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Are you homophobic like me?

  1. sooner than later profile image61
    sooner than laterposted 6 years ago

    Actually I dont believe in the word homophobic. I have no fear of gay people, I would not harm any gay person nor would I waste my time countering their fight for gay rights. However, I do disagree with the lifestyle and if anyone asks me I will give my oppinion. Welcome to America. But that makes me a homophobe. I think one has to be pro-homo to not be. But here is a test I found to let you know where you stand. Don't judge me, I'm not judging you.

    http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline … /quiz.html

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      Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Before I take the test,  let me say...

      I disagree that one has to be pro-homo to not be.
      I think one has to be heterophobic to ever coin such a word as homophobic.   The assault on straight people seems to have no boundaries.

      1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Maybe in your town. Heterosexual activities are alive and well where I live... wink

      2. Friendlyword profile image59
        Friendlywordposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        You know, Ted Bundy thought he was a misunderstood victim too.

      3. tobey100 profile image61
        tobey100posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        AMEN!!! Thank you from the heterosexual minority

        1. livelonger profile image90
          livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          And which minority would that be? 1-10% of the population is gay, heterosexuals are now a minority, so...are most people bisexual? Or is this the sort of right-wing paranoia that we've unfortunately become accustomed to?

          1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
            AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            God, some people obviously don't watch television at all, do they... yes, the heterosexual minority, clearly with no sway whatsoever over American pop culture...

            1. livelonger profile image90
              livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              lol Let's not forget all the rights that the gay majority has over the beleaguered heterosexual minority: marriage, ability to serve in the armed forces, etc.

              Man, the Christianists like to paint themselves as martyrs at every opportunity, even when that's the furthest thing from the truth.

              1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
                AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                It's a bit confusing when two decades ago the hullabaloo was about (hetero-)sexual immmorality being flaunted everywhere you look, and now that it is even more extravagantly flaunted than ever, suddenly it is homosexuality that is the threat. Aren't there more important things to think about, when it comes to morality... like, I don't know, war, extortion, poverty...

                1. livelonger profile image90
                  livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  It's only a sin if you're not inclined to do it anyway. Hence Christianists men's obsession with abortion and homosexuality: two "sins" they would never commit anyway. It's easier to feel good about yourself when you can define sinful behavior so conveniently.

                  1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
                    AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    I don't believe in God in the sense of some guy writing books and passing them down from on high, so tend to rely on logic for my morality (and obvious "truths" like the one that says that sentient beings, perhaps all beings, should be granted dignity), so homosexuality and abortion are different from each other...

                    Abortion... if the fetus warrants to be treated with dignity (which I suspect) then there is an argument for its legal protection. If your argument is based on "the de facto sacredness of all life" this is okay, too, but you better not squash any bugs on your travels, in that case.

                    Homosexuality... what you do in private, if it is not degrading to human dignity, is fine. Even if it is temporarily degrading, (like getting plastered drunk, or acting like a clown), that is fine too as long as you don't make it into a reason for being (maybe you could be a clown as a reason for being, actually...), ie a permanent state, so to speak.

                    But in any case, assuming there is a God, why on earth would he make someone with urges towards another person's genitalia and then say -- hey stop that! It's just silly. Equally silly to make priests remain celibate, and for the same reason.

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                    Denno66posted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    Didn't george Carlin have a routine based on something similar to that line of reasoning? lol

      4. IntimatEvolution profile image82
        IntimatEvolutionposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        The assault on straight people??? The assault on straight people?  Am I the only one who finds that incredibility naive and wrong?  It is so wrong I find it to be comical at best.  The assault on straight people?  Please....

        1. Ralph Deeds profile image69
          Ralph Deedsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          No, you're not. For some people white is black and up is down.

    2. gloriajeanjones profile image61
      gloriajeanjonesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I think that if these people choose to live their lives that way then that's up to them. The Bible clearly condemms this by saying, 'Man shall not lie with man'' and now we know why. We have AIDS and many more STD's.  So any judging should not be made by us, God will sort them out and very soon to.

      1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Eek.

        1. Misha profile image75
          Mishaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          LOL They walk among us lol

          1. tantrum profile image62
            tantrumposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            lol

      2. creepy profile image59
        creepyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        you make all christians proud

      3. kre8iv4u profile image61
        kre8iv4uposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        ok I'm going to make this as brief as I can.....The Bible??  Come on...it amazes me how people completely disregard the fact that we were and have been around on this planet many years before the Bible and Christianity.  Thousands of years.  It is so sad that people believe that what this book says is how it is.  Educate, learn and stop spreading negativity!! Your comments alone, sadden me, mainly because it's the people who make these judgements and condemn others, all the while saying they are NOT judgmental.  Forgive me if I'm confused. 

        Also, not so long ago, in the 80's....yeah, less than 20 years ago, there were no tests around for blood and/or organs.  I take care of someone who has been living with HIV for 20 years.  This woman has NEVER used drugs of any sort, nor did she practice unsafe sex.  Thanks to no testing 'way back then' she, along with many, many others are chastised & denounced every day.  Regular people, like you and I.  So, to pass judgment and criticize, or look down on someone because of who they love, or a disease, is less than Christian and even worse, less than what the Bible teaches. 

        I am a lesbian, who lives my life doing good things.  I volunteer, I give blood, I help those less fortunate than myself, even if I have nothing to give, I'm giving.  I'm good to others.  I'm very intelligent, I served 3 years in the Army, protecting your freedom.  I am a natural healer, massage therapist, working on my degree in integrated medicine.  All the while, you're saying that I am less than you, or God will sort 'us' out. 

        I feel for you.  Educate yourself, AIDS is not solely contracted by 'gays', nor are STD's.  Please, if you have children, let them think for themselves & not be tainted to your negative theories, most of which are incorrect.

        PEACE!!!

        1. tantrum profile image62
          tantrumposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          cool

        2. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
          AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this
        3. sooner than later profile image61
          sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I want only the best for you and I appreciate your oppinion. I cannot agree with everything you say as I spent 30 + good years in my life in the archeology field. The bible was in the back of my mind the first time my friend and I reallized that the earth has suffered cotastrophism on every major and minor land mass on earth and it related to a flooding and volcanic activity <--- both biblical. I suppose enough literature is available for or against, but my personal oppinion changed years ago. Good luck to you, and I hope you celebrate that we cannot share oppinions all the time.

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          121posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Thank you for the above as a gay Male age 30 i agree the above comment. XX

      4. brimancandy profile image83
        brimancandyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        You do know that Aids came from africa right? And, guess where it was killing people left and right. In straight people! The
        only reason it hit so hard in the gay community in the united states, is because someone who happened to be gay may have brought the disease here. It could have just as easily been a straight person, bisexual, or a drug user. Nobody knows for sure how it started. Aids does not discriminate.

