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Im a pole dancer.....

  1. confused barbie profile image60
    confused barbieposted 7 years ago

    I work part time as a pole dancer.As Im in college I need the money. People judge me and assume im a slut.People have told me I should quite. Is it realy that bad that I dance for money?? Just because a pole is involved people think the worst...

    1. WriteAngled profile image90
      WriteAngledposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      One of my daughters is a pole dancer, and I'm dead proud of her. She is truly excellent at it.

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      Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      blech...people will always judge. I have had some people look down on me and say I am not contributing to society, Im not a REAL woman becuase I stay at home with my kids, instead of having a carreer...
      If you are happy doing what you do, dont worry about what others say.

    3. yenajeon profile image80
      yenajeonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Everyone will hate me for this, but I guess you can only be what you judge yourself for. So ask yourself this:
      Would I be ok with my daughter pole dancing for money. If the answer is yes, then more power to you!
      If the answer is no, then I'm sure you yourself feel like what you're doing is wrong!

      1. Daniel Carter profile image91
        Daniel Carterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Excellent insight! I totally agree.

        My daughter is very alternative in art, music, and many other things. She's never been a pole dancer, but it wouldn't surprise me if she has a friend or two that is. I think pole dancers are perceived as bad because they arouse a lot of excitement and sexual feelings. However, I'm a musician, and some of my family and friends thought that was bad because I would lose my principles as I became heavily involved in the industry. And music, too, can be very sexual.

        So what. Let them think what they will. If you are good with yourself about your life, then you're pretty much finding peace. What's wrong with that?

    4. Anath profile image73
      Anathposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I always wanted to do that.
      I think that if anyone criticizes you is just out of jealousy.  Keep dancing girl!

      1. LovelyThoughts profile image61
        LovelyThoughtsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Well maybe it is just people have different opinions too.  I am not attractive at all, but I have never been jealous of my prettier friends.  The reason I did not like to see my friend dancing is because she felt she was selling herself short.  Just because people are opposed to dancing this way does not mean they are jealous, or even prudish. 

        I feel the same way about all the bankers that got countries into this mess.  Growing up no one wanted to be teachers because they all make paltry sums, but everyone wants to be a star or something that pays high.  Called me old fashion, but I believe in careers that have staying power.  Is poll dancing or stripping a job you could do at sixty?  If not, why are you there. 

        Yes working fast food or janitorial is degrading in a different way I suppose to some people, but I know what is expected of me, etc.  Now I am going back to school to become a medical assistant, and I know what is expected of me there.

        1. peptalk profile image59
          peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          No... working fast food is not degrading, it's hard and you get yelled at all the time!

          My reason for doing it really had nothing to do with sex, feeling attractive, enjoying being looked at, or having a lasting career.  I wanted to pay my mortgage by working 2 to 3 nights a week so that I could focus on my life in the real world and my writing.

          Confused is focused on moving forward, this is a way for her to work fewer hours for a decent sum of money than she would make elsewhere in order to reach her goals without having to go bankrupt and pay back student loans for the next 20 years.

          1. LovelyThoughts profile image61
            LovelyThoughtsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with someone that works fast food and pays off their loans over twenty or so years.  Once I get a full time job I will allocate most of my income to repaying the loans, but for now these are on deferment.  As for writing, well I have written two novels that are not published, and I did lots of my writing and studying on breaks at work.  I have no desire to own a house, so for me I did what is best.  I would not change a thing, but those who think people are judging others for dancing, I think some who are pro dancing are judgmental too.  I like to look at both sides, and I see judgment in both camps.

            1. peptalk profile image59
              peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Nothing wrong with it at all LovelyThoughts.  It is a respectable job and you should be respected for doing it.

              My only real point was that being an exotic dancer is no less a respectable job if you view it as a job and not a lifestyle choice.

              1. LovelyThoughts profile image61
                LovelyThoughtsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                That is fine.  I think people who dance are pro-human sexuality do not understand us more reserved types is all. However, at the end of the day us quiet types are always working hard behind the scenes.  I have nothing more to say about this.

                1. peptalk profile image59
                  peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  I am sorry if I offended you, that was not my intention at all!

                  Every decision we make is a very personal one, and if you understand who you are and are happy with your decisions, that is all we can ask of ourselves or those around us.

                  I respect your decisions greatly, and wish you tons of luck!

          2. confused barbie profile image60
            confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Peptalk you took the words from my mouth. I need the job to pay for me to finish college. Some of my friends work 3 times as much as me to earn as much as i do in a nights work.

            1. peptalk profile image59
              peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              We must stick together!

              As I said, my reasons for quitting were numerous and the choice was not an easy one for me, now I work a lot more hours and will never come close to making the same amount of money.

              You do what you NEED to do.

              1. confused barbie profile image60
                confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                You sure told lovelythoughts haha
                But they are the kind of people who judge us because of our job tittle
                Its easy for someone to say work in mc d or find another job

                1. peptalk profile image59
                  peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  oooh... but is she ever mad at me!

        2. Anath profile image73
          Anathposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I don't think that there is any job that you can be certain to keep until you are 60.  Look around you, with the economical crisis many professionals have lost their well paid jobs and now are unemployed.  Nothing assures you that you can keep a job.

          1. LovelyThoughts profile image61
            LovelyThoughtsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            That is definitely not true.  My parents are both working as CPAs and they are in their sixties.  They have had their own business for thirty years.  Yes business is down with the economy, but I have learned if you are willing to work hard in life, and even do jobs others detest, you will get by.  These menial jobs even pay the way to better things, like they did for my parents.

