An older first cousin whom I had not seem for about twenty years told me, "we are not family. We are two ships passing in the night." That was about fifteen years ago and I haven't seen or spoken to him since.
Oh my goodness, that's horrible! I could imagine how that felt... recently I had a little sister born and stuck in the NICU. My uncle told my mother that "the reason your baby is dying is because you're horrible and God is punishing you." She ended up passing away. Even though it wasn't directed towards me, that really hit home hard!
Your's wasn't very nice either MissJamieD and I'm sorry you had to listen to that as well. People can be cruel. It helps if you think of it as a reflection on the person who said it, rather than on yourself.