After having been the cook in several, and currently the kitchen manager in one........I can share some of my observations........
In " today's fast paced society", they provide a much needed service. The days of mulitgenerations living in the "family" home are past.........this alone saddens me.
There is quanity and quality, and it most certainly applies here.
Some people can pay for the best, and some are dependent upon government aid. It DOES make a difference in the attention and level of care your family member gets. It is another face of the American tragedy.
Even in the most exclusive of homes, a person, who has earned their living, had a fabulous home, yard, perhaps boat, airplane, career.............etc..........is reduced to one small room. Their momentos of a lifetime are reduced to what one or two tabletops will display. Their wardrobe of fine clothing, is simple and basic.
They now welcome junk mail! Their mail is screened......not read, but screened so that they are not aware of bills and medical documents until someone in the office deems it time to tell them.
Yes, they get "around the clock" care, supervision, food, assistance with medications, showering, even some have their dentures cleaned for them. Some have their diapers changed.
Having the experience that I do, the ONLY reason that I would ever put my Dad in a home, is because he is far too heavy for me to lift in and out of chairs, beds, baths....etc.
If, I am ever faced with ill health or loss of mind, I would not want my children to feel guilty about putting me in a "home", but I do hope they pick a good one.
If ever you have a loved one in a "home", PLEASE do not break a date to take them to dinner, to church, to visit......it breaks their heart, and it embarrasses many of them to be forgotten. I have seen them refuse to come to the dining room, and let other residents know that they have been stood up.
This is not the place to save money!