    5. Ang Dalubhasa profile image60
      Ang Dalubhasaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I don't see anything wrong with pole dancing. In fact, it has become an exercise to tone one's muscle. I guess you were just a victim of stereotyping and besides as long as you know yourself and where you stand. You don't have to mind what other people are saying.

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      Poppa Bluesposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Don`t worry about what other people think. Where can a girl make the kind of money you make dancing? And most of it is off the books! Most people won`t judge you for what you do but there will always be somebody who will judge you no matter what you do! What`s important is how YOU feel about yourself.

      1. confused barbie profile image60
        confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Thanks Poppa Blues that is so true

    7. Valerie F profile image60
      Valerie Fposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well, it's really how you portray yourself as you dance that differentiates exotic dance from other types of dance. I'm not naive enough to think that the girls who just happen to dance with or around a pole and happen to have the best moves are the ones who get the biggest tips. If you're not a slut and you don't want people to believe you're a slut, you should probably not be in a position that constantly requires you to portray yourself as one.

      1. peptalk profile image59
        peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        hmmmmmm..............

        Thanks, we needed that little dose of compassionate reality!

    8. Marisa Wright profile image94
      Marisa Wrightposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You need to know that there are some pole dancing establishments where the dancers deserve the epithet.

      I have a friend who's a pole dancer. She started in Brisbane, and loved it. In the club where she danced, pole dancers were employed to dance and that's it. 

      When she came to Sydney, she had some frightening experiences, because her first two jobs were at clubs where, it turned out, the dancers were expected to do "extras".  She's fine now, as she's found a respectable club where all she has to do is dance.

      Given that there are clubs where the strippers/pole dancers double as prostitutes, you probably can't complain if people jump to the wrong conclusion.  Think yourself lucky you've found a club where you are treated properly.

    9. Sab Oh profile image61
      Sab Ohposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      "I work part time as a pole dancer.As Im in college I need the money. People judge me and assume im a slut"


      Are you honestly confused about this?

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        Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Sab before you answer something try reading the whole post...that isn't what she asked now is it?

        1. Sab Oh profile image61
          Sab Ohposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I was responding to the tone of the post. "Gosh, why do people think I'm a slut just because I'm a pole dancer?" By all means, do what you want, but no one is that naive.

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            Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            She isn't being naive, Sab, she is just asking a simple question.

            1. Sab Oh profile image61
              Sab Ohposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Really? Does anyone get up and dance around a pole for money and not know how that is likely to be percieved? Ridiculous.

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                Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                that even isn't waht she was asking. again look at the real question before answering

                1. Sab Oh profile image61
                  Sab Ohposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  Yes, what she was really doing was looking for some attention and hoping everyone would respond the way most have.

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                    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    then by all means leave if you want to be nothing but rude

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              Deborah Sextonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              And again..but I'm still the rude one.

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          Deborah Sextonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          See you took it on yourself to call this person out too and they really didn't say anything wrong. And I'm the rude one?

          1. peptalk profile image59
            peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I thought you were both rude too!  (Not you Crazd) And I have reason, other than friendship, to say it.

            I worked hard, I paid my rent and bills, I came home alone and went to work alone, I never put forth the "vibe" that I was available.  It was a job, filling a position that was available. 

            I did not sleep with any men from work or accept any "additional" requests.

            Why exactly is it so hard to see someone who works very hard and does a good job at what she does as a hard worker?  Why must she be seen as a slut or as loose because she pole dances?

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          Deborah Sextonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          This is what she asked
          "Is it realy that bad that I dance for money??"

          She asked a question and people are giving their opinions. Is everyone suppose to lie because she is your "friend"?

          Why ask if she didn't want to know the answers?
          I haven't read any protests from her about the answers..just yours.

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      Deborah Sextonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well, since you spell I'm as Im, seems you need some type of college.
      What do you think about pole dancing? that's the important thing.

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        Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Okay Deborah that was rude... she might have been typing fast and forgot the puncuation. Not everyone can spell perfectly especially if they are typing fast. jeez

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          wordscribe41posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Wow... rude is right.  Sheesh.

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            Deborah Sextonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            So are you. What's the difference in what I said and you calling me rude. I have read your condescending posts to others because of their beliefs and you're calling me rude? P*L*E*A*S*E you're the stove calling the kettle black..Oh that hurts so bad..sad

            SHEESH right back at you.

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              wordscribe41posted 7 years ago in reply to this

              You might want to go to college.  I could have sworn it was "pot calling the kettle black", my dear.  I've followed your choice words as well, Deborah.  Or TK.  Or whoever you are.  Sock puppet.

              There's no reason people can't be called out for being rude.  You were rude.  Period.  You were condescending.  So, what goes around comes around.

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                Deborah Sextonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Oh I've been to school and have my MSN. However they didn't teach me Cliche'
                Is that the course you took? Cliche Learning wow that is very educational.
                I'm not your dear. Who is TK?
                Don't start saying I'm someone I'm not. Should I have hubpages staff prove it to you?
                Rude is rude. And you're not condescending?
                Sock Puppet? You really should stop with your name calling.
                What goes around comes around..that's correct for you too.

