What motivates people to do abortion? I don't mean aborting the pregnancy of 15 year old girl who was raped. I am taking about our youth who just abort when they get pregnant. Is it the lack of money to bring up the child that motivates them? or pressure from male partner ? or social stigma? or just for fun ? or some other reason???
Please post, I am just curious to know............
Just an opinion, because I don't know any 13 year old girls getting pregnant, but from the outside look in, I would conclude that it isn't a game, but a lack of knowledge or awareness about sexual acts, which leads to getting pregnant.
Once pregnant, then the 'self-responsibility' sets in on the mind of a person, who isn't anywhere near ready to accept it, and then that turns out to fear, and puts in question the rest of their life, so they turn to abortion. Because, the adoption agencies aren't any better prepared to provide for children, as proven by history.
Yes, what to talk about right? Who is going to question when an unborn child is killed,he don't even have a passport? Its we who created, so we have the right to destroy it too. Is that what you meant?
With that said I believe it's more important that a child comes into a world where they'd be healthy and happy. People who murder their children and throw them away in a forest, for example, should be required to have an abortion.
I will never forget a documentary where a child was given up for adoption to some very good parents but the biological father wanted the child back so he went to court and successful gain custody of his one year old child. The poor baby was raped by her biological grandfather and died within a year!
I don't think "motivate" is a good word. It in most cases, takes an ordeal to make this decision. In Australia, one needs to have a second opinion from 2 doctors to say it is warranted. It is not so easy to choose this. It cost a lot of money. You are correct in one aspect, many times it is pressure from partner/parents/and sometimes societies in which we live that frown on young people being pregnant and consequently having a baby. Believe me it is not fun!!! Life is precious and many disregard this fact. It is easy to become a parent but not easy to be a GOOD Mum. AND many disregard the fact that some males can be affected for up to ten years after their partner has had a termination. We often forget the medical reasons that may come into play...Remember also Accidents do happen and we all make mistakes... even you cheers
First of all, I found it slightly difficult to follow your actual question. Second of all, I think you must already KNOW no one would get an abortion "just for fun". Third, I think ONLY women should discuss this issue since ONLY women can get pregnant. I think the only time a man should get involved is when it is his potential child up for the abortion. (Damn, Mighty, another month and NO Super-girl? I am so sad.)
Okay. Allow me to elucidate. My point is I don't think ANY man should have ANY say about any "potential" child of MINE. A man cannot get pregnant so HE does not know what it is like to deal with being pregnant and ANOTHER man did NOT father my "potential" child. I don't need strangers getting involved in my life. . .especially those who have less of a clue about the issue than others. . .i.e. MEN.
have the last word. I have real writing to do. I WON'T debate the whole "life" definition with you even though that would be the way to go if I had time to rebut your comment about society being involved. Again, everyone has an opinion. We allow that here in America . . . so far anyway.
I think it has something to do with everything you stated except for fun. I don't see why anyone would think that was fun.
It's because when your that young you can barely take care of yourself, so it hits them that they surely can't take care of another life. Just think about it having a baby is something that even grownups are sometime not ready for. So that's one thing
Another added factor is the parents. Some parents pressure their children into this because they feel this will ruin their child's life. I personally know a few friends who went through this.
A so called boyfriend plays a big part also. The guy is around when it's time to have sex and things, but as soon as the girl mentions she's pregnant, the guy goes into panic mode and says things like you better get an abortion, or that baby's not mine, or i cant's take care of it. So when there's no support from the guy the girl def feels as though she can't do this by herself.
Another reason teen's get an abortion is because they feel as though , Ok i messed up this time but if i have an abortion here's my chance to start over and begin a new chapter. It's almost if they've erased what happend.
I mean there are so many reason's that play into teen's getting an abortion though iv'e named a few im sure there are way more out there.
