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Outraged mother buys "pornogrpahic" t-shirts

  1. frantisek78 profile image85
    frantisek78posted 2 years ago

    Having such a Puritan attitude towards the human body is laughable. Why would children be morally ruined by seeing t-shirts like the ones this mother is so angry about?

    http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/oddnews/in- … 09232.html

    Do you think that stores should act when someone with a low threshold for the natural human body is offended by their merchandise which includes these images? Sex sells, as always.

    1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
      MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Bah, I don't care about the freak's hurt feelings and over-tight buttocks... however what she's planning to do by returning the shirts and buying them/returning them every 60 days is unethical and will cost the business money because of her neurosis.

      1. frantisek78 profile image85
        frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Right, the store should not take back the shirts. It's disturbing she would spend $600 on something so stupid. If she was really really serious about her stance, she would destroy the shirts and not return them. The store will just sell them again anyway.

        Also, if this mom is so upset by some t-shirts with scantily clad women, she'd faint if she saw what her 19 year old son is probably looking at on the internet smile

      2. GA Anderson profile image86
        GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        So... she's a freak with a neurosis....says you?

        ps. how can you tell the butts are "over-tight", and not just pleasantly firm?

        GA

        1. psycheskinner profile image81
          psycheskinnerposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          I think the way she is willing to behave shows an attitude that could be validly described by that metaphor.

        2. MelissaBarrett profile image60
          MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          Um... yes, says me. Are YOU typing someone else's thoughts when YOU post?

          I can generally tell when someones buttocks are clenched too tight by sight. For example...

          1. GA Anderson profile image86
            GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Right, by sight. Like the picture us old folks get when we hear the expression, "...tighter than a bull's ass in fly-time..."

            GA

            1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
              MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              I've heard the expression... I think it's more about being cheap smile

              The expression I was thinking was more along the lines of having a giant pine tree shoved upright through that general area. smile Something about coal and diamonds too... and the suggestion that she invest in a specific small battery-powered device. In her case, I would suggest something from the Sears Die-Hard line for power.

              1. GA Anderson profile image86
                GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                Wrong, wrong, wrong. It definitely has to do with the degree, (and appearance), of closure. You see in normal times a bull's..... but in the heat of summer when the flies are buzzing it is.....

                ... as for the rest, you lost me at the pine tree. But then again, I am still a bit distracted.

                GA

    2. janesix profile image59
      janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      I didn't look at the link, but I will assume it wasn't actually pornographic, and didn't involve any sexual acts?

      I don't think there's anything wrong with a child being exposed to the naked human form.

      I do think it would be inappropriate for a child to see sexual activity though. Not because there's anything wrong with that, but that they aren't ready for it.

      1. frantisek78 profile image85
        frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

        No, it did not involve sexual acts at all, just scantily clad women. That is what upset the mom so much.

      2. wilderness profile image97
        wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        I didn't see anything on the shirts that can't be seen on any beach in the country.  This woman needs to get a life of her own instead of trying to run everyone else's.

      3. psycheskinner profile image81
        psycheskinnerposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        The aren't even naked, more like a skimpy bikini--it's not something I would wear to work but not offensive IMHO

    3. bethperry profile image88
      bethperryposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      No, I don't support a store that caves in to moralizing individuals. But puritanical prudes aren't the only ones that overreact to graphics of scantily dressed women; feminists often behave the same way. In both cases, they are small minded people that can't find joy unless it involves dictating the choices of others.

      1. wilderness profile image97
        wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        +1

        1. GA Anderson profile image86
          GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          Really? Is that a modern values "+," or just an old lech's "hoping for more" endorsement?

          ... and is the "small mind" endorsement relative to degrees of modern acceptability, or a righteous superiority?

          GA

          1. frantisek78 profile image85
            frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

            I've found that it's usually women who are pretty hard on the eyes that are usually "morally" outraged by pics of hot women. In fact, it's not moral outrage at all, just jealousy.

            1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
              MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              Now that IS sexist.

            2. GA Anderson profile image86
              GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              Uh oh!

          2. wilderness profile image97
            wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            +1 = "they are small minded people that can't find joy unless it involves dictating the choices of others."

            1. GA Anderson profile image86
              GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              hmm... seems like that is a sword that cuts both ways.

              GA

              1. psycheskinner profile image81
                psycheskinnerposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                How so?  Can there be said to be a right to impinge on the rights of others? (To deliberately obstruct selling products to genuine customers to make an actual profit). That seems to stretch the point.  At best you could call it a kind of civil disobedience.

                1. GA Anderson profile image86
                  GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  You are asking too much of me. You are responding to a response to wilderness concerning his "+" response, but it looks like you intended to respond to another response, and until I can work out which response you are responding to it is difficult for me to correctly respond to your response.