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          Deborah Sextonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Twice? same word?
          Why is truth rude?
          I don't think I was talking to you. Are you her shepherd?
          Don't you think you were rude to me by saying I was rude? What's the difference? Because it's you?
          I see you are calling a lot of people down.
          DON'T..

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            Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Wow someone telling me what not to do? lovely....and not everything has to be written gramatically correct. plus I'm not only one who thinks you were rude.

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              Deborah Sextonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              I was simply saying she needed to go to college because she needed to learn more.
              You were rude to me so I was rude back. Why not? I was telling you not to call me out again. What is wrong with that? It had to do with me.
              Others thought I was rude? OK so they see it the way you do. It doesn't change my mind.

              1. wychic profile image79
                wychicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Everyone needs to learn more....most of my social circle are MDs and barely anyone lower than a bachelor's degree, and many over 40...people always need to learn more, that never stops no matter how much education or life experience you have.

    11. Hokey profile image61
      Hokeyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I LOVE POLE DANCERS!!!   big_smile

    12. joecseko profile image73
      joecsekoposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Forget that I'm a an for a moment. I've worked as a bouncer on and off for years. I worked at a pretty classy place in Ct. for some time. Not only were some of the ladies I worked with sweethearts, but some were paying for college with their proceeds.

         Who the F' ever faulted Mike Tyson for making MILLIONS of dollars doing what he was good at? This is a sickening chauvinstic ego trip, and it's just wrong.


         I applaud you for knowing your strengths, and NOT caving in  to the stupidity and jealousy!
         You go, girl...

      1. LovelyThoughts profile image61
        LovelyThoughtsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        So everyone and anyone who does not agree with stripping is jealous and stupid? That just sounds stupid as some people are never going to like dancing in a bar, and you cannot make them.  Once again though the Internet is not very deep.

        1. Misha profile image75
          Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Definitely not everyone smile

        2. Hokey profile image61
          Hokeyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I love stripping. I would take my clothes off on here if I could. Free of charge.   big_smile

          1. mega1 profile image79
            mega1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

            its def better than taking off someone else's clothes - ralwus tried that on here and got banned!  So . . .

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    I am jealous of pole dancers...I wish I could do the stuff you guys do..but sadly not as flexible sad You go girl! big_smile

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    hamstersmessiahposted 7 years ago

    pole dancers are the best!  it's an amazing art!  you shouldn't be ashamed!

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    StormRyderposted 7 years ago

    Don't worry what others think of you..You know you are a good person and those close to you know that, so screw everyone who judges you as being bad..The people that know and love you are the ones who matter smile

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    lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago

    I danced for 3 years 18 to 21 to pay my bills and eat then i was making so much i had no worries but switched to a more stable career in advertising.  Besides 21 is old to be dancing lol  Only you can decide if its wrong or not no one elses opinion will change that.  It's odd you ask when you must have an answer.  Just thinking out loud.  Thanks smile

    1. Hokey profile image61
      Hokeyposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Wish I was there.  smile

  6. peptalk profile image59
    peptalkposted 7 years ago

    I recently quit, like last week, but it had little to do with it being bad! 

    I had a multitude of reasons, only one of which was stalkers and crazies.  The money is very good and I have always danced anyway, so if you want to work part time and have the physique and mental fortitude to do it, there shouldn't be a reason not to.

    Many dancers are students and single mothers, very few are looking for one-night-stands or extracurricular monetary opportunities. 

    Dance, pay for school... who the heck has the right to tell you who you are because of how you do get your education?

  7. confused barbie profile image60
    confused barbieposted 7 years ago

    Thanks that makes me feel so much better
    You get so fit from doing it as well
    Give it a try guys I started pole fitness classes since I was 17 and now its my job:)
    I hate when people judge though

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      Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I wish I could but I'm 26...too old to be doing pole dancing plus my spine isn't the best for doing pole dancing.

      And if ppl wanna judge then say in your head, 'screw 'em...they ain't worth it. I have tons of friends who support me for what I do.' smile

      1. confused barbie profile image60
        confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        your never too old smile
        pole fitness classes are great fun thats hoe I got hooked

      2. peptalk profile image59
        peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I'm 26.  I teach dance at the gym and my new job is teaching in a studio.  Age really isn't a factor unless you make it one.... I worked with a mother of three who was 38 and she was great!

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          Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I know age isn't the factor here...what I said after is...the bad spine is the main factor.. sad anyone know where I can get a better spine? lol

    2. WriteAngled profile image90
      WriteAngledposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      My daughter gets to the top of the pole, grabs it between her thighs, flips head down and arms out and slides down slowly.

      Hummm, at 56, with multitudinous wobbly bits and underdeveloped muscles, I think I'll have to give it a miss smile

  8. alexandriaruthk profile image54
    alexandriaruthkposted 7 years ago

    You go girl and see if you can also do what LYRICSNGRAY did-- find a more stable one after sometime.

    GOOD LUCK  to you!

  9. _cheryl_ profile image87
    _cheryl_posted 7 years ago

    You've gotta do what you gotta do. As long as you're confident in what you're doing, and know your intentions don't waste your time on what other people think. You can't please everybody, as far as I'm concerned, it's a great way to keep in shape! smile

    1. confused barbie profile image60
      confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Well its paying for my education so I can be a nurse:) and it seriousy gets you into shape

      1. Valerie F profile image60
        Valerie Fposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Good luck with that!

