road rage out there now more than ever and it is very disturbing. Thanks for reading.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you Missi I appreciate your comments and you are raising your children right unlike some people. THanks for the kind words.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Prettydarkhorse thanks for stopping by and you are right. We used to be a society where a thing like this would never happen and now the elderly and children are our biggest victims because they are the most helpless. I appreciate your thoughts. Thanks.


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Katrina Ariel 6 years ago from The Highlands of British Columbia, Canada

LadyJane,

Honoring our elders is an important part of community. I think the challenges that this seemingly declining tradition faces are based on the fact that society has been increasingly focused on the individual instead of the community, and many individuals feel lost because of that and other factors. When someone doesn't have respect for themselves, they don't realize why they need to extend respect to others and to the world around them.

It's sad that these things happen, yet there is promise in the people who DO have respect, and realize how important each aspect and member of the world community really is.

Great hub, and congrats on your Hubnugget nomination!


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Valerie F 6 years ago from Idaho Falls, ID

I think part of the problem is that human life is no longer regarded as sacred, but is treated as property that can (or should) be discarded when it's deemed to be lacking quality. We even have people openly referring to other people as "burdens."


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Beth100 6 years ago from Canada

Society's fabric of empathy, sympathy, kindness, ethics and morality is ripping. Very slowly, but it is tearing apart. I have seen the elderly abused, not just from strangers but even from their own family. I don't understand completely, but what you have written is an issue that needs addressing. I believe that many "younger" generations have the attitude that the world owes them, and that they owe the world nothing. It's bad attitude which bring about unacceptable behavior. I always wonder what will happen when the roles become reversed and they are the ones in the elderly's shoes. Excellent hub LadyJane!


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hello Katrina and thanks for reading my hub I appreciate your feedback and I understand what you mean about everyone having value in the community no matter what their age. Thanks again.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Valerie I agree with you completely my mother is 75 and she will never be a burden to me I just wish everyone felt that way about their elders. Thanks for the encouragement.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Beth you are so right one day everyone will be old if they are lucky and they will feel vulnerable and they will wish they had treated people better. I agree with you about the fabric of this country it is up to young parents to teach their children the way to have respect for others. Thanks for stopping by.


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cluense 6 years ago from Cartersville, GA

Awesome Hub! I wonder how he will feel one day when he gets old? We all do sooner or later! My Grandmother always said "One mother can care for 10 children. However, in today's society,10 children cannot care for one mother" She is so right! I am an older mom and my 9 and 3 year old are taught to value our elderly. Point blank Period!


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shazwellyn 6 years ago from Great Britain

I think it is since the break down of community from the 80's.. you should read my hub on the 60s generation being the first selfish generation.

Thanks for writing this one, the subject is close to my heartxx


Nan 6 years ago

I'm glad you brought out the real facts of life! There is always payback, and I guess they forget the fact, that if they are lucky, they will become old someday! You are suppose to stay with your cart. He was wrong in leaving his shopping cart to wonder off and look at other things. Today's society has run away from any manner. It is apparent that these people were not taught any manners. That old lady probably has kids and grandchildren, and if they had been there, there would have been a fight. We seem to have a world of low class nobodies, and a lot of hate that is going on in this country. If they were a christian, they would not behave in such a manner. REMEMBER THAT THERE IS ALWAYS A RETURN OF YOUR DEEDS! KEEP ON LIVING AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU FOR MISTREATING THE INNOCENT AND ELDERLY!


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Money Glitch 6 years ago from Texas

I was raised to have respect for my elders, but it seems that now with all the glam that is portrayed in being young; Americans truly have lost respect for the elderly. Hopefully, some how some of that respect will be brought back into our culture. Otherwise, people are not going to have those "golden years of wisdom" that my grandmother had. Congrats on being selected as a HubNugget Wannabe - Good Luck!


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Cluense you are so right on this I totally agree with your mother as well. I come from a large family and I always felt that if you have a big family then your family will take care of you when you get old. That is the way it is in my family but its sad how many people that are in nursing homes that don't really have to be. Thanks for your comments and for visiting.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Shazwellyn I appreciate your comments and I agree with you and I will be glad to read your hubs. Thanks for stopping by.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Nan thank you for your passionate comments I totally agree with you it certainly was not a christian thing to do but these days there is not a whole lot of morals and ethics out there. And like I said in my hub and like you so eloQuently put it:

REMEMBER THAT THERE IS ALWAYS A RETURN OF YOUR DEEDS! KEEP ON LIVING AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU FOR MISTREATING THE INNOCENT AND ELDERLY!


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you moneyglitch and I agree with you completely. The fabric of America is unravelling in front of our eyes at a rapid pace and the some of the younger generation that do not have any morals are going to find themselves alone for sure. Thanks for your congrats. I appreciate you stopping by.


madness2010 6 years ago

People have not learned empathy at home, as the Baby Boom generations numbers grew so has the lack of respect. I have a hub on this and about nursing homes being warehouses for elderly for corporations to get rich. Madness2010 (my hub) I like this hub.


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obsexed 6 years ago from Sensual, USA

This is a really great hub! My heart aches when I think of the coldness this man exhibited. How unhappy he must be. Not that his unhappiness condones his coldness in any way. I think that we are losing some of our social skills. People no longer go to see their neighbors, if they even talk to them it's e-mail or texting. TV portrays the elderly as a burden, not the blessing they are. People are losing the skill to interact on a personal level. I've taught my children respect for others, and I live the lessons I teach. I am very blessed in that my children seem to have learned these lessons. Sorry to ramble...and thanks for writing on this.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Madness you are quite right about society as a whole. Thanks so much for your kind words I will be checking out your hubs.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

obsexed I agree something has happened to not only this young man but as society as a whole. I appreciate the way you are raising your children and thanks for the kind words and comments. Blessings to you.


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Lisa HW 6 years ago from Massachusetts

My mother, who suffered with rheumatoid arthritis in her later years, used to say how difficult it was to be older and not able to move well "because you feel exactly the same on the inside but can't do the things you'd like to do". People who are ignorant judge others by what they see "on the outside" while also being stupid enough to value what's on the outside so much they think appearing frail or elderly means being less of a person. Throw in an aggressive, mean, nature that acts on that ignorance/stupidity - and you've got the kind of mistreatment, or at least lack of respect, that goes on.


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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

This is modern era. The era in technology, so younger person has many choice in this era. They more concern in technology but forget the society around them. They forget their role as a social human being. So they forget that there is an elder to respect. As a teacher I really sad to hear about that. So as a teacher between the lesson, I always give a little advice to my student to always respect the elder. I rate this hub. thanks


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hello Lisa thanks for reading my hub and you are quite right about the lack of respect. I think that some younger generations do not realize how much older people have to offer and they were not raised to respect that. Thanks for visiting Much appreciated.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

prasetio30 thank you for visiting and I agree with what you said completely. You are a fine teacher for teaching your students about respect because they will take that with them wherever they go as long as they live. Thank you for reading and rating my hub it is much appreciated.


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Hi-Jinks 6 years ago from Wisconsin

Older people used to tell stories to their grandchildren. Now those same children watch TV. The Elerly have their problems. Most do not want to talk and share. I once talk to a large group of older men in a gardening club. I asked them for their gardening advice, and to write it down to share their experiences with the next generation. None did.

Much is lost, family stories, recipes, words of wisdom, and the like for the current generation to discover and mess up.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hi-jinks thanks for stopping by I do agree with you that those days are gone where stories were passed down from generation to generation because there is something about society as a whole now that represents getting old as a bad thing and so uncool so younger people do not have the respect that older generations of days gone by used to hold dear. Thanks for your comments.


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tony0724 6 years ago from san diego calif

ladyjane all I gotta say is wow ! I wholeheartedly agree with your assessment here . I too revere our Seniors. And you are definitely not out of line when you say as generations go by we respect our seniors less. In particular here in America we have a culture that exclusively celebrates youth. That's why we go to the gym and try to eat right etc. etc. . Because all of us are really motivated to try and stay a perpetual 22. I for one am one of these hokey and corny Boy Scout types who helps little old ladies put their groceries in their cars and tries to help out any way I can. But we are taught youth is King and that being old is nothing more then a bad social stigma. Our media and culture foster this belief system incessantly.

And to MFB III Father time will have his way with you. And karma is a bitch !

Excellent hub !


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you Tony for your lovely comments sounds like we are definitely on the same page. I am 46 years old and I wouldn't be 22 again for nothing. If someone is my age why would they want to look 22. I happen to think 46 is a much sexier age than 22 ha ha. But I know what you speak of and when it is directed at seniors it makes my blood boil. Society is losing respect for seniors at a rapid pace and that is why there are so many people in nursing homes that do not need to be there. You see young people beating on old people and that just makes them cowards. Thank you so much for your comments and for taking the time to read my hub.


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Springboard 6 years ago from Wisconsin

The sad reality is that there will always be people in this world—everywhere in this world might I add in regards to hynodude's disparaging comment about the 'west,' and might I add as well that the middle east is part of the east and full of bad people—who simply don't give a damn about others. Be them older people, younger people, middle of the road people, whatever. Some people simply have so much focus on their own lives, their own time, their own needs, that often times they forget that others have a similar set of such concerns.

I make it a point to not be like that. I'm one guy and I can't change the world. Even still, one of those 'assholes' that tattoo guy rightly referred to will be on the receiving end of my holding a door open, or will have 5 items to my 25 and get to jump ahead of me and see the good in it. Maybe.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hello Springboard thanks for reading I appreciate your commetns and I agree with you that there will always be people out there with no respect for anyone. I see them everyday and more and more I notice that it is younger people who have no manners and even teenagers do not have a clue about openining a door for anyone. I guess they stopped teahing etiquette at home. Thanks for stopping by.


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JOE BARNETT 6 years ago

whew! it's all true and so sad. the media promotes youth as if it is the only age in life. cameras in nursing homes would cut down on that. but the homes don't want them, because it's proof. the elderly are so quiet. whenever they complain about abuse, someone discounts them quickly by saying their old, which means they have no say about anything. we are all heading there and we have the power now to make the change. who is willing? great hub!


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you Joe I so agree with you. We are heading in that direction and we should all be nice to each other because we never know who is going to end up changing our diapers when we are old. Like I said Karma is a bitch and this guy better hope he changes his ways before he gets old. Thanks so much for your comments and taking the time to read my hub.