I'm sure it's because they are evil or because they have been possessed by Satan as Eve was in the Garden or some other nonsense. Who really cares on an individual, case-by-case basis why such agonizing personal decisions are made when it is so much fun to judge and be all superior and stuff? A good polemic hubpages forum, as a random example, can be a great way to have some fun and, if we're careful, we can couch it in a thin veil of "authentic curiosity" or something. Wont' that be great.
That a girl is too young, that a woman does not think she is ready, that the relationship with the baby's father is not stable, that a woman's school or workplace cannot or will not accommodate her if she has the baby, that the woman's family or friends would disapprove, that a woman never wants children or doesn't want to have any more children account for 98% of abortions.
For selfish reasons I guess, who knows? maybe they thought about having a baby and then oh no I've just decided I do want a career after all and not to be using state benefits....selfish...selfish...selfish...of course there's nothing wrong with being selfish, but when a baby is there having a good old sleep in the mums tum tum and then is suddenly murdered because the parents changed their mind, just is wrong.....oh well.... selfishselfishselfishselfishselfish!
Why is it that almost all of the voices "speaking" for the "unborn" seem to be men? None of you has ever been or ever will be pregnant. You have no idea how it feels to make the decision to bring a child into this world. Or for that matter, to suffer a miscarriage. I notice there is never any outcry when a woman loses a baby naturally (which happens far more frequently than actual abortions). I am really sick of the holier than thou crap from so called "Christians" who just want to look down their noses at other people who they deem "baby killers." Why not focus your energies on helping the millions of kids who ARE in the foster care system or the kids with special needs who will never be adopted.
In a perfect world every child would be born to loving, capable parents (two of them in an intact, stable relationship). The reality is far, far from that. There is no test people have to pass to have kids. You have sex and you run the risk of getting knocked up. Even with protection. Does this make you automatically a good candidate for parenthood? No, it does not. Sometimes the HUMANE, RESPONSIBLE choice is to exercise one's LEGAL right to terminate the pregnancy.
P.S. The phrasing of this question is very objectionable to me. What motivates people to "do" abortion? Perhaps I've answered the wrong question and you really meant to ask why do some medical professionals PERFORM abortions? People having an abortion do not "do" them.
Is there nothing sacred to you tksensei? How you are allowed to continue at all on these forums truly amazes me. You are sarcastic, rude and inconsiderate and beside that you never really contribute anything.
I really believe you are an intelligent person but you choose to be like this, difficult for the sake of it. Maybe there is something that happened to you, I don't know. I would like to know but I guess I never will. I would rather you do not niggle me all the time though because my patience is not infinite. Just makes some sense for once, please. If you are racist, admit it. You love guns, admit it. You hate gays admit it. But stop being a pretender. Its just annoying and surely there is something better you could do with your time.
Not all men. I don't agree it is a male issue either but a problem with narrow-minded extremists who don't think outside of their absolutist moral guidelines force fed down the generations and slowly but surely quite willingly continuing the tradition, finding it too hard to think for themselves.
Personally, I can never imagine aborting a child. Mine has been so endearing, I can't imagine life without a baby I conceived. Still, there are others with a history who should never be allowed a child.
-In a perfect world every child would be born to loving, capable -parents (two of them in an intact, stable relationship). The -reality is far, far from that. There is no test people have to -pass to have kids. You have sex and you run the risk of getting -knocked up. Even with protection.
There are those with a criminal history of doing heinous things. They should have a vascetomy, their tubes tied...whatever.
I never had anything to do with abortions yet, but I always knew I'd do it if I got pregnant. I'm not ready, and this is it, nothing else matters. Selfish - yes. But I want to give something to my kids, especially childhood.
