First, is how poorly we have treated our soldiers while they served. From constant deployments without end (rather than expanding the number of soldiers available to handle those duties the past ten years, which would also have helped people find work - instead of giving foodstamps and Welfare, give them pride and purpose serving their country) to the their cutting back on Health Benefits for the families of soldiers.
When I left the Army in 2002 it was largely for four reasons:
1) The cuts Congress enacted, soldiers had full medical benefits for their families, that was taken away, and they would only cover the soldier, if they wanted their family to have health insurance they had to pay.
2) They made it so that if you re-enlisted after 10 years, they could keep you for as long as they wanted there-after, 20, 30 years, it was up to them, not you.
3) They were scaling back pay for experienced soldiers while giving 10 thousand dollar bonuses to kids coming in with no experience.
4) They were making it a PC place for their social experiments, whatever the flavor of the week was, be it pampering new recruits or women in the front lines... they would lower the standards however much they had to so that they could get a certain percentage to make it.
Wrong answer... if they want a woman to be a grunt, then she should be able to out perform any standards already in place. War isn't a place where being PC or meeting quotas does any good.
Lastly, I knew we were going to be doing exactly what we did... deploy over and over and over again, for 5 to 10 years. And after more than a decade of service to my country, I wanted to enjoy having a family, not start one and be absent for it 75% of the time.
How our government treats our soldiers is a disgrace, and by and large that is a product of a society where 90% of the populace never serve, and more than 50% look down upon soldiers or fear the concept of the military. And those most guilty of that are those in Congress, the vast amount who lived privileged lives and never served.