        And your comment about stds is crazy. There are more stds among straight people than gay people have to deal with. If it was not for aids, and the treatments that came out of it. I would assume that a lot of treatments for other STDs wouldn't be out there, and STDs would not be as widely studied as they are now.

      5. rmcrayne profile image94
        rmcrayneposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Seems like your God, as you understand Him, is punitive.  And it seems like you think homosexuals deserve punishment.  This kind of thinking always impresses me as “of man”, not “of God”.  Okay, maybe it does impress me as being “of God”.  Old Testament God does impress me as punitive, and generally testy.  Jesus seems very different, more accepting and forgiving.  I definitely don’t picture Jesus sending “the plague” of AIDS to homosexuals. 

        My score is 6   -   Your score rates you as "high-grade non-homophobic."

      6. janiek13 profile image79
        janiek13posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Seriously? God will sort us out? I would stand next to you toe to toe in front of God and I would take my chances with the likes of you.

        1. tantrum profile image62
          tantrumposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I doubt she pass the test !

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        auntpammyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I hope you and Brenda have a homosexual grandchild. Poetic justice.

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      Poppa Bluesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I'm not sure homo sexuality is a choice to live a "lifestyle". All fetuses start out as females, which is why men have nipples, so it's quite possible something happens that isn't really understood in the process of becoming one sex or the other. The "life style" isn't for me but as far as I'm concerned, consenting adults are free to do whatever they choose, just please don't try to tell me it's normal or force it to be taught in school.

      1. sooner than later profile image61
        sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I can agree with the end part of that. The nipple thing doesn't sound right.

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          Poppa Bluesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Research it. It's a fact. Why do you think men have nipples?

          1. creepy profile image59
            creepyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            get off the man nipple thing

          2. sooner than later profile image61
            sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            to wear tassels in the bedroom. rar

      2. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Hehehehe, taught in school??? What sort of school did you go to????

        1. Arthur Fontes profile image90
          Arthur Fontesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          You should google Kevin Jennings our safe school czar he is quite a sexual deviant.  Looks up to the founder of NAMBLA a pure sexual predator. I would not even let his eyes gaze upon my children..

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            Poppa Bluesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Surprise! Another radical Obama advisor!

          2. sooner than later profile image61
            sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Good point. That guy is a phile in the cabinet.

            1. sooner than later profile image61
              sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              He wants people who don't agree with pedophiles to be called "pedophobes". Thats next.

              1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
                AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                Aren't some pedophiles heterosexual. So you're off-topic, folks

                1. Arthur Fontes profile image90
                  Arthur Fontesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  Kevin Jennings does not even keep his clothes in the closet.

                2. kerryg profile image86
                  kerrygposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  Most pedophiles are heterosexual, even ones that prey on boys. In fact, the majority of child molesters (the more common form of pedophile) are married. Pedophilia is a form of paraphilia, and it's not connected to sexual orientation. It's rarely possibly to guess a pedophile's sexual orientation by the sex of his victims.

                  1. sooner than later profile image61
                    sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    you lost me at the part where you said heterosexual men prey on boys. Not funny- I hate the subject.

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      thetruthhurts2009posted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Great Topic.

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      cosetteposted 6 years ago in reply to this

       

      9   -   Your score rates you as "high-grade non-homophobic."

      (what was your score, by the way?)

    6. DogSiDaed profile image61
      DogSiDaedposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      You don't have to be pro. You don't have to actively support gay people, and get involved in fighting for their rights. But if you disagree, that is essentially homophobic, although, in what sense exactly do you disagree?

      Edit: 20   -   Your score rates you as "high-grade non-homophobic."

      1. sooner than later profile image61
        sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        sorry DSD you are wrong. you need to study the word "phobia"

        1. livelonger profile image90
          livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          How about "homohater"? Does that term sound more appealing (and accurate) to the grammar sticklers here?

          1. sooner than later profile image61
            sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            No, I think that is highly innacurate as well. Do you really want me to name your intolerance of my opinion?

            1. livelonger profile image90
              livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              I am intolerant of all forms of bigoted "opinion" (homophobia, racism, religious chauvinism, etc.).

              1. sooner than later profile image61
                sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                I think you are a classic case of a severe missunderstanding of the word homophobic. The test is working. You celebrate the idea of freedoms, thoughts and ideas- so long as they all agree with you. "HOMOPHOBIA" is the fear of homosexuals. find me one of those people. I don't fear you. I don't care what hole you do or do not stick it in. I fear your biased way of thinking!!!

                1. livelonger profile image90
                  livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  I have the freedom to disagree with you, and to think your way of thinking is bigoted. You have the exact same freedom to do the same to me. I don't know where you get the idea that anyone's freedom is being trampled upon.

                  If you think I'm being biased, then so be it.

                  As for the meaning of homophobia, take a look at Merriam Webster. You'll see standard usage agrees with my/our definition, not yours.

                  1. sooner than later profile image61
                    sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    I'm sure it does. Homophobia- anyone who thinks homosexuality is a sin. Bigoted, religious, fanatical, biased. keep em coming.

    7. twuxedo profile image60
      twuxedoposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      If I was homophobic I very much doubt I would admit it on these Forums, especially given the chastizement, that I received after praising a Writer, apparently becuse I expressed the fact, that I enjoyed reading Hubs Stories Lens whatever they may be that were unique over those that were regurgitated from other articles, found on the net.
      But no I am not homophobic.

      1. Diskobolos profile image59
        Diskobolosposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        It is true that in America if you feel that two guys fucking each other is utterly disgusting and sick you are labeled as homophobic. But it's also true that most people do think that way, it's just that they don't ever publicly say it, because of the ridiculous amount of political correctness in the society.

        1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
          AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I think sex between old people is probably, well, unsightly, but I am not sure it is because of political correctness that I never say this (well, until now). It's just uncooth

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        cosetteposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        why do you disagree with it? i really want to know.

        also, can you rate from 1 to 5, your disgust factor of the following?

        (1 = not disgusting at all
        2 = tolerable
        3 = mildly disgusting
        4 = really disgusting
        5 = outrageous and perverted beyond redemption)

        straight couple in a BDSM relationship. not role-playing but hardcore Dom/sub lifestyle.

        straight woman who enjoys "flipping out with great danes" as in the popular ZZ Top song Under Pressure

        beautiful straight women "exploring"

        gay couple sitting at home watching Planet Earth, eating popcorn and helping their children with their homework


        (just trying to get a feel for how repulsed you are by homosexuals)

        thank you.

        1. sooner than later profile image61
          sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          God said it was an abomination. abominable- quite dissagreeable and unpleasant.

          1. livelonger profile image90
            livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Great quiz, cosette.

            Sooner: The Torah says it's an abomination for Jewish sacrificial cult priests to have sex with male temple prostitutes (kadesh), technically. It's quite a leap to interpret this as a ban on gay sex for all people. It's also hypocritical for Christians to cherry-pick this misinterpreted condemnation among all the others delineated in the Torah and say "God says it's abominable."