                  GA

      2. frantisek78 profile image85
        frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Yes, that's an excellent point. Many feminists see any portrayal of women as actually looking good and sexy as being "sexist". These people only believe in freedom of expression as they see it, meaning they want to curtail the freedom of others to dress as they want.

        1. GA Anderson profile image86
          GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          hmm... I hear the 70s calling, they want their feminist description back. I think you will find a new perspective if you at least move up to the 90s.

          GA

          1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
            MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Or perhaps you need to meet a few different kinds of feminists. Or be a women who actually likes the "classical" gender roles. See how much crap YOU get.

            I like my boobs... a lot. I worked hard for them. I've had women tell me that I was "choosing to be objectified by a male dominated society" (yes, that's an exact quote... from THREE women... it must be on a website somewhere) when I choose to show them off.

            There are different types of feminists... denying that the militant anti-choice women must be asexual feminists don't exist is hilarious.

            1. GA Anderson profile image86
              GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              LOL, there are nut cases on the fringes of every generalization. Generally generalizations generate generic impressions - not... OMG! I can't finish. I am stuck in preview mode. Do you realize the gamut of visuals you have provoked by mentioning boobs you have worked so hard for? Help, somebody pinch me!

              GA

              1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
                MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                I'm getting them silk-screened on t-shirts right now. I know where I can sell the lot smile

                1. GA Anderson profile image86
                  GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  PacSun?

                  GA

          2. frantisek78 profile image85
            frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

            This view is still alive and well today, so looking to feminist views from the 90s (whatever that means exactly) is a mute point.

            1. GA Anderson profile image86
              GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              There is nothing quiet about it. Why would you think that?

              Oh, I get it, you meant moot. My bad.

              GA

      3. GA Anderson profile image86
        GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        So, now anyone objecting to a public display of borderline nudity is now puritanical prude? Gee, I thought it did not rise to the level pf "puritanical" until it as drastic as showing a little bare ankle. My, my, I guess I should get with the times.

        "...they are small minded people that can't find joy unless it involves dictating the choices of others..." - hmm... do I hear the kettle whistling?

        GA

        1. psycheskinner profile image81
          psycheskinnerposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          On what basis should depictions of simple passive nudity be considered obscene?  I can't think of any.

          1. GA Anderson profile image86
            GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Nope, it won't work. You are not going to trick me into a serious response on this thread. Besides, I'm to still busy cataloging the images Melissa spawned.

            GA

          2. MelissaBarrett profile image60
            MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Rush Limbaugh

        2. frantisek78 profile image85
          frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

          How can people objecting to borderline nudity NOT be classified as puritanically prude? These pics are no "worse" than ancient Greek and Roman statues of naked men and women or classic nude paintings. And believe me, there are people who are offended by those pieces of art as well. It seems we should all be wearing baggy 90s clothes so the minds of our youth don't get overloaded with lust.

          1. GA Anderson profile image86
            GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Damn! And all this time I thought I was a fairly liberal thinker.

            Now I find out I am a puritanical prude because I don't want my young daughter to see a borderline naked guy, (he has his socks on), sporting a monster erection in Macy's window.

            Now where did I put those magnifiers?

            GA

            1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
              MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              I hate to point it out, but that's really kind of your responsibility. It's not the world's responsibility to conform itself so that your daughter isn't exposed to things you don't want her to see.

              I know your pain though... I feel the same way about all the religious crap that I have to keep my kids away from.

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                Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

                So there should be no social standards whatsoever to protect the innocent?

                1. psycheskinner profile image81
                  psycheskinnerposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  From seeing a photograph of a person in a bikini?  No.

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                    Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    GA had mentioned a man with an erection wearing only socks. He said he preferred if his daughter was not exposed to that, Melissa said, " It's not the world's responsibility to conform itself so that your daughter isn't exposed to things you don't want her to see."

                2. MelissaBarrett profile image60
                  MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  Sure, you set them for whatever you find offensive. Then I'll outlaw every cross, Jesus saves sign and anti-abortion billboard. We'll both be happy. The innocent will be protected... and parents don't have to do their job because society will decide what is appropriate rather than the parents.

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                    Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    I guess what you are saying is you find that the different religions of the world being practiced, bothers you as much as (in the case that GA has set up) a young girl being exposed to a man's sexuality/nudity.

                    I guess I view that differently. I can tell my children about the different religions of the world. I can also prepare them for sex at specific ages. There are many different religious symbols... steeples (the angel Moroni on the top of most Mormon churches), statues (Buddha for ex.), pentagrams and goats heads (for those who worships Satan)... but that doesn't mean they see a human sacrifice.

