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Why Do Girls Crave for Marriage With All Its Problems?

asked by ngureco 7 months ago

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Uninvited Writer says

Not all girls crave for marriage. Some prefer to hold onto their independence. I guess people who do crave marriage crave it for the security and to be connected to the person they love in a more permanent way.

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Mighty Mom says

I think both sexes seek the social stability and financial benefits of being married. But in these times, more lifestyle options are accepted. People can live together without the benefit of marriage. Women can have babies out of wedlock and it's not a stigma.

As to "girls" specifically, I believe young girls are idealistic that way. They seek the ideal, romantic relationship. Those of us who have been married know it is a lot of hard work. And there are no guarantees that it will last, despite the hard work!

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C V Singh says

Life is incomplete for people who remain unmarried their whole life. Marriage is a part of life for both girls and boys. Marriage has several advantages and helps even in personality development and help people to develop a balance in their life. Girls crave for marriage because of social insecurity at least in developing countries. Majority of the girls have fascination towards motherhood. Marriage is a must even for the development of society and continuity for life in this world.

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prettydarkhorse says

Marriage as an insitution will never fade because people want security, whether emotional or financial. they feel the need to belong.

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Betty Reid says

hahaha. I wonder the same thing, ngureco! You have some great questions!

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stricktlydating says

Not all girls crave for marriage. We are more educated thesedays and most of us would probably rather live a happy life as a single than be married with a thousand problems at home. We are tending to get married later thesedays and want to make sure when we do make a committment to someone for life, that he is the right one for us.

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carolegalassi says

Yes, girls do crave this because its what has been conditioned in their minds from television, magazines, and music. They are bombarded with having a boyfriend and finding the right guy to marry. I think women/girls in general are romantics and most of us just want to find a good man to spend the rest of our life with.

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reeltaulk says

you answered your own question....because they are girls, no woman would want a male much less a mate that will be problematic. BTW marriage does not come with problems, it the individuals baggage/immature behavior that brings about problems.

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Crazdwriter says

I never craved marriage. I had this thought that if I met my one true love then I will get married but until then I am just dating for fun. And yes there are problems in marriage but that is what brings two people closer together and makes their love and appreciation for one another stronger. Yes this doesn't always work and there are still divorces but marriage does and can still work out. You just have to have to look for the one you truly love and who truly loves you.

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dana825 says

This is a bit too much of a stereotype. I agree with Uninvited Writer. It's not only women who crave marriage. Men also hit an age where they generally want to get married too. I am a woman and have no desire to get married. I value being on my own. I feel good being independent and I like having my space.

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NGRIA Bassett says

Most humans want relationships and women in particular are generally wired for love, security and affection.

I think that relationships are all problematic in one way or another, if not by virtue that we are all individuals raised in different households, with different values, desires and experiences.

So if relationships are generally problematic, why wouldn't it make better sense to risk having those problems and solutions with one person within a committed marriage?

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cheekyracer76 says

I think that it is for a sense of security. As an adult we are sopposed to be out and on our own in the world, yet that is it ... we dont want to be alone. We want a best friend, an alli, someone to come home to and spill the beans about the daily troubles to and then curl up in a set of muscluar arms to let us feel safe and then that everything is going to be ok, and taken care of.

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HubChief says

I feel the need "to be loved by opposite sex" is stressed upon in our media and life events so much, that as the girls and boys grow, they see it as a need and "experience to have".

Those who calculate it and handle it become successful and cheerful

and those who are late to learn, call it problematic and diffcult to handle.

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retellect says

Some women crave marriage as an adult due to childhood dreams of walking down the isle and having that perfect day. Some crave marriage to follow tradition, they want to fulfill what they are used to......especially if they grew up in a household with married parents.

Although marriage might carry a whole bunch of drama, hardships, breaking points, hurt and pain, it is not always the case. Marriage can be a blissful lifelong commitment of happiness and experience on both sides, whether or not it is smooth running throughout or rocky all the way. As long as you choose your partner carefully and marry for the sake of true unconditional love, marriage is just a symbol to show the world what you share with each other.