            Jesus never mentioned homosexuality once, but condemned divorce in no uncertain terms 5 times. One condemnation is inferred by you, another is unquestionable. Why focus on the former, ignore the latter? Is that because, maybe, you might want to get a divorce and you don't want your freedoms curtailed, no matter what your religion says?

            1. sooner than later profile image61
              sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Divorce is bad. I started a thread about that too.

              1. livelonger profile image90
                livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                Are you making efforts to ban it? Do you get on message boards and decry it as "discusting" (sic)?

                1. sooner than later profile image61
                  sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  God hates divorce. Sounds like you do too. Can we share that in comon?

                  1. livelonger profile image90
                    livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    No, I don't hate divorce. I'm not Christian. Divorce is not condemned in my religion (Judaism). To be clear, Jesus condemned divorce; he is your prophet, not ours.

                    I'm just pointing out the tenets of your own religion, and that you seem to support  some of the more tenuous ones while rejecting or turning a blind eye on some of the more obvious ones.

                    1. sooner than later profile image61
                      sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                      And there you have it. You can't even see the negative effects of divorce. Your blinders are closing in.

                    2. rmcrayne profile image94
                      rmcrayneposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                      I've said this to my racist, homophobic, hypocritical relatives over the years.  They just look at me like I have 3 heads.

              2. Daniel Carter profile image91
                Daniel Carterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                Not only is divorce bad, but so are all the other injustices and atrocities that occur in heterosexual family life. Those who escape such things are, indeed, the extreme minority.

          2. Ralph Deeds profile image69
            Ralph Deedsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Did God say it directly to you, or is it merely hearsay?

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              cosetteposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              haha big_smile  "Did you get that celestial memo? i thought I sent that out to everyone."

              1. sooner than later profile image61
                sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                He did, thats why it is printed in every language. lol

                1. livelonger profile image90
                  livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  Replete with mistranslation errors that adherents would rather ignore! lol

                  1. rmcrayne profile image94
                    rmcrayneposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    Yeah the relatives and I go round and round on this one too.  Translations, and general text content are overwhelmingly biased by flawed mortal men.

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        cosetteposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        i have to wonder what makes someone refer to themelves as "homophbic", and hate gay people. maybe they secretly want to be gay but because they are afraid to come out of the closet, they bash gay people because they are envious of theim living the life they secretly want.

        that's my take on it anyway.

        1. sooner than later profile image61
          sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          You have the same shallow "take" as many others who can't understand why we think sticking our manhood in someones bum is not discusting. To me, it stinks.

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            cosetteposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            yikes

            oh noes...i don't wanna go there. nope, not at all.

            thank you for answering (i think) hmm

          2. Daniel Carter profile image91
            Daniel Carterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            With all due respect, using "manhood" as a euphemism for a penis has always sounded so silly to me. Manhood has to do with gender, the role that adult males take on such as husband, father, brother, etc. And in that light sticking your identity as a man up someone's bum has done incalculable times here in the forums and all over the planet every time we reduce ourselves to being fools, our stupidity, ignorance, and snap-judgment/knee-jerk reactions based on our own erroneous beliefs. In that light, there are any amount of emotional homosexuals out there sticking things up people's bums that really have no place in society at all.

            1. janiek13 profile image79
              janiek13posted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Kudos

              1. sooner than later profile image61
                sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                Am I from mars or is this not a social issue? Homosexuals seem to think their lack of rights fit in that spectrum of light. The ploy of "keep your nose out of my personal business" works when it is not a social issue.

                1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
                  AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  What goes on in someone else's bedroom is not (generally) a social issue.

                  Rights issues are social issues however, it is true.

                  Gays should not have the right to marry in churches, mosques, synagogues and temples that don't want to marry gay people.

                  Because religious groups have the right to conduct their own affairs how they want.

                  But if someone has been living with the same gay partner for forty years, and isn't guaranteed visitation rights at hospital visits, this is simply wrong, and needs to be protected by the state as an inalienabl right.

                  1. sooner than later profile image61
                    sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    I agree with that. I think there was a very nice thread about allowing those couples rights as to marriage that would protect the interest of both parties.

                  2. Ralph Deeds profile image69
                    Ralph Deedsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    "Gays should not have the right to marry in churches, mosques, synagogues and temples that don't want to marry gay people."

                    I'm not aware of any proposals that would give gays the right to be married in churches, etc, that don't want to marry gay people. Gays are asking that their marriages in churches, by justices of the peace or anyone authorized to perform marriages be recognized the same as anyone else's marriage. Actually, there are a number of protestant churches who do perform gay marriage ceremonies. The problem is not so much on that end but rather with the lack of legal recognition of the marriage. At least that's my understanding.

                    1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
                      AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                      Well, I was just throwing him a bone. smile

          3. tantrum profile image62
            tantrumposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            I didn't know you could stick Manhood in someone's bum.
            I thought it was a virtue, a property.
            But as I'm ignorant, maybe I'm wrong ?

            Is Manhood a dildo of some kind ?

          4. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
            AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            I agree... it's absolutely "discusting" (I'm not sure what that is, mind you... something to do with minding your own business and not sticking your nose in others' affairs, I thought)

            1. sooner than later profile image61
              sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              The "affairs" don't stay in the bedroom.

              1. livelonger profile image90
                livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                As long as you're clear that your aversion to homosexuality is a personal prejudice, and not because Jesus Christ supported anti-gay bigotry (and, in fact, would probably condemn you for it).

                1. sooner than later profile image61
                  sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  Because you are gay, you would say that. Because you are gay you would say 'homophobic', because you are anti-Christ you will pull the french call of bigotry. I know your personal prejudice as well.

                  Was your relationship lustful at first?

                  1. livelonger profile image90
                    livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    I'm not anti-Christ.
                    I'm not anti-Christian.
                    I am anti-Christianist (anti-Dominionist/anti-Talibangelical).

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        lyricsingrayposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        This is so sad.

      5. JBeadle profile image76
        JBeadleposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I think that people who have a problem with the gay lifestyle or are all upset about anyone's sexuality is a sign of ignorance and intolerance.  Maybe you don't like some gay people just like you don't like some straight people.  That's fine by me but it is about the person not the lifestyle.  To use the Bible that also says, "judge not lest ye be judged", is idiotic and just shows you have some kind of agenda and want to use the bible to support it.  Unlike adultery or stealing being gay isn't even a commandment.  It's really stupid and all about what people do in the privacy of their own bedroom.  If the sexuality is in your face I think that can be offensive or just something you don't want to see nor should have to see but that is true be it gay or straight - it is just impolite behavior in a group setting maybe.  Nothing about being gay.  Gay people have been around since there have been people.  Deal with it.

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          Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          You sound like the typical robotic liberal who's latched onto the words "ignorance" and "intolerance".

