Tell ya what, I'm no guy (thank the HP), but here's a little suggestion. Tell the truth. No matter what you think she'll say or do, it will be no worse than when she finds out you lied to her in the first place. Personally, I'd rather have the ugly truth out front so that I can fix it before I'm before a crowd.
Oh, I did it again, didn't I? Things just aren't coming out the right way today.
Let's rephrase that as in "ride" means your car.
Or, choose another example.
If you asked me if I love your six pack, and you really don't have one as it's hidden under all the beer you've drank for the past upteem years, shall I say yes? And then allow you to walk across the beach, strutting your stuff, thinking that you're buff?
Never tried that before, but I'm game. You can use left over cold rice too. Heat the wok or pan with enough oil to cover the bottom, then add the cold rice. As the rice heats up, it'll absorb the flavors that you add.
Ok now to answer this most gripping question. I have never been in this predicament as I only have a small butt, but if I did have a larger butt, I go with Jean's answer to start talking about her breasts.
Why ask? For an opinion, just like when girls go out shopping, we ask each other these questions too. Does the color suit me? Do I look fat? Should I eat this or that? Do you think this matches? blah blah blah It's a way of bonding, building trust and helping out with building confidence, self esteem and growing oneself's perspective. If one is lied to, and the truth is presented by another and reinforced by other friends, then that trust is broken between the one who lied. Simple.
If you can't tell the truth, then there is something wrong with the relationship. Without honesty and trust, then there isn't much to build from.
That is an awful lot to put on a guy who usually wants to just protect your feelings. My trust is based on 17 years of age marriage and the real life experiences we have shared and stuck together through.
I really would not base anything in my relationship with my husband on whether he thought a pair of jeans or dress looked good or not. I can figure that out for myself just as well as he can.
Actually I don't ask other women either and I've never had a friend ask me what I thought of her clothes. These are not the kinds of discussions we have.
Maybe there's a big age difference between us, now that I think of it.
I don't think age has anything to do with honesty.
I'm respect that you and your husband have an understanding and that you don't require his opinions on how you dress. What you and your GFs discuss isn't relevant in this discussion.
I used that as an example, not the way it is with all women.
I have a different understanding with the people in my life. Truth is what I expect, no matter how much it hurts to hear it or give it. Honesty allows the other party to have the power to do what they want with it. They can accept the "yes, your butt looks huge" and change things. Or, they can hear what you say and do absolutely nothing about it because they choose not to.
Age having to do with honesty? I don't remember saying that. We were talking about why a woman would ask when it is something she can clearly see for herself.
The age part has to do with the need to have another's opinion rather than deciding for yourself. Hanging out in malls asking your friends if they like your clothes and what you should eat is teenage girl behavior.
Me and my husband have an understanding? You and those in your life have a different understanding? huh?
It's a silly question. I made a joke to someone who was not you.
I honestly don't think we are even having the same conversation here. But have a good night.
I was refering to "Maybe there's a big age difference between us, now that I think of it." that you posted in an earlier reply to me. Perhaps you have mistaken me for someone else that you were joking around with.
How you present is the key. You don't have to be sarcastic. You can be blunt honest, but use your body language when you tell her. Use your body, literally. Make sure that you're okay with her the way she is...big butt or not.
Us girls stroke your egos by telling you the truth (most of us) but we make you feel good about yourself by telling you that you still look great no matter what.
And Brian, you couldn't shake me off with sarcasm...I'd come at you harder and relentlessly until you answered my question. I'd probably get angrier and angrier at you until you answered my question. Evasiveness is weakness. Not good for a man to show that to his woman over a butt question. She'll eat you and spit you out in fragments.
I just feel awful now Beth. But I try to be honest about things that don't involve me getting stabbed in the face, I really do avoid the questions because you cannot win in this situation. Tell the truth and you are an insensitive creep, or do not and walk around worrying that you are now a liar. I choose avoidance. I even say "I will not get into one of those bear traps ask someone else.
well if you want my advice when I used to work in men's suits for jcpenney, i had to be honest with all my cliets/customers. otherwise if i conned them into buying stuff they didn't want or that they didn't look good in, then i wouldn't get any repeat business. the key is like beth said, it's not so much what you say also as in how you say it. i even used to help girls figure out what to buy as well. in fact, there was this one girl that tried on a pair of dress pants that made her butt look huge. however, i didn't tell her flat out, "that pants makes your butt look fat or something like that." I just blamed it on the tailoring. i told her that from looking at the subtle stretch marks around the belt line and crotch area, it looks like the pants were made a bit smaller. which is true because different brands tailor differently as my experience in suits taught me. anyway, i hope that helps.
eta: also you can use lines like you want an outfit that'll insinuate your figure because if you wear pants that don't cause stretch marks, it gives you more of a slender physique appearance. using big and sincere words like that really got me a lot repeat business from clients too. lol.
I can't speak for all the women out there, but if you told me the brutal truth, I'd have more respect for you. (I'm not judging you in anyway, if it comes across as that) I hold honesty at the top of my list and I've never budged that bar even a hair. Anyone who has the confidence to speak the truth shows me that they really care enough to take a risk to be honest.
also another thing is a sit down test. this test never fails either. just tell your gf you want her to sit down to test the fabric to see if it fits well on her. if its too tight around her crotch and butt, then it's too tight for her. try to emphasize that the pants shouldn't be that tight around those areas when they sit down otherwise it stretches out the fabric too much.
your mouth instinctively opens as the jelly beans rattle in the little box. Your eyes close and finally.............She moans with delight as one by one the little beans explode with fiery flavors. Orgasmic....(don't tremble)
walking up behind beth slowly as i gently carress her neck from behind as her head leans to one side....stroking her fur as she can feel my warm breath on her neck....moving my lips closer to her neck as she trembles with anticipation.....until....BLANK!
I'm doing a research paper on the benefits and hazards of revealing secrets - I have a social theory I'd like to test, would you all mind telling me how you react to this question and why?Thanks so much!Erin
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