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FGual 6 years ago from USA

Well, I would like to think that complete idiot is the exception. I think for the most part, the elderly are treated with respect. I've never seen anything like that, especially to someone who is visibly frail. That guy has heavy anger management issues.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

FGual thanks for taking the time to read my hub. I agree that the majority of the people are respectful of the older folks in society but unfortunately it is getting worse and I have seen discrimination in many forms. I appreciate your comments, thanks.


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tony0724 6 years ago from san diego calif

I mighta had a word or two with that kid at the store myself !


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Sage Williams 6 years ago

A very powerful hub and so well written. Thanks for writing and bringing attention to this very serious matter. My heart goes out to the elderly community especially to those residing in nursing homes.

Congratulation on your nomination to HubNuggets!

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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you Sage I so appreciate your nice comments. Thanks for visiting and for the nice compliments.


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Moulik Mistry 6 years ago from Burdwan, West Bengal, India

The world is changing and it is changing not for the better but for the worse and the degeneration is continuing...


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sheila b. 6 years ago

I see even worse in the grocery store, when a middle-aged son or daughter of an elderly person is impatient with the parent, obviously not pleased with helping Mom or Dad, and looking around at the others in line for sympathy, see what I have to put up with, and aren't I wonderful to do this? I feel so sorry for the parent.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

thats awful sheila people can be so insensitive


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europewalker 6 years ago

Wonderful hub. It is horrible the way the elderly are treated. We will all be old someday and it is scary as to how we all may be treated.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Europwalker I totally agree with you and we have to treat each other well because like I have said before we never know whose going to be changing our diapers and that guy better be ready lol. Thanks for reading.


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ateenyi 6 years ago from Chicago

Wonderful Hub!!!!

The hub shows the crystal clear picture of the current society. The elders are neglected and they do not get their due respect and recognition. Children now days do not give much heed to their elderly parents. The hub rightly point out these matter in very sensible manner. I hope this hub will create great positive movement in this regard. Thanks a lot for sharing so relevant information.

Keep on Hubbing


coffeesnob 6 years ago

"He has shown you, O man, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you, but to do justice, to love mercy and walk humbly with your God." Micah 6:8

There is a pervading lack of of all of the above in respects to all of creation. Mistreatment of elderly, children animals even our land. I, like you, especially hate the mistreatment of the elderly or children because they are so vulnerable. If there is no mercy or humilty before God, then how can there be justice or a sense of doing the right thing. thanks for bringing this to the surface for your readers. It only takes a spark to ignite a flame - maybe you have sparked an initiative to bring that respect back.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Ateenyi thanks for your comments and I completley agree with you on this topic, I too hope that things change for the better.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Coffeesnob thank you for your comments and passion for this topic. I certainly hope that I can spark something with this hub I appreciate you taking the time to read it.


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mynameisnotpaul 6 years ago from Kentuckeh'

I am honestly disgusted with society, and have been for awhile now. These days, everybody seems to have some sort of chip on their shoulder, and it absolutely blows my mind. I'm thinking a lot of it has to do with attention, and the other half has to do with media and television.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

mynameisnotpaul thank you for commenting and I agree with you on several points. It does seem like everyone does have a chip on their shoulder about one thing or another or are very defensive about anything, and it's too bad some take it out on the elderly and children. Thanks for visiting.


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mynameisnotpaul 6 years ago from Kentuckeh'

You're welcome! :)


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Gypsy Willow 6 years ago from Lake Tahoe Nevada USA , Wales UK and Taupo New Zealand

Congratulations on another great hub!


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks Gypsy you are too kind.


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Paul Scanlon 6 years ago from Birmingham, UK

I started writing a comment to this hub that turned into a very long-winded rant! So rather than bore you all I’ll get right to the point of what I think I was trying to say.

Which generation died in foreign fields years ago to protect us?

And which generation is dying in a foreign field today to protect us?

There is a lot of disrespect in society today – but it goes both ways. Remember, there has always been, and will always be bad/evil people. And there has always been, and will always be good people. We just seem to have forgotten how to deal with one, and recognise the other.

In days gone by, the man you talk about in the article would have been refused service. Today his money is just as good as the old lady’s.

Don’t blame the young for growing up in the society that guides and teaches them. And don’t always blame the young!

[I can feel this tuning into a rant again – so I’ll stop now. Great hub by the way.]


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Angela Blair 6 years ago from Central Texas

Great Hub -- as a senior citizen I can testify age is not the barometer of ignorance. I, too, remember when the elderly were honored and respected. Folks who were raised being taught those values still retain them -- those who were not have little respect for anybody or anything. Not being able to identify who's who -- I'm armed. Better to be judged by 12 than carried by six! Great Hub and very timely. Best, Sis


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Green Lotus 6 years ago from Atlanta, GA

Hello LadyJane! Congrats on your Hubnugget nomination and for presenting an important well presented Hub! There have been so many wise comments, all I can possibly add is a bit of advice to anyone who plans on becoming an old person :)

Become active now in supporting "Gray Power" organizations and forward thinking companies who are developing life- enriching communities for the elderly.

Thanks for a wonderful read!


Socialblu 6 years ago

I don't think the guy at the store was the best example. His cart placement suggested he was pretty self oriented in the first place. Still I know what you mean. I was actually having this conversation with an older gentleman. He believes the media generally paints the elderly as feeble and worthless, and since so many are raised by the television the result is a population of folks who think of the elderly as nothing. I personally think part of the problem is individualism. When you think that you are some how entitled to more than others, then you stop respecting people in general. It might have helped this guy get it, if another customer had said something to him. Although he is technically an adult, he obviously needed more guidance.


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jayjay40 6 years ago from Bristol England

Brilliant hub, cruety to children, the elderly and animals are just the most evil things in the world. Great writing


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Sociablu I appreciate your opinion on this. I think this whole night was like a blurr and it felt kind of surreal therefore in hindsight there is plenty that I think I couldve done like I stated before but it is what it is. thanks for visiting.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Green Lotus thanks for your support of this hub and you give great advice. Thanks for stopping by.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you Blair your comments make a lot of sense and its good that you are able to defend yourself. I applaud you for this many people underestimate older people and don't think that they can do anything for themselves, this isn't true and I am so happy that you are a strong woman. Thanks for reading.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hello Paul thanks for stopping by and you are correct it is a two way street and I am sure that there are many elderly people who can be cantakerous about things and society's respect for the eldery tell us that we should accept it and put up with it because we don't know what these people have gone through therefore they deserve our respect especially if they cannot defend themselves. I agree with this because some older people like children have a hard time taking care of themselves and no matter what society teaches parents should teach young people as you say to have some respect. which generation died in foreign fields years ago to protect us? My dad who was in WWII thats who, and his brothers.

And which generation is dying in a foreign field today to protect us? The descendants of the ones that died before such as my brother, my son-in-law, my ex-husband and countless many others who protect us voluntarily and you can make sure that they would have let this lady ahead of them in line. Thanks for your comments. Appreciate your reading.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Jayjay thank you for your kind comments and for your support appreciate you stopping by, and you are correct it is an evil thing.


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Mystique1957 6 years ago from Caracas-Venezuela

Well, ladyjane1 ...

Let me begin by saying that no cultural trait fosters this kind of behavior. Probably that lost soul(Whose attitude I am totally disapproving)Has never stop to think that he will be and elderly sometime ahead. This is not only sheer ignorance it is also an ill-educated individual and someone whose values are rather selfish and poor. Be sure of something: He will remember that old lady when life strikes back at him, by then his regret will be useless. Don´t worry, there are more good people than evil in this world, simply, good people are low profilers, evil ones are not.

warm regards and blessings,

Al


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Mystique thank you so much for your wisdom. I agree with you completely. I try not to have hatred in my heart for anyone especially for those that are ignorant. Hopefully someday he will wake up and see the wrong in his ways. Great observations and wonderful response, thanks for taking time to read my hub.


dietsandvitamins 6 years ago

Unfortunately, humans as a whole are becoming more and more about making sure they get theirs. Its not just this guy and its not just the elderly that are suffering, there are still good people in this world but disrespect is becoming more and more prevalent. People are so busy looking out for themselves and feeling victimized by everyone else. I think the total focus on PC has gotten so out of hand that it is like a set of rules and no one is using their heads any longer. When I would walk by a group of older teens or early 20s with my young daughter they no longer stop speaking vulgarly or at least apologize they just keep right on going why because it is their right to do so and they will do whatever they dang well please. Yes it is your right however you have a moral obligation to be courtious to others and we are losing that.Its all about Im gonna get mine! So the more we talk about not offending anyone the more offensive we have become. I'm a smoker but just because I smoke does not mean I am going to blow it in your face or your childs face, because I have the right to smoke. I am very concious of where people are when I smoke, because I made the choice to smoke they did not and their children certainly do not deserve it. We are no longer being taught to be civil or to really to respect anyone. As parents we have to not only tell our children to have respect we have to also show them what that means and all you have to do is look around and you will see too many parents disrespecting their children and others around them while at the very same time telling their children to have respect. Not gonna work.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

I agree with you dietandvitamins, There is so much in society that is unraveling right before our eyes because of lack of respect for everyone and not just elderly. Appreicate your passion and commetns.


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breakfastpop 6 years ago

Excellent subject and a great hub. Clearly this loser was brought up by wolves who never taught him how to behave or to respect anyone. Our culture is woefully lacking when it comes to the treatment of the elderly. I went with a friend to look into nursing homes for her father and I was appalled at the treatment that I witnessed. I seriously almost lost my mind. This is a travesty.


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lovelypaper 6 years ago from Virginia

I have a special place in my heart for old people and I think it's disgusting the way they are treated sometimes. I do get to see the way some people are very respectful, even these days, which makes me feel like elderly people are still respected by many people.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

breakfastpop Thanks for stopping by and you are right I would never leave my mom or anyone else in a nursing home.Thanks for stopping by.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

I agree lovelypaper there are still many people that are still respectful out there Im just afraid that respect for the elderly has been on the decline. Thanks for reading.


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay

thanks for writing on such an important topic. it tears my heart out when I read or hear this kind of abuse. the woman probably couldn't even hear him. my respect for elderly people grew so much as my parents reached those years. we were always taught to respect elders, but often people just don't understand what they go through.

I think much of what has been shared here is so true in so far as cultural differences and respect for the elderly.