          I myself gladly admit I have little tolerance for accusations such as yours based on your own unwillingness to "tolerate" traditional, right thinking.

          1. JBeadle profile image76
            JBeadleposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Too bad everyone can't be like you.  Maybe you are the way and the light?  You go for an attack on liberalness and not anything I said.  I bet you'd be surprised how many people you know and some you might even love are gay... no doubt afraid to let you know about it.

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              Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Save your change, because you'd lose the bet.
              You apparently assume way too much about me and what I know and don't know.
              Once again, typical.

              1. JBeadle profile image76
                JBeadleposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                As you do with me.  But it's ok when you do it, eh?  Do you ever actually listen or read?  Again, you didn't address one point I made.  Then you made assumptions about me and threw me into your "liberal pen" - then bitched at me about making assumptions.  Way to go.

      6. JOE BARNETT profile image60
        JOE BARNETTposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        hey sooner! well i agree with you . what has happened is for example. we (society) have a household and there are one hundred people living in it. one of the tenants life style is loud partying all night every night. society says that wouldn't be logical. people have to work,etc. so that one person says that society is anti social. get it? it's the tail "trying" to wag the dog. good article

      7. Gabriel Wilson profile image89
        Gabriel Wilsonposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Bloody hell I got 99 , now I´m confused !

      8. RevRainbowlady profile image60
        RevRainbowladyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        There is no such thing as a "gay lifestyle" anymore than there is such a thing as a "straight lifestyle". A lifestyle is a choice: being gay is not. I can choose to live a pious lifestyle, a hedonistic lifestyle, a criminal lifestyle, a miserly lifestyle...they all describe actions one takes. Being gay is not an action. It's about who you can fall in love with. And you don't choose who you fall in love with. You may choose whether to act on that love, but you certainly don't choose who you love. You may limit your chances of falling in love by only hanging around certain people, but you're going to fall in love with whomever you fall in love with and that's not a choice.

      9. ElizabethsOpinion profile image60
        ElizabethsOpinionposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I think the 2 biggest issues were made clear with that test....
        1. If you dont understand Gay people how are you not going to be nervous around them?
        2. You are afraid they will make advances towards you, for a person who doesnt like the same sex, and has been groomed for years to think it is unnatural that can be daunting, We all just need to grow up and realize that we should be flattered to be hit on by anyone,no matter their gender! We are all great people, but someone has to be attracted to you to want to make a pass at you, and noone is loved by everyone!

    8. Misha profile image75
      Mishaposted 6 years ago

      22   -   Your score rates you as "high-grade non-homophobic."

      1. 0
        Ghost32posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        10- Your score rates you as "high-grade non-homophobic".

        However, Misha, I'm not trying to "outscore" you.  Simply wanted to 'fess up that this is my score NOW...but at age 22, it would have been astronomically high, Turbo-Homophobic To The Max (with the exception that I never keyed anybody's car, homosexual or otherwise). 

        My point being that SOMETIMES people really DO change....big_smile

        1. livelonger profile image90
          livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          More proof that things are getting better.

          I would have been really, really terrified of Brenda when she was 22... lol

    9. creepy profile image59
      creepyposted 6 years ago

      according to the test i am gay

      1. starme77 profile image86
        starme77posted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Thats O.k according to the test alot of people are gay , but what-ever.... it takes all kinds to make the world go round , and its really none of my business anyway  smile

    10. marcel285 profile image82
      marcel285posted 6 years ago

      the thought of two guys having sex isn't something i;m all good with. But i would support gays because i feel sorry for them. I believe that they are born that way, it's not a choice they make, and their lives are hard. Many gay peoples friends and family disown them.

    11. NaomiR profile image85
      NaomiRposted 6 years ago

      FYI, there are plenty of straight people who contract AIDS and STDs. Guess God is "sorting them out," too, huh? And what about the babies who were born with AIDS — what's their 'crime?"

      1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        The vast majority of people with AIDS live outside the West, and do not get it from homosexual sex. Some of them get it indirectly because condom distribution and education is curtailed by some Christian groups and leaders (like the Pope, and the evangelical lobby in the US and elsewhere)

      2. tantrum profile image62
        tantrumposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Maybe they're not too straight, by this hubber's standards..
        lol

      3. ecoggins profile image91
        ecogginsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Unfortunately, the consequences of poor choices (or sin) often spill over and adversely affect the lives of others who were not accomplices to the poor choices. A faithful wife is battered by a drunkard husband or a devoted mother is hit head-on by a driver under the influence of alcohol. Even so, in most cases, STDs spreading amongst straight people are usually the cause of promiscuity or illiegal drug use which are outside God's will, too.

    12. Arthur Fontes profile image90
      Arthur Fontesposted 6 years ago

      I treat everyone I meet as an individual.  I do not care what they do as long as no one is harmed, coorced, or underage. Adults can do whatever they want it is none of my business.

    13. 0
      Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago

      She certainly made this Christian proud.
      Not every Christian has the guts to speak the Truth as gloria did.

      1. creepy profile image59
        creepyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        your god must be different than mine

      2. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        This would be Jesus' solution would it. You must have a different Bible from the one I've read.

    14. IzzyM profile image85
      IzzyMposted 6 years ago

      Mine just said I was non-homophobic.

    15. 0
      Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago

      By the test,  I'm "homophobic".
      That's funny, 'cause I only checked the choices that showed my opinion, and I didn't check any of them that asked if I called anyone insulting names or would advocate violence, etc.
      So according to that,  if someone simply thinks homosexuality is wrong, they're homophobic.
      It's as I thought.  Very typical "test", illustrating the bias of those who MADE UP the test.

      1. Arthur Fontes profile image90
        Arthur Fontesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I think the pencil scratching test in elementary school was more accurate.

      2. rmcrayne profile image94
        rmcrayneposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        What test would you suggest whereby bigots would recognize themselves as such?

        1. 0
          Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          The test I composed.

      3. mr williams profile image80
        mr williamsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        That's true. According to the test, I'm homophobic. Just stating my opinion on this controversial subject condemns me to being the "H" word. I don't have a problem with those who choose the live the life, I just have a problem with the particular lifestyle they have chosen to lead. I have a problem with judging others.

        1. tantrum profile image62
          tantrumposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          then you have a problem with them and you're judging.
          Just by saying you don't like their lifestyle.

          You people don't get it, ha?
          you're judging all the time !

          1. jellydonut25 profile image60
            jellydonut25posted 6 years ago in reply to this

            yeah, I made an unfair generalization there...or at least, after re-reading it definitely looked like I did...

            the problem is not THAT all people who support gay rights think religion is ridiculous...the problem is WITH those people who think religion is ridiculous...(and that problem is one that I have, and maybe others, but I won't speak for them)

            hang on while i stop being HUMAN and having opinions...
            and what do you mean, "you people"?

