Women Should Be Careful When Being Alone At Night

Yes, you are a strong independent woman who is doing it all alone without a man. You are liberated...you own your own business and know tae kwon do. You know you will kick somebody's ass if they come up on you to harm you. However you are forgetting one known fact. Men especially strong powerful men can over-power a woman. Yes, many self defense
courses teaches a woman how to defend herself, but what happens when someone pulls a gun on you? Are you going to be superwoman and catch a bullet between your teeth or disarm this gun from this man who is trying to rob or rape you?

I asked a friend of mine what would she do if a man came up to her to harm her and she told me, "I have a gun." My response to her... Like the wild wild west with their gunslingers... "who is going to be the quickest one to draw their gun and shoot?" Sure it is a good idea and it can save your life to own and carry a gun. The truth is not every woman owns a gun or knows how to use one.


There was a woman here in New Orleans, a school teacher named Terrilyn Monette. She was kidnapped from a bar a week ago and they are still searching for her. Two other women have gone missing since Terrilynn. Is there a serial killer on the loose?

Between Mardi Gras and Super Bowl time, three men followed a woman home, kidnapped her and gang raped her. They found the three scumbags who did it. Women should be free to go out and enjoy themselves without worrying what is going to happen to them. Unfortunately the world isn't a safe place for anyone. Women and children are especially vulnerable.

Be aware of your surroundings when you go out to have fun, bring friends and stick together, don't leave drinks or food unattendent around strangers. There are also bartendars who can spike your drinks. I'm not saying all practice this but it is better to go someplace where you are familiar with the bartending staff. If you become intoxicated, call a taxi.

Like they say friends shouldn't let friends drive when they are drunk. Friends shouldn't let their girlfriends drive off with a strange man, because that could be the last time you may see your friend alive. Put your foot down if your friend insist she's going to be alright. If you know she's intoxicated and not thinking clearly, if you have to force her away from the guy whose almost dragging her out, do so. Make a big stink about it or dial 911. Tell the bouncers and security at the club or bar to intervene.

I was nearly date raped by a man I met from some personal ad. I was fortunate that the police was driving by peeking in the car windows when this guy quickly changed his mind. He was a stranger and I made a bad judgement when I choose to go out with him. PLEASE... I urge all women and young girls to be careful even when they meet men over the internet.

Don't leave with strange men. I have known women who have left clubs and bars with men they didn't know and later I have heard their horror stories and some didn't even remember who they were with or what happened to them. There is something called human trafficking where they kidnap and force a person into prostitution or any other kind of sexual exploitation, like the
porn world. There has also been human trafficking involving organ removal or forcing a woman into surrogacy. Forced labor is something else that can happen.

There have been people who haven't seen or spoken to their families in years. Loved ones may have been searching to no avail. Many people turn up dead and very few turns up alive. All of what I mentioned should make a woman cringe every time she has a thought of leaving her home alone.

I was always told by my parents that there is safety in numbers. Just the other night when my dad and I were driving home from eating out at a restaurant, we notice one woman out at 9pm walking her dog, not a big mean brute of a dog. She was walking a little puppy by herself. Another woman was jogging alone, and an older lady who had to be in her late sixties was pushing a toddler in a stroller, most likely her grandchild. I couldn't believe these women felt that confident and safe in one of the most dangerous cities in the country.

Ladies, protect yourselves and value your lives. Don't go around feeling that you are invincible because you are not. If you work late at night, and you are commuting to work...lock your doors and keep your windows rolled up. If someone runs into the back of your car late at night, it might be better to keep on going unless you are severely hurt and have no choice but to stop and call for help. Maybe it really was an accident with no crime intended... being a woman
alone at night, stopping for a little fender bender could get you, raped, robbed or killed. You should have a weapon to carry alone with you at night.

If at all possible get your boyfriend, husband or brother to drop you off or pick you up from work. If you are out alone catching the bus to work, it is going to be just as dangerous, maybe even more if you are stuck out at a bus stop waiting for the number nine late at night, when there are a lot of young thugs waiting there too, licking their chops.. Try to get a day job if you don't have a car or get someone to bring you.

Mace and stun guns are something to invest in and carry if you are out late at night because you have no choice but to work late. I know some people don't like the thought of carrying a weapon but when it comes to your life or the lives of your family, "Who do you want to survive, the criminal or you and your loved ones?

Gentlemen, Please protect and keep an eye on your daughters, wives, girlfriends, sisters, nieces, aunts, female cousins, mothers and grandmothers. It can become your worse nightmare too, if someone hurts them....THEY NEED YOU!!!!!




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bizna 3 years ago from NAIROBI - KENYA

This is a very useful hub. Unfortunately, human beings mostly learn from experience. Once beaten twice shy. I started being so careful at the age of 19 when i was almost raped by a stranger because i took a short cut which was bushy and deserted. I am now 40 and i tell it like it happened yesterday.


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Affinity2010 3 years ago from New Orleans, La Author

Very True, humans learn from experience. I also had an experience where I was nearly raped while on a date with a man I met from a nationwide personal ad. This man was a truck driver who lived in Indiana. He came all thew way to New Orleans to visit me and I was impressed because of it, letting my guard down. He wanted to know where we could go and be alone to talk. "VERY STUPID and young" I told him about a place on the lakefront. It was about 11pm at night and luckily a policeman was in the area which I believed saved me. We do have to be careful and tell all of our sisters of the world to be alert and careful when they go out in bars, date strangers or even jjogging late at night by themselves. Pray for Terrilynn Monnete who was abducted a week ago. Bizna I'm sorry to hear of your experienced but happy that you are alright now after all of those years with that bad incident that happened to you long ago.