I think it's so sad and pathetic that there is so much attention given to beauty and celebrities in the US. as people age and lose some of their vitality and physical beauty, people look at them differently instead of realizing they may be very lonely, afraid, unable to respond as normally as before. They carry within so much life and wisdom, and sadly some grow into bitter elderly people. Bitterness and disrespect start much earlier in life and is a sad blemish on a nation. great writing and thanks for sharing. :)


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rebekahELLE 6 years ago from Tampa Bay

just watched the video... thank you for including this powerful song and video here.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

I agree with you rebehahELLE and thanks so much for reading, I really didn't think that a pet peeve of mine would get to this magnitude but it goes to show that there are sill so many out there that care. Thanks for being one of them.


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franciaonline 6 years ago from Philippines

I view this hub as an advocacy voice for the elderly in society. Great hub! Indeed, in the cities, even in Asia where love and respect for the elderly is part of our culture, the respect and love for the elderly is not as deep as 40 years ago. The youth cult as idealized in the multimedia is contributory to this, I believe. We are doing something about this in our community organizing work.

I think, if we have to judge society, any society for that matter, we can judge it by the way it treats the most vulnerable people and other creatures - the children and the elderly and Mother Nature, in general.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you franciaonline I appreciate your words of encouragement and it is one of my very biggest pet peeves as well and when I witnessed it I am surprised I didn't go over the edge. Luckily my hubs are a vent for me. And I agree with you on every point you made. Thanks for visiting.


poetlorraine 6 years ago

my heart is broken when i see people treat others so badly ,,,,,,,,,,,, old people are beautiful people, we should be glad to have them around treasure them, for their last few years on this earth,


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

I agree completely its very sad.


Rahul 6 years ago

Okay. I just want to say one thing up front. I am not trying to say that there is anything wrong with American Culture, I am just laying out what is different in mine where the elderly are treated with great respect.

I was born and raised in New Delhi, India till I was 18 and came to the US for college. One thing I realized is that family relationship dynamics are extremely different here. Parents ask their children to leave once they turn 18, or they are expected to leave their homes when they turn 18. Furthermore, I have noticed that a sizable chunk of the population fends for itself financially and make it on their own, which I think is commendable.

That is not the case in India. Although legally adults at 18, people are still children at that age in terms of financial independence. That does not come till graduating college at 22. Also, the family system is joint family as opposed to nuclear families. Joint meaning the children live with their parents. Here, if you're living with your parents at 30, you're considered a loser. In India, it is how things are. I am sure that most Americans would find that arrangement hard to comprehend and, frankly, I understand that because I feel the same about the setup here. So, once an American is 18, he moves out on his own and does not live with any elderly figure for the rest of his/her life. And not living translates to hardly any interactions in personal lives.

Also, interaction in the American culture is on a first name basis regardless of the age factor. And the English language when compared to Hindi, offers lesser respect. For example, in Hindi there are two ways to say you-'aap' and 'tum'. The former is used when speaking to some one older to you and the latter while speaking to a counterpart or someone younger. So the language itself is designed to respect the elderly.

The Indian calendar is filled with traditional ceremonies. In all these ceremonies, the family gets together and most often, in fact always, the eldest in the family leads the way.

So, I think it is a combined effect of all of these. Delete a few of these things from the Indian culture, and I think I would find it hard to respect the elderly too.


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Sage Williams 6 years ago

ladyjane - Glad to revisit this very powerful hub and Congratulations! on being nominated for a HubNugget. You deserve it.

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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you Sage you are very sweet!


Tim Hayes 6 years ago

The fact that old people are old, does not preclude them being complete jackasses. We assume that young people can be stupid, arrogant, disrespectful jerks-- see your own description for an example-- but for some reason the elderly are never described that way. Old idiots are just young idiots who managed to breathe and eat long enough to become old.

This particular old lady could have, and should have, spoken up for herself. The other people in line could have, and should have, spoken up for her if she was not able to do so. The "jerk" may have just misunderstood social protocol, or interpreted it differently. Did anyone even try to reason with him and explain to him what was causing his aggravation? "I cannot believe this shit" obviously means that he does not understand what's happening and why, and he believes that he is in the right for whatever reason. He thought this old lady, probably through a sense of entitlement granted by people like yourself, just cut in line in front of him because most people let them.

I feel sad for humanity. You anonymously rag on the Internet about the man who, while possibly mistaken, stood up for what he believed were his rights. He, while possibly rudely, tried to ask this lady what she was doing. She, very rudely, ignored him and thereby fueled his outrage even more. You, being a cowardly weakling, did not even try to defuse or correct the situation, leaving both the "jerk" and the old lady feeling like some great injustice just happened instead of a misunderstanding. I feel sad for humanity.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hello Tim Hayes thanks for reading my hub. I appreciate your opinions and I just have one question for you,"Were you the ""jerk" at the grocery store that night because you sure sound like him?


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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

While it is true that sometimes people not so intelligent becomes old remaining not so intelligent, and while it is also true that some people of all ages takes everything for granted and that everything is due to them, my mum taught me the meaning of Respect. This is to be given to everyone, younger, older, same age, whatever. And Respect goes hand in hand with being Polite.

Maybe I come from another planet, but I'm not able to treat someone older than me like a compeer, unless permission is given. If people could be always able to stand for themselves then we would have no "jerks" going around because they would be kicked on their butt any time they raise their heads, and I'm not saying that the world wouldn't be a better place. Anyhow, unless we want to live like animals who throw away old members we have to protect older people from "jerks" and similar beings; first because they did it for us, second because if these days a lot of "young" people live well is thanks to the efforts, and battles, and blood of those who now are old; and third because luckily one day we'll be old too.

The boy described above is used as an example of how people these days too often mistreats older people. I just hope to arrive old enough to see what kind of harvest the younger generation will get living and behaving in this way; I'm pretty sure the number of old people will decrease, becoming old requires not only health and luck, but also a good amount of intelligence. Too many video games and TV probably.

And btw Tim, if you only took the time to read more about ladyjane your comment would have been pretty different, but, when You will be old it will be interesting to know if you will remain of the same opinion. :)


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks Hypnodude you always have my back. I can sleep better. lol. I don't like to leave negative comments to people, next time I will just ignore them.


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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

It's a pleasure. But I would leave these comments, as a matter of fact it demonstrates you are right thus reinforcing the reliability of your hub. ;)


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shazwellyn 6 years ago from Great Britain

Im with hypnodude... however, we have lost community (this sort of thing is happening in the UK too) and if you dont mix a society this leads to a lack of understanding. We all live in our own realities and if there is no communication of what times were and how we have arrived at now, then there is no understanding.

The sacrifices older people have endured so as we can be free must not be forgotten. Unfortunately, elderly people have been gagged by society. They no longer have a voice and if you dont have a voice you will not be heard.

Poverty encourages communication - groups learn to survive by helping each other. Older people are looked after, they are a resource of experience, wisdom and expertise. Most of the rest of the world have community because everyone is truly integrated... India, Ethopia, Egypt for example.

Whenever you see pockets, even in the western world, where you have communities who depend on each other for survival, you see respect for older people. They are necessary to enhance the quality of our lives.

Thanks for writing this experience x


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

shazwellyn thanks for reading and commenting. I agree with you, it seems that in the United States there has been a decline with the elderly in that they are not taken care of as in generations before. I have learned just from this thread that many people from other countries still hold their older folks with respect and dignity. I think that the word dignity says it all. And you are right older people are necessary to enhance the quality of our lives and some people do not realize that they will be old someday. Blessings.


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catalyst20 6 years ago from Los Angeles, California

I remember one movie about America's teacher of the year and he said (I don't remember the exact words), "...obnoxious characters are actually a cry for help." There is a real need to educate the young people and if you're with me there's a need also for teachers to teach this. Many teachers, sad to say, had failed or stopped teaching about that virtuous word "respect".


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Money Glitch 6 years ago from Texas

Oh yeah, I thought I recognize the title of this hub. I've commented once, however, wanted to say congrats on being selected as a Hubnuggets Wannabe and good luck to ya! :)


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Money Glitch thank you very much. I was very surprised it was nominated again. Blessings to you.


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rocknrodeogirl 6 years ago from The Columbia Gorge

Wow, I wish I could say I can't believe how rude that guy was, but I can. I always have extra patience for the elderly, because I think of my Grandpa and hope that people are patient with him. It makes me sad to hear stories like this one.

Congrats on your hubnugget nomination. ;)


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

rocknrodeogirl thank you I feel the same way about my mom as well. Thanks for reading.


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Shlomo SL Abrin 6 years ago from Redford, MI

I admit it. I have absolutely no respect for the elderly. They are as corrupt, vile, misguided, and deluded as any of us can be. The only difference is that they have been at it for a few decades longer. There is no fool like an old fool. We have an old neighbor who sits around in front of his garage in loose boxer shorts all summer while drinking. He cusses at the kids who walk by his house. I suppose you expect me to respect and honor him, too?

The elderly of my era, my parent's generation, tolerated overt racism. The elders before them had to be forced into giving women the right to vote. The elders before them pushed the Native American off his lands. Those same elders tolerated slavery. It took a mighty force of will that few of them possessed to alter the course of things. Most folks just play along and the elderly of today were just the followers of yesterday, doing what came easiest at the time.

I also see many elderly Americans living off Social Security and Medicare while complaining that government intervenes too much in their lives! Seems so many of them don't want their children of grandchildren to have the same safety nets they did. They left us a polluted and filthy planet, as well. In the US Senate we have any number of aging legislators determined to stop health care reform and encourage sending younger men and women into useless wars.

Age is just a number. That's all. The fact that a human being manages to survive over a protracted chronological period tells me a bit about his/her biology and good luck, but about character or accomplishment.

Someday, I hope to be that annoying, obtuse old man who goes grocery shopping at 5:00pm and spends 20 minutes arguing with the cashier over a can of Lima beans while working folks are just trying to get home after a long day of work.


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Shlomo SL Abrin 6 years ago from Redford, MI

I admit it. I have absolutely no respect for the elderly. They are as corrupt, vile, misguided, and deluded as any of us can be. The only difference is that they have been at it for a few decades longer. There is no fool like an old fool. We have an old neighbor who sits around in front of his garage in loose boxer shorts all summer while drinking. He cusses at the kids who walk by his house. I suppose you expect me to respect and honor him, too?