                    They see men and women all the time, but to see nudity or sexuality such as erections or ppl fondling themselves, that is letting them *into that world as opposed to simply having knowledge that it exists.

              2. GA Anderson profile image86
                GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                You are right. Reminds me of the time my raunchy grandma gave her a homemade Oscar the Grouch puppet toy. I thought it was fine until she put her hand in and a big ol' wanger sprang out of a secret flap. Just another parenting fail I guess.

                GA

                1. calculus-geometry profile image85
                  calculus-geometryposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  You ought to sell that on eBay.  You'd make enough to buy your daughter the entire Sesame Street gang. lol

                2. MelissaBarrett profile image60
                  MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  I currently have an anatomically correct cabbage patch doll given to my son by his raunchy grandmother. Parenting fails exist. However, I do feel if my daughter is encouraged to play with small plastic, blond, big-breasted, small waisted barbies that an anatomically correct male cabbage patch doll (or Oscar the Grouch) is the least of our concerns both as parents and as a society smile

                  1. GA Anderson profile image86
                    GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    ummm.... Ol' Oscar was far from being anatomically correct, proportionally speaking that is.

                    But seriously...
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                    Ha! Fooled you. No way I have a serious comment for this thread.

                    As for Barbie, funny you should mention her.... I just started seeing a new Barbie ad that just makes me shake my head in wonder at what some people think is a good idea.

                    It is a Barbie set that includes Barbie, her pet doggie, dog  treats, a pail, and a pooper scooper. Yup, feed it a few dog treats and her good ol' doggie really poops little plastic turds that Barbie can pick up with her nifty pooper scooper and dump in her handy poop pail.

                    http://s2.hubimg.com/u/8759089_f248.jpg

                    After the the little kiddie learns treats make poopie - the first time around - aren't they then learning to feed the doggie poop????????

                    Really?  Maybe the packaging has a scratch-n-sniff on it too.

                    GA

            2. frantisek78 profile image85
              frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

              What Macys have you seen anything close to something like this in? Now you're just exaggerating trying to make a weak point. Are you sure it was a Macys store you were in and not somewhere else whose name you'd rather not mention, and instead conveniently swap in Macys instead?

              1. GA Anderson profile image86
                GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                PacSun or Macys, boderline naked woman or boderline naked man - do the specifics it make a difference to you?

                Yup, You got the "point" part right. I will let y'all decide whether it is weak or not.

                GA

                1. frantisek78 profile image85
                  frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  The point is you brought up pictures of a physically, sexually aroused person, when the issue at hand was just a semi-clad woman. Not the same thing.

                  1. GA Anderson profile image86
                    GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    Oops, my fault then. Just a semi-clad women must be OK. I guess I slipped on that slope. But what "semi-clad" qualifies as OK? G-string and pasties? Or does it have to be an officially recognized article of clothing? Like a bra or panties?

                    Wait, Does your "semi-clad" mean you are defining the standards that are OK?

                    Yup, still working on making that point.

                    GA

    4. GA Anderson profile image86
      GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      "...low threshold for the natural human body ..." by your standards?

      Would pictures of masturbation just be a higher threshold, by your standards?

      GA

      1. frantisek78 profile image85
        frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

        By anybody's rational standards I would think. Nobody mentioned sexual acts on public display here, just semi-nudity. Or does the sight of the naked human body automatically cause uncontrollable lust, by your standards?

        1. GA Anderson profile image86
          GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          you say "anybody's rational standards," yet here you are condemning one of those anybody's.

          hmm...

          as for my uncontrollable lust standards... I thought my quandary over Melissa's visuals might have given you a clue.

          GA

          1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
            MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            LMAO, Melissa didn't provide visuals. You did that all on your own smile

          2. frantisek78 profile image85
            frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

            You seem really fixated on those visuals. No,your standards are not rational.

            1. GA Anderson profile image86
              GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              Well, it was her qualifier that did me in. Remember? She said she worked really hard for them, and I can't figure out if she was talking fitness or financial - hence the kaleidoscope of possibilities.

              As for my standards, how do you know what they are? My comments have been comments on the thread's comments - not the t-shirt images. Except for the "monster erection" reference I thought my comments were fairly neutral in that regard. Have you been peeking?

              GA

              1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
                MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                Oh such a disappointment for you. My "hard work" was the birth and nourishment of 5 children. I earned my boobs the old-fashioned Italian way... by brooding. Sorry to disappoint.

                As an aside, in the process of earning them, I exposed them in public quite often. Had anyone demanded that I remove myself from their presence because of that obscenity, I likely would have sprayed them in the face.