            1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
              AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              It is definitely bigoted, but I think it falls under free speech rules in any case. The same goes for much intolerance towards gays. However, there might be a difference, in that gay people are still frequently physically attacked for their orientation. I don't think I have ever heard of this towards Christians in the US... so , it might come under "incitement to hatred" or something.

              Anyway, you don't have to think that homosexuality is morally correct, but you live in a pluralistic society where everyone has to tolerate much they dislike... better that than dictatorship, right...

              1. jellydonut25 profile image60
                jellydonut25posted 6 years ago in reply to this

                trust me, my own feelings on gay rights in a legal sense are confusing...i know that as a society we (at least on the surface) are all about separation of church and state, but in my own personal practice, I can't vote for a piece of legislation that I don't morally agree with just because the LEGAL world views the RELIGIOUS world as (searches for the best word...) incosequential

                basically, what I've been getting at since I started posting in this topic (pages ago) is that while I'm not going to go out of my way to be rude or (worse) physically abusive towards gays, I'm also not going to be taking any ACTION to give support to that lifestyle and if a vote comes up, all i can do is vote the way I think is RIGHT, not "fair"
                I don't see how that would make me homophobic though...not to open up another can of worms, but I'm also not going to be pushing for drug legalization, but that doesn't mean I have a phobia of drug users...

                1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
                  AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  Well, this makes sense, frankly. The key, as you point out, is that you recognize your duty to treat gay people with the same respect as all others, and that it would be reprehensible to lobby your government (which is built on the principle of inclusion, after all) to introduce discriminatory legislation. Just the same, it would hardly make sense to vote against your own worldview on a particular issue however.

                  It is repugnant to me, for the record, that people hold the view you do on this matter, but then it is repugnant, no doubt, in your eyes to see nothing wrong with homosexuality. So, thank God for a free society where opinions can be expressed and no group ever has complete power over the country (except, perhaps, Dick Cheney's posse, for a while, but that's another story)

                  1. jellydonut25 profile image60
                    jellydonut25posted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    I can get behind this.

                    1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
                      AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                      What? You'd prefer a society where only certain groups get a say in things? Really???

    16. creepy profile image59
      creepyposted 6 years ago

      that was my result as well i wanted to see if anyone else had the same thing happen

    17. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
      AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago

      It's so weird. There are only two groups I can think of that Jesus was openly angry and hostile to:

      - religious hypocrites
      - financial extortionists (in the Temple)

      ...he even defended an adulterer about to be stoned, saying we're all as bad as her anyway... so his "strictness" towards sexual behaviour was hardly as poisonous as some of the "Christians" writing here.

      1. 0
        Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Wrong.
        You're forgetting two things.

        Jesus is God.  So all the things God is against,  Jesus is against.

        And the Bible must be taken in context.  You cannot simply go and pick one Scripture to try and back your opinions.

        1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
          AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

          1. 0
            cosetteposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            omg haha!! big_smile

      2. sooner than later profile image61
        sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Believe it or not, I agree. However, Jesus did tell the woman to go and sin no more. So, He did identify that adultery was a sin- as is homosexuality by Jesus's standard. Was Jesus a homophobe?

        1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
          AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Jesus didn't mention it.

        2. earnestshub profile image87
          earnestshubposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I would not be at all surprised if he was! tongue)

          1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
            AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            It's true that he might have been, but he hardly had the benefit of several centuries of human rights thinking behind him, so he was at a disadvantage. Don't the epistles admonish you to be a good slave...

          2. sooner than later profile image61
            sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            that just proves how far people are off of the standard. lol

    18. 0
      Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago

      To creepy and Adsensestrategies,

      Yes
      and
      Yes

      1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        A sentence requires a verb if you want it to be understood by its readers.

    19. sooner than later profile image61
      sooner than laterposted 6 years ago

      I didn't know I would gain a negative name for having an oppinion- one shared by many people. Is the test wrong or is a person homophobic if they simply do not agree with the lifestyle?

      1. creepy profile image59
        creepyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        if you answered even as having no opinion you are homophobic

      2. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        There's nothing wrong with disagreeing with a lifestyle. But in many cases the most moral thing to do is simply mind your own business (and certainly not lobby for any kind of political change that might result in government intervention into people's bedrooms!)

        1. sooner than later profile image61
          sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Does it stay in the bedrooms?

          1. creepy profile image59
            creepyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            do you go to where homosexuals frequent

          2. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
            AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            I just mean that I thought America was full of people who want LESS government interference in people's lives (which seems like a reasonable thing to want)

            1. creepy profile image59
              creepyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              your opinion should have changed after november 2008

              1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
                AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                I'm not up to scratch on American politics. Did something happen in November 2008?

                1. creepy profile image59
                  creepyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  yes obama who wants government in our lives 24/7 was elected did you miss that

                  1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
                    AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    :-p

                    1. creepy profile image59
                      creepyposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                      no clue what that means

        2. 0
          Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I fully agree with this.
          Homosexuals should mind their own business and certainly not lobby for any kind of political change that might result in government intervention into people's bedrooms!

          1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
            AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Glad you agree smile Why? Is this happening?

            1. livelonger profile image90
              livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Yes...except it wasn't gay people who lobbied against removing government intervention into people's bedrooms (surprise, surprise).

    20. AEvans profile image71
      AEvansposted 6 years ago

      I rated 13   -   Your score rates you as "high-grade non-homophobic."  well I am certainly happy about that, I told you I didn't care no disrespect toward those who have concerns. smile

      1. SweetiePie profile image84
        SweetiePieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I got a 15, so I rate about the same as you AEvans.

    21. tantrum profile image62
      tantrumposted 6 years ago

      Why everybody is so concerned with homosexuality, later ?????

      It seems it's a threat !
      this threads are so funny !!!
      Gosh!!!! lol

    22. tantrum profile image62
      tantrumposted 6 years ago

      lol

    23. tantrum profile image62
      tantrumposted 6 years ago

      lol

    24. Christene profile image82
      Christeneposted 6 years ago

      27   -   Your score rates you as "non-homophobic."

    25. K Partin profile image59
      K Partinposted 6 years ago

      I have no problem at all...just don't pat me on the smiley! smile

    26. 0
      Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago

      I've composed a short simple test for HETEROphobia.

      Who dares to take it?

      Here are the questions:



      1.  Have you ever insinuated to your straight friends that they should "try it, you might like it"?

      2.  When you see a straight couple cuddling or kissing, are you jealous?

      3.  You're friends with a straight couple.  Have you convinced them that it's okay for you to be alone with the spouse because "it's safe; I'm gay".

      4.  In the scenario above, does it make you angry or confused when they believe that?

      5.  When your straight friends have relationship problems, do you compare that to your own instability in relationships, trying to "normalize" the gay life?

      6.  Do you call people like me who are against homosexuality  "homophobes"?

      7.  You know a straight couple, one of which you had sex with years ago before you decided to engage in homosexual activity.   The partner doesn't know. Do you now laugh to yourself, either in humor or in ridicule (either one) that you and the former lover have that secret while the other person doesn't know?