The elderly of my era, my parent's generation, tolerated overt racism. The elders before them had to be forced into giving women the right to vote. The elders before them pushed the Native American off his lands. Those same elders tolerated slavery. It took a mighty force of will that few of them possessed to alter the course of things. Most folks just play along and the elderly of today were just the followers of yesterday, doing what came easiest at the time.

I also see many elderly Americans living off Social Security and Medicare while complaining that government intervenes too much in their lives! Seems so many of them don't want their children of grandchildren to have the same safety nets they did. They left us a polluted and filthy planet, as well. In the US Senate we have any number of aging legislators determined to stop health care reform and encourage sending younger men and women into useless wars.

Age is just a number. That's all. The fact that a human being manages to survive over a protracted chronological period tells me a bit about his/her biology and good luck, but about character or accomplishment.

Someday, I hope to be that annoying, obtuse old man who goes grocery shopping at 5:00pm and spends 20 minutes arguing with the cashier over a can of Lima beans while working folks are just trying to get home after a long day of work.


rosemary10 6 years ago

My sis is a writer i am so proud of you.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Oh Rosemary10 stop you are embarrassing me. Lol Thanks. Love ya.


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Merlin Fraser 6 years ago from Cotswold Hills

"Someday, I hope to be that annoying, obtuse old man..."

Just keep thinking as you do Shlomo; you're well on the way to achieving your goal !


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hello Merlin and thanks for reading and commenting. I had the same thought as I read Shlomo's comments and that is why I left him alone. Blessings to you sir.


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Hummingbird5356 6 years ago

People should not have to live in misery just because they are old. It is true, that the ignorant people like that man in the grocery store also get old but with an attitude like his, he might not make it to being a senior citizen.

It is also true that there are a lot of nasty old people but then these are the same ones who were nasty when they were young. There are more good young people than bad and they remain good when they are old. Old people are not another species.

This is a good hub and the answers prove that there are many good people who have the proper ideals. Thank you for writing it.


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Merlin Fraser 6 years ago from Cotswold Hills

I think the gist of the problem is that society has change over the last fifty odd years, and not necessarily for the better.

I know that after the next sentence the eyes of most people under thirty will be rolling skywards with the thought of; “here we go again...” coming to mind, however, I shall say it anyway.

When I was a kid we were taught respect for our elders and betters and more often than not the lesson was a hard one. We had respect for authority, no kid in their right mind would run home and report to his father that he had received a clip round the ear from the local policeman for fear of receiving a second one because you had obviously deserved the first one and so brought shame upon the family.

I know it’s an old fashioned notion but in those far off times people naturally knew their place in society and were proud of it. To have a trade, any trade, was cause for pride and you strove to be best within that trade, that gave you the respect from your peers.

In my view Two world wars started the change, not the revolution raved about in the sixties, although that was part of the decline.

The First World War was supposed to be the war to end all wars, full of promises of better times for those that returned. B, of course it wasn’t depression lack of decent work and starvation saw to that. However, those that did return home tried desperately to return to their previous lives and jobs.

After the second World War the memory of the first war was still alive in the minds of many and when those returned they were far from content just to go back to the old ways and demanded change. Women too were at the forefront of a lot of this discontentment. During the first war many women found their first taste of freedom from the domestic yoke by taking on and doing the jobs of the men off fighting. The fact that they were doing the work as well as men was ignored when the men came home and the women were forced back to the home and kitchen.

During the second war many women were in the armed forces, not necessarily fighting on the front lines but doing many vital jobs and freeing the men. After the conflict many women had found a new found confidence and freedom that they were not about to give up.

So change was inevitable. Together with the rapid industrialisation, improved transportation the cohesion of the community was the first to go then the family group.

In many respects we are the children of that change, our parents and grandparents wanted something better for us, they worked and fought hard to give us that better something. However without a sense of the past do we understand what they have given us ? Do we appreciate it or just demand it as our right ? We certainly don’t respect it , if we did we wouldn’t be abusing it as badly as we are doing and that, I’m afraid, also includes our treatment of the elderly.


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Kosmo 6 years ago from California

I like the saying "Karma is a bitch." Isn't it more like "Life is a bitch and then you die"? I agree that the young guy probably should have let the old woman "cut in" but perhaps she could have backed off as well, for she may have transgressed in the slightest way. Respect always works both ways, young or old, and I'm speaking as an old guy, though I'm way under 75. Keep writing. Later!


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Hummingbird5356 thanks for reading and commenting and I completely agree with you. I also believe that what you sow you reap and if you are a grouchy young person than you will probably be a grouchy old person as well but no matter what the situation is if that were one of my sons in that grocery store they would have never acted like that because I taught them to respect people whether they are old or not and even if someone was rude to them which that older lady was not, they would have still let her go ahead in line because they are gentlmen and that is what is lacking nowadays not that someone is young but the lack of being a gentleman and that goes for ladys as well. Thanks again.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Merlin hello again, I appreciate your interest and I agree with you as well. There has been such a decline in society over the years and I think that there is so many reasons for it. The 60's were probably a start of that. I am at the very end of the baby boomer generation and my dad was a decorated WWII POW and I am glad that he never lived long enough to witness what I did that night. My dad never layed a hand on me as far as spanking but he didn't have to, just one of his looks and I respected him. People grow up these days without discipline and that doesn't always mean spankings but the lack of being taught how to respect and treat others whether they are young, old or what have you. Anyway, thanks so much again for stopping by. Your comments are so appreciated. Blessings.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Kosmo thanks for reading, I do agree with you that respect goes both ways, I guess it was just that the older lady seemed so disoriented and I don't think that she even realized that he was in line and I think she may have had a hearing problem as well from the way she was looking at him. When she told me that she didn't understand him, I kind of knew that she didn't understand and that she wasn't trying to be rude. Whatever the case, being that he was 50 some years younger than her, I don't think he had any business talking to her like that whether she was young, old or what have you. I do appreciate you reading my hub and blessings to you.


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octaviaslady 6 years ago from South Carolina

We are taught to fear death and worship eternal youth. Why else would plastic surgery, vampires and elves be the new sensation with our pop culture? After all, Twilight, Lord of the Rings and Michael Jackson are certainly top sellers these days. I credit three things with this shift:

1. Our pop culture idolizes anyone who looks "beautiful" in the traditional sense. Aging or even adult beauty is often put aside for the young, budding, 16-year-old blush of youth. A model has to consider retiring by my age (25).

2. Death and aging is easier and easier to avoid. Our mobile society means that after high school, we take off to college where we are surrounded by other youthful, "beautiful" people. These people are the "educated" ones, who know best and who will "shape the future" with their power and skill. Then we take off for a job full of young, ambitious, shallow people like ourselves, far away from the parents and grandparents who raised us.

3. Technology fosters the idea of powerful youth, because our young constantly master technology more quickly than the older population. This ability allows the young to assume they know more and have more power over communication, commerce and information than their elders. They see older people struggle with what comes naturally to them and they assume that older people are stupid, slow or backwards. Finally, they often use that ability to prey upon these older people, further dehumanizing and separating themselves from them.

Compounding all of this is the culture that tells them high school is the "best years of your life" and video games that give instant gratification instead of demanding hard work. Ambition is dead, momentary pleasure is paramount, and the older generation, which has lived long enough to find these ideals repugnant, are just "out of touch" and "useless."


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

This is an excellent and needful article. Thank you for publishing this piece. I think that the American ethic went out the door with the teaching of multi-culturalism, the removal of God from public life, and abortion rights. In the case of the former, we used to teach youngsters American ethics, and civics. It was decided somewhere that this was a plot to create conformity and so done away with in favor of the idea that ANY culture (which includes ethics) is just as good as any other--hence the rise of Ghetto Culture (for just one). Tied to this is the Relativism taught now in the place of Objective Truths. The removal of God from schools means that no longer are children taught that each individual is made in God's Image--No. Each person is merely an ape with thumbs. What is so respectable about that? Lastly, Abortion has taught generations that life is not sacred if it is not convenient. Old people are decidedly not convenient.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

James thank you for reading my article and I agree with you on many points that you made. I too believe that when they stopped teaching ethics and civics in school everything changed and I guess we cant really blame younger people for that they were just the result. And they have been desensitiezed for many years to so many things so why should they be sensitive to their own parents or grandparents much less anybody elses for that matter. There is a generation out there that are so very different than my generation which I came in the tail end of the baby boomer generation. But it is the attitude of some of the people in my generation from this article that really left me perplexed because it is evident that there are some people out there that have a hatred or no compassion or patience for the elderly. Anyway, thanks again. Blessings to you.


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broussardleslie 6 years ago

Thank you, LadyJane, for calling attention to a horrible horrible turn in American society. I hope this hub reaches all of America :)

Blessings,

Leslie


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It's just me 6 years ago from Alaska

If someone steps out of line then they are out of line and the line moves on. The young man in the example had no right to complain when the line moved on with out him.

Alot of the problems with our society in general could be solved with the proper use of common sense and manners.

My Mom is blind and uses a cane when out walking, one day she was crossing a main road here in Fairbanks when she was half way across the intersection the walk light changed, as they do to everyone who walks, as soon as the light changed a man in a car right next to her started blaring his horn at her. I told her she should have taken her cane and beat the crap out of his car with it.

The next incident that happened to her was in the Pikes Place Market in Seattle, again she was walking with her cane, everyone walks in Pikes Place, no vehicles allowed. Well, anyway she was walking along the sidewalk and a teenage boy on a skateboard whizzed past from behind, bumping into her and nearly knocking her over. After bumping into her he screamed at her that SHE needed to watch where she was going.

Here in Alaska I fell on the ice in a store parking lot when I was pregnant with one of my children. Because of that fall I had Braxton Hicks and ended up in the hospital for 3 days. After that whenever I was pregnant in the winter I would park in a handicapped space because the stores didn't clean the ice off of the parking lots. When ever anyone said anything about it to me I asked them if they'd like to pay my hospital bill if I fell again. I didn't sue the store whose parking lot I fell in I only demanded that they use common sense about the parking situation.

When I'm out and about I don't care if someone is male, or female, young, or old, if they have an armload and can't open a door I get it for them. If I see a pregnant woman or an elder standing I offer them my seat.If I see someone who is short trying to reach an item that's placed to high I offer to get it down for them. My children behave in the same way.

When we moved down to the States people in the town where we lived took these things as a sign of weakness, one day at work I had a cowboy threaten to beat me because I didn't give him his grocery order immediately. I jumped over the counter got up in his face and told him I knew his Mama and I knew she raised him better than that. He threatened to go to my superior and file a complaint, I looked at everyone around the deli and asked them who threatened whom? They all pointed at him.