        I might recommend working more on building a resume, though, because even with this supposed nurse's shortage, employers have to be extremely picky. What's going to look better- jobs cleaning bedpans at the hospital, or pole dancing? They're going to look for job experience and professional references that are more relevant to your chosen career field. It's not enough to have a degree, and paying for school is only going to help so much if, while you're pole dancing, the others who may be applying for the jobs you want are working in hospitals or as home health aides and getting all the experience you won't have.

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          Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Actually that's not true. Like I stated I have a friend who is going through nursing school and is working at Starbucks. Not all ppl can work at hospitals as they go thorughs chooling so CB is just fine even with pole dancing on her resume. yes employers may be picky but there are those out there who are willing to give ppl chances. and while going through the nursing program she will be getting practice working in hospitals and the such.

          1. Valerie F profile image60
            Valerie Fposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Well, if an entry-level job in your chosen field isn't available, that's a different story. But the best job to help someone through school would be in one's chosen profession.

            Everyone coming out of nursing school will have enough experience, but some will have more and will have an edge on the competition if they focus on building a resume and relevant job experience along with paying the bills.

            1. peptalk profile image59
              peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              hmmmm.... nursing school, an entry level job in the nursing field (CNA) so you can build a resume AND paying the bills?  Good Luck.

              1. Valerie F profile image60
                Valerie Fposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                In some places, you can get work as a home health aide just with a BLS certification, which only put me out $50.

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              Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              yes but not eveyone can get into the job in the first place so how can someone build a resume if they can't even get a job in nursing because of the so called nurse shortage?

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          Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

          true, an education alone isnt enough. BUT it is needed. How do you recomend paying for it, and having time for school, and 'experience'?

          1. peptalk profile image59
            peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            work at McDonalds

            1. confused barbie profile image60
              confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              hahaha NEVER

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                Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I did it for 5 years....McDonalds.. It sucked, but it payed the bills.
                do what you can. smile

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              Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

              OHHHH thats where mcdonalds came from!  lol  NO WAY can you pay for school and survive and have time to go to school, on THAT salary....besides, if the argument is the job expierence...Mickyd's doesnt get you anywhere either...

              1. peptalk profile image59
                peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                It just isn't possible is it?

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                  Justine76posted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  well....I guess it might be...In my experience I couldnt afford School with McDonalds salary. Maybe things have changed? I worked there for 5 years....
                  Im not sure what your getting at?

                  1. confused barbie profile image60
                    confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    wages have gone down not up and plus for me to work in mds i would have to work so more hours

            3. LovelyThoughts profile image61
              LovelyThoughtsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              No offense, but you and the lady who started this thread are just as judgmental as the people who you think are against your lifestyle.  I am going to school too, and I am sorry my lowly job is not as exciting as both of yours.  Have neither of you ladies ever heard of financial aid?  I only work about twenty hours a week at McDonald's now, and I am going to try and get a campus job when one opens up.  Also, I have to agree with the lady who pointed out that working in a hospital would be better experience than dancing with a poll.

              Usually I do not even participate on these forums because people are set on how they think, but both of your comments have shown you are actually judgmental.  I don't think the woman who started this thread is completely comfortable with her lifestyle choices either, or should would not be asking the Internet what they think.  Sorry if this sounds harsh, but complaining that people are not showing you compassion is simply not true.  Have you ever thought about how ten years down the line if one of the regulars that came in to see you danced worked with you at a hospital.  It is something to think about, but hey, I like to see the bigger picture.  Most people may not care, but dancing in a bar is not exactly going to make everyone think the best of you, and that is just reality.  Yes, my friend has had some akward experiences in her new job with a supervisor that used to come and see her dance.

        3. WriteAngled profile image90
          WriteAngledposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Do I detect a trace of biased disapproval, Valerie?

          There are many ways in which any given job can be described on a CV. There are also a fairly limited number of paying jobs available for as yet untrained people in hospitals and care homes. Working in such places on a voluntary basis will not pay tuition fees.

          Ultimately, attitude and a sense of vocation will win out over anything else, especially at the interview stage. CB looks like she will be a winner on that score.

  10. WriteAngled profile image90
    WriteAngledposted 7 years ago

    Crazd, my daughter turned 26 last August. You've got no excuse! smile

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      Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I do too...my spine like I said it ain't the best to work with in pole dancing...not flexible at all because of it

    2. confused barbie profile image60
      confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Your daughter sounds pretty good. Glad to hear you support her. My dad is totaly against it..

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    A Texanposted 7 years ago

    I have a pole!

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      lyricsingrayposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I can dance but damn expensive
      although for you.........

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        A Texanposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Thats a good kitty!

  12. LovelyThoughts profile image61
    LovelyThoughtsposted 7 years ago

    Sex is so out there today.  I am not a nun or anything, but I just do not find this to be a political issue-poll dancing.  I actually feel sorry for women who feel they have to sell their bodies that way, and yes I had a friend who was devastated by her life as a stripper.  At first attracted to the easy money, but started to feel degraded because of the things men expected of her.  A real beautiful girl, and most of the guys that came in were people she would not even usually date.  She finally gave up dancing and realized finishing her degree was a better use of her time.

    1. confused barbie profile image60
      confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Its not political its social.. I need the money to become a nurse. I dont do anything with the man I guess I just put on a shoe and get paid for it

      1. LovelyThoughts profile image61
        LovelyThoughtsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I'm not condemning poll dancing, and it sounds like you are not expected to do things my friend had to do.  They wanted her to give men lap dances because she is very beautiful, and some were willing to pay big bucks.  The clientele for the most part were older guys that were married, or over the hill bachelors that did not have girlfriends.  After awhile she just felt degraded because as she got older the men always wanted someone younger.  She was only 28 at the time, but some guy made a disgusting remark about how her co-worker looked hot because she was eighteen.