      1. livelonger profile image90
        livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Never, even though I've heard the same applied to me countless times.

        No, except that they can do so without any fear of violent reprisal.

        I'm not friends with paranoid homophobes, so no.

        Absolutely. No normalization necessary; my straight friends respect the fact I can sympathize with most straight relationships.

        Yes.

        Not applicable. I've never been with a member of the opposite sex.

        1. 0
          Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          You have guts.  You took the test.
          Sorry you failed it.

          1. livelonger profile image90
            livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            The honor is all mine.

    27. Shadesbreath profile image90
      Shadesbreathposted 6 years ago

      I'm not at all, but as a student of language, I have to say the term is an interesting study in the development of language and usage.  Either side of the polemic abortion debate would kill (lol) to have been able to coin THE term that the debate revolves around as well as the gay rights movement has.

      The word homophobic is a biased and inaccurate for the attitude it is meant to describe. 

      - There are people who dislike homosexuality based on any number of reasons, social, biological, religion or whatever, but have no fear of them.

      - There are people who are afraid of them for various reasons (believing them responsible for transmission of aids, corrupting children etc.).

      - There are people who are afraid of them and don't like them.

      Only the last two categories are accurately described by the term.  The first category is not defined by the term at all. 

      As language goes, it's evidence of a calculated rhetorical move that gave the gay rights movement an advantage in the fight for equality.  The term is by it's nature pejorative given the polemic nature of gay rights.

      1. sooner than later profile image61
        sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Good post, thank you. So, by the looks of things the word is commonly missused?

        1. Shadesbreath profile image90
          Shadesbreathposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Well, it's more a matter of it having be mis-coined. Words are symbols that convey a larger meaning.  This word now means "dislike of or fear of homosexuals" despite its linguistic origins pointing to it meaning technically "fear of sameness" or "fear of mankind."

          It'd be like me inventing a pair of rain-proof pants and calling them "underpants" even though you wear them on the outside of your clothing.  We could argue all day whether or not that was the right word, but if the world started referring to my product as underpants, well, that's that.

          1. sooner than later profile image61
            sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            I actually had my own idea that the word is missused and not mis-coined. In the test it is obviously missused, and many people have called me homophobic for simply dissagreeing. Having said that- what is your first impression of the word "Cult". To be fair, don't look it up.

            1. Shadesbreath profile image90
              Shadesbreathposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              I don't have a "first impression" of that word, as I've read all sorts of stuff that deals with cults, sects and religions and have a pretty solid working understanding of the term, at least in the context of anthropology/religion.

              1. sooner than later profile image61
                sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                Not true. 99% of america associates the word with some form of religious commune or strange sacraficial practices and/or seances. I could tell you why. Media influence. Waco Texas, haha just the other day on CNN "Lawsuit calls yoga chain a cult" <--- am I a word stickler? maybe. just funny in a disturbing way.

    28. 0
      Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago

      I forgot to add:


      Any "yes" answer at all makes you heterophobic.

      Hey, don't blame me.
      That's the kind of unfair rules the the "homophobic" test is based on; fair is fair.

      1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Who cares what some TV website says anyway. Is this what we've sunk to, that we decide what to do and not do, think and not think, based on what television producers and writers think? Come on; who, seriously, without rocks for brains, gets their views of the world from TELEVISION.... (mmmmmm)

        1. sooner than later profile image61
          sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          You should check the american news pulse. Biased information fed to the public every day does have an effect on people. Only those who can read through the B.S. stand a chance.

    29. sooner than later profile image61
      sooner than laterposted 6 years ago

      Discovering what I have seen here, thanks to many of you, I am upset that the test stands. I feel it is highly biased and now wonder what is the point of naming anyone who simply does not agree with homosexuality a homophobe. That is poor research.

    30. sooner than later profile image61
      sooner than laterposted 6 years ago

      come on, what is a "cult"?

    31. 0
      sneakorocksolidposted 6 years ago

      I'm sorry LL! I didn't know you were gay I just thought you were goofy. Well you're vested in the liberal side of life.

      1. livelonger profile image90
        livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        No hard feelings.

        1. 0
          sneakorocksolidposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          All my nonsense aside, I really hope you find what your after and you enjoy all the love and comfort you can stand. Theres plenty of room for us all.smile

          1. livelonger profile image90
            livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Yeah, I know a lot of what you post here is (deliberate, of course) nonsense wink . I actually have a lot of love in my life; I'm very blessed with a long-term husband and a loving family. Agreed that love and happiness are not a zero-sum game.

            1. 0
              sneakorocksolidposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              Hear!Hear!

    32. 0
      Denno66posted 6 years ago

      Huh?

    33. 0
      Denno66posted 6 years ago

      huh?

    34. 0
      Denno66posted 6 years ago

      So, this was a Pass/Fail test?

      1. livelonger profile image90
        livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Of course. All gays and non-homophobic straights fail.

    35. 0
      Denno66posted 6 years ago

      Ah, okay, I was confused. lol

    36. seanorjohn profile image82
      seanorjohnposted 6 years ago

      Empathy , kindness, tolerance , humanity,realism and commonsense. We mustn't stand in judgement. Many doctors find it hard to determine the sex of a baby and surgical decisions are sometimes made without the parents consent.

      This world is not so straight forward as being made up of males and females. So,no being homophobic doesn't make sense to me.

      1. sooner than later profile image61
        sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        but 99% of the time there is a key and a key. or a key hole and a key hole. that is not confusing. put the key in the key hole.

        1. 0
          Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          LOL
          Well said.

        2. seanorjohn profile image82
          seanorjohnposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          1% of billions of people adds up to a lot of people. Why do you write them off? I'm sure God doesn't.

          1. sooner than later profile image61
            sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            nobody is writing anyone off. well, maybe some are. I hope we all get it right. myself included.

    37. 0
      Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago

      Sure.
      Just like the "homophobic" test was.

      When a concept is based on manipulation from the start, all things from there end up in a maze of hogwash; and few there be that come out as "winners".

      1. livelonger profile image90
        livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I'm not sure what your objection is to the word "homophobe." Based on what I've seen of your posts, I'd imagine you'd consider it a badge of honor.

        1. 0
          Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Only half the time.

    38. glendoncaba profile image81
      glendoncabaposted 6 years ago

      Control the language and you control the debate.  Not all monorities have been able to control the language like gays.

      Homosexuality is the new puritanism.  And you dare not question the groupthink.   

      I would not even waste time to do the test.  When I cease to believe the bible then I will be politically correct, but until then why bother.

      The intellectual dishonesty of the gay lobby is so predictable, it's boring. Just to disagree with the lifestyle gets you branded as a homophobe.

      1. sooner than later profile image61
        sooner than laterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Yeah, but many don't see that. So the boring part becomes disturbing.