This was a kid that I fed lunch to in my home for two years while he was in high school, he and a large group of kids would come to my house with my daughter for lunch everyday. These were kids whose parents made to much money to be on the hot lunch program but couldn't afford to feed their kids. His action wasn't caused by a lack of respect in me, but a lack of respect in himself, and his family, because he remembered being to poor for a basic need (food) and that I was the one that provided it.

When I left my husband that's exactly the situation we were in but not one single person my children and I helped before stepped up to help us. There was no reciprocity(sp) of any kind, this was most down-heartening for us. Especially when they DEMANDED more help from us when we were living pay check to pay check ourselves. When we had no more to give we were treated like outcasts by most of that town.

None of those situations had much of anything to do with respect, but a little common sense, consideration, and good manners, could have gone a very long way. As it is I left that town as soon as I could afford to, just like so many others have it's very quickly turning into the ghost town it deserves to be.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

It's just me thanks for sharing this experience with us. You sound like someone to be reckoned with and that is good. Im afraid all across America especially there is a lack of respect for the elderly and I don't know when or why it happened but it did. Thank God for people like you who care enough to put someone in their place when they need to be, and Im sorry about the experience with your mother I wished she had hit the car with her cane. Blessings and thanks for reading.


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It's just me 6 years ago from Alaska

That might be part of the solution right there. People need to start stepping up and saying "I'm a human being and deserve to be treated like one."


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Nellieanna 6 years ago from TEXAS

Well - here am I - among the elderly, more than the lady in the grocery line who was rudely treated. I don't experience disrespect, to be totally honest, unless getting hit on by whippersnappers counts as disrespect.

But I do genuinely regret that some of my peers do suffer disrespect and even abuse. However it is symptomatic of a whole generational malady. Kids shoot their classmates for trivial reasons. This was totally unthought of in the past, let alone done - and frequently as it is now.

Many kinds of disrespect seem to overshadow the kind people who still remember how to be considerate and teach their children to be civilized. But a generation of barbarians will behave accordingly, and that is what we are seeing now. The chickens have started to come home to roost.

If improvement is to happen, people must once agan be given examples and taught to be humane from birth. Mass childcare can't replace timely parental guidance in these matters. Major changes are needed or society crumbles. It's imperative.

Thanks for a good hub, ladyjane. I hope it stirs action! However, returning barbarism with barbarism is not the effective action needed.


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saddlerider1 6 years ago

What a timely hub. I am overwhelmed by the support given here and the understanding that not one of us is perfect. We are merely human beings going through a transition of life's circle from the cradle to the grave. Throughout time there has always been respect given and shown to the elders. It's riddled throughout our history books. Man's inhumanity to man will not stop because we are in the 21st century.

Change has to come from within and that only happens by being taught at a very early age to be kind,loving and caring to people of all ages. Sure I don't condone people pushing in front of people, acting rude and mean to each other. But it seems that if your a geek, nerd, ugly, poorly dressed, poor, homeless, a person of color, some one down on their luck and so much more, then you are prayed upon by the vultures of society.Is it right to injure the elderly, of course it isn't but unfortunately until people take a stand against abuse and violence, it will continue to plague us all. Yes it's sad when it comes down to thinking of carrying a gun and blowing someone away for simply moving to the front of the line, that's very base. But fear is being put into many people's hearts and minds and they are willing to kill someone because they to are fearful that it could be them next. Peace is the answer, but unfortunately that is not going to happen, we are on a social decline in our world and time is not on our side. I pray that our world will find peace and humanity soon before it's to late. The clock is ticking and it's the tick of a time bomb. Great hub, you sure raised some questions about our humanity. God bless the elderly, and God bless tolerance and forgiveness, we didn't ask to grow old, but please treat us with humility, patience and love, we were young once to.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

saddlerider thanks for visiting my hub and your nice comments. Never did I think that something that happened to me at a grocery store would create so much passion in so many people and it is because we can all relate. We all are growing older and all we want is some dignity. This woman in the store did nothing wrong she was just a little dazed and maybe confused at best and she certainly didn't deserve the treatment that she received. And I am afraid you are corect about the decline in our society and this is what it has come to. People having no patience with elderly its so sad. Thanks for always reading my hubs and commenting so eloquently. Cheers.


Bambino 6 years ago

All i have to say on this matter is..The young of today should remember that they are the 'old 'of tomorrow..one day they will be standing in lines waiting to be served,waiting in bus queues hoping someone will help them onto the bus or at least offer to put their bag on for them,hoping the shop door isn't going to shut before tey get there meaning a struggle to open it,need i go on ?

My warning to the young disrespectfull of today's society would be,respect the elderly of this world,they faught in 2 wars to give you a life ,one day you will be old how will you feel if nobody gives you the respect you deserve ?


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Bambino thank you so much for reading my hub. I agree with everything you mentioned and some of our "younger generation", the ones that do not have any respect for elderly people were probably raised that way or they just went terribly wrong. If one of my sons or daughters ever treated someone like this I would personally kick their asses. Yes everyone should be mindful that they will one day be in those shoes. Thanks agan for visiting. Cheers.


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foster parent 6 years ago

I think it is because we dropped religion education from our schools


Bambino 6 years ago

Kid these days are not in awe of anyone or anything..there is little or no disciplin anymore when I was a kid (many years ago) the police,the vicar and most of all your parents were respected and woe betide you if you did anything wrong..not now though,respect and disciplin seem to be a thing of the past.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Foster parent I agree with you here it seems that when we took God out of our schools that terrible things started to happen that we had never seen before such as school shootings and such and we lost total control of our children. Thanks for your opinion and for visiting. Cheers.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Bambino you are right these days it seems like a lot of younger people have totally lost respect for anyone in authority and there are many bullies out there and they prey on the elderly because they are more vulnerable. Thanks for visiting again. I value your opinion. Cheers.


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mquee 6 years ago from Columbia, SC

Times have changed so drastically from the time of my youth. When I was young, I never thought about getting old. On the other hand I never, ever thought about showing disrespect to anyone older than I was. I believe it is the training one receives at home and what is permitted in society, these things with a strong helping of selfishness make for a rude unthinking person. As you said, every young person is not this way, because everytime it seems I feel down about today's young people, I meet one or two that are so courteous and respectful. Very good hub.


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SpanStar 6 years ago

This is not the America it use to be. There was a time this country did believe in God and the values taught by the bible were taught to citizens but no more, we just open the flood gates and say, people do whatever the heck you want.

People really do have to be taught how to be good because it really does just come naturally.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

mquee thanks for reading my most popular hub to date. You are right times have changed and the generations of political correctness have raised their children and their children are spoiled rotten for the most part. Now I believe that there are still plenty of young adults out there that have respect for the elderly and that reflects on their parents and how they were raised. But what happened to these punks out there that hurt homeless people for sport and even set them on fire. 80 year old woman getting plumeted by teenagers, what went so wrong with these people that they could do such things and still sleep like babies at night? Thanks for reading and cheers.

@Span Star I totally agree with you. They wanted God out of our country and he pretty much left and left a bunch of godless people. This country really needs our prayers. My mother is 76 years old and God help anyone that mistreats her. Thanks for reading and cheers.


Sara 6 years ago

I was contemplating about the concept "respect for the elderly", and surfing the Internet out of curiosity when I came up on this page. What are the reasons behind the concept? Why should the elderly be treated with extra respect just because they're old? The simplest explanation could be, in my opinion, that getting older and weaker as life goes on is not the elderly's fault but a rule of life, and thus we should respect and protect them as an expression of mere humane sense of fairness. But on the other hand, everyone gets old, and since 'everyone' van be any person, being old doesn't automatically mean being otherwise respectable. If an elderly doesn't act respectable should we overlook it just because they're old? I mean, in this story, for example, why did the old lady get in front of him really? AND why did she kept ignoring him if she heard him asking her about it?? Honestly, I would be frustrated too. I do things like giving up my seat on the bus for the elderly just because they're old. But I don't they have to act disrespectful of others just because they're old.


AnonGuy 6 years ago

Hello, well as a "young dude" myself, I can say society does treat them pretty much as invisibles. The problem with the kids is the idea that old people = Not cool. That whole thing.

You get these young hip companies making ads on TV showing Betty White being snazzy and all that, and it's like kids say, see now that's the way I like old people to be.

Society is just getting too fast. It's become like a business, where they no longer care about feelings, just the bottom line.

Let's start caring about feelings again.

You know what we need?

Another hit by some young band with Tony Bennett. That'll get the train rollin.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

AnonGuy you nailed that pretty good and I agree with you. I know that old isn't cool and when you are a young person you feel miles away from being old but they have to realize that those miles come quicker than they expect it to and they should treat people the way they would want to be treated when they are old. And I bet they wouldn't think it would be cool if someone treated their grandma like that. Very good answer. Thanks for reading. Cheers.


Gigi 6 years ago

It has been said that there is no bad youth

Only bad leaders. And it is true.

Children are the product of the society they live in. The parents abdicated their duties to educate their children. They let their government educate their children true the school system. Then they are to busy to spend time with their kids. They don't realise the kids nead mom and dad, the cat, hot chocolate, playing in the snow, camping with mom and dad and learning how to be nice to each other, because we are a family and wer care.

they did not pass down family values, human valuses, kindness as a value to make a more pleasant society to live in. They accepted new values that are detrimental to family life. No marriage, kids out of wed luck, irresponsible sex. No ideal. ( If you don't have that you will do squat in life. )

The family is dying in America. Soon family life will be exceptional event.

If you don't have the right relationship with your kids, where you nurture, guide, give a good example of kindnes, community friendship,create a welcoming home. A home is not a building. It's the place where the people you care about live. And do have expectations and basic moral values. If you have none, you have none to give, and your kids won't have any and you will eventually be the old fuck at the wrong end of the stick!

Life is not about things. It's about people. Get the right people together and you won't lack important things. And what are they, those things? Necessities,relationship, the possibility to fulfil your creative self.

It's not rocket science! Get a brain, people, and use it for the greater good.


Gab 6 years ago

Respect. Wow! What a big word. And what does it mean? Serously, that word has been used in such a maner that it mans something different than it should.

There can be no respect, it you have no consideration for the person in front of you.

