It depends on people, i love everyone and find beauty in every shape, size, color,shade…sadly, everyone doesn't think and act the same. I am black not so dark. So, here it is : white people can see I am black.
I have had darker people prejudice against me and using the "she is lighter card" or the "white one" expression all over the place, from my taste in dishes to my hair style. I have had girls calling me darkie when offended that a man would pursue me and not them who are lighter skin tone.
I believe that like racism it is a card that is pulled, a stigmatization that comes from a place of complex, low self esteem from the speaker or actor of the situation.
We also need to recognize that the media has been central to this issue. Lighter black women preferred for almost everything, darker women is mean and harsh, violent and bad, lighter is kind and soft spoken, smart and good : Coming to America, Girlfriends, Mr. Deeds, Disney series, etc… Now, many series and movies have healed this part displaying virtues and qualities in darker skin women "Let's stay together", "Why did I get married?", "Rookie Blue", "HTGAWMurder"etc… Dark girls and women were programmed to be hard, violent, mean and abandoned, never chosen, losing their men and husbands to a lighter woman. In reality, it is sadly still a reality in Sports and Entertainment… They make big money, the black woman is out and the lighter one is in… I apologize to anyone who is sensitive about this but it is very visible.