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dashingscorpio 3 years ago

"Unfortunately the world isn't a safe place for anyone" is an accurate statement. Gullible and naïve people will generally be taken advantage of. If you had told your brother, father, or any male friend that a man was driving from Indiana to New Orleans to meet you they would have told you the guy (expects) sex. In fact the driver (believes) you "know" it as well.

Whenever someone states people should "be aware" of their surroundings others often say, "Don't blame the victim". No one gives anyone permission to take advantage of them. However if I choose to leave my keys in the ignition of my car on a street all night then I shouldn't be "shocked" that it got stolen. In my opinion acknowledging one's obligation to "look out" for themselves is not "blaming the victim". This is a noteworthy topic.

Voted up and useful! Awhile back I tackled this subject as well. http://hubpages.com/relationships/Asking-Someone-T...


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Affinity2010 3 years ago from New Orleans, La Author

I was that gullible one in my early twenties when it happened. I was actually more interested in meeting a nice guy to build a friendship/relationship with at the time. I am now 46 yrs old and want to spread the word to women to be careful and not to fall for the same things I fell for when I was younger. Unfortunately when I was younger I was afraid to tell my dad anything when it came to dating because I was at that age where I wasn't looking for his advice.

The consequences i sufferered for not seeking that advice and guidance put me into a dangerous situation.


Sanxuary 3 years ago

Is this a add for the boogie man. Really, this is just plain weird. I was thinking if a dude wrote this, he is one weird person. Then I thought some girl ran home while someone was chasing her to her front door and wrote this. Sure there is a lot of really screwed up people in the World but if this is your neighbour hood you really need to move. I get it the world is full of lunatics but if they are this close buy a gun before the Government bans them.


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Affinity2010 3 years ago from New Orleans, La Author

You must be 14 yrs old, never watched the news or you live under a rock somewhere. Are perhaps you are an insensitive guy, or could it be that

you are the one targeting young women and you don't want them to learn how to be careful so that you can get your next victim easily.

People like you are the ones who end up on the evening news because either you will become a victim or someone in your family will be the victim of a

crime and for your sakes I hope not. Someone like you choose not to take sound advice in order to prevent the unthinkable.

You might feel like you are invincible and that everyone else is paranoid. If one woman is reading this article before she goes out on the town and she is reminded to be careful this article will save her life. You can't trust everyone you meet in life male or female. As for your gun ban statement... The government is only interested in preventing those who are too dangerous in society to own guns. People who are mentally ill or criminally insane shouldn't own a gun.

After Newtown, Ct and Aurora, Colorado and other places where violence has taken place...you or anyone with a heart should have been touched by those tragedies.

Those men shouldn't have had assault rifles nor any kind of gun. It would be a shame if innocent people who would only use a gun in self defense have their guns taken away.

Again, I will state that my article is only to make women aware of their surroundings and not to trust everyone they meet. Pray for Terrilynn Monette who went missing in New Orleans and others around this country that are being abducted. You see mam/sir my area isn't the only place where bad things happen, it happens all around America and the world.

Before you make anymore nonsensical comments, do some research on people who are abducted and missing or date raped in your area and around the rest of America.


Sanxuary 3 years ago

I guess that was my point, your article is really obvious. Why do you think people own guns? Newton was murder by proxy and not your typical lunatic scaring people on the street. I do not have to do the research in fact no one should have to. Its obvious that you have no choice but to be careful. Still it does not rule my life and there is no guarantee that try as I might that I will never be a victim.


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Affinity2010 3 years ago from New Orleans, La Author

In my opinion, the Newtown murders were by a demon possessed monster that struck out to murder inncocent babies. Just as i believe demonic forces are murdering innocent unborn children through abortions, and confused women who are frightened don't know where to turn when they are impregnated and they opt for aborting their babies. But again that is my opinion. I don't know you at all just like you don't know me. I am trying to save lives by preventing the next woman from being murdered, kidnaped or raped. Sure you might never become a victim of some crime and I hope that remains the case. However, someone else out there may become a victim and that person should have the opportunity to be warned of the dangers, especially a young naïve young lady.

Because negative things happen, no one is immuned to crime and violence. Someone can burst into your home while you are asleep at night and harm you and your family. Home invasions, car jackings, rapes, assault, hate crimes, robberies happens everyday and innocent people should not be sitting ducks.


kiki 2 years ago

The focus on here is what women can do to avoid being raped, but do we stop to consider what we can do to prevent men from becoming rapists? Rather than limiting their victims and opportunities, we should be battling against the criminals. Why do men rape? Why do they feel it is acceptable or feel the need to do it rather than building a relationship with a woman? This mentality of women needing to be careful so as to avoid being raped is making a society of women as victims and men as attackers, and breeds the idea that its okay to think that way.


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Affinity2010 2 years ago from New Orleans, La Author

I agree with you, however the option for men whether to build a relationship or rape is actually not an option. Men rape because they want power...it has nothing to do with sex. Some men rape because they are just abusive in that way, maybe they hate women because of bad experiences with women in the past. But you are right on the issues of finding ways to stop them from doing it. The first step is for women to put their safety first when going out on dates with men they hardly know...never mind trying to reform a rapist or pedophile, most will never change.

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