Why Do Successful Black Men Tend to Date/Marry Light-Skinned Black Women
Why Successful Black Men Gravitate Towards Light-Skinned Black Women
Despite the immense advances made by Blacks in academic and socioeconomic spheres, there seems to be a preponderance of successful Black men either dating, cohabiting with, or marrying light-skinned Black women. Why is this? Aren't there any highly successful and upwardly mobile darker-skinned Black women? Of course, there are.
Many Black men, especially successful ones, view light-skinned Black women as goddesses and royalty. Many successful Black men furthermore view the light-skinned Black woman as more cultured and more Caucasian-appearing hence her being the perfect companion. Many successful Black men date and/or marry light-skinned Black women in order to be accepted by their professional associates and friends.
To the successful Black male, the light-skinned Black woman is seen as a status symbol to show off to their friends and associates how successful he is. The light-skinned Black woman represents the idea of upward mobility. Also the light-skinned Black woman approximates the Caucasian ideal female and is viewed as more genteel and less threatening than her darker-skinned sisters.
Many successful Black men often come from middle class, upper middle class, and/or more affluent families socioeconomically. Within some of these families, there is a pronounced colorism mandating which skn color is socially acceptable and unacceptable. Furthermore many elite Black families look negatively upon their family members dating anyone darker than their respective skin color group. Conversely, some successful Black men, who grew up in poverty, wanted to escape from all the trappings of poverty by becoming economically successful. Many Black successful men believe that with their economic success, they want to achieve the ultimate symbol of success by marrying the light-skinned Black woman.
Even at the present time, fashion and entertainment media categorizes the light-skinned Black woman as more beautiful and elite than the darker-skinned Black woman. When one sees pictures of successful Black men in magazines and newspapers, often enough, he has either a light-skinned Black girlfriend and/or wife. This action was more endemic in the past when the majority of successful Black men dated and/or married a light-skinned Black woman to announce his upwardly mobile status. It is a minute few successful Black men who date and/or marry darker-skinned Black women. Some successful Black men refuse to date and/or marry darker-skinned Black women as they would remind him of his origins.
The light-skinned Black woman is oftentimes seen as a trophy and the ultimate prize to be had by the successful Black male. The light-skinned Black woman is viewed by many successful Black men as classy, feminine, and venerable. She represents a combination of Venus and Juno to many Black men. Subconsciously, despite the relative racial enlightenment at the present time, lighter still means better, beautiful, pristine, virtuous, cultured, and more affluent whereas darker means worse, ugly, dirty, evil, and less affluent.
In conclusion, successful Black men tend to date and/or marry light-skinned Black women because such women represent the aura of affluence and refinement. Also, such women are near the acceptable societal representation of beauty than their dark-skinned counterpart. Oftentimes, light-skinned Black women are considered to be the ultimate prize and trophy to the successful Black man. To many successful Black men, the light-skinned Black woman is as near Caucasian as he go on if he wishes to remain within the race.
Many successful Black men come from families where classism and colorism are strongly emphasized. Such men are strongly admonished by families to date and/or marry appropriately. In other words, they must date and/or marry women within their particular class and respective skin color. If they date and/or marry someone of a darker skin color, they are oftentimes derided by their family members. Light skinned Black women are also considered to be the feminine ideal while their dark-skinned counterparts are considered to be less feminine.
Each man has the unmitigated right to his individual preference, including skin color. However, there is no one skin color more acceptable and beautiful than the other. Skin color should never be the main and prime indicator for relationships. People should date and/or marry each other for intellectual, emotional, and/or spiritual characteristics, not skin color.
© 2010 Grace Marguerite Williams
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