        Also, I think maybe you should try to understand why some people have a different opinion than you on this.  Does not mean your dad is judging you, he just thinks you do not have to settle for this.  Honestly you could put yourself through school working at McDonald's, which I did, but you enjoy making more money.  This is not a judgment call, just the truth.

        1. confused barbie profile image60
          confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I get where your coming from but there are no jobs in Ireland Im lucky to have this job. The celtic tiger destroyed this country...

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            Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Celtic Tiger? is that what the place is called where u pole dance?

            1. confused barbie profile image60
              confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              No sorry its what Ireland calls the economic decline haha
              I work in a club called butterfly kisses

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                Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                OOOOOhhh Cool. interesting title for that...Celtic Tiger.

                and I like what the place is called...reminds me of that song Butterfly Kisses smile

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                  confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  I like that song havent heard it in ages though

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                    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this
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                wychicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Or, the Celtic Tiger was the boom time that ultimately caused the bust....that's the joy of being a transcriptionist, I just finished an Irish economy course tongue.

        2. peptalk profile image59
          peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I refused to do lap or personal dances.  It makes some customers upset but that was my decision on the matter.  If you let your job change you, then you aren't really strong enough to be an exotic dancer.

          1. LovelyThoughts profile image61
            LovelyThoughtsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            There is nothing wrong with a woman finding out she is not strong enough to be an exotic dancer.  There are so many more long term things out there really.

            1. peptalk profile image59
              peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              That's not exactly what I meant.  I have met several girls who think that it will be fun, it will make them feel sexy, whatever.... then they get into the glamor of it all, what glamor there is anyway and it becomes a lifestyle rather than a job.  It's hard to be in control when it's a lifestyle, it has to be a job and going into it for any other reason is pretty silly.

    2. peptalk profile image59
      peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      It isn't selling your body ma'am, it's selling a skill.  My BODY was never for sale and I don't think confused's body is for sale either.

      1. confused barbie profile image60
        confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Thanks peptalk smile

  13. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    long before there WAS pole dancing I was a little girl doing trapeze dancing in my back yard - I made it up, but it was pretty good - I would put on performances for the neighborhood and charged a nickel.  I think I made $3 one week.  No one had heard of dancing that was really like gymnastics then, hell, we had barely heard of gymnastics!  Those were the days - but I was 9 years old.  Nowadays it would be a severe mess if I tried to pole dance!  Would look really alien upsidedown - and I'd prob fall on my head lol  but I love watching it - would like to see men do it - do they ever?

    1. confused barbie profile image60
      confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      One of my friends did it for a laugh it was the funniest thing and he hurt himself

      1. mega1 profile image79
        mega1posted 7 years ago in reply to this

        oh, right, didn't consider the possibility of injury for a man! lol  I really love watching men do the gymnastics - especially when they hang on those rings and their butts are so fabulous!  uh oh - I was gonna get thro today without making softporn comments!  oh well . . . smile

        1. confused barbie profile image60
          confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          A little guilty pleasure never hurt anyone... Toned butts are very nice im sure all the ladies will agree....

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            Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I plead the fifth!!!! lol

        2. wychic profile image79
          wychicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          Hard-shell cups with comfort fit? It could happen...

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    B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 7 years ago

    I have to appriciate it , as it is a form of dance, which is an art form. I am an artist of many medias and calibers.
    BUT - I have known many of the girls I went to college with who stripped or exotic danced for the money. I was invited to dance amatuer ( I was a bartender at a Sports Pub, offered a strippers /dancers job, turned it down )dancers night, and finally took the offer this one time. I got up there, made some money, but do to my back and other health issues that were surfacing at the time, I sat the night out.I then became aware of what was going on behind the scenes. This is why I personally do not respect the profession. These "friends" of mine were doing things above and beyond what a "pole danccer" should do, and it was also above what the law approves of. It was not a nasty place, infact it was the classiest strip club around ( from what everyone had told me, even to this day ) There was massive drug use, prostitution , sex acts at tables - this I actually witnessed by accident, and many more things I will not go into detail about do to the adult content of it.
    My personal experice leads me to believe many , too many women use it for an excuse, the line of "it pays for college"..why do you ask me why I think this ?  - 4 out of 5 of the "exotic Dancers" I knew ended up dropping out of college due to the lifestyle they got into, and the 5th went back to it. The drugs were free , cheap and could be traded for sex, the money spent for a sexual act was a half hours worth of work for 2 or 3 hours worth of pay and many got into porno's.. Of these girls, 2 now have HIV and the other 3 are either cocaine or meth addicts and they are all alcoholics in bad relationships with men, and they go from man to man, it getting worse each man they move on to..
    They followed money and ruined what they could of had.
    There are too many scholorships available now, many grants and funding that does not have to be paid back , and there are PEL grants that are easy to obtain.
    There are other means for payioing for college, not going broke, and having dignity for yourself in the end.
    This is my thought on it from my experience around it.
    I have not posted this to harm or judge anyone, just an information post from what I know from having been close to people in the industry.

    Thank You.