                1. GA Anderson profile image86
                  GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  No disappointment. Your quip provided fodder for a string of light-hearted bits. And considering the thread topic, it was content well matched.

                  As for your public display, so did my wife. albeit with a discreetly placed baby blanket or shawl. And for one last bit before the show closes - she too had a deadly aim.

                  GA

        2. bethperry profile image88
          bethperryposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          I am reminded of a nice old minister I used to know, who told the congregation he felt the people with the dirtiest of minds are those that would clean up Michelangelo's "David" with a pair of pants and put a diaper on Da Vinci's nude baby Jesus. I am starting to think maybe the ole pastor was dead on.

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            Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

            I didn't get to see what this was all about. I clicked on it yesterday, but the browser at the library wouldn't open the link so I didn't have much interest in the subject... my response was just to the exchange between GA and Melissa (in case you were referencing me with your comment.) smile

            1. bethperry profile image88
              bethperryposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              No, it was not a reference to you or a comment you made, I promise. And yeah, I had problems with that, too. Took a couple of attempts to get it to take.

    5. gmwilliams profile image85
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      There are SOME people who find the human body, especially the female human body, to be QUITE OFFENSIVE.  These are the people who advocate "modesty" and are starting and instituting the modesty movement in America.    They believe that human body to be obscence-such twisted logic, really!
      http://s2.hubimg.com/u/8755393_f248.jpg

  2. FatFreddysCat profile image93
    FatFreddysCatposted 2 years ago

    (Shrugs) That's Utah for ya.

    Though I do find it odd that this lady got honked off about these t-shirts but apparently has no problem with the Victoria's Secret store in the same mall.

    1. frantisek78 profile image85
      frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Right, or TV commercials, music videos, magazine covers etc. that children also see on a regular basis.

    2. wilderness profile image97
      wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Or the hideous mutilation, torture and murder so graphically displayed all over the country in churches?

      But then I guess sex has always been more evil than violence and killing is to some people.

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        Rad Manposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Very good point.

        I looked at the images on the stores website and find that they are art and show less skin than some of the art displaying in galleries.

        And yet I suspect on Sunday morning she sits her family in front of an image of a scantly dressed man being tortured.

        1. GA Anderson profile image86
          GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          "...and find that they are art ... Well of course that settles it then. Who could dare be offended by art?

          Say, how about that crucifix in a jar of pee, what a masterful example of art. Right?

          GA

          1. psycheskinner profile image81
            psycheskinnerposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            As a piece of deliberate shock art, it is notable for how well it worked.

          2. frantisek78 profile image85
            frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

            If people don't like it, they don't have to look at it, right? Just because some people are offended by something doesn't mean they have a right to march into a store and "demand" that they remove the items they find so offensive. I'm sure her husband and son are having a good time looking at all those t-shirts at home with the "offensive" woman on them.

            1. GA Anderson profile image86
              GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              Do you have the right to call me an idiot? (not implying you did - yet) Does the fact that I think you have a right to do that make you right?

              As for her husband and son... Are you Projecting?

              GA

              1. frantisek78 profile image85
                frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

                The woman didn't just voice her dislike of the shirts, but actually demanded that the store physically remove them from the displays. Sure, she can say what she wants, but she is going too far in trying to get something removed that offends her. She never asked anybody else whether they were offended by the shirts as well.

      2. MelissaBarrett profile image60
        MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        I don't know... I enjoy sex and violence in equal amounts. Neither is more evil than the other.

        1. wilderness profile image97
          wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          I certainly hope your partner isn't crucifying you in the name of fun.  Of poking holes in your side, or running you through town with a giant cross and a crown of thorns.  A little S&M is one thing, a crucifixion on the front lawn might draw unwanted attention.

          Or did you mean just in the movies?

          1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
            MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            What on Earth makes you think I am the recipient? wink

            I'll keep the sex and violence separate for the moment. Although to be honest, I wasn't completely joking. There's a long history of associating/combining the two and not necessarily to a bad ends. Artwork depicting such a combination is simply a representation of that... If she was offended by a scantily clad woman, she should check out some of Royo's work. She would never leave her house again.

            1. wilderness profile image97
              wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              So...we should all put a Royo on a stake in her yard?  Keep her out of polite society forever?

              1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
                MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                Hey, I'm all for that!

                There are plenty of T-shirts with his paintings on them (I own a couple)... I suggest we all wear one while we're putting the paintings up. I'm curious of whether she would try to buy them off our backs.

                1. GA Anderson profile image86
                  GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  Ha! There you go Frantisex78, there's the new feminist of the 90s.

                  ps. is that Wilderness at your door Melissa?