When I was 16 years old, I went down to Planned Parenthood and received counseling, rubbers and got on birth control. I did not have to ask my Mom to go with me, infact it was a school friend that went. Unfortunetly in some States girls do not have a place like Planned Parenthood they can turn to or the law requires a parent to attend...uuugghhhh. Okay, two years later, not resposible enough to take my birth control pills as scheduled, I become pregnant. I go down to Planned Parenthood, listen to my options. Have and raise the baby...(okay, am not responsible enough to prevent this pregnancy) Have the baby and put it up for adoption...(18 years old, not responsible and to selfish to even consider) Have an abortion...(?) Well, I married the father (while in HS) had my Son on graduation night June 8th, had a baby girl 2 years later and was divorced and raising kids on my own by 24. We struggled, lived in our car and somehow today, with the kids 28 and 26, raising their own kids, we look back on those days and laugh at the fun times we did have...the 3 muskateeers. Truth be told, I did make an appointment to have an abortion, I went to that appointment and when it was all said and done,I was more afraid of having that procedure, then I was of telling my Mom I was pregnant...nothing moral about my decision, it was fear...I'm glad regardless that I had that little boy and I thank God for putting that fear in me. I do not judge people on their personal choices, in the end, we all have to live with the choices we make...no matter what motivates us to the decision.
Thank you, that's the best reply I've seen yet, one experienced based, rather than emotive or logic based.
I was supposed to be aborted for my mothers health, she refused, we both survived. (no sly comment Mark!)
I was the cause of at least two abortions in my youth, by my lack of concern and education about life. I have deeply regretted that fact for many years.
My wife and I have suffered several miscarriages.
I (even as a male) understand some about abortion, and remember abortions cause emotional damage to men as well as women.
98% of abortions are carried out for convenience reasons.
That fact is a sad reflection on our society, especially as in the world today the ONLY people who are producing enough children to even replace themselves are the Muslin societies, and whether we want to or not, in 50 years America and Europe will become Muslin states by popular vote.
That may not be a problem (certainly not for me, I'm 58 now!)but it will make an interesting change in things, because under Sharia law, abortion will not be legal and certainly not a convenience option.
So the irony is that the current secular society will literally vote itself into oblivion by it decision to legalise abortion in 1964.... within 100 years this society as you know and love it will cease to exist.
I guessed you would surface somewhere, OK, so I will need to cite ALL the sources once again, to prove you are blowing hot air, just like I did the other night concerning whatever it was you denied was true even though five reputable scientific sources provided my information.
Readers and fellow hubbers can take a look, and see that MK just ignored what was proven, as he does all inconvenient truths that do not fit with his super intelligent concepts of self advancement.
Well I guess the readers will be the judge of that, all I do is present facts, if people want to refute the evidence of leading scientists because it does not fit their personal agenda, that's their choice and decision.
errr... government websites, I guess they wouldn't lie, but I'll check them out again and try to post chapter and verse for you.
Yes, responsible parenting is more important, however when we (as a society) allow and even encourage a situation where the sanctity of the family is shattered and young people are encouraged NOT to stay together 'for the sake of the children'.... then our society signs it's death warrant and those who fully understand 'go forth and multiply' win the day.
Which as I said is OK, except the society we know will change radically once Islam rules the western world.
The reasons women have abortions are as individual as their circumstances. And the decision is no one's business but their own. Women have had abortions since the beginning of time, but at least these days, they can do so safely and not worry about dying or being put in jail for it. The "promise" to abolish abortion has been used by the Republicans for decades now as a political weapon to attract the type of people who thrive on telling other people how to run their lives. It's not going to happen. Give it up. Live your own life, and let everyone else make their own decisions.
Sneako...It does not matter what the consideration is...if one wants to terminate a pregnacy...by god its her body and decision...life is the cheapest thing on this planet...it grows everywhere, all the time, and at a cost of nothing.
And? Fact remains. It is not an unborn child that is destroyed. It is the beginnings of what one day could be a child. People die all the time. Alive people. Actual people. There are infinite examples of moral issues that deserve attention.
I obey the law as well. Do not get me wrong. I feel strongly that children are precious and they should be loved and protected -- once they are born.
