Why do men, (and SOME women) think cheating isn't a big deal?

Cheating is a betrayal of trust. And SOME men and women don't care enough about trust to be able to commit to one person. That's very different from an open relationship where the parties agree that it's appropriate to love others as well, called polyamory. But even those relationships, when one partner is going around behind the back of the other(s), it's still cheating. It's still the breaking of trust.

Whether you think it's a big deal is based on the importance you place on trust and on respect for the person who loves you. People, men and women, have to base their relationships on those two things, or it can't work in the long run.

And yes, I'm really trying to emphasize that women are just as likely to cheat as men. Most of the women I've known have cheated on a loved one, and many of them have brushed it off like it was nothing.

There are also lots of people that just want to be in a relationship, so they will choose to be with someone, even if they aren't everything they want. If they get the chance to be with someone they think is better, they cheat.

Also, your question is pretty biased, and a little bit insulting. Women cheat just as often as men. I am a man, and I have never cheated on someone, not once, but I have been cheated on. Being a man does not make you a cheater.

Monogamy, in and of itself, is a religous ideology. It has since spread into a societal norm. Not everyone holds these same ideals, and, as such, handle monogamy differently. Some consider it an unnecessary social construct.

Of course some people, likely the ones you are more likely referring to, are just selfish pigs.

Personally, I don't feel monogamy is a prerequisite to happiness. But I also understand most people, like my wife, don't feel that way. I love, and chose to be with her. I could never do anything to hurt her. However, if she cheated on me, I would not leave her. True love is not conditional, it's not, "I love you, unless you screw up." We all make mistakes. And urges of that kind can be very powerful.

Some cheat for a variet of reasons. some do it because their significant other doesn't spend any quality time with their mate. They are busy at work or maybe just that naieve and leave their mates wanted to be held , touched, loved or simply just want to feel that we are a bond,a team that does everything together.

Because it gives the other person an excuse to do the same.. and because some people are just never happy with what they have! And maybe even because they might not care that much for their partner, in the sense that they don't show interest in each others lives and what they do with their lives doesn't affect them.

Cheating in my honest opinion is the worst thing you could do to your partner. I feel that if my partner would cheat on me it would mean that I am not good enough and that would most definitely be the start of the downfall for our relationship.

Don't take your partner for granted, appreciate the time you have together and most of all appreciate each other, or you'll end up saying to yourself "You only know what you've got until you've lost it".

 That is a very interesting question, which deserves and answer. But the truth is that if you watch discovery health they were doing a study on it and they come to find out that the reason why people cheat... keep reading →

Men know that cheating is a big deal. It is a big deal to you. It just may not be a big deal to them. Ofcourse not all males will be cheaters. Those who are-well-who needs them? They don't exist. Right?

Some people cheat because they have no love for the people their with and instead of doing the honest thing and let that person go,they choose to be sneaking around and hold on to that person.And some are never happy with what they have and should never get married!

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People tell you that you cannot have your cake and eat it too. Some women and men set out to prove this statement wrong. It is a challenge like the statement that rules were made to be broken. Some people are set up. A person may make a bet and decide not to back out. We have 'widow spiders' in society as well as conquistadors- those who count their conquests.Many times the sins of the parents fall on the children to the third and fourth generation.One person I know wanted a son. His wife gave him a daughter.The person he was dating before his wife and should have married gave him a son. Now, he has a reason to be with his son and the mother of his child.The mentality is that if you can conceive it, go ahead and achieve it.Even the churchgoers and Christians cheat so it cannot be a big deal to the unbeliever or unchurched.

Whether or not a person believes it's okay to cheat will depend on their values. If commitment is an integral part of one's belief system regarding marriage, then cheating will not be considered as an option.

Don't cheat at anything! If you can't play fair then don't drag someone down the path of heartbreak, dispair and loneliness. If you're a worm, and you know if you are, don't make an innocent person go thru that kind of betrayal. If you don't know if you can be faithful then you're not entitled to damage another person in your person growth experiment. Let's face it there are plenty of players out there come correct or accept a players wages and be happy.

Why do men and some women think it isn't a big deal? Because they are morrally bankrupt and have nothing positive to contribute to a relationship. Oh yea, lets not forget selfish! Peace.

