is spanking your child ok? or not?

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   Webmatronposted 14 years ago

   See what kinds of things turn up when you Google?
   
   Mrs. Sexton, have a look.
   
   http://www.theawarenesscenter.org/shomrat.html

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   tantrumposted 14 years ago

   Well! now I feel like spanking all of you!
   

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      wsp2469posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Mmmmmmmmmmmmm
      came back just in time
      (dropping jeans and Spider-man boxers n bending naked over tantrums lap)
      i've been a very bad boy, Mistress!

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         tantrumposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Oh you naughty boy !!!
         
         I'll spank you until you bleed !

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   Webmatronposted 14 years ago

   Well, there you have the problem of legislating morality.  Someone else's dirty mindedness or abusiveness means that your innocent or at worst innocently ignorant actions come under scrutiny.
   
   I think it's a good idea to inform parents that any nude images of kids could possibly be exploited, but not to accuse the parents of exploitation.
   
   That really says some dark things about who was looking at the photos.  How did they determine, out of thousands of photos they likely see in a day, that this one was porney?  Do they report everyone with photos of their kids in the bath or without full dress?  If it's every one, I could see that those just got in the overall sweep...but if it was just theirs, did the person select them because perhaps they were stimulated?
   
   So their guilty conscience becomes the parents' fault?

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   PDeveritposted 14 years ago

   Spirit of the law or letter of the law?: The vast majority of professionals agree that child bottom-battering/slapping isn’t healthy. A marginal few (mostly religious fundamentalists as those at Calvin) think that child bottom-slapping is good.
   
   "The much-touted 'biblical argument' in support of corporal punishment is founded upon proof-texting a few isolated passages from Proverbs. Using the same method of selective scripture reading, one could also cite the Bible as an authority for the practice of slavery, adultery, polygamy, incest, suppression of women, executing people who eat pork, and infanticide. The brutal and vindictive practice of corporal punishment cannot be reconciled with the major New Testament themes that teach love and forgiveness and a respect for the sacredness and dignity of children, and which overwhelmingly reject violence and retribution as a means of solving human problems. Would Jesus ever hit a child? NEVER!"
         The Rev. Thomas E. Sagendorf, United Methodist Clergy (Retired), Hamilton, Indiana. Personal communication, 2006.

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   PDeveritposted 14 years ago

   People used to think it was necessary to "spank" adult members of the community, military trainees, and prisoners. In some countries they still do. In our country, it is considered sexual assault if a person over the age of 18 is "spanked", but only if over the age of 18.
   
   For one thing, buttock-battering can vibrate the pudendal nerve, which can lead to sexual arousal in some people. There are numerous other physiological ways in which it can be sexually abusive, but I won't list them all here. One can use the resources I've posted if they want to learn more.
   
   
   Child bottom-battering/slapping vs. DISCIPLINE:
   
   Child bottom-battering (euphemistically labeled "spanking","swatting","switching","smacking", "paddling",or other cute-sounding names) for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.
   
   Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.
   
   I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.
   
   There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:
   
   Plain Talk About Spanking
   by Jordan Riak,
   
   The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
   by Tom Johnson,
   
   NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
   by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.
   
   Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit the website of Parents and Teachers Against Violence In Education.
   
   Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea:
   
   American Academy of Pediatrics,
   American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,
   American Psychological Association,
   Center For Effective Discipline,
   Churches' Network For Non-Violence,
   Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
   Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps,
   Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,
   United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.
   
   In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

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   yenajeonposted 14 years ago

   In this day and age we should be aware that it IS abuse. There are other ways to discipline a child and all those ways need to be engaged before you take the easy way out. (spank the child)
   
   Personally when I have kids, I am choosing the 'academic punishment method' - pretty much all forms of punishment will be school related. Like if they're late for a curfew, write an essay on blabla...
   

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