    39. Ohma profile image79
      Ohmaposted 6 years ago

      While I do not activly support gay rights. I also do not allow a persons preferences guide my judgment of them. I like people! If they happen to be gay well thats just the way it is.
      20   -   Your score rates you as "high-grade non-homophobic."

    40. sooner than later profile image61
      sooner than laterposted 6 years ago

      51   -   Your score rates you as "homophobic."

    41. 0
      Denno66posted 6 years ago

      So, then the term means fear of all things ONE? I am truly confused.

    42. ecoggins profile image91
      ecogginsposted 6 years ago

      37   -   Your score rates you as "non-homophobic".

      I found the survey to be very interesting. I am a Christian and I disagree with the homosexual lifestyle. Yet, legislatating morality does not work i.e. making things illegal is rarely the answer to bringing about lasting change. I think open dialogue is the basis of coming to the best ideas and can elicit changes.

      While a student at Long Beach State, I had a classmate who was openly gay. He and I had several classes together back to back and would often walk together from one end of the campus to another. We would talk about this and that. After one particular conversation about differences in lifestyle, I told him affectionately that I could love him as a person without agreeing with his lifestyle choices. He seemed very moved by that.

      I had a cousin who was homosexual. He was a very nice individual. Unfortunately, he got into a bad relationship and was hospitalized for an extended time after his lover beat him to a pulp. Soon after he passed away from AIDS. It makes me very sad to think about how he suffered and died. I would not wish that disease on anybody, even if I disagree with their lifestyle.

      Jesus loved misfits and cast aways; even when he didn't agree with their lifestyle choices. He also told them to repent and make better choices, but it was up to them to make those choices.

    43. 0
      Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago

      I totally disagree.
      Legislating morality has worked for a long time!  What purpose do you think laws are made FOR?

      And....did you yourself tell your friend he should repent?   Because how else is the Word gonna reach someone in the pits of sin?

      1. livelonger profile image90
        livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        You should repent for your sins. And make sure you're sin-free yourself before you counsel others.

        1. 0
          Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Where'd you get that concept?

          ...perhaps from....(gasp) the ...Bible?

          1. livelonger profile image90
            livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            I'm not a Christian--I'm Jewish--so forgive me for not abiding by the Christian Bible. I'm not obligated to do so.

            But it seems if you're a Christian who professes to be a Christian and not a Pharisee, then you'd want to abide by your religion's edicts and not just pay lip service to them. Sound right?

      2. Mrvoodoo profile image60
        Mrvoodooposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        OMG.  Sometimes when I read about all the abuse of children and shit that happened at the hands of Priests and Nuns in the name of Jesus, I think nah, that couldn't of really happened, and then you step into the religious forums and read such hate filled words.

        I hope your God is ashamed of you.

        1. 0
          Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          So....you believe in my God?

    44. 0
      Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago

      Because they're not just "lifestyle choices"....

      Christians know it's a matter of Life or death, literally and Spiritually,  as are all sinful lives.

      This is serious business, ecoggins.  To make it seem benign is to not do justice to the enormity of the consequences of it.

      1. livelonger profile image90
        livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        I agree with you there. There is no such thing as a "homosexual lifestyle" anymore than there is a "female lifestyle." Homosexuality is a sexual orientation, not a lifestyle.

        1. Ralph Deeds profile image69
          Ralph Deedsposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I wonder if the term lifestyle developed from the portrayals of homosexual stereotypes on television (as in "flaming gays"). Some homosexuals dress and act in ways that fit the stereotype but most are indistinguishable from heterosexuals. It strikes me as analogous in part to the range of lifestyles in other minority communities, notably, the African American community in which some assimilate while others proudly display their differences, in speech, dress and in naming their children. I admit to a certain amount of prejudice toward or skepticism of "flaming" homosexuals and African-Americans who are not inclined to blend in with our middle class white American culture.

          (However, I'm proud that I scored an 8--hard core non-homophobic or whatever they called it on the little test. I hope I would do as well on a test for prejudice toward other minorities.)

      2. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
        AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Yawn

    45. prettydarkhorse profile image62
      prettydarkhorseposted 6 years ago

      No , I am not homophobic

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      Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago

      I was saying they're not "just" lifestyle choices.  Maybe I emphasized the wrong words.

      I believe homosexuality is a choice, of course.

      I was trying to say it's a serious matter,  not just a casual choice without severe consequences!

      1. livelonger profile image90
        livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Yes, naturally you do.

        1. rmcrayne profile image94
          rmcrayneposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Yes indeedy, of course she does.  Just makes me wanna bang my head against the wall.  roll

    47. habee profile image90
      habeeposted 6 years ago

      I don't think people can help who they are attracted to physically. I've been sexually attracted to men before that I really didn't even particularly like. I think it's chemistry or pheromones or something.

      Actually, sometimes I think I might be gay - a gay man trapped in a woman's body. I keep finding myself drawn to big hairy men...

      1. IntimatEvolution profile image82
        IntimatEvolutionposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        This is so true.

      2. livelonger profile image90
        livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        lol Heehee! I love this!

        A (female) friend of mine jokes that her husband is a lesbian trapped in a man's body. He loves the Indigo Girls and nesting. smile

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        cosetteposted 6 years ago in reply to this

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        yikes

        every so often, well not too often, i will find myself drawn to a woman. i used to work with this blonde named Jenny. one night we were working late and she asked me if i had ever been attracted to a woman. i was a big wimp back then and siad "no, no" and she looked disappointed.

        now i would say "why yes, i have". at the time i was attracted to her but never told her.

        does that make me gay?

        no, because i worship men.

        i just think some people pluck something inside you whether you want them to or not.

        1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
          AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          You worship men? Good heavens

    48. Colebabie profile image60
      Colebabieposted 6 years ago

      6   -   Your score rates you as "high-grade non-homophobic."

      Sweet! big_smile

    49. habee profile image90
      habeeposted 6 years ago

      Brenda, I used to think that, too. But then there's my relative - a gay man from a very strict, religious family. He fought being attracted to other men for years. He tried to convince himself that he wasn't gay. He tried to fall in love with several wonderful girls. He couldn't. Toucing them in a sexual manner literally made him ill. He was always "girlie," even as a kid. I should have seen it coming even back then. Why would anyone choose a life of ridicule and ostracism?

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        Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Because they want attention, perhaps.

        The concept of choosing sin isn't limited to the gay lifestyle.
        ...Each Christian is a former deliberate sinner!
        Whatever our "weakness" is....is something we naturally rotate toward.  We're all born with the capability of turning into deliberate sinners after the age of accountability.
        Would you say that a kleptomaniac chooses a life of having to hide from "the law"?   Yep.   There may be something in him or her that knows it's wrong, but they still choose to do it, knowing they'll eventually get caught and be subjected to the legal system and notoriety as criminals, and knowing it's against God's laws as well.