  15. wychic profile image79
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    Absolutely nothing wrong with it smile. My husband used to be a bouncer in a strip club, and I like the way he looked at it...the girls that work in there aren't sad, but a large percentage of the customers are. It's just a job, and at the end of the night they all picked up their tips and headed home to their boyfriends, husbands, and kids. In my opinion it's only a degrading job if you start thinking that your body is all you have to offer people, other than that, who cares what people say or think about you?

    No doubt there are some that earn a bit of money on the side by getting a bit closer to the customers, shall we say, but more power to them in my opinion...you can't legislate morality, and prostitution is the marketing and sale of a commodity when it gets down to it.

    1. confused barbie profile image60
      confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks wychic
      I try not to care but when your judged because of your job it is hard

      1. wychic profile image79
        wychicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        I imagine...I know I get twerked enough when people are constantly asking me when I'm going to get a real job, I'm a full-time freelancer and have been making decent money at it for quite a long time...even supported my husband when he first moved here. I know it's a little bit different kind of judgment, but whether you're being judged as a slut or a bum it certainly doesn't feel very good.

  16. WriteAngled profile image90
    WriteAngledposted 7 years ago

    BC Boutique, my daughter has been dancing for 7 years now and is neither a drug addict nor HIV positive. She did drop out of college, because she found the academic life was not for her, despite doing well in school exams. However, this happened before she started dancing.

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      Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      As they say school isn't for everyone smile I am glad your daughter found a job that pays well!

  17. WriteAngled profile image90
    WriteAngledposted 7 years ago

    Furthermore, in those 7 years of dancing, my daughter has built up enough savings from her work to buy a house should she so wish. She is far more secure financially and confident socially than I was at her age.

  18. WriteAngled profile image90
    WriteAngledposted 7 years ago

    "Is poll dancing or stripping a job you could do at sixty?  If not, why are you there."

    Because you can make enough to retire at 35-40 perhaps?

    1. LovelyThoughts profile image61
      LovelyThoughtsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Some people like to work into their sixties for the joy of it.  Oh well, I'm a maverick for sure really when it comes to this.  Work for me was never about retiring, it was about feeling needed and making life contributions.

      1. WriteAngled profile image90
        WriteAngledposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        My daughter makes contributions to society through various types of voluntary work. With the work she does in the evening, her days are free to allow her to do this.

    2. confused barbie profile image60
      confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Coundnt of said it better myself! Your daughter is lucky to have your strong support

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    B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 7 years ago

    I must point out I did say I appriciate it , as it is art, and I only posted what I know from my experience with a few college friends. I also mentioned I was not posting to judge anyone, simply was only posting what I know about the business from 5 of my college friends who are still in the business and my experience with what I saw when I went to an amateur dancers night to participate.

    Again, take no offense, my post is not meant to cause any harm or offense.
    Thank You

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    I wouldn't work in McDs...even now that I am unemployed

    1. confused barbie profile image60
      confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Im right behind you!! I would be so bored I would hate the job

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        Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        The one job that I had before going stright into teaching aide and teaching was being a waitress at the Gateway...old folks home. Hated being a waitress so I stay away from those kind of boring jobs. I don't even put that job on my resume either...not worth it I think

        1. confused barbie profile image60
          confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          I agree I like interacting with people... I think that is one of the reasons I chose nursing I just love people and helping others

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            Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Yea I am more into hanging with kids than adults...I understant them better and enjoy their company more than adults really...one of my downfalls but eh whatever I am happy teaching kids smile

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            Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            One of my best friends are going through nursing...she works at Starbucks...phew! Boy am i proud of her. She was working a lot and going to school. she is definitely strong. she had to cut back in hours though but still putting herself through nursing by working at Starbucks. and she is flying through nursing too

            1. peptalk profile image59
              peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Hey Crazdwriter!  I forgot to say hello!

            2. confused barbie profile image60
              confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Im thinking of specialising in children its an extra year and a half but I love kids

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                Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                aaaa that is what my friend wants to do eventually..that or go with the babies smile

          3. WriteAngled profile image90
            WriteAngledposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            I wish you all the best and hope you keep your vocation to help right through your career.

            I had major surgery two years ago (breastbone cut open to remove a mass from my chest). The person who helped me most during my hospital stay was a student nurse. Her care and compassion meant so much when I couldn't sleep because I was hurting.

            1. confused barbie profile image60
              confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Thanks
              Good to hear you were taken good care of ...
              Hopefully it will all work out for me all you can do is hope for the best

      2. LovelyThoughts profile image61
        LovelyThoughtsposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Actually it is not boring, and there is lots of people interaction.  It is hard work though, and nothing to be ashamed of.

        1. confused barbie profile image60
          confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          So is nursing... much harder work than mds. I feel like im giving somthing back. Serving chips and burgers and asking what drink they want isnt very interesting while nursing some patients tell you life stories hopes and dreams and I like that!!

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            Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            Hey CB when you get into nursing is there a specific area of the hospital you want to work in?

            1. confused barbie profile image60
              confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              Well I love all of it its my dream job but I love a and e and cancer

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                Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                I think that you would do good in cancer and a and e...you could be like their comforting angel. smile

                1. confused barbie profile image60
                  confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  awwww thanks!! I admire all the patients though all of them are so brave..
                  Cancer runs in my family so I have delt with it first hand so that would prob suit me best...
                  What kind of teacher are you?