People are mistaking submission for respect. I did see this in school wiith school personnel. They want submission, not respect. Sorry but you won't get submission from the really smart people and the bold ones.You won't get it from the wimps, and there is alot of those. Many pretend to be submissive, but they dispise those who demand submission. They simply quickly learn to be good hypocrites. What an education system. And it teaches nothing. When you have an average of 58% to 60% failure to graduate high school in the country, is there anything worth respecting in the school system? I think not.

The Bullying is learned in school. The disrespectful behaviour is learned from other kids and from the teachers. Oh.... Ya.

You respect what you admire, You respect what you want to emulate, you respect people who show you kindness, support, and a model to emulate. There is not much to emulate in our schools, in our leaders, in everything else.

Kids learn from what they see, and who do they look up to? Adults! It's monkey see, monkey do.

And then you have to tell them what is right and why. Oh... You mean, you mean...we have to explain what to do, what not to do, we have to tell them that being mean is not the right thing to do? But it's so much fun to see "Johnny" beat up little Luc, the third nabour when they get off the school bus...

Well, yes it's sick but that's what you've got to work with. It starts early folks. And it goes on. Then it's Oh, look at this! The old guy over there! Shit! He's slow! If only I could be less of a wimp boy would I send him rolling in the trafic with his wheel chair. Not very nice.

Then it's Nursing home personnel who give the old geezer all kind of hurtfull treament from neglect to down right physical injuries. It sucks! I know. And this is the worse kind of abuse that goes on in those places. So if you have relatives in those places, go visit them. If you find anything suspicious, report it. Where? Physical injuries, or dehidration, (An elderly can die from this) , or starvation beause of lack of care, retaining pain medication, serious mismanagement of medication, all this can make a good police report.

Get involve.


Chris 6 years ago

The bond between the elderly and their adult children is to seek, or non existant. But the real reason is the wrong values are the ones passed down. Adults give wrong behavious to emulate.

Ask an adult what his moral values are. Be patient. It's going to take a while. The adult has to think real hard to find some.

I found out they want to promote euthanasia of the sick and old people, now. They have a cute euphemism for it. They call it the right to die. Sorry to kill your fun,but that so called right, you already have it. In fact, you cannot decide to live forever. Won't work. Your body mechanics does not work like that. In fact, there comes a time when it stops on it's own.

And quite a few people in the medical peronnel are in favor of this euthanasia thing. I said to that nurse: " Fine, we will know exactly what to do with you when you will become sick. You should have seen the long face the instantly put on. She did not think euthanasia would apply to her! Ha! People are soooo.... stupid. They don't think further then their ass.

When people have a hard time to be nice with their own family members, respect for strangers will soon be out the door.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

gigi you are so right someone dropped the ball somewhere and when kids do not get the attention they need they act out in different ways. Thanks for reading and commenting. Cheers.

@Gab I understand what you are saying but these smart kid that are not submissive to authority certainly have paretents and grandpartents and they should think if they would want their family get treated this way. Is a shame I dont think you have to go through extensive training to be kind to an old woman. Cheers.

@chris thank for reading and for your opinion cheers.


Francine 6 years ago

I got onto my computer and googled “why Americans are rude towards the elderly” and I’m glad I got through to this website.

I just got a cultural shock few minutes ago. I was at Rite Aid and I let this 75 year lady in front of me who was breathing heavily slowly moving her groceries. This guy behind me started shouting that his baby was hungry why I thought I had the right to let someone in front thus deciding for the entire line. I asked him to go ahead of me, he didn't want to because he thought he didn’t have the make a decision that will affect the people who were behind him. While I understand his concern and respect for the people behind the line, I just couldn't believe all that rudeness. Oh, and I forgot to mention, I turned to people behind asked if they minded me letting the old leady go before me (there’s me expecting rolling eyes like just let him go, he’s a jackass) they all said, well she should've joined the line just like everybody else. I shook my head in disbelief. What has become of this place? My first encounter with what I've been warned as 'rude New Yorkers'. I come from Southeast Europe and we respect the elderly (well most of the people do) so after witnessing this tonight, I left the shop literally shaking. I shouldn't say this, but I really do hope that guy grows one lonely old man because I doubt his son will be raised with proper values and manners to be there for him to show love and affection.

I’m glad there are so many people out there who feel the same way as I do that children and the elderly need our support and care.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

Francine I guess there are rude people everywhere we just cant get away from it and its probably gonna get worse. The fact that so many people were in agreement that the old lady was in the wrong just proves our point. Its really a crying shame. This hub really hit a nerve with people and the majority of the comments thank goodness were positive. Im glad that you are the kind of person that was upset by this because it says alot about your character. Dont change it for anyone. Cheers and blessings.


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dgicre 6 years ago from USA

Just another sign of the times we live in, our society used to value family above all else. Now it seems we have become a society that values money and the material thing that it will buy. Our kids are raised by day care centers while both parents work to make the boat and huge house payments. Parents just don't have the time to teach kids empathy for the elderly and animals as well. Kids are cuddled more than ever before and taught from an early age that there are no consequences for bad behavior. Strong discipline and spanking is no taboo and we are living with the results of our actions. When I grew up if I would ever sass anyone elderly it was met with a quick slap across the mouth. I learned to respect authority from an early age.

There was film on 60 Minutes once where baby elephants were raised with no bull elephants in their herd because poachers killed them for their tusks. When they grew up and became juveniles, they carried on, wrecked havoc, and became a terror to the rest of the herd. It was not until a new bull elephant was introduced back into the herd did they quickly calm down and mellow out. Why? Because the Bull elephant did not put up with them and quickly put them in their place.

As humans we can learn something from the elephants, cuddling only works so far and at some point we need to assert authority and teach our children lack of respect for others is not an option.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

dgicre thanks for reading and for your insightful comment. The elephant was a great example that even in animals the lack of authority is missed in society and will have consequences. Cheers to you.


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dramatis personae 6 years ago from USA

I think we have each generation not respecting anything, even themselves. The Boom generation has a large number, so hence less respect. But I don't believe many people respect much these days.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

dramatis I do believe you are right. Thanks for giving your opinion and reading my hub. Cheers.


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ahorseback 6 years ago

Ladyjane , Gretings , I have been in homes and around people that just plain have no manners or respect for anyone, Sounds like you were raised , as I was , in the old school . It really bothers me to see this as I believe that its where we are all going wrong. Manners , ethics , good character traits are on the way out in our culture. I may have lost it on this kid or man in the store , maybe thats what they need. Respect for the elderly was just a plain given in our day, but today its in decline. I "Jokingly,tell my wife , we need a cleansing in America , A plague , a meteor strike or something. But we need it bad.....Great hub.


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ladyjane1 6 years ago from Texas Author

ahorseback good to see you again and I know exactly what you mean. I am from the old school as you put it where we respected our elders and would have never thought to talk back to someone older. Nowadays it seems kids love to find any reason to go off on their elders. I just wonder how these kids were raised and how this generation of kids fell through the cracks. I guess their parents were too busy being politically correct that they do not know how to discipline anymore. I am always amazed at how I hear kids talk to their parents sometimes. I remember when my kids were teens and I got the occasional eyeroll but they never dissrespected us in our home EVER and it would break my heart if I saw them dissrespect an elderly person in public. Anyway, thanks for reading and commenting as always, cheers to you.


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Iontach 5 years ago

Woah, that is certainly a sad story...Don't want to sound wimpy, but my eyes got a little watery.

I don't know why people can be so negative towards the elderly, they are just so lovely and friendly.

I remember two days ago I was in hospital for a check up, and I was hoping somebody would talk to me in the waiting room. Then this lovely old lady came and sat beside me and began talking to me for ages about her life and her grand daughter. We had a lovely conversation that really cheered me up.

I then went to get the metro to go into the city and at the metro stop another elderly lady called Maire began talking to me. I again had a lovely conversation with her and we even ended up going shopping together! lol!

She was lovely and kept on talking about Irish history, I learned a lot!

I'm certainly glad I was not in that supermarket you were in when that man began harassing that woman, I have an awful temper and I definitely would have seen red, big time.

Karma will definitely bite him in the ass, if it has not already. And like yourself, I'd love to be there to see it.

Nice insightful hub Ladyjane! :)

Cheers,

Iontach


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ladyjane1 5 years ago from Texas Author

lontach thanks for visiting my hubnugget hub. This hub really did touch people in such a way that they really voiced their opinions whether they agreed with me or not. Anyway, Im glad that you arent like that fellow in the store, you seem to have much respect for your elders and that is good because some young people do not ever think that they will ever be an older person but they have to realize that time goes very fast my friend and they will be there one day themselves and hopefully they will encounter better people at grocery stores who pay them more respect than they did when they were young. CHeers to you and congrats again.


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

Respect for elders starts at home. Our children learn from example, if we teach them that seniors aren't important and not worthy of our time they will in turn not have respect for us in old age.


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ladyjane1 5 years ago from Texas Author

Pamela you are so right, thanks for stopping by and for the great advice. cheers.


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visionandfocus 5 years ago from North York, Canada

It's poor (or non-existent) parenting. Your behaviour is a reflection of your upbringing, full stop.

I really don't think culture (in the sense of race) has anything to do with it. But culture in the sense of modern/'pop' culture, more than likely. When the media glorify mean people, when reality shows are all about ganging up on weaker members just so you yourself get ahead, when it's 'cool' to ostracize those who are different from you in any way (high school movies, anyone?), we're sending a message to our kids that it's not only OK to beat up on the weaker members of society, it's actually normal and even funny. A sad state of affairs indeed.


Eric Sinclair 5 years ago

I think its because elderly people are the weakest and easiest to take advantage of. They pose no threat. I am only 21 years old but i am an expert on history and over the past 30 years the U.S had deteriorated from a society of respect into a society of greed and strong vs week. I can see the same thing in other areas of the population. Can you imagine someone in the 1950 openly saying a hard working police officer, teacher ,or even factory worker was overpaid and didn't deserve to make a decent living! Yet today we see it in the news everyday! We now have a society that pics on the weak. The elderly are cast aside because they are useless in this power game of strong against weak.