                  GA

                  1. wilderness profile image97
                    wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    Shhh!  And no photographs!

      3. GA Anderson profile image86
        GA Andersonposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        OMG! Is that you again Mark? Come on buddy, I would recognize Mark Knowles with one eye closed. You can't fool me.

        GA

  3. FatFreddysCat profile image93
    FatFreddysCatposted 2 years ago

    I keep picturing the scene in Spinal Tap where they're arguing over whether or not their album cover is offensive. I forget how the dialogue goes exactly but it's something like this:

    Record Label Lady: "There's a woman on all fours on your album cover and a black glove being shoved in her face? Kmart won't stock your album. They say the cover is sexist and repulsive."

    Nigel Tufnel: "What's wrong with bein' sexy?"

    Record Label Lady: "Sex-IST! Sex-IST!"

    Manager: "You should've seen the cover they WANTED to do. It wasn't a glove, believe me."

    1. bethperry profile image88
      bethperryposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      I remember that, lol.

    2. frantisek78 profile image85
      frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

      That's excellent, great movie!

  4. psycheskinner profile image81
    psycheskinnerposted 2 years ago

    You just know sales of these shirts have sky rocketed.

  5. psycheskinner profile image81
    psycheskinnerposted 2 years ago

    There is a point where I just offended.  Like the Gun and Roses T-shirt that showed a badly beaten woman with her underwear pulled down lying in an alley with the graffiti "Guns and Roses was here".

    Ew.  I would think less of anyone who chose to wear that.

  6. psycheskinner profile image81
    psycheskinnerposted 2 years ago

    Ah, ye old feminist minefield.  I am a feminist that writes erotica.  Apparently this makes me a gender traitor, or something.  Oy.

    1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
      MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      I gave up the title of feminist a long time ago. I realized that to be in the group, I needed to think I didn't have the same rights as men and, therefore, had something that I had to fight for.  I never felt any need to prove that I had the same rights and capabilities. I laugh at those who think I don't and continue about my business. No protests needed.

      I have decided to be a stay at home mom and an obedient wife (don't laugh, I'm serious). I believe there is no higher calling (for me) than to have and raise children. Apparently, that makes me an enemy to many of those poor dejected trod-upon women.

  7. Jurij Jony profile image60
    Jurij Jonyposted 2 years ago

    welcome to www.yony.co.uk

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    Motown2Chitownposted 2 years ago

    I might point out that the goal was to sell these shirts, and the goal has been reached-probably way faster than PacSun expected.  At least in that store...lol

    1. wilderness profile image97
      wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Except that she says she will take them all back within the 60 day return period.

      1. psycheskinner profile image81
        psycheskinnerposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Indeed.  All she is really doing is creating tedious work for retail workers, and there will be a line of people waiting to buy the "famous" shirts.

        1. wilderness profile image97
          wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          You're probably right - some will buy because she said not to, more will buy the "forbidden fruit".  So to speak.

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            Motown2Chitownposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Doesn't matter.  They have the original quick sale on record, which will look good for them.  Overall, no one is gonna really suffer or benefit.  Sigh.  Silly.

            1. wilderness profile image97
              wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              Yep.  Just another case of trying to force personal morality onto others.  Without regard to the morality of that very action.  All too common, unfortunately.

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              Rad Manposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              So her efforts were counterproductive because there is press and most likely a lot of young people wanting to have and wear stuff that will bug people like her.

              1. wilderness profile image97
                wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                A shame, isn't it?  And if she does return them, the store can promptly advertise them and sell out in a few hours, most likely.

  9. calculus-geometry profile image85
    calculus-geometryposted 2 years ago

    The joke's  on her.  Stores only accept returns if the purchase is made in good faith, or basically if there's no evidence that the purchase was made in bad faith. But here she is all over the news with her real reason for buying the shirts, and her plans to return and re-buy and rinse and repeat.  Pretty sure that falls in the category of bad faith.

    In fact, deliberately causing the store's employees to do needless work is probably grounds enough to ban her from the premises, on top of not accepting a return.

    1. frantisek78 profile image85
      frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

      PacSun should even sue her for libel in her accusation that the pictures are "pornographic."

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    Beth37posted 2 years ago

    Ok, thanks Beth. smile

    Melissa, my point was simply that if a pic. of an act is ok, why would the act not be?

    If an undressed woman is acceptable for small children to see, why not a undressed man, if an undressed man, why not a man with an erection, if a man with an erection, why not a man masturbating, if a man masturbating, why not a couple having sex? Would I look twice at a monster erection? Very tempting, but I'm grown. I've seen it, I understand what I'm seeing and I have the choice to look away. A child is innocent... a mall is a grouping of stores, it's not downtown Amsterdam. Maybe it's not safe, maybe it should be. Worth a discussion I suppose.