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                    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    Preschool. I love hearing the little ones laughing and hearing their funny made up stories...I love teaching 3-5 year olds. DOn't have the patince for 2 year olds...found that out in my last job...but definitely love the 3-5 year olds. I miss it so much sad

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    lol no worries peptalk...hello to you too hehehe

  22. Wayne Orvisburg profile image79
    Wayne Orvisburgposted 7 years ago

    I respect it!!!

    1. confused barbie profile image60
      confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Thanks Wayne

  23. Has_aWayWithWords profile image80
    Has_aWayWithWordsposted 7 years ago

    I admire anyone who can do whatever it takes to get through life. It is a job and it pays the bills so you can better your life and there is no reason to be ashamed of it. I was a pole dancer for one song because my ex wife felt the need to make me participate in a contest at a club one time... let me just say pole dancers should be considered athletes because it is not easy. I about broke my neck when I climbed up the pole and tried to slide back down... maybe men just should stick to tucking bucks and not actually trying to do the dancing but she got a kick out of it and I won a t-shirt and free drinks lol lol

    1. confused barbie profile image60
      confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      haha I have to say when I saw my drunken friend attempt it was very funny we have it on video aswel ha

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    n-e-ways CB you have a good of chance than anyone else beomcing a nurse whether you worked in a hospital or not while going through nursing school. Not all employers are heartless and look at your job and go "oh pole dancer nope don't take her'. they can loo at someone who worked in a hospital and say no...it's all about your drive and your character and making a good impression on employers by the work you do whhile going through nursing school and the time you do spend in the hospital working because of school. everyone has a 50/50 chance no matter the past jobs.

    1. peptalk profile image59
      peptalkposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      CB.... in agreement and as a bit of confirmation of Crazd, in Reno, NV there are tons of girls going through the nursing program that are paying for it with the money they make dancing, or at least there were the last time I was there before this latest depression.

      1. confused barbie profile image60
        confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Thanks guys smile

      2. Valerie F profile image60
        Valerie Fposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Reno doesn't exactly reflect the rest of the world, however.

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          Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          She was just giving an example, val!

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            Deborah Sextonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            And again

  25. harryinc profile image61
    harryincposted 7 years ago

    Don't listen to people. If youa re happy doing it, Just Do it!

  26. confused barbie profile image60
    confused barbieposted 7 years ago

    Well I would def read it! I hate when the man is right hahaha it doesnt happen to often though ha Whats the book about??

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      Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      HAHAHAH I know right. ugh irks me too when the man is right lol just kidding. I don't like being right ALL the time LMAO

      This book that I editing now (it's taking forever lol) is actually kind of a young adult teen book but I am hoping adults will pick it up and read it too. It's about a school in Cali that isn't your typical school. it's a school that teaches its students to be demon hunters. and it kind of follows a group of juniors who are preparing for something..but not gonna give it away though you'll probably figure it out on your own hehe

      1. confused barbie profile image60
        confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        Sounds interesting hope to see it on the shelfs soon!!

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          Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

          If I can ever get it edited and find an agent to represent me smile

          1. confused barbie profile image60
            confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

            You will your a realy good writer and it seems like you have a great supportive husband so you will go far:)

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              Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

              that is true...he is very supportive and keeps telling me to do it...he's pushy lol

              and you will go far too, CB. I hope in a few years or however fast you go through the nursing progam I'll get to see hubs about nursing from you big_smile and get to hear all about it too

              1. confused barbie profile image60
                confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                Ah but that is one of the many reasons why you love him smile

                We both have are whole lives ahead of us and hopefuly our dreams will come true!!!

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                  Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                  No not hopefully...our dreams WILL come true. we have the desire, the drive, the passion and when you have that your dreams will come true.

                  1. confused barbie profile image60
                    confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

                    Well then I shall see your book on the shelf very soon!!

                    Getting off this now have to pack for my holidays going to Portugal for a break..... I need it after my exams

  27. Springboard profile image82
    Springboardposted 7 years ago

    You know, the thing is that we all have a talent going for us, or something about us that we can ultimately exploit in one form or another for our own personal or financial gain. If you can write an epic novel and get paid, do it. If driving fast is something you're good at, race cars. If you have nice body and can dance, pole dance. I don't think there's anything wrong with it so long as it earns you money, you feel confident about yourself and what you're doing, and you have respect for yourself. If someone tells you you are a slut and you don't feel that's true or fair, ignore them and keep pursuing what you feel is right. If you look in the mirror and find yourself agreeing, or if you are having second thoughts about whether or not you are doing something wrong, then stop.

    1. confused barbie profile image60
      confused barbieposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      no second thoughts I love doing it my job is like my hobby
      Thanks SB good ans smile

    2. Valerie F profile image60
      Valerie Fposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      But is pole dancing exactly the sort of job that earns the respect of its audience?

      1. wychic profile image79
        wychicposted 7 years ago in reply to this

        How many jobs DO earn the respect of their audience? I know precious few...certainly not any of the more conventional food service or retail jobs out there.

  28. thisisoli profile image60
    thisisoliposted 7 years ago

    So with all these Hubpages Poledancers about, do we get a Hubbers discount?

  29. mega1 profile image79
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    slut =

    superior
    luscious
    unbeatable
    thespian!

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    Pani Midnyte Odinposted 7 years ago

    I don't think a person's profession defines them. Everyone needs money to survive. Some are luckier than others when it comes to finding "respectable" professions.

