How do you draw the line between having your needs met and being selfish?

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   CWanamakerposted 12 years ago

   How do you draw the line between having your needs met and being selfish?

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   3angelspowerposted 12 years ago

   The beauty of knowing how to balance between greed, and need is so simple, and based on pure unconditional love....Take a step towards what's is priority, and how important it is to you than to others.. Then compare between yours, and his/hers.You... read more

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   mr. daydreamposted 12 years ago

   We all have needs and desires that we want met. As far as where the line should be drawn between having needs met and being selfish... just think of the things that you would or wouldn't do for a person (keep in mind there is a such thing as going too far, and we all have limits and standards).
   
   Sometimes with two friends, couples etc, there's certain things that maybe one party can or have the ability to do that the other party can't, rather they're financially up against it, physically up against it, don't have the experience to maintain, or maybe it has something to do with ones own personal morals (which inables them from being able to carry out the deed because they don't have the mind set) but then they'll make up for it in another form where maybe the other party is weak in that area. We all have strengths and weakness. Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you.

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   pearlmacbposted 12 years ago

   I personally think, through open communication, a pure line can be drawn. In addition, knowing yourself & who you are dealing with is important. I have found that some personality types are simply just more self absorbed than others (Or perhaps broken)and getting your needs across(let alone met) can be an hard and enduring task, because they seriously fail to see past themselves....BUT hey Love never fails right?

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   PETER LUMETTAposted 12 years ago

   At this point in my life i don't really have to worry about that, I don't make enough money to meet my needs or be selfish. You see I'm on Social Security. No need to say more.

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   NappyMuseposted 12 years ago

   Well, there is a fine line between being selfish and self preservation. It's kind of like the difference between giving love and receiving love. Love is only perfect, when it's both giving and receiving. The answer to your question lies between giving and receiving. We are built to give and receive. We eat, we digest and we eliminate.(tried not to be graphic; we give or let go) The Dead Sea is always receiving and never giving and that's why it's dead. Sometimes having your needs met is tied up in meeting the needs of others.
   
   Another way of looking at it is, for example love, if you do not love yourself you can not love anyone else. My sister always says, "Fill yourself up with the love first and love will increase around you."
   
   Either way, balance is the answer. He you will find that balance, when you are governed by Love.

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   KateWestposted 12 years ago

   I think if you are in a truly loving and committed relationship, you will often do things you don't want to do, because it makes the other person happy. Nothing that hurts anyone, obviously, just little things that annoy you, but that soon goes away when you see the smile of your S.O. Don't forget though, your essential needs should be met as well - putting on your oxygen mask first and that type of thing. Communicate!

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