As a society we cannot impose "parenting" laws on our citizens, although it would be a great idea.
As stated in a post above, abortion has been around for centuries. Much better to make it safe and legal for women who must exercise that option. The hope would be -- with the availability of birth control and education -- fewer unplanned pregnancies.
I don't know much about your day-to-day life tk and sneak, but I do admire your fortitude. You stick to your guns and that's good. I can tell you from "families" I have seen -- working with battered women and their kids and now working with addicts/alcoholics -- "quality of life" needs to be factored in there as well. What kind of life is it to watch your dad beat your mom to a pulp on a regular basis? What kind of life is it to have CPS take you away from your mom because she's in prison and a drug addict?
I am asking this question in all seriousness. The moral argument about sanctity of life is B/W. But what about the social strain of people having kids who can't care for them or afford them? It seems to me the same people who are all in favor of no abortions are also those who dislike the communist social programs that help the poor/disenfranchised out. No?
What sexually active adults SHOULD do is clearly not the answer. It is what they ARE doing and thinking about the consequences is NOT what all people do. I am sure that is possible to understand for you.
This seems to be an assumption you think that everytime someone has sex with someone else, that the female is actually going to get pregnant, and that's not always the case. And, those who do have unprotected sex is a choice, of both people.
The fact that this topic 'abortion' is actually being debated is ridiculous, because the fact that it is up to the person or persons who are involved and NOT OUTSIDE others.
It's ridiculous that the people in America seem like it's okay to tell others what to do with their life, when the TRUTH is that YOU shouldn't be meddling in the affairs of others. It's NOT your place.
Your religious beliefs and knowledge is clouding your judgement and leading to believe it is alright to stick your nose in where it doesn't belong.
You do this on every occassion when YOU don't like something. Why don't you live your life and let others live theirs.
Whatever it is. I look at it this way, if its not in my womb its not my business. If I or you or anyone wants to save a life there are plenty of ways to go about it. Ironically, the same people I see on pro-life are the ones you see pro-firearms anti social reform, anti-health care....the examples of such hypocrisy are unimaginable and just plain ridiculous. Nobody with a decent head on their shoulders will pay any attention to such haphazard, illogical, politically self-centered arguments.
I think when a young girl finds out she is pregnant her first thought is that she is scared of telling her parents. If she has a good relationship with her parents usually things can be worked out for her and they help her with arrangements. However, when a girl who has not had any kind of education about sex and birth control,finds herself pregnant, all she can think about is how did this happen and what do I do. A lot of the time they are on their own with no means of support and just able to look after themselves and adding a baby to that equation simply terrifies them. They see abortion as their best option because once they have the abortion the problem is gone, no more baby. However, some girls go on to feel the guilt of "getting rid of their baby" for a long time to come, even the rest of their lives.They keep asking themselves "did I do the right thing?". If a girl's parents are very well known then the daughter's pregnancy would be very embarassing indeed, so it is often their decision rather than the daughter's to abort the baby even if she wants to keep her baby.Even though she wants to keep her baby, her parents decide that that is not in her best interest, while all along, they are doing this so they won't be embarrassed.This actually happened to a girl I went to school with, so I know for sure that this can and does happen. I know too, that she still thinks about that baby every year at the time it would have been due. She has three girls that she loves very much now. BB
Yes, I do. And I certainly expect that it can be done without becoming yet another in the endless collection of "I think I'm intelligent because I hate religion!" threads that pollute the religion forum.
I think tksensei is referring to Mark Knowles attacking what I said, which was NOT religious, but aimed at presenting the fact that abortion will eventually be the root cause of our societal collapse as religious Islamic people will out breed secular and people within 50 years.
Which would then make abortion illegal, as it would make many western 'pleasures' illegal.
Anyhow, I will leave the forum on this, I've said my piece and don't need to have MK drag in his cohorts to use this thread to try and silence those he hates.
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