WELL, THE PROBLEM WE HAVE HERE IN AMERICA IS AS FOLLOW;

YOU TELL THE WOMAN YOU LOVE THAT YOU WILL NEVER, EVER CHEAT ON HER, KNOWING ALL THE TIME YOU NEED AND WANT MORE THAN ONE WOMAN. SEE, THE TROUBLE ONLY STARTS WHEN YOU START CREEPING. IF, WE WERE A NATION WHERE A MAN COULD HAVE MORE THAN ONE WIFE WE WOULD'NT HAVE THAT PROBLEM. BELEIVE ME, THE AVERAGE MAN (NOT ALL MEN ) WANT MORE THAN ONE WIFE. TRUST ME, I KNOW.

First off... I will state; I did not read the other answers prior to this answer, but will afterwards.

Here's my take. I personally think cheating is an act of unfaithfulness, untrustworthiness, and ultimately do not approve such behavior in any way, shape, or form.

Every guy I know, or in most cases knew; has confessed to cheating on his wife or girlfriend. Not to breech the brotherhood of my fellow man, as I myself have walked that fine line, and for reasons pertaining to my determination to be honest... I had to fight the erge like an alcoholic kicking the habit. (Which I did that too)

Ultimately, I met my wife... o.k., my fiance of 16 years and counting at 19, we've amazing, almost shockingly produced 3 beautiful kids now 15,13, and11.

We've never been swingers, or full blown sluts. We did however make a pact, if we desire something else... we'd be honest about our fantasies (and many remained or remain just that),but we discuss them openly, honestly, and without barriers or fear...and if the threat towards our family is non-evident, or damaging towards our friendship... then and only then do we grant one another a free pass.

Personally, some might say that is wrong, and you know what... I couldn't care less, as we've both explored in moderation, and had extra-marital affairs.

Before this goes from a r-rated answer to and x-rated answer, I'll simply say, we have ~0~ regrets, and a great relationship still. While everyone else we grew up with or knew, tried to move in on us, and we simply sat back, let each other know just how pathetic friends can be behind ones back, and knew...

None of them would last in their own relationships, and didn't. We always avoided the temptation with what we considered level 1 friends. As friendship always outweighs sex, as does honesty, and loyalty to oneself, and each other.

Now, I don't recommend our approach for everyone as there are psychological factors, as well as health fears concerning cleanliness, safety, and disease, which we've successfully avoided in the few brief encounters we've had.

Again, it's not for the faint of heart or feeble minded, but if you are as grounded as we are, then it beats cheating!

They say to each their own. I say to each be honest, and the truth will set you free! Depravity is no better than cheating!

Is it right? ~I'll let ya know when I'm dead.

In absolution I love my wife & she loves me. I cannot, nor will not lie to her, nor deprive her of living her fantasies. In the beginning I was typically over-protective, a touch jealous, as was she.

Let me tell you, I hope to never have that fear ever again, as it causes people to cheat, makes people suspicious, and destroys potentially life ling friendships, and marriages.

I can feel the heat on my feet now, as my fellow Christians will likely attempt to pass judgment, and stone me, screaming; "Adultery...Adultery"

I'll let God decide!

because men and some women are pigs. Essentially, they think the grass is greener on the other side. Often they see this through rose colored glasses and when they get there it is often just as brown as the spot they just left. Why isn't it a big deal, because they are thinking with the right head. Life is often full of these type of shallow and non-thinking animals. This is a form of narcissism as they think they can get away with it , and since they think they are one of the beautiful people, they can get away with it.

Try dating a nerd, they are often thoughtful, loyal, and smart. They will always treat you as a woman (or a man) as you should be treated. Just watch out for their quirks, and lack of finesse when dealing with members of the opposite sex. But once you get past the initial shock, you will find that the relationship is rewarding, loving and can rock your world.

That a good question. I think if you really break down relationships and life in general it's all about truely being happy with yourself. And for those people who do cheat probably feel like, ok, I'm in a relationship, but I'm feeling someone esle at the moment. my current partner loves me and I already love them , so why not mess with the one "I'm" feeling (the one they cheated with) if it will make me even happier. And in a relationship, if both side have a deep understanding of their realationship and each other, both sides "will" agree on "so called cheating", but, with only certian circumstances like a "Free Pass". So, in all acuality, it isn't a big deal cause now boths sides or the cheater is happy and if there happier their relationship can grow even stronger because of that.

Because they don't follow the simple code of life, which I have just recently read that George Clooney has the same philosophy

..do as you would be done by....

or maybe they do and they think it is okay to cheat and be cheated by.

I'm glad that I am in George's company

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