You Have Mail...Fan Mail... or Not...

Many writers, on Hub Pages, are here to make money. They write hubs about products and services, in the hopes of those monetary gains.

I usually write in the hopes of emotional, spiritual and intellectual gains. I write in the hopes that my words will inspire someone to think a new thought, or grow in self awareness. I write in the hope that my words will be heard by someone and that in the hearing, they will be helped in some small way. If monetary gains come as well, then so much the better...

The fear of stalkers and sexual predators on the Internet, keep many people from displaying the real them in cyber-space. We fabricate fake identities, nick-names, handles, and any manner of pseudo selves, in order to protect ourselves from these cyber villains. Whom, if they found out who we really are, might somehow do us harm in the real world...

...Or is it that if we let everyone in cyber-space know who we really are we would no longer be able to pretend that we are something more than what we truly are. Is the fear really the fear of the loss of the pretend kingdom that cyber-space has become for us? I mean after all, the protections afforded us in the real world by law enforcement, family, and friends is still there, if a cyber villain makes an appearance in the real world of our lives, won't we be just as protected from them as we are from a real world villain that stalks us because they saw us in the supermarket?

You've Got Mail!

Those three words were the catch phrase to a movie about an Internet love affair.

Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks star in that motion picture. The characters they play are in competition with one another in the business world. In the cyber world they are two souls that find one another, fall head over heels in love with each others brains, whit, personality and charm.

Some problems arrise for them when they discover who the other is in the real world.

I don't want to ruin the movie for anyone that hasn't seen it, but I will say this. In the movie at least, love conquers all. I really liked the movie and if you haven't seen it, I highly recommend it.

Those three words and the feelings represented by that movies' actors/actresses, describe my feelings when I get mail, Fan mail.

I love it when I click on the icon and a message pops up that 1 -someone has read something I have written, and that 2 -they liked, or disliked it enough that they felt like talking to me about it or letting me know what/how my writing made them feel.

The modern cyber world...

As a child, I use to love to play pretend. Using my imagination to visit magical kingdoms, to be an all powerful hero, able to save the day. To be more than I really am, or ever could be.

Many adults still love to play at make-believe, which is why there are so many movies with the themes of magic and mystical powers with which, one can 'save the day'.

In the Harry Potter series of films, we find a boy with magic powers that grows into a man. Developing those magic powers and learning important life lessons about family, friendship, right and wrong. Evolving into a better magician, and a better person along the way.

This is another recommended series of books and/or films.

People today (grown-ups) have discovered that the cyber world allows us to 'play' at make-believe once again. To be able to interact with other people and be what and whoever we choose.

The realities are that even using pretend names and avatars to represent us, we can't hide our true selves. A cyber villain with just a little bit of cyber-savvy can find out pretty much anything they want to online. I.P. addresses and I.S.P. (Internet service providers) can be used to find out who we really are. So truthfully our pretended anonymity is just that, pretend. It is a delusion that makes us feel safer, while we pretend to be someone that we are not.

The delusion that no one can figure out who we really are makes it safe to be who we really are. The movie You've Got Mail demonstrates what I mean. In their cyber world, and anonymity, Meg and Tom's characters felt safe enough from ridicule and persecution to express who they were to the depths of their souls. The safety net of being anonymous, allowed them to completely express who they really were. The love that was born of that truthfulness, that baring of their souls, was enough to overcome the fact that he was the man who was putting an end to her family business. I might have just ruined the surprises of that movie after all...sorry. But it is an important point. Pretending to be someone that does not exist gives us an ability to be who we want to be... who we really are, inside.

I believe the avatars are a picture of how we wish to be, and what our souls really look like to us. The 'Real' us. The mental view of the spiritual self.

So what does that say about those of us who put up our real picture, and give our true name?

Does that mean that our soul is reflected in our outward appearance?

Maybe it means we are more comfortable with our soul, with who we really are...

I'm not sure what it means.

Mikel's Avatar...

I enjoy allowing people to see my true human form. Because I want to be who I am now. Not because I think I'm all that, but because I respect truth, and I love truth. Self awareness, and the knowledge of who I am, flaws and all, is one of the most important things in life for me.

I'll let you in on a secret...but you can't tell anyone...ok?

I have an avatar, one that I would love to be, and who knows, maybe I'll get to be just like my avatar someday...

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myownworld 6 years ago from uk

This is one of the most honest and touching hubs I've read in a while! (And You got Mail was a great old fashioned love story with a modern theme, if u know what I mean!) Anyway, I especially liked your last paragraph....A lot of people ask me why i use my own pic too, and next time they do, I'm going to quote those lines! Wonderful read...:)

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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia

That was a fantastic read. Loved the way you summed it all up. By the way that pic of Hugh made me fall off my chair in a good way of course.

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Jane@CM 6 years ago

Excellent read, you have a new fan! I loved the movie "You've Got Mail".

StormRyder 6 years ago

Wow Mikel...You Rock!! Always good to read your work.

Thanks for being you!!


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Lily Rose 6 years ago from East Coast

A great read, as always, Mikel! I like your open honesty - and I love your "dream" avatar!

IĆ°unn 6 years ago

Great hub. I have a few comments. Cyberstalking is rarely taken seriously by the police and the protections afforded people irl do not necessarily protect people on the internet. However, once trolls take their harassment to real life, the police become a lot more interested.

I loved your stated purpose in writing. Mine is much the same, to entertain myself and others or educate or just to share.

In agreement, too, about the avatars. I don't look at what the avatar is so much as why someone might have chosen it, what that says about them. I feel very comfortable with myself and while I like to diversify from time to time with fine art, almost all my avatars are actually of me.

Like you, I prefer integrity and honesty in online dealings with others. It's much rarer than it should be.

A big thumb up~

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AEvans 6 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

I used my own Avatar for a long time and I am now dealing with a stalker that never ever seems to go away. I believe there are many who pretend and that bothers me and cuts me to the core. I believe in truly being yourself when you write, I for one place who I am for the entire world to see and I do not know if that is always a great thing to do but it is simply who I am. I was recently misguided by a person on the Internet and he certainly began to lead me straight to hell, but God stopped that immediately and the truth came to light. Now I have the daunting task of praying for God to forgive him, but I know that my heart is in the right place and God is listening, I enjoyed this hub too! :)

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2patricias 6 years ago from Sussex by the Sea

This is an unusual and interesting Hub. We think that even in 'real life' people sometimes reveal only a part of who they are, or even pretend to be things that they aren't.

It is all so much easier to pretend on the Internet, which can be dangerous.

We have chosen to be ourselves on our Avatar - it seems more honest.

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