        I, too, have relatives who are "gay".  One of them is fully (and maybe inextricably; I hope not...) immersed in that choice.  They were both raised in a Christian home...a good Christian home.   The other one has re-affirmed his belief in the Lord and has chosen to live a celibate life.   I would, of course, wish for him that he'd someday try to marry a woman and be happy....but if he can't, then he has still chosen the better life in the eyes of his Lord.

        It's not a matter of "can't".  It's a matter of choosing to not exercise any any self-control.

    50. Colebabie profile image60
      Colebabieposted 6 years ago

      I just couldn't imagine my life without my friends. They are sooo amazing. Great people that I strive to be like some day. And some of them happen to be gay...

      1. rmcrayne profile image94
        rmcrayneposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Agree.  For me at least, a person's character is not tied to his/her sexual orientation.  You're either a person I can admire, and would want to know, or you're not.  Most of us are looking for the same things in relationships.  People in committed relationships earn my respect, regardless of the specifics.

        1. Colebabie profile image60
          Colebabieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          My friend Carly is seriously amazing. She is a dual major, she is president of the Resident Students Club, she helped organize our Student Leadership conference. She lets me borrow her records all the time, and is the best asian food buddy (she knows all the good places). She is trying to teach me how to paint (key word "trying") smile. She really is a great friend.

    51. Colebabie profile image60
      Colebabieposted 6 years ago

      Brenda, Is it possible that God gave you gay relatives to teach you understanding and tolerance?

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        Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        He wouldn't have to give me gay relatives to teach me that.
        He gave me other personal insecurities and imperfections of my own to make sure I'd never have a big ego! ha

        And I'm being a bit humorous, but NO, he didn't give ME "gay relatives".   What he gave those relatives is the same thing he gave me----free will to make a choice between Him and a life of sin.

        1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
          AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          I don't know about you Brenda, but I didn't choose my sexual orientation (liking women I mean). Did you choose yours? Can you honestly, really, imagine someone choosing something like this? Just how does someone do this? The very idea sounds odd. I mean, if you don't like that kind of plumbing, what can ya do?

        2. Colebabie profile image60
          Colebabieposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Brenda, I was speaking of understanding and tolerance of those different than yourself. Personal insecurities and imperfections can only teach you so much when it comes to other people.

          When did you choose to be straight?

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            Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            That's not relevant, seriously.
            Because having homosexuality isn't my temptation!  You don't seem to have understood the whole concept of sin and temptation and resisting temptation!

            Ask me when I chose to NOT be promiscuous sexually, and if I answer you, then you might have a clue as to what I mean.

            Or ask me when I chose to stop, or how I stopped, drinking when I was getting addicted to it.   Then you might start to understand.

        3. glendoncaba profile image81
          glendoncabaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Thank you for straight talk.  You will not be popular but at least you are true to the bible. 

          I haven't the time or the nerve to keep explaining that all we are doing is sharing the simple biblical position. 

          Ephraim is joined to idols...

          1. livelonger profile image90
            livelongerposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            Which Bible? You know Brenda's a Christian, right?

            Interesting that the only two things that Christians adopt from the Torah (Jewish Bible) are the 10 commandments and those passages they interpret to condemn homosexuality. The other 99%? Ignored. "Jesus made a new covenant...except for those things we'd like to continue condemning."

            1. glendoncaba profile image81
              glendoncabaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

              How typically incorrect!!!

              I, for one, belong to a Christian church which promotes the Edenic diet, as well as the principles of the levitical health law.

              1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
                AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                Edenic diet????? Love it.
                It is not typically incorrect. Just because you happen to belong to a church that follows an "Edenic" diet does not change the fact that 99.99 percent of Christians ignore 90 percent of the Torah's teachings...

                1. glendoncaba profile image81
                  glendoncabaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                  Perception, no matter how convincing, is not always a true indication of reality.  I share your disappointment with the neglect of OT but you overgeneralise.  99.9 NO.

                  But this is not religious forum.

                  1. tantrum profile image62
                    tantrumposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    just what you said !

                  2. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
                    AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                    You are seriously telling me that what I just wrote is not true???

                    1. tantrum profile image62
                      tantrumposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                      no! he's telling himself that his religion is unreal

                    2. glendoncaba profile image81
                      glendoncabaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

                      Let's not hijack the thread with religious debate.

                      You have a good point, just overstated.

                      Just being a sabbath keeper has taught me that most of Christendom has missed the great lessons of the Torah.  But you have made a huge assumption with 99.9%. 

                      We could take this to religion forum.

          2. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
            AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            The simple biblical position... I am soooo tempted....

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      SirDentposted 6 years ago

      40   -   Your score rates you as "non-homophobic.

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      Denno66posted 6 years ago

      A life of sin? You mean these relatives have sexual relations with barn animals?

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        Brenda Durhamposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        No one said any such thing, except you.
        Is that your temptation or something?

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          Denno66posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          You didn't say Life of sin?

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        cosetteposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        hee hee yikesbig_smile

        my brother is gay, and his partner is gay, and they are both very successful attorneys. they have no children but are doting uncles and generous to a fault. they do not flaunt their "gayness" nor do they put down straight people. they are kind and moral and when i talk to them and visit them in their beautiful home with their pampered little dogs and see them as model citizens and members of their community, the word "sin" never enters my mind.

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          Denno66posted 6 years ago in reply to this

          My point exactly. If indeed you believe in Sin then the one I jokingly referred to fits. But a loving relationship between two consenting adults doesn't qualify as a Sin.

        2. Mitch Rapp profile image59
          Mitch Rappposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Glad to hear his partner is gay, makes things a lot easier.

          1. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
            AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

            smile

    54. Colebabie profile image60
      Colebabieposted 6 years ago

      Nope sorry. Still don't understand.

      Here is what I do understand: I understand not being homosexual personally. I even understand believing that homosexuality is against your religion's teachings.

      But what I don't understand: If you yourself are not homosexual, and you yourself are the one who believes in your religion, and religion is a personal choice, why does it matter what someone else's sexual orientation is? And why is it appropriate to claim someone that is homosexual is going to hell when they don't follow your personal religion? Maybe your religion says it is a sin, but someone else's may not.

      Do you understand that?

      Furthermore, I also do not understand how someone can believe sexual orientation is a choice. Or that homosexuality is a choice. I also don't understand how someone can disregard a person as a friend, or important, or amazing based on one part of their life. I also don't understand why importance is placed on something personal, something that makes someone who they are.

      Man! I really don't understand a lot! Maybe you could teach me? Knowledge is power Brenda.

    55. AdsenseStrategies profile image72
      AdsenseStrategiesposted 6 years ago

      My former roommate is/was gay, and the only real complaint I had was too many Brad Pitt movies in the house (oh, and that dreadful Cher album -- I like Abba as much as the next person, but I have my limits...)

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      cosetteposted 6 years ago

      haha! big_smile i know, i know...

     
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