    1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
      MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Well, that's kind of like saying the act of kissing in public is the same as the act of having sex in public Beth. Or that swatting a fly is equivalent to stabbing a person to death. It's hyperbole and irrelevant.

      But regardless, if you see two people having sex in public, it is YOUR responsibility to keep your children away from it. Especially if those two people are somehow there every day doing it, or it can be reasonably assumed that they might be.

      As far as malls being safe places, it's not their place to protect your children from things you might not want them to see. They are responsible for providing for your physical safety (as a man masturbating in on a bench would be a threat to that) but not your emotional/moral safety or that of your children. YOU-in all cases-are responsible for that.

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        Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

        I understand what you're saying. Maybe we differ on the public arena issue, but it would seem to me that unless I am to keep my child locked in doors, I cannot shield them from all things. *I don't pretend that I can.* I am not a person who stands in the middle of the mall screaming my opinions, nor do I take out a page in my local newspaper voicing my feelings concerning children viewing public nudity. This is just a forum conversation, and again, I am just responding to the conversation between GA and Melissa as I was unable to view the first link, and didn't find the story interesting enough to pursue.

        Under the guidelines you are using... that I would be responsible for keeping overly sexual ads out of my kid's viewing until they were older... I would simply say that if a mall is fair game for a monster erection, then so is a billboard, and really any public place. Yes, we can lock our children in the basement in order to shelter them from the evils in the world (irony intended) or society could be a little more kid friendly, possibly. If a store showed a pic of a man snorting a line of coke, is that ok too? Does anyone need to draw a line or is propriety a thing of the past?

        And wilderness, cows are always naked... you know?

        1. janesix profile image59
          janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          Beth, you are right to think it's not ok for things like that to be in a public place like a mall or a billboard. A line needs to be drawn somewhere of what is appropriate for public viewing.

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            Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Wow, thanks Jane... I appreciate that.

          2. PrettyPanther profile image86
            PrettyPantherposted 2 years ago in reply to this

            I think we can all agree that a line must be drawn.  The problem is we don't agree on where the line is drawn.  That is why I agree with Melissa, that if a parent has a problem with photos of scantily clad women, for example, then it is that parent's responsibility to shield their children from such photos.  I agree with Beth that we cannot prevent our children from seeing or experiencing things that would not meet with our approval, but that does not mean that we should expect cultural norms to align with our own personal comfort level.  So, where does that leave us?  We do our best to instill the ethics, strength of character, and ability to reason that will allow our children to navigate situations that deviate from what we would consider okay.  That is all we can do.

            1. wilderness profile image97
              wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              +1

        2. MelissaBarrett profile image60
          MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          I'm not trying to be rude Beth, I'm really not but if you chose to protect your kids from it, you could. Your priorities just lie elsewhere. That's your call, your decisions are your decisions, but let's be clear they are YOUR decisions.

          No basement required, just a commitment to take responsibility for yourself and your parenting.

          I'm not looking down my nose either nor judging. You do what you have to do. But saying that it's not possible (especially when it obviously is) and then expecting society to cater to what you think it should be is shirking responsibility. Society didn't push your kids out, you did. Society isn't responsible for raising them.

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            Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Ok... good enough. I've shared my opinion on your convo with GA and you are content to imagine that you know anything about me as a parent or what I would or would not demand of society. I s'pose we're good then.

            1. janesix profile image59
              janesixposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              They're missing the point that it IS the responsibility of society to protect our children (which includes keeping our public spaces free from sexual influence) if we want a decent society.

              Otherwise...what's the point?

              1. wilderness profile image97
                wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                If you mean protecting our children from harm, I'm with you.

                If you mean "protecting" our children from anything you personally deem to be indecent, I'll fight to the death to prevent it.

                Can you show harm to children from viewing such T-shirts?

              2. MelissaBarrett profile image60
                MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                Society didn't get me pregnant, nor did it birth my children. You may think it's society's job to raise your child, however, I feel that the people who actually produced the child have that responsibility. Otherwise, what's the point of having kids? Just so everyone else can take responsibility for parenting them?

                Doesn't seem very responsible to me.

                Edit: My children aren't "our" children unless you happen to have impregnated me. Since I'm fairly certain you didn't... make sure you know that "our" children are a figment of your imagination.

                That illustrates the root of the problem with society, I believe.

                1. PrettyPanther profile image86
                  PrettyPantherposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  Butting in here to say I don't think she ever stated or implied it is society's job to raise her children.  However, "society" usually does take a stand on important issues related to the safety and nurturing of children.  She is a member of society and as such can stated what she considers important for safety.  That does not mean she thinks society should raise her children.  That's an extreme characterization, don't you think?