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Lisa HW says

Not all young women "crave" marriage. The thing that can make some seem more interested in it than guys are is probably the fact that those who want children (and most do) start to worry about having time to have the number of children they want, being able to space them the way they'd like to, and generally not running into reduced fertility and difficulty having those children they want.

Put simply, young women - more than young (or even old) men - have to consider how much time they can spend on a relationship that isn't likely to lead to marriage and the family they want to have one day. The "baby factor" isn't the only one, but it does accompany other factors. Even women not wanting to have a baby right away often want to have time to be married and childless before starting that family.

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Ladybird33 says

Marriage is what you make it. Going through good times is great, but when you go through the bad times and make it to the other side, you have a true committment to each other that should be unbreakable. Marriage is like anything, what you put in it, is what you will get out of it. All my best.

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EveLopez says

society tells us we must get married in order to be happy.

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charlettevidal says

Because nobody not even girls wants to get old ALONE, LONELY and MISERABLE and eventually die not experiencing what it is to have a family that they could call there own.

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BarbH918 says

I know for my generation we were raised that way. Grow up, get married, have kids. No one told us what it would involve. All we had was our parents as an example. Back in the day - parents didn't divorce, it just wasn't done. Perhaps if a young woman is craving marriage, maybe she's looking for stability - looking for something she doesn't have looking at the past hoping it will be THE answer. Marriage is tough. Be sure you're doing it for the right reasons - not to fill a hole, but to start a journey.

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Michele Arrvinte says

Besides all the other reasons some girls are really dependent of their parents and marriage is a way to become free. :)

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rosey2k9 says

In my opinion girls crave for marriage with all it's problems because they feel that they want to be financial secure and have security as well as safety. Love has alot to do with it as well, if you love somebody so much and want to marry them then it means that you are willing to work through any problems that may arise.

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makeyourwifehot says

Since the dawn of time women crave security. Prehistoric men have provided it by bringing back food from a hunt and modern man provides it as income so "mom" can stay at home.

Sociologists have been watching since WWII the trend of working moms. (A whole different topic)

Marriage, which used to be based on security, property rights, and family lineage, has transformed into romance and love.

The excitement of romance always fades and strong relationships have learned to navigate these troubling waters to transform their excitement into a deeper connection of love, trust and, you guessed it, security!

Not many people think about the problems of marrige when they are "high" on the drug of romance.

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Queen_Kevyn95 says

women crave marriage for a sense of security.

someone to lean on, and if they feel like they're too old then they may crave it more. they feel like they're reaching their expiration date.

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commercialprintin says

It think the idea of marriage has been institutionalized to a point that everyone craves it. I am a guy and I think even guys want to get married, just when is always the question. People do want to feel secure and know that their life is almost complete because of marriage. Being connected to people as well as society is what we all strive to achieve.

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Vizey says

It is related to psychology of girls. they have inherited it from eve.

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The Single Girl says

Girls Crave Marriage because girls crave security .

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dabeaner says

Women's biology rules even more than men's. It can be overruled by logic, but logic is in short supply in both sexes. And even less in women.

Women marry for many reasons that turn out to be invalid. Two examples:

1) they want to have someone to raise their litters with. Then they get divorced. Strike 1. Many won't be able to remarry, and if they do, their second husband is likely to be even more of a loser than their first, since he feels he has to settle for a woman with baggage (children).

2) they want to be married so they won't be alone. Then they get divorced or their husbands die on them, so they are alone anyway, and for the last 10 to 30 years of their lives. Strike 2. (And previously being married, they have neglected "girlfriends", so they don't have any social network to speak of.)

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LogicalSpark says

Let me state the obvious.

The wedding dress is so very pretty.

Which girl in her senses would ever forego an opportunity to wear it , at least once in her lifetime? Plus the entire function is fun, if you ask me.

As far as problems are concerned, these are part of life aren't they?

So it better to wear the Dress & face teh problem rather than not wear it & still face these!

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poketo secret says

I do not think that they crave marriage.probably they want so badly to be settled down to live as God says to

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Ask Dr Dyke says

Many women want companionship at any cost. They usually have low self esteem brought on by society and believe they NEED someone!

As far as your usage of the word GIRL...lmao..you might find yourself to be part of the reason that the GIRLS you meet have low self esteem.

Understand little BOY?

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