    I'm unemployed. To the unobservant and narrow-minded fool, this means that I am lazy and expect everything to be handed to me, but this simply isn't so. I work just as hard as a person with a full time job. I am just not employed by a company, nor do I do the same thing every day of the week to get by.

    Even "respectable" professions are looked down on by some people. Lawyers, for instance, are considered a "respectable" profession by many, but are deemed liars and manipulators on a daily basis. Even doctors are looked down on by some, saying that they are only in the profession for the money.

    Do not let others define you by what you do or do not do. There are many of us who endure things we don't want to in order to get where we want in life. When you finally get to where you are trying to go, you will look back on the brief chapter of life where you were a pole dancer and smile because you proved everyone wrong.

  31. Sufidreamer profile image82
    Sufidreamerposted 7 years ago

    hehe - I see that Tksensei and his trolling ways never went away.

    About as welcome as a fart in a spacesuit smile

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      wordscribe41posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Ahhh, that sheds a lot on it, Sufi.  Thanks for setting it all straight for us.  roll

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      Deborah Sextonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      According to wordscribe's insinuations you are trying to say this TK and I are the same people. Is this true?
      I have one identity on Hubpages..Deborah Sexton. 
      I am too blunt and honest to hide behind another name.
      No one here frightens me to make me want to hide.

      If you ARE saying I am TK..please stop.

    3. Misha profile image75
      Mishaposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I would think spacesuits are designed to handle that kind of stuff wink

  32. waynet profile image49
    waynetposted 7 years ago

    I'm a pole dancer too...... waaaaaahey!

    http://www.hoax-slayer.com/images/blond-pole-dancer.jpg

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      Deborah Sextonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      I see this pole dancer is the only innocent one.

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      cosetteposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      omgsh that is too cute! makes me want a puppy. to Barbie, as long as you are happy doing what you do, that's all that matters, but you already know that. i certainly don't have a problem with it, i mean you're not breaking the law or anything. good luck with school. smile

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    Crazdwriterposted 7 years ago

    aaa waynet that is a cute picture

  34. tantrum profile image60
    tantrumposted 7 years ago

    Nothing wrong with pole dancing.
    Nothing wrong with any job you like to do, or you enjoy doing.
    You can be a call-girl, a stripper, a singer, an artist, a scientist or even a president.
    Everything is OK ,if you're feeling OK.
    What people think, it's not important.
    What's important is what you think.

  35. Ohma profile image79
    Ohmaposted 7 years ago

    Be proud of what you do! if you show the world that there judgment of you has no value to you it will stop soon enough.

  36. Hokey profile image61
    Hokeyposted 7 years ago

    Maybe I should try pole dancing!!   big_smile

  37. torimari profile image80
    torimariposted 7 years ago

    I can't say pole dancing, stripping or the sex industry is my cup of tea---I know I wouldn't approve my sisters doing it.

    However, as long as you are confident with doing it and in yourself, that is fine. Hell, Lady Gaga was a stripper and look at her now.

  38. profile image0
    wordscribe41posted 7 years ago

    Sorry to have mistaken you for TK Sensei.  Sufi made a comment that made me think that.  He must have been referring to someone else. 

    Deborah, I'd prefer not to converse with you any further.  I was merely trying to stick up for the OP as I felt sorry for her being the recipient of your demeaning comment.  Bye!

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      Deborah Sextonposted 7 years ago in reply to this

      Amazing how kind you see yourself..wow.
      Not to me.

  39. yenajeon profile image80
    yenajeonposted 7 years ago

    Just remember, if your daughters find out, they'll want to do it too! And their mother already having done it previously, they definitely won't care if you tell them 'no.'

    Personally, I would never take off my clothes for money myself knowing that I would never be able to respect myself ever again. To me, my body is worth so much more than any amount of money I can think of. I would also not want my kids following that kind of example if I ever have kids.

    If you are 100% comfortable with your decision, its all good right? Good luck! smile

  40. Hokey profile image61
    Hokeyposted 7 years ago

    I want to see Deborah pole dancing!!!   big_smile

  41. unknownmind97 profile image59
    unknownmind97posted 7 years ago

    Well i really think that it's not that bad, and i've been told u need good body strength so...THAT'S GREAT FOR U!

  42. aware profile image71
    awareposted 7 years ago

    oook  is show me your tits appropriate answer here?

    1. bonny2010 profile image60
      bonny2010posted 7 years ago in reply to this

      You  could do worse - you could be a politcian.
      I think pole dancing is a real art  - its honest work  and if you feel good about it to hell what others think....You got my vote

  43. thisisoli profile image60
    thisisoliposted 7 years ago

    If pole dancing was that bad people would not pay to see it.

    Everyone has different views on life, I know I ma guilty of abusing people of other views myself sometimes, but I do think that everyone has the right to do what they want with their life.

    If they think the best thing for them to do is be a pole dancer, then go for it, I wouldn't date a pole dancer, but again, that is my choice, many men would jump at the opportunity.

  44. earnestshub profile image87
    earnestshubposted 7 years ago

    I think many may be jealous.
    Most women who dance have great bodies, and I feel sure that gets a few other women offside!
    I am so glad you are paying for your future career doing something that entertains others and pays a good hourly rate.
    It leaves a little time left over for a life that way! You can also take advantage of the extra hours to study if you are not working for a low hourly rate.
    My son in University has ensured that all his part time jobs pay a high hourly rate. It gives him time for his sport, his girlfriend and his family, the three things he loves most. smile

    I say use your talent and good looks as long as you can! smile

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