                  1. wilderness profile image97
                    wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    Partially.  I gathered that the "porno" should be removed - pictures that have nothing to do with safety of children.  Only with a morality call by Beth that she would like society to support and enforce.

                  2. MelissaBarrett profile image60
                    MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    I get what she's saying, I just think it's destructive. I could write pages on why, giving examples, but it all boils down to when something is considered the responsibility of a group, then there is an erosion of personal responsibility. I think that's why we are seeing things like school shootings. Parents really are trusting society to teach and raise their children. (And, as a side note, getting pissed off- like in this case- when society doesn't do it to their liking)

              3. frantisek78 profile image85
                frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

                Please define "decent" society? Our society is prude and becomes outraged concerning sex, yet seems to be totally fine with gratuitous violence. Which is a more dangerous influence??

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                  Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  *prudish.

                  Why do we always have to choose one or the other?

                  As far as that argument goes, I would say it would be less likely that my kids would be pursued by spies than by the opposite sex... but other families might have different challenges. Who knows.

                  1. frantisek78 profile image85
                    frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    Because being upset by seeing a woman in a bikini cannot be anything but prudish, wouldn't you say? And please don't bring up the "monster erection" card again that you and GA seem to be so fixated on, which was not the point of this post in the first place. Sure, anything can be taken to extremes, but the point here was with the actual t-shirt images that this woman was upset about.

            2. MelissaBarrett profile image60
              MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              I don't know anything about your parenting except what you say here. Nor do I know anything about what you want of society... except what you say here.

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                Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

                Why is it every time someone debates a matter with you, you go personal? I have never brought up your personal life... never. I don't feel the need. The debate itself is the only pertinent matter. As far as keeping my kids innocence protected, I agree with you 100%. It is my job, it is not society's job. That's why I do keep them safe. My kids are so well loved and protected, not that any mom could shield her kids from every evil the world throws at them, but I've done a very good job. If you knew my kids personally, you would know that. But you don't. You don't know them, you don't know me. My point was that society should be kid friendly, in public places. That was my entire point! lol If that garnered personal insult from you... so be it, but I will do my best not to return the serve.

                1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
                  MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  *Sighs* I could just as easily ask why you take every conversation personally. If you took offense, cope. That's your problem not mine. If you think there was a personal insult, report it. Your feelings are not my responsibility. It was your choice to throw your personal experiences in there... or else I wouldn't have anything to comment on.

                  Maybe you shouldn't share so much, eh?

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                    Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    Whatever you say.

        3. wilderness profile image97
          wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          Yep - cows are always naked.  Perhaps we should ban farms, or at least children within a mile of such evil nakedness?

          But if you thought a cow's nakedness was the point of mentioning farm children's learning curve on sexuality and reproduction, and the harm it doesn't do, you are mistaken.

        4. EncephaloiDead profile image61
          EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

          Why anyone would want to shield their children from the world or lock them in the basement "from the evils of the world" (lol) is staggeringly ridiculous, they learn nothing about the world around them. The idea is to educate them, to explain things to them, even if they're too young to understand the explanations, which means they're probably too young to understand what's on those t-shirts in the first place.

          So, you're walking down the street and you both see a man snorting a line of coke. Explain that to your kids. Don't go on about Satan or any biblical garbage, explain to them the reality of what is happening.

          Not being able to communicate these things to your children shows a lot more about yourself than anything else.

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            Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

            Here's the thing... Im not even going there with you. I could say Mother Theresa was a good person and you would tell me why she was horrible. (I know that b/c it happened.) I could say fire is hot and you would tell me why I needed to read up on the matter before posting. I could say "I like mangoes." and you would say I was lying. So to be honest, I'm not even going to read what you wrote. I will just assume, you insulted me, called me a liar and disagree with any and every thing I said... we'll call it a day.

            1. EncephaloiDead profile image61
              EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

              No, that is not honest, quite the contrary. I did no such thing.

              I can't imagine why anyone would want to have such a closed mind.

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                Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

                So then you:
                1) disagree
                2) call me dishonest
                3) and say I have a closed mind...

                I guess I had you all wrong. My bad.

                1. EncephaloiDead profile image61
                  EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago in reply to this

                  Yes, you were wrong, you said this:

                  "I will just assume, you insulted me, called me a liar"

                  Disagreeing with you has nothing to do with you personally, but for some reason, you still don't understand that.

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                    Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

                    Insulted me: saying I have a closed mind.
                    Called me a liar: saying that I post dishonest things.
                    Disagreed with me: "You were wrong."