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ladyjane1 5 years ago from Texas Author

visionandfocus and Eric thanks for your support and for contributing with your comments. Cheers to you both.


tanya 5 years ago

there should be respect to elder as they are a storehouse of knowledge and experience


RAmona 5 years ago

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Brandy 5 years ago

I do believe that the elderly should be respected but I also believe the youth should be respected also. I remember growing up that the older adult(before they became elderly) would be verbally abusive and always had something negative to say about youth even though they were young at one time. I believe in the golden rule “treat others the way you want to be treated”. That rule has nothing to do with age…yet the elderly act like they should be entitled to respect when they themselves don’t give it. The question is what type of seeds do we sow as middle aged adults to receive disrespect from the youth. Before that person became “old and frail” how were they in their youth? I tell you that I was talking to a neighbor and her daughter got into a fight with another neighbor’s child and do you know what she did? She cussed that child and called him fat and ugly and continued to belittle this child. It is sad to see us abusing the youth and then questioning why they are rude towards the seniors. I have heard of seniors spitting and kicking the young people that care for them. I don’t believe moral teaching should be one sided. I think that is what is wrong with the American society. We get mad at the people who get pushed over the edge but not at the people who instigates the outcome of a negative reaction. Case in point we get mad at man that hit his woman but not at the woman who beat on him first. I was abused physically and emotionally over the years from the older adult even though I have healed from those wounds that was afflicted on me in my “weak young years”, I learned the value of the golden rule and try to make headway in being positive and respectful to everyone because one day I will be old and I would want the respect that I gave out to the young generation. I have met seniors who had beautiful spirits and good relationships with the youth because of how they treat them and in turn the youth is respectful to them. I tell you it is a beautiful sight.


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gmwilliams 5 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

To ladyjane1: Excellent hub. I totally agree with you.


leann2800 5 years ago

It is so sad that society does not realize what absolute treasures are elderly are. They are a wealth of experience and we certainly would not even be here without them.


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ladyjane1 5 years ago from Texas Author

gmwilliam and leann thank you both for taking the time to read my most read hub...Leann you are right it is sad when society treats senior citizens like second class citizens because as you said they are treasures. The one thing Iremember the most in beauty school was the older clients that we serviced.They would love to taik about their life and their grandkids and they would also get so excited for thier appointment everyweek, Im sure that most ofthem really wanted adult company and I had a wonderfultime spending that time with them. I heard lots of stories about their past and it was very interesting and I always looked forward to it immensly and like you said, "they are a wealth of experience and we certainly wouldnt be here without them....thanks for reading and commenting. Cheers.


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ladyjane1 5 years ago from Texas Author

gmwilliam and leann thank you both for taking the time to read my most read hub...Leann you are right it is sad when society treats senior citizens like second class citizens because as you said they are treasures. The one thing Iremember the most in beauty school was the older clients that we serviced.They would love to taik about their life and their grandkids and they would also get so excited for their appointment everyweek, Im sure that most ofthem really wanted adult company and I had a wonderfultime spending that time with them. I heard lots of stories about their past and it was very interesting and I always looked forward to it immensly and like you said, "they are a wealth of experience and we certainly wouldn't be here without them....thanks for reading and commenting. Cheers.


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Joe BloggsUK 4 years ago

This lack of respect for Seniors is also prevalent in England where the young regard the old as "old farts" (i.e. useless retarded people only useful for their property which can be burgled) One huge difference between the USA and the UK is that over here there are no guns kept at home. This is great for burglars who have no scruples whatsoever about looting ones property. In this way they can bypass decades of work and being thrifty. Even if the are caught they are seldom punished and in many cases they just receive a telling-off (its called a Police Caution) There have been reports of persons committing in the order of seventy burglaries before being jailed which IMHO is disgusting. When ones possessions are rifled through and stolen the house no longer feels like a home. Its as if it has been soiled, one thing is sure, it will never feel the same again. Why should people have to move house? It is the burglars who should move to jail.


harpqueen 4 years ago

I wouldn't have that "young man" get away with abusing an elderly person like that . he got out of line . if i had been the store owner i would have had security kick him out of my store for harassing her . he should know better than to disrespect his elders . that's why we have spaces reserved for the handicapped and elderly . they go first by law . i hope he gets sued someday for harassing the elderly .


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ladyjane1 4 years ago from Texas Author

I agree with both you Joe and harpqueen it is a very sore spot with me. I appreciate your input. Cheers.


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alancaster149 4 years ago from Forest Gate, London E7, U K (ex-pat Yorkshire)

Merlin Fraser has some good points in his analysis (I went that far back), nevertheless there are other issues at play here in attitudes toward the elderly. As someone else pointed out, self-respect - or lack of it - plays a lead part in bullying. In a balanced society we would give everyone their space and take our turn, but it isn't and we don't... At least some don't. It might stem from self-pity, but it doesn't excuse gross behaviour towards those now more dependent on others than they might have been.

There is also an issue amongst the elderly that they expect respect come-what-may. You get respect by your bearing, and then again we're all products of our environment. Some have never seen respect, know how to earn it, nor ever give it. Plain and simple.


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Joe BloggsUK 4 years ago

This is an excellent hub and I regret to say that things are very similar in the UK. For a typical case see You Tube "Scotrail no ticket". In this clip the ticket collector who appears to be aged over sixty, is given abuse by an eighteen year old who has no ticket.


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ladyjane1 4 years ago from Texas Author

Joe thanks for reading my hub and Im sorry to hear that about the uk I guess it is everywhere. I guess there are a couple of generations past that didn't have any respect shown them by their parents or peers and this is the result. Cheers.


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Joe BloggsUK 4 years ago

Latest one that I have read is yobs in Newhaven UK stoning the lifeboat as it was leaving on a "shout". Perhaps they wanted to trash the lifeboat so that people would be left to drown. These yobs ought to be birched.


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ladyjane1 4 years ago from Texas Author

So sad Joe. Cheers.


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alancaster149 4 years ago from Forest Gate, London E7, U K (ex-pat Yorkshire)

I can see this one's going to run and run, like 'Dad's Army' over here, about the WWII Home Guard at 'Walmington-on-Sea'. It was a popular series about 'have-a-go' ex-WWI servicemen and a youngster too young for active service. The antics they got up to would have creased the Germans up, rather than defeat them on the battlefield - which might have been just as good in the circumstances (and more economical in terms of ammunition). What's lacking is community spirit, and self-respect (as I've already said).


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Levertis Steele 3 years ago from Southern Clime

Nursing homes are some of the main places where seniors suffer abuse. Privacy is fine, but cameras, monitored by designated personnel, or an outside agency (medical personnel), should be installed in rooms, restrooms, dayrooms, bathrooms, and other places residents frequent in order to see what is happening to these poor souls and cut down on the crime.

More elderly are being placed in nursing homes because their children and grandchildren are living in a world that demands them to work. Living off a small piece of land is no longer an option for making a living. As life changes, people must change the ways they do things.

This is a subject that needs much attention. Well done!


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cfin 3 years ago from The World we live in

A good few many people I know are racist, homophobic, bigoted and just plain rude. Its sad to say that the good ones have to suffer.

I always believed that as we go through life we are surrounded by many fake people. As we age, we notice that these fake people find it more and more difficult to keep up the charade. Nearing the end of their life they become bitter, cranky old people as their friends around them pass on. For me, it is important for people to understand that not all old people are like this. Just like people of all ages, a huge amount of old people are bad people, but not anymore than any other age group.

People need to care for their older family members and if the old have no family, pay them a visit, send them a letter or even just say hi for 5 minutes :) It might make their week.


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RealityTalk 3 years ago from Planet Earth

I have noticed what you have noticed as well, but it is not limited to a disrespect for the elderly. It is a general disrespect for all people and the elderly suffer from this as well.

Quick background on me. I am a 56 year old father of a 17, 14 & 10 year old, happily married for twenty years. I am an attorney who practiced from home all these years & who raised all 3 of my children from diapers to school while working.

I respect all people, young & old, male & female, educated & not, etc. I still cannot help but acknowledge with a friendly smile & hello every priest & nun that I pass despite being a realist/Atheist. And I hold doors for everyone.

But common courtesies seem to have vanished in the last couple of decades. I have lost much respect for the elderly myself. I have had many run ins with rude, cantankerous, self-centered elderly men & women. There are exceptions & that is why I still approach all under the assumption they will be nice & courteous until they prove otherwise.

I believe our culture has evolved into one where the individual & winning has become more important than the group & enjoying the game. Children are raised to be better than all others at the expense of all others. The heroes in our culture are now nasty rappers, outlandishly dressed & badly behaving entertainers, crooked politicians, self-centered corporate leaders, spoiled-far-from role model athletes and money driven religious leaders. Our culture has no tolerance for anyone that gets in our way or has nothing to offer us monetarily, fame-wise or career wise. What can you do for me now is most important.

A little modesty. A little humbleness. A little understanding of others. A little caring for others for no other reason than they need our help. These are the qualities that are lacking in so many & why I believe you are here today asking a valid question. The solution: treat the elderly & all others as if each one of them was the most important person in your life. And, maybe what you do will catch on & others will do the same.


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ladyjane1 3 years ago from Texas Author

Levertis Steele appreciate your commenting on this my most read hub to date. I totally agree with what you say about the nursing homes. I have seen many documentaries on the subject of nursing home abuse and it really breaks my heart. I wish that as time goes on people will keep talking about this so that maybe change will come. Thanks for reading...cheers.


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ladyjane1 3 years ago from Texas Author

cfin thanks for reading and commenting. I agree that there are some very cranky old people out there and who knows what has happened to them in their life to make them that way, and that is why we cannot judge. Great advice about the visits Im sure it would make their week. Cheers.


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ladyjane1 3 years ago from Texas Author

Reality I agree with you on all points my friend. And I know what you mean about some seniors who aren't very nice. I work with a couple myself and have also encountered some very cranky older people, but like I said in an earlier comment, I cannot judge them so I treat them the way I treat everyone, I do not sink down to their particular level so I hold my tongue so as not to have regrets later on. Every situation, every person are different and we can only go by what is happening at the moment and not make a blanket judgement. In this particular case a frail old lady should never have been treated in this matter no matter how many old cranky seniors we come across, and no matter what is going on in the world. I agree that the world in general is getting more disrespectful...(I have seen teens yelling at their parents in public and it makes me cringe). Its a crying shame that that is the way the world is now. I appreciate your comments and thanks for listening to the rantings of a middle age crank lol.......Cheers to you.


clineshaunt 3 years ago

Hello. I think there are a couple of wrongs at work. I think when you have disillusioned younger generations who's wages are dropping, experiencing high unemployment, and many who work hard but are getting nowhere and at the same time constantly getting berated by older generations as lazy, self entitled and so on, it desensitizes the younger generations to the point where they feel they can't do anything right and the natural reaction is to lash out. I'm not in anyway saying this is correct behavior because it is not. I myself am guilty of this. I used to work in retail as a manager and day in day out getting attacked by older generations about not knowing what I was doing, blaming me for things out of control (unfortunately, younger generations didn't do this near as much), plus corporate crap, I got desensitized and had no issue taking it out on the older generations. I thought, you've never done this job before so what do you know about it? I thought too, what gives you the right to come in here and act like this? Then there's the hard work lecture. I knew that those generations, adjusting for inflation of course :), made more money than me, had pensions, had far better health care and I felt that a lot of people my age worked every bit as hard as them so I took it as an insult and disrespectful to be lectured by older generations about hard work. My friends and I had jobs in high school, plus had a job, and played sports. It seemed too many times that I got the "You should've done this" or "You made mistakes here" all based on assumptions without asking any question. Not to mention they lived in a time when the interest rate on savings accounts was astronomically higher. I was an office manager at a bank and an elderly woman was telling me "You're generation doesn't know how to save....and so on." I asked her about savings when she was younger and heard all about the 4% interest rate in her day. I told her the current rate was .1% and to put in perspective her interest rate was 40 times higher than the current rate. You get tired of hearing it after a while. I know longer work in that environment and am a much different person. I'm not saying these problems are the older generations fault. It's important to remember that the older generations, Baby Boomer WWII, lived in a time when Unions protected the workers and looked out for their wages, benefits and pensions (I'm not trying to ignite a debate about Unions :). Unfortunately there will always be mean people, but problems need to be solved at the source. I think the older generations should make some attempt to understand what younger generations are experiencing while the younger generations need to show some understanding and patience to the older generations lived in a different time and might not be fully aware of the impact of changes on the younger generation. When both sides are firing off assumptions from the hip and carrying generational pride, people are just going to get angry and lose respect and that will not solve anything. Sorry this was long, just my opinion.


charlesochoa 3 years ago

I found this small hub by accident. But let me start first with the basics:

Yes, undoubtedly some people have lost respect for the elderly without a cause. However, you also have the elderly who for any reason feel entitled or worse, have this mentality of "I can treat you like I want whether you deserve it or not, but I am exempt from that simply because I am old". Why is he more important than I am? Why would I respect, or honor, someone who feels like my dignity is not allowed to coexist along with his? I am not saying all old people are like this, but plenty of old people feel this entitlement.

I am 24 years old, I understand I should respect my elders and I do respect them. However, when they show immature behavior best left to a 5 year old rather than an old, wise man/woman; I have no reservations in asking for some respect. Again, just because a person is old, it doesn't mean there is this magic barrier of "you can't touch me because I am old and I can treat you however I want to" because, society works based on the respect you give to others.

Just this night I was having a conversation with an elderly, retired man over Facebook. Simply because I showed him how he was wrong in a comment he made he started typing obscenities and trying to make me feel bad. And this also happens at my line of work as I work for technical support. Do you really think that's proper behavior for an older person? I understand I should be patient, but like everyone else, I also have my limit, and disrespect and lack of common sense and wisdom are it. I still treat them at first like individuals who have to be respected but when they show they think and act in an immature way just because of this sense of entitlement, that's when I don't hold any respect.

In other words, respect for the elderly is fine up until they show that they are just like everyone else who is disrespectful.


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ladyjane1 3 years ago from Texas Author

Charles i agree with you respect is a two way street and believe me i have encountered those rude seniors as well, i mean there is good and bad in everyone. I just mean that i believe theres more people like this woman in this hub who get dissrespected and alot more than they should. I mean when kids cant even show their parents respect they are not goona have any for anyone else much less a stranger in a grocery store who accidentally cut in front of them....i know where you are coming from but im talking about the truly innocent ones and the abuse that they go through....thanks for taking the time to read and comment i enjoyed your input..cheers!


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VenusPiano 2 years ago from Australia

I'm still in my early teens, studying Chinese as a second language. I have very ... disrespectful and racist classmates, whom have shown no gratefulness or patience with our elderly Chinese teacher. Only a couple of other friends in my class have shown the respect that this awesome individual deserves for putting up with this behaviour. I look up to people who can put up with the assholes in this community .


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Irish Shrew 2 years ago from Midwest

We have surely failed these last generations of -protecting, respecting, and cherishing our elderly citizens. When do I think it started? The 60's. I embrace the liberating movement in the 60's toward women's independence, awareness of sexual harassment, equal rights, etc. It obviously, paved the way for a black president. But it did something else. We got so caught up in the 'me' generation that we seemed to have forgotten about the past generations. They were held in contempt initially, and then gradually- a joke. The comics mainly use senior citizens as fodder toward punch lines, Florida jokes from Jon Stewart. Not only from the past, but the present; we have the entertainment industry focused on the youth. They are the money producers. So anyone over the age of 35 is virtually-Old. The 60's also gave us rapid technology. With technology we seemed to have spawned voyagers from the next generation; Thus, promoting new thought, new ideas, and new discoveries. Senior citizen were lost in the mix. Their clear and thoughtful contributions toward future generations were no longer expected, requested, nor held to any regard. Too bad for them, I learn so much when volunteering at a Veteran of Foreign War- post. If only our youth could lay their ego down for a few minutes and talk to a senior citizen. The computer would pale in comparison....


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ladyjane1 2 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks irish shrew for leaving that well thought out comment and i completely agree with you. We live in a society now where people over 40 feel they have to apologize for their age and its a shame, cuz as you stated older people have so much left to share... cheers!


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savvydating 2 years ago

Blatant disrespect of our elders is shameful, to say the least. I remember being a ticket handler for an event. An elderly man was in front of a very young man. For whatever reason the young man began jostling the older man a bit. The older man asked him politely to let him get his ticket and to kindly give him a little space. The young guy then said something extremely rude. He may even have used foul language. All I remember is how disgusted and outraged I felt at the younger man. I then refused the young man entrance as he had not bought his ticket yet. I told him he had no respect and that he was not welcome here. I then called security to back me up. The sad part is that security let the young man through. I was lived, but there was nothing I else could do. I then apologized to the elderly man for his trouble and told him I would gladly back him up if he chose to complain.

More people have to stand up to bullies who think they can roughhouse the elderly and the homeless. Rude people like the young man you wrote about and the one I confronted make me angry. Frankly, I think there is a lot to be said for righteous anger. People should not be allowed to get away with abusing the elderly. Period.


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ladyjane1 2 years ago from Texas Author

Savvydating you are so right. I applaud you for sticking up for that elderly man. Im sure he will never forget that. And you are right to be outraged as this problem seems to get worse everyday. cheers to your courage.


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Darcy Allen 2 years ago from Maryland, US

I think that it is because of the breakdown of communities, and the view that the elderly are a burden and not a blessing to our families and community. There is this unspoken idea that because the elderly don't work, that their contribution to society is done, and that they are more or less "worthless". So many old people are sent away, institutionalized, to live the rest of their days with other old folks, away from the society that they gave life too, unable to really contribute and take part in community life. We like to pat ourselves on the back for making such "nice" 65+ communities, when in reality we might as well be sending them all to prison, for the amount of interaction they get with the outside world once they are institutionalized.


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ladyjane1 2 years ago from Texas Author

Very interesting comment thank you!!


babblerem 2 years ago

Some people just hate we oldies don't they? Being a sunny Saturday morning I decided to treat myself with breakfast and coffee at a nearby cafe. I ordered and crossed the road to get a newspaper (can't drink my coffee without one!). Because of arthritis and having had a hip replacement op. I can't walk far and despite the help of my dad's old walking stick I can't manipulate a pavement step without something to lean on for a couple of seconds. I've had several falls and don't want to be a nuisance to kindly ambulance workers.

I often admire some of the gorgeous cars parked in the road. With newspapoer in hand I leaned slightly on a gleaming red car outside the newsagents and crossed the road. As I entered the cafe a young man said something to me. I said, 'Pardon ?' and he said, with a scowl on his face, “Thank you for using my car as a hand-rail!” I was slow on the uptake and mumbled something ineffective like 'Sorry, I like admiring the lovely cars in the road'. Not having my hearing aid with me I was fortunate, I believe, in not hearing what else he said to me.

I went to my seat, but returned to him and exaggerated by blurting out “Wait until you are 89”.

Perhaps I was wrong. Perhaps he was just trying to show his blonde girl-friend how macho he was. Perhaps elderly people, particularly silly old women like me should banish themselves to a Care Home where they will be out of sight and won't be a nuisance to anyone, but just an expense to the tax-payer.

 


babblerem 2 years ago

It was a lovely sunny morning so decided to treat myself to breakfast and coffee at a nearby cafe. I ordered and crossed the road to buy a couple of newspapers (can't drink my coffee without one!). Because of painful arthritis in all my joints and having had a hip replacement op. plus, I am told, a mild stroke, I can't walk far and despite the help of my dad's old walking stick I can't negotiate a pavement step without something to lean on for a couple of seconds. I've had several falls because my balance is affected and don't want to be a nuisance to kindly ambulance workers.

I often admire some of the gorgeous cars parked in the road (BMW's, Mercedes Benz and so forth). I could not afford a car but am a fan of TV shows like 'Chasing Classic Cars'. With papers in hand I leaned slightly for all of 2 seconds on a gleaming red car outside the newsagents and crossed the road. As I entered the cafe a young man said something to me. I said, 'Pardon ?' and he said, with a scowl on his face, “Thank you for using my car as a hand-rail!” I am slow on the uptake and mumbled something ineffective like 'Sorry, I like admiring the lovely cars in the road'. Not having my hearing aid with me I was fortunate, I believe, by the look on his face, in not hearing what else he said to me.

I went to my seat, but returned to him and blurted out “Wait until you are 88!”

Perhaps I was wrong. Perhaps he was just trying to show his blonde girl-friend how macho he was. Perhaps elderly people, particularly silly old women like me should banish themselves to a Care Home where they will be out of sight and won't be a nuisance to anyone except the Carers and the tax-payers. By the way, I can't do that as I am the sole carer for my 60yr old autistic, disabled son who lives with me!


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ladyjane1 2 years ago from Texas Author

Thanks for reading....I understand how you must have felt being told that. Of course he should have just let that go and not said anything. Who knows why people do and say the things that they do,especially to elderly. Glad you have a good atitude about it... cheers!!!

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