                    Is this a game? I never really know for sure. You do see the similarities between what I said and what you posted, right?

    2. frantisek78 profile image85
      frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Unfortunately, there is a much bigger threat of being shot by some maniac in a mall than of someone becoming a rabid sex fiend from seeing risqué ads.

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        Beth37posted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Now who is exaggerating? Where was it ever stated that that was a concern?
        Yes, I figured GA was exaggerating, as I have been in a mall once or twice in my lifetime. What I didn't agree with was the exchange (when given that particular example) that *we the consumers were somehow at fault if our kids were exposed to overly sexual ads and we should basically just stay home... 'cause yeah, I can do that... and if I had any money, I'd keep that at home with me too.

        However, I never go to the mall... I hate the mall, though my 11 year old and all her friends begged me to take them to the mall for her bday. The girls *loved it! (I endured it.) There were comments like, "This is the first time I've ever been to the mall without my mom." (Never mind, I was a mom and I was standing 3 feet behind her.) They want to go again next year. They like the soap and the jewelry and the sparkly stuff.

        For the next decade, there are going to be a lot of boys who want to take their pants off with those little girls... I wouldn't mind it if they could all hold on to their innocence as long as possible. That's not a "conservative Christian" view, it's not a "republican" view, it's not even an "over-protective mom" view... who of us doesn't know how soon and how hard it will hit? Is it gonna kill anyone to keep their pants on in a public place? Oh well... whatever... it's just an opinion.

        Again, my apologies for missing the beginning and focusing on the erection. lol... GA is right, it's difficult to be completely serious on this thread.

        1. frantisek78 profile image85
          frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

          OK, I admit the mall is not the best place in the world, but seeing as American cities and towns are basically devoid of pleasant walkable town centers where people would be able to come together to socialize, they are forced to go to malls. Given this, there is really nothing wrong with kids going to malls, even though they might be exposed to bikini clad women and pics of guys with rippling abs at Abercrombie & Fitch. I don't think that will ruin the mental health or children.

  11. EncephaloiDead profile image61
    EncephaloiDeadposted 2 years ago

    Interesting, the typical evangelical Christian, wanting everyone else to believe as they do, to behave as they do and to change the world to revolve around their narrow minded views.

  12. janesix profile image59
    janesixposted 2 years ago

    Here in America, it's actually seems to be about right in the middle where most everyone has a clear idea of a norm that is acceptable to most people, yet starting to veer to BOTH the sides of too prudish (suspending a six year old for kissing another kid) and too sexualized (too much out there on the Internet and TV where it's getting hard for parents to control how much their children are exposed to).

    1. wilderness profile image97
      wildernessposted 2 years ago in reply to this

      It is extremely simply to limit what kids see on the net and on TV.  Cancel the cable, cancel the ISP.  If you don't want to do one or the other, learn how to limit it via programming.

      1. MelissaBarrett profile image60
        MelissaBarrettposted 2 years ago in reply to this

        Or... and this might be a funny concept, but bear with me... WATCH YOUR* CHILD. Be present while they are watching tv or walking down streets or surfing the net. If you can't directly supervise them, know who IS supervising them and make it clear that you expect them to actually supervise them... not send them off to play on the computer or watch tv to get them out of their hair.

        I see too much "Well we can't watch them every second" my answer is "Then why the hell did you have them?" Sorry to say, but once you pop one out, that child is your job. Everything else should be secondary. Expecting everyone else to keep them safe and raise them is neglect and laziness and a HUGE indication of screwed up priorities.

        /end soapbox rant

        *you/your being universal, certainly not specific to you Wilderness.

    2. frantisek78 profile image85
      frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

      Europeans have a much more open attitude to sexuality and sex than the US. Ads, tv, magazines etc. all show a lot more nudity and sex, so it is not a taboo subject. Despite this, European children don't grow up to be lustful uncontrolled sex maniacs. Europeans have a much more open and natural attitude to sexuality, thus a more healthy one.

    3. frantisek78 profile image85
      frantisek78posted 2 years ago in reply to this

      How do you define too much sex out there on the internet and TV? Sure it's there, that's life. But what's too much? Even if you block these sites and channels at home, kids are bound to show each other these things out of curiosity.

  13. janesix profile image59
    janesixposted 2 years ago

    I think that the issue of sexuality is one of the few things that the American society has gotten right. Consenting adults can do what they please.  At the same time, there are laws in place to keep children from too much exposure before they are ready to understand it, laws are in place to keep pedophiles at bay, while at the same time are taught basic sex education in school so they can learn how to protect themselves from disease etc. as well as have a basic understanding of procreation.

    I think the